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  1. 5 hours ago, myouvial said:

    I was taught to do dzikr saying Subhanallah 33 x, Alhamdulillah 33 x and Allahu Akbar 33 x and the last 100 is Lailahailallah.

    After knowing part of Ahlul Bayt a.s. teaching and some community, i was told about Shalawat Fatimah a.s, who was taught by Rasullullah Nabi Muhammad SAW himself.

    The shalawat is nearly the same but the order is different : Allahu Akbar 33 x, Alhamdulillah 33 x, and Subhanallah 33 x.

    Is there anyone can explain what is going on/happens ? This questions still retain since the beginning knowing Ahlul Bayt a.s., joined shiachat in 2011.

    Brother does order matter ? 


  2. 2 minutes ago, Ashvazdanghe said:

    Salam she stands against them & also Umm Salama supports her  & Imam Ali not joined them but in hard situation helped them because I he at that time raise against them would put all Muslim community in danger being attacked by foreign countries I recommend you to read the Nahjulbalaqa source that provide for you that he explains it this situation there.

    i dont understand how and few links in there . Anyways shukran for  helping brother . In sha Allah will try to read it , problem is its big and has many parts to it.These days am occupied with lot many things and so i hardly find time for myself. so , little time i find i am  trying my best  to learn about religion .


  3. 19 hours ago, kirtc said:

    Nabi musa a.s left his people for 30 days.. he left haroun a.s as his wali.. when Allah extended musa's absence to 40 days. the people left the religion and started worshipping a calf!. only 1 month after he was gone lol! people went astray. same thing happened with Jesus and peter.. after jesus a.s died paul took over and made up the trinity when infact peter was supposed to take over

    back to musa, when he came back he saw his people worshipping a calf and became furious. he went to his wali haroun

     

    7:150] And when Musa returned to his people, wrathful (and) in violent grief, he said: Evil is it that you have done after me; did you turn away from the bidding of your Lord?

    And he threw down the tablets and seized his brother by the head, dragging him towards him. He said: Son of my mother! Surely the people reckoned me weak and had well-nigh slain me, therefore make not the enemies to rejoice over me and count me not among the unjust people.

     

     

    Imam Ali's position is like of haroun's.. if he fought back at the time he would have been over powered and killed. imam ali a.s is like haroun in many ways.. there is even a hadeeth saying that he is to the prophet like haroun is to musa.

    even imam ali's kids have the same name in meaning as harouns kids

    brother haroun was weak wasnt as strong as musa a.s . Ali a.s on the other hand Ali a.s is stronger than musa a.s ( correct me if i am wrong , i am saying this after reading an article in al-islam where imams are above prophets except mohammed a.s  as he is above imams). Also ali a.s is infallible , i dont think he would be scared for his life (astagfirulla) doing that which is right.

    he slept on prophet's bed with out caring for his life .


  4. 18 hours ago, Ashvazdanghe said:

    It seems that you mistaken humbleness with being not angry

    Even prophet (pbu) not always a happy person if religion was in danger he was angry about that than any person 

    Their happiness & anger were for Allah & religion not themselves 

    Prophet said who make Fatima (sa) makes me angry me .

    & we know who make prophet  (pbu) make Allah angry .

     

    i agree with you 100% , but brother please tell me when Quran teaches us to speak up for injustice

    O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.surah 4:135

    and if religion was in danger then why did she die angry and did not speak or stood against them firmly ? 

    why did ali a.s joined Abu bakr ra and umar ra if they were putting religion in danger ?


  5. 8 minutes ago, kirtc said:

    read nahjul al balagha.. ofcourse sunnis will say its fake.. but anyone with wisdom can see that the way it was written can only be from someone as enlightened and eloquent as Imam Ali a.s

    brother i love sayings and preachings nahjul al balagha has. i dint read or have gone through everything that it has .. in sha Allah hope to do it in the future, for now could you please give me brief hadith of my answer. will highly appreciate it please.


  6. 54 minutes ago, Ashvazdanghe said:

    Because they even didn't respect dead body of prophet  (pbu)and leave his body to gain power for themselves this was duty of Successor of prophet  (pbu) & they didon't do that & after him take everything for themselves in matters that have no authority about that such as inheritance of Prophet (pbu) by sabotage & oligarchy. 

    brother according to shias if this was duty of successor of prophet then wasnt it duty of imam ali a.s then why would fatima zehra a.s die angry over abu bakr ? for second part as i said even "at the time of our beloved  (saws)  many denied prophet hood of our beloved prophet but he wasnt angry on anyone and i strongly believe fatima zehra a.s inherited all the characteristics of our beloved prophet then why would she die angry over few handful of people "

     


  7. 34 minutes ago, Ashvazdanghe said:

    The main problem was not about a piece of Land ,it was about ignoring authorit of Ahlul-Bayt  (as)& denying their right ,Ahlulbayt  (as) never care 

    about gaining wealth for themselves.

    brother as i said i am trying to learn history , at the time of our beloved  (saws)  many denied prophet hood of our beloved prophet but he wasnt angry on anyone though people treated him badly and i strongly believe fatima zehra a.s inherited all the characteristics of our beloved prophet then why would she die angry over few handful of people ?


  8. 2 hours ago, Wisdom007 said:

    so......the wife was angry and died in that state, yet husband forgot the anger and acknowledged him as leader? 

    am sorry i have been trying to understand shia/sunni perspective of history.

     i have been trying to find answer for this specific question but no luck.

    Answers either are not convincing enough or doesnt make any sense.. can some one knowledgeable answer this for me please. 

