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  1. thank you @Vikram and @shadow_of_light the messages I receive from all of you is very helpful and gives me strenght. I am happy to read it and thank you for your prayers. I keep you all updated. warm regards Salam
  2. Thank you brother your reply really helped me a lot. sometimes family and marriage issues are so complex and so many people are involved. I do love my husband but I would not stay in a relation like this if we did not have kids. Also I do not want to see our parents hurt because all of the families really helped us and are still very much loving and caring. He himself is also loving towards us, he tries his best providing for us with money that he works hard for. Loving the kids, planning for a better future, trying to create a good life for us with trips and restaurants etc.
  3. thanks for the reply... Not me you felt it right he has been adicted to smoking ( not only tobbacco) and more less one month ago before I founded out this whole cheating stuff. I talked with his parents and our Sheikh and gave him an ultimatum that if he would not go in counseling I couln not stay in this relation. He agreed and we havent visit a psychiather yet but we did went yo the general practioner to get the letter if refferal. since his parents are with us, thats one month now he hasnt smoked anymore that I know for sure I was commited to help him to sort out the behaviour/
  4. dear All, Some of you may read parts of my story in other threads.. but to keep it short My husband did have relation or relationships outside our marriage. I was already suspecting and had found out some chat contact. After the first time where he said it was just texting... he repented and I moved on. after some moths again there was strage behaviour with his phone. Two weeks aho I found out about a fake insta account that he had where he was following and chatting with girls. He again commited and said he is in a crisis and lost himself etc etc this will not happen again and more lies
  5. Salam Aleikum everyone, More than a month passed and I wanted to give update and ask you guys for some new advice... our second child is born healty alhamdulillah and it is getting better. My husband did some effort to show us that he really cares about me and the kids and we had some talks. m I can not say with complete certainity that he is completely open but it is better that before. His cellphone is not locked anymore. he spends more time at home. I try not to be very suspicious and put my foccus on other things. what is still very difficult for me and I hope
  6. salam brother there are offices where choosen ulama give anwsers to sharia based questions bu phone at least in Iran. I have called before.
  7. salam Aleikum does Anybody knows the telephone number of the official office of Ayatollah Khamenei and Ayatollah Sistani in Iran where I can call for questions? thank you
  8. Salam Aleikum , thanks for opening up. I think everyone of us goes through depressions once in a while. Of corse if you think its chronic it is good to seek help. what helps me in depressive periods is daily remembering 3 or 4 things that I am grateful for. The Dhikr La illa ha illa anta Subhanikka inni kuntu min al Zalimin has done wonders for me in very down moods. Taking ghusl more often...
  9. Hello everyone, We recently had a discussion in the mosque where we spoke about different methods that helps to clean the Energetic fields in our house. Ia am aware that most of them may be cultural and not really based on Islamic revelations. I do wonder which ones you use or if you know any reliable traditions on this subject? I do use Espand or Esfand a lot, which is a herb that must be burned kind of like incense but than more natural. I know there is a hadith on Esfand. I also got the recommendation to put Salt in the corners of every room. One good fri
  10. Hello dear Sisters ( and Brothers) I am inshlallah giving birth to my second child in less than two weeks. I wonder if you all have good advice, hadith from the Ahle Bayt as, or valuable personal experience that can help me to prepare for Birth?
  11. Thank you all guys, it has been a very valuable experience to share this issue with you all and all the heart given advice and insight really helps me a lot. Personally I am doing much better thanks to you all. May this Holy days of Muharram help us to come closer to the Ahlul Bayt and be guided by their nobility
  12. thank you Pearl and Starlight. This thread Seriously made me happier and most if all it brought me lots of clarity. Alhamdulillah. I do strongly believe that Allah gives us different kinds of experiences and challenges in order to become better servants and stronger muslims. Inshallah this whole challenge in this marriage will make me a better muslim. I have given myself some time at least six months to one year and then I will be able to decide whether it is healthy and good to stay in this relation and marriage with all its issues or not. For now I indeed need to foccus on
  13. thank you sister for the useful advice it really did me good. And it is totally right that these kind of issues are better to kept in secret between husband and wife I experienced this also myself but sometimes it is easier said than done. my main issue is not how to deal with the past, I know that I will forgive and move on. Not only for him but also for my kids and myself. my main issue is that I dont know how to deal with the fact that he is still lying... about where he is what he does etc. It would take too long too go in detail here but I know this a hunderd procent sure.
  14. thank you brother. indeed the most heavy part of this experience was that I always say my husband with al his flaws as a good practicing muslim so to find out about this in the month Ramadan! was truly traumatic. Of corse all of us make mistakes and it is between him and Allah, I hope that his repantance gets accepted. One of the most sad parts of this whole story is that he stopped offering his prayers ever since that day I founded out. He says he is not worthy and he is a kind of angry inside why his sin has been uncovered. because the day I found out my mother and a g
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