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MariyahLaleh

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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Hameedeh in mufti menk   
    Insha Allah
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Unity Amongst Shias - Most Important   
    Thank you  for your addressing this issue. Since I am new to this platform and have only been shia since Muharram ( I came home from the Sunni side just this year.)  One of the issues I had with where I  came from was I perceived as fitna and inconsistency with the Islam I was raised with and where it is going. I will post on occasion but will not post opinions until i Mature. May we all follow in peace!
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Hameedeh in A note sent to a Shia Sister friend on prayer   
    Asalaam Alaikum- Question~
    A Sister friend of mine had this sent to her from another sister, I told her I am not sure of its validity but it is deemed false in a couple of Sunni Fatwa sites. Can anyone think of a source or is this just bogus?
    e THE IMPORTANCE OF PRAYER...
    Read it and tell me if you think the punishment part is right, we all know that not offering our prayers (salat) is HARAM!
    But little do we know the punishments that we will face...
    The Prophet peace be upon him narrated.
    "Convey from me, even if its one verse (Ayah)"
    Maybe forwarding this message to others can be beneficial for your Intercession on the Day of Judgement.
    The punishments of the one who doesn't pray.
    The Prophet peace be upon him narrated: "Whoever shows heedlessness (negligence) in praying salat, Allah punishes them with fifteen kinds of punishments"
    Six punishments in this lifetime.
    Three punishments while dying.
    Three punishments in the grave.
    Three punishments on the day of Judgment.
    Six punishments in this lifetime:
    1 - Allah takes away blessings from his age,(makes his life misfortunate)
    2 - Allah wipes out the virtues of righteous people from his face.
    3 - Allah does not accept his Dua's.
    4- He will be detested by all creatures on Earth.
    5 - Allah does not award him for his good deeds.
    6 - He will not be included in the prayer & Dua's of the righteous.
    (good people)
    Three punishments while dying.
    1- He dies humiliated.
    2-He dies hungry.
    3- He dies thirsty.
    Even if he drinks the water of all the seas, he will still be thirsty.
    Three punishments in the grave.
    1- Allah tightens his grave until his chest, ribs come over each other.
    2- Allah pours on him fire with embers (red colour, hot coal made of immensely heated firewood).
    3- Allah sets on him a snake called "The Brave" "The Bold" which rolls all around his body & crushes him.
    Three punishments on the day of Judgment.
    1- He will be dragged face down over hot burning coal to the hellfire.
    2- Allah gives him an angry look that makes the flesh of his face fall down
    3- Allah judges him strictly and orders him to be thrown in hell.
    Those who do not offer their prayers of:
    FAJR:
    The glow of their face is taken away.
    DHUHR:
    The blessing of their income is taken away (even if he has millions, he will be poor).
    ASR:
    There is no strength in their body.
    MAGHRIB:
    They are not benefitted by their children.
    ISHA:
    The peace of their sleep is taken away.
    a beautiful duaa for thanking Allah for every moment
    "Allah humma Ainni ala zikrika wa shukrika wa husni
    ibadatika"
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Hamodiii in A note sent to a Shia Sister friend on prayer   
    Asalaam Alaikum- Question~
    A Sister friend of mine had this sent to her from another sister, I told her I am not sure of its validity but it is deemed false in a couple of Sunni Fatwa sites. Can anyone think of a source or is this just bogus?
    e THE IMPORTANCE OF PRAYER...
    Read it and tell me if you think the punishment part is right, we all know that not offering our prayers (salat) is HARAM!
    But little do we know the punishments that we will face...
    The Prophet peace be upon him narrated.
    "Convey from me, even if its one verse (Ayah)"
    Maybe forwarding this message to others can be beneficial for your Intercession on the Day of Judgement.
    The punishments of the one who doesn't pray.
    The Prophet peace be upon him narrated: "Whoever shows heedlessness (negligence) in praying salat, Allah punishes them with fifteen kinds of punishments"
    Six punishments in this lifetime.
    Three punishments while dying.
    Three punishments in the grave.
    Three punishments on the day of Judgment.
    Six punishments in this lifetime:
    1 - Allah takes away blessings from his age,(makes his life misfortunate)
    2 - Allah wipes out the virtues of righteous people from his face.
    3 - Allah does not accept his Dua's.
