This is the first time to write in the forum, however something had been troubling my mind lately and I felt I had no one to ask for advice.
My father is Lebanese and my mother is Canadian they have been happily married for over 35 years. I was married when I was young and after the birth of our second child my husband passed away in an accident. For a few years I have been alone with my children raising them while being close to my parents and other family.
A few months ago I met a man two years younger than myself, he is from Saudi, Qatif. We really got along great and spent time together in public places as friends. He than told me he was in love and was serious about a future together. My father has a large distaste for Khaliji men and has always advices me to avoid them.
So the Saudi man had continued asking me for date so we could spend time in a relationship instead of just casually as friends. I was not really looking for any type of relationship or marriage and was honestly content with the idea of spending the rest of my life widowed with my two children. It had never crossed my mind that I might find someone I was compatible with. Over the years men have chased and tried and my father had tried to arrange engagements for me but I have been to busy being a mother to bother myself.
The Saudi man is here, in Canada, on a scholarship and as I have spent many years in The Middle East before I married working, I understood the rules and restrictions for international Saudi students. He has told me he has no wish to return to Saudi and will make a life here, his brother is married to an American girl and their family lives in USA so his family appears to be open minded. I have agreed to do a temporary marriage so we could spend time together in a relationship without feeling it was bad in my heart.
Its been a few months we have been spending time together and we both feel very much in love. He has spoken of marriage after his scholarship, and he has been doing a very good job with my two children and is being a good father figure for them. Honestly he is a great guy.
Here is my issue, can a Saudi man ever really consider really marrying a widowed woman with two children. I'm sure as a second wife it would be acceptible however he and I have discussed this and I would be his one and only wife and never reside in Saudi. Like I know my situation is difficult for any man and his family to accept(which is why I never bothered to before) but could there be any hope for this to actually work out?
thank you for reading.