Zavon

Imam Ali a.s.

Whether it's harsh or not, life is a blessing from Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى. And we can't deny that. And earlier in your threads I had told you to seek more rewards from Allah for thehereafter, because after you die (like how you feel envy, if any, towards others who have it better) there won't be anything you'd be able to do for more benefits and rewards. Quran - 2:195 Yusuf Ali: "And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah, and make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah loveth those who do good." Shakir: "And spend in the way of Allah and cast not yourselves to perdition with your own hands, and do good (to others); surely Allah loves the doers of good." Allah is the lover of good doers than those who ruin their ownself.

I have heard that Imams had married outside the syed lineage. That, in fact, is a proof that your father can't force you to marry only syeds. Sorry, I don't have any references right now. Maybe someone else can provide you with them (Insha'Allah). Best of Luck! Zavon.

I am cringing big time.

No. But I yearn to!

It is perfectly okay to marry such man (a convert) for a (Muslim) woman.

No doubt, both has their own significance so we can't really say which one is better. But I'd personally favor my daughter to get into a definite and permanent relation and live a happy and content life there on. But there is nothing wrong in doing a temporary marriage if both the parties agree. After the period of temporary marriage has ended, there is no compulsion for any of the partner to re-marry (whether permanent or temporary) as far as I know. Maybe someone else can shed light on this in a better way. Zavon.

Insha'Allah, Allah makes it easier for everyone...

Assalamu'Alaikum. Shias are the followers of Prophet al-Muhammad and his Ahlelbayt (progeny). Prophet Muhammad's (saw) progeny includes Imam Ali (a), Hazrat Fatimah (s.a), Imam Hassan and Hussain (a) and the rest. I don't know who told you shias are back-stabbers, so and so... That generalization isn't true.

Take your parents with you (even if it requires a little force/push) and strike up a conversation with the guy's family. If they don't agree upon a marriage any time soon... well then it's up to you to make the final decision; whether to stay in this situation or to terminate the engagement. Jazak Allahu Khayr. Zavon.

This. And I will add: What do the people around you need? What are their expectations of you?

Assalamu'Alaikum. Can someone suggest me books on "The accounts of Karbala" and "The aftermath of Karbala" (what the women and children of al-Hussayn a.s. went through). I need to know of books that are the most detailed, and have more reliable narrations. (And are available in pdf). I'd be grateful if you can tell me books from Shia and Sunni historians/scholars, in both Urdu and English. Jazak Allahu Khayr. Zavon.