    4- He will be detested by all creatures on Earth.
    5 - Allah does not award him for his good deeds.
    6 - He will not be included in the prayer & Dua's of the righteous.
    (good people)
    Three punishments while dying.
    1- He dies humiliated.
    2-He dies hungry.
    3- He dies thirsty.
    Even if he drinks the water of all the seas, he will still be thirsty.
    Three punishments in the grave.
    1- Allah tightens his grave until his chest, ribs come over each other.
    2- Allah pours on him fire with embers (red colour, hot coal made of immensely heated firewood).
    3- Allah sets on him a snake called "The Brave" "The Bold" which rolls all around his body & crushes him.
    Three punishments on the day of Judgment.
    1- He will be dragged face down over hot burning coal to the hellfire.
    2- Allah gives him an angry look that makes the flesh of his face fall down
    3- Allah judges him strictly and orders him to be thrown in hell.
    Those who do not offer their prayers of:
    FAJR:
    The glow of their face is taken away.
    DHUHR:
    The blessing of their income is taken away (even if he has millions, he will be poor).
    ASR:
    There is no strength in their body.
    MAGHRIB:
    They are not benefitted by their children.
    ISHA:
    The peace of their sleep is taken away.
    a beautiful duaa for thanking Allah for every moment
    "Allah humma Ainni ala zikrika wa shukrika wa husni
    ibadatika"
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to starlight in How to chose someone for marriage/mutah   
    You should give this a read.
    https://www.al-islam.org/youth-and-spouse-selection-ali-akbar-mazaheri/chapter-five-criteria-spouse-selection
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from A Muslim Artist in I'm in love with a sunni man   
    Wa alaikum Asalaam. I feel for you sister. But the person to ask is someone you really respect or is more knowledgeable in Islam. I was born Sunni hanafi, and was married to a like minded person in my first marriage. We had five children together and he died when I was 28 and had these five small children alone. I went to school for nursing in those two year I remained a widow. Life was difficult alone, and my uncle and brother were always looking for a suitable remarriage prospect for me. In the sunni world it never came. I was still young but most men did not want the burden of dealing with my five orphan children. I was expecting to have to hoof it and spend the rest of my life alone.
    Then came T.... My current husband who has Alzheimers and cannot remember some things. The Shia Jafari honorable man who took on a lonely 30 year old widow with 5 small orphan children and who treated them as he did his four daughters by his first marriage. For this we were blessed with one son together. He always encouraged me to have them (my five sunni children) attend programs in their fathers madhab, and to raise them with their fathers name and heritage. I was not always well received in the Sunni masjids after that point. I was even told to my face that I was kafir and that my marriage was invalid and I was committing zina because my husband was Shia. Funny how not ONE shia had ever treated me in that manner in all the years I would accompany him to the various Majlis and programs during the years I have been married to him.
    I made a decision to migrate to the Jafari madhab this past Muharram. It actually has been a 20 year journey. My request to you sister is this: If you are in a country where Islam is not the majority religion, you may need to look into all possibilities. I know you stated that you have. When you say you love him, have you met his family, his friends? Take a female companion and your Turbah, go attend a noon Jummah meeting in the masjid he attends and see how you are treated by the other sunni women. Let them see you pray as a Shia, do not hide it. And I would advise you to consult with a Shayk or learned person of your comfort and see if this is a viable choice. First and foremost, Supplicate and inquire to Allah SuhanAllah Wa ta'ala. if you are receptive, He will answer. Do not marry in haste. May you be shown the path that is most correct for you dear sister. ma'Salaama.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to Marbles in should i do Muta?   
    This is totally unnecessary and uncalled for. You have a right to your opinion but please don't insult other members for not having an opinion to your liking. 
    You've also made serious accusations in your post against starlight, such as condoning abuse and being an enemy of women and also shamed her for her bad experiences. This is extremely rude and I believe you should apologise to the sister.
    Attack the argument, not the person. This is basic etiquette of any civilised discussion.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to notme in should i do Muta?   
    So to sum up:
    Polygamy is halal as long as both/all wives are Muslim.
    Mutah by an already married man is halal as long as temporary wife/wives are Muslim. 
    Nobody is responsible for anyone else's happiness, but spouses need to love and support each other without exception.
    The OP comes across as a selfish boor who at least appears to not care about his wife. (Maybe he's just really bad at expressing himself.)
    If he's as bad as he seems, one of three things will happen: 1, nobody would agree to marry him - eeew, 2, he will lie to women and "marry" them under false pretext, (pretty sure these"marriages" are invalid) or 3, he's going to have extramarital affairs with anyone who is willing anyway, so he figures he might as well pretend it's halal. 
    I suggest we all make duas that his poor wife doesn't catch diseases from him. He's going to do what he's going to do regardless of what anyone here says. 
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to Ron_Burgundy in should i do Muta?   
    I wish i could meet you in person so i could beat the crap out of you. 
    People like you are disgrace to us. If you have above average income have you ever though of spending some money on your wife? Get a maid and take her to gym with you. work with her and make her a good diet plan. Trust me you sound like a desperate looser. 
    You just need to get laid thats why you are asking us that if you could do mutah or not. Have you talked to your wife that you have a high sex drive and you dont find her attractive thats why you want to have some mutah. You need your first wife's permission to have 2nd wife. Also, i know its just an excuse for you to have an other woman. People like you are never satisfied and always looking for more. after 2nd marriage you gonna o for another girl. 
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to Muslim96 in should i do Muta?   
    Islam allows many wifes to those that can support all. Do you really think Islam just says go and take 4 wives and do not bother about thinking if you can care for them?
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to starlight in should i do Muta?   
    @Muslim96 @rkazmi33 @Islandsandmirrors
    Islam allows it.Our Masoomeen (as) practised it.Why is polygamy so much of a problem now that someone even suggesting it starts to get insulted?  
    What if the sister @MariyahLaleh 's husband's first wife had reacted as all of you are reacting now? Where would she be with her five little kids? 
    Lol.How is this even relevant? How many people in a monogamous relationship can claim that their spouse and kids are 100% happy with them? 
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to baqar in Fun with Abu Hurairah   
    As far as I am aware, Imam Malik is regarded very poorly by Shias.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to baqar in Fun with Abu Hurairah   
    Abu Huraira lived in the time of the Prophet and the compilers of hadith (for example Bukhari or Muslim) lived long after that. So hadiths from Abu Huraira could not have come to the compliers directly but through a chain of narrators.
    Even if Abu Huraira was a truthful man, which is very doubtful, the veracity of a hadith would depend not only on him, but on all the intermediate narrators.
    RIght?
     
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Marbles in should i do Muta?   
    Upi
    I really do not think this is a very kind statement. I lived in a dual partnership with the first wife for years with my current husband. She left us to pursue her conversion to Christianity. Many of the women who have posted in this subject have lived in a western society and are not familiar with the more than one wife practice. Many men in a western society cannot afford to support a second or third wife. Evidently you missed that detail. On your behalf, I would change the words dumb or selfish to ignorant. No wise women amongst the shia? I know of many but because of the separation of the genders you as a man shouldn't know of any. And I am grateful for the kind wife that welcomed me an my five orphan children children when my first husband was murdered. As they stated when I was a sunni, Allah knows best.
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Islandsandmirrors in should i do Muta?   
    Upi
    I really do not think this is a very kind statement. I lived in a dual partnership with the first wife for years with my current husband. She left us to pursue her conversion to Christianity. Many of the women who have posted in this subject have lived in a western society and are not familiar with the more than one wife practice. Many men in a western society cannot afford to support a second or third wife. Evidently you missed that detail. On your behalf, I would change the words dumb or selfish to ignorant. No wise women amongst the shia? I know of many but because of the separation of the genders you as a man shouldn't know of any. And I am grateful for the kind wife that welcomed me an my five orphan children children when my first husband was murdered. As they stated when I was a sunni, Allah knows best.
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Muslim96 in should i do Muta?   
    Upi
    I really do not think this is a very kind statement. I lived in a dual partnership with the first wife for years with my current husband. She left us to pursue her conversion to Christianity. Many of the women who have posted in this subject have lived in a western society and are not familiar with the more than one wife practice. Many men in a western society cannot afford to support a second or third wife. Evidently you missed that detail. On your behalf, I would change the words dumb or selfish to ignorant. No wise women amongst the shia? I know of many but because of the separation of the genders you as a man shouldn't know of any. And I am grateful for the kind wife that welcomed me an my five orphan children children when my first husband was murdered. As they stated when I was a sunni, Allah knows best.
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Hassan- in Fun with Abu Hurairah   
    Abu Huraira: Interesting you should bring him up. Even when I was Sunni i was skeptical of his narrations and now that I have crossed over I wonder even more at his authenticity. He doesn't Jive with me. you need to quote where you obtained these particular ahadith please.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to molaayi_from_lahore in should i do Muta?   
    Someone asked me in this thread that why I don't bring her a housemaid to help in chorse. We have already a housemaide helping her in home chores but not all. There are some things in home which can only be taken care of by my wife and we (our family generally) do not like maids to do those stuff for us e.g. cooking meals and doing some personal stuff with children etc... So she has to do that herself. We can't hire any cheff or housemaid to cook 'roti' or daily meals for us (partly due to hygenic conditions) and such tasks take a lot of time so she cannot go to gym. 
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to molaayi_from_lahore in should i do Muta?   
    I will provide a separate home to my 2nd and 3rd wives.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to molaayi_from_lahore in should i do Muta?   
    answering someone's questions...
    I am from Lahore, Pakistan, never went to India, although have travelled world and I am a twelver shia by birth.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to starlight in should i do Muta?   
    Then make peace with the fact that you can't have everything A wife can't make 'rotis' for you and your family and then take care of other needs too.
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    MariyahLaleh reacted to AmirAlmuminin Lover in Fun with Abu Hurairah   
    Abu Horaireh is not even a valid narrative between Sunni scholars. Soltan-ul-Vaezin in "Pishawar Nights" book bring very legitimate reasons that Abu Horaireh doesn't have any position between Sunni scholars. Of course, we as Shia are very conservative and cautious on Hadiths.
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from shia farm girl in should i do Muta?   
    As a psychiatric nurse  for many years, I find your attitude leaning towards arrogant and narrow-minded. I was the second wife of my present husband. He was able to meet the needs of his two wives. i would NOT allow him to spend more time than allowable with me- I was the younger wife, He had to divorce my sister wife. the mother of his four daughters, when she converted to Christian Mormonism. I evidently landed a better quality man. I was a widow at 28 years of age with 5 small children to feed: and he was man enough to take us on. I have gained weight over the years due to the many children I bore, including the one son my husband has with me. it is a natural occurrence.I have always earned more money than he has.Many  Nurses in the US make more than many doctors do in Pakistan sadly, and we have a higher status here. Funny thing is he lives in My house, so where in hadith or quran does that put a mans status?
    Yes, Allah is All knowing, Creator of all things. He knows the nature of men such as yourself and knows sometimes they cannot be satisfied with the relationship with one woman.Al rasul Allah WAS was married to only one wife, Lady Khadija, until her death, and Commander of the Faithful IMAM Ali (RA)never married another wife Until after the death of Lady Fatima Zahra (AR) You can do as you wish, but if you are hurting your wife, the mother of your children in any manner; You know you cannot hide it from your Creator.  Prophet Muhammad WAS what quoted from many sources to state:"The best of you are those who are best to the women." (Sahih At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Al-Jami Al-Saker) Consider also the following:
    "O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr (dowry, bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good." (An-Nisa’ 4:19)
    Peace be to you brother, consult your marja about the rules of Muta'a marriage if your are shia, if your are Sunni as a born sunni turned shia I know its not permitted. please try to get more control over your nafs, and I believe there should be a mens only closed forum and a womens only closed forum to deal with these questions?
     
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from AmirAlmuminin Lover in Fun with Abu Hurairah   
    Abu Huraira: Interesting you should bring him up. Even when I was Sunni i was skeptical of his narrations and now that I have crossed over I wonder even more at his authenticity. He doesn't Jive with me. you need to quote where you obtained these particular ahadith please.
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    MariyahLaleh got a reaction from Muslim96 in should i do Muta?   
    No not at all. I was Sunni, a widow with five young children and my shia husband married me without hesitation. He paid for my nursing education and my bachelors degree as my mahr. He raised and cared for my 5 eldest kids and insisted they be raised Sunni till they could make the decision. Never had a sunni man even inquire beyond knowing i had five fatherless children. My kids call him pops but know the legacy of their birth father. I finally became shia last year. Actions speak louder than words. If a man treats his mother with respect and treats you nicely then he is the man, whether rich or poor.
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