    ( please Note i said knowledgeable that is because i once asked a brother here in sc and he said it is because imam ali a.s gave promise to prophet Mohammed a.s that he would not kill abu bakr ra and so he dint  ( Which again left me with many more questions so i dug deeper only to realize what brother said was completely untrue)


  9. @Karbalai110 i agree that sharia remains same but i doubt if Canadians would include it in a way it is meant to be in their marriage contract because of this below rule in canada and their citizens need to abide by it :

    Despite being regarded as morally permissible and practiced by some religions, engaging in any form of polygamy is an indictable criminal offence punishable for an imprisonment term of not more than five years.

    Source : http://www.torontodefencelawyers.com/blog/general-category/crime-one-spouse-canada/#ixzz57KXPKAbt.

    in sha Allah brother . 


  10. @Karbalai110

    brother all i am saying is i have different personal opinion to polygamy for now and that i am in a quest to learn and see things in way that Allah swt does..

    brother thanks for all the links that you are providing for our understanding. Appreciate it .

    i havent opened that link as sister  @starlight  mentioned that it is sunni's marraige contract.

    i have checked an other link that you have provided later on but may i please point out that it is canada state marraige contract and that in canada polygamy is illegal and practice is criminalized under section 293 and hence their marraige contract differs from the normal islamic marraige contract . 

    source :http://www.torontodefencelawyers.com/blog/general-category/crime-one-spouse-canada/

    looking at page 14 : As a last resort, the woman could approach (4) the mujtahid (a Shi‘a jurist) or his representative to intervene; and if he is convinced that the husband is being unjust, then he has the power to serve a notice to the husband and ask for his consent to divorce the wife. If the husband refuses, then the mujtahid can dissolve the marriage and pronounce the divorce even without the husband’s consent. In Canada, however, not all families have the extended family support to put such pressure; nor do we have a mechanism as a community (e.g., excommunication) to censure the man who is treating his wife unjustly. The only option is to approach the mujtahid; but that process, like any other judicial process, takes its own due time. In order to make things easy and fast in solving such marital problems where an abusive husband is refusing to give divorce, we encourage the couples, at the time of marriage, to add certain optional conditions to the marriage contract as seen below:


  11. 17 hours ago, Karbalai110 said:

    why are you putting it on women that women can have it stipulated in her marriage contract?

    Brother. I clearly said I am stating that which is in Quran and sharia. PERIOD.

    17 hours ago, Karbalai110 said:

    The rule is for males to have multiple wives at one time hence therefore its the male's foremost duty to mention this to the female he is marrying to well in advance before marriage if he has such an intention or if he may have later for second marriage.

     Brother though you and I agree on this, through our common sense and logical reasoning, not every body think alike us . sadly there is no hadith or qur’anic verses that is making it obligatory for a man to mention about second marriage well in advance before marriage.

    Also,to contradict your statement  let me tell you something even if a man assures his wife before marriage that he wouldn’t take second wife and after marriage lets say after 2 years , 5 years, or 20 years of marriage he changes his mind ,though a real man would never go back on his words unfortunately not many men are like this.. because wife did not stipulate it in her marriage contract . he can marry an other woman with or with out first wife’s consent. ( this is also main reason why I want to spread awareness of this clause in marriage contract ).

    Polygamy is a tremendous trial for a woman. It could be quite devastating

    17 hours ago, Karbalai110 said:

    I like your Question.

    Islam is just that is why Islam is allowing men to keep two wives at a time for example.

    Now in order to know how is Islam just to women in this regard is when you read the actual sharia conditions in which more than one marriage is allowed for a male.

    Sharia allows you for more than one marriage in conditions that are absolutely genuine for a male.

    I request you to read conditions on which males can have multiple wives at a time, you will realise how just is this lovely deen towards men and women.

    Brother i so want you to prove me wrong but can i end the argument by saying this, that one of the condition for polygamous marriage which is just according to sharia law  is :

    if a man has fallen in love with other women. The only way to prevent such men from adultery is the second marriage . 

    also an other just condition for polygamous marraige is that if a man is able to provide , support and look after an other woman and can be just with two wives then he can have a second marriage with or with out first wife's consent..

    now tell me are these genuine ? is islam just with women ? if they are not then why do we have it ? and if they are just then why are we even having these debates ? 

    brother honestly my whole individual perception on these matters is different ,i cant help but i see my imaan going down when i think of such laws myself ( Allah knows best .. he is all knower .. how can my knowledge and perception be better than his ( Astagfirulla) .. i surely cant see things how Allah does  .. and hence i can not give my individual opinion to sister here as i believe that is not what she is asking , she needs answers from Quran and law wise. 


  12. sister @Rayhana80

    Please don't be hurt by my comments i am just stating that which is in quran and that in fatwahs..  I read your posts and I honestly feel your pain. sister if i were you  i wouldnt be able to deal with sharing my husband with someone else. Call me all modern, but its not how i grew up and i simply can not do it. i would want my husband to myself. . 

    sister you have done nothing wrong. it is NOT your fault that he married another woman. please read duas and  have hope in your heart for a beautiful place in Jannah, picture yourself content and with no pain in the afterlife as this world is just temporary, and ask Allah swt to help you to pass your most difficult trials with grace and patience.... I pray that Allah swt helps you to find a solution in sha Allah,

    @Karbalai110 brother i want to believe your words when you said  'Islam' in particular is very just towards all in existence-- could you please tell me why Quran states  having more than 1 wife is permissible? why husband can marry an other woman with out first wife's permission ? 

    .


  13. 15 hours ago, Karbalai110 said:
    15 hours ago, Karbalai110 said:

    i agree with you in everything except 'in Islam marrying another woman is not a reason'.

    And this is the Ayah

    And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] oneor those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. (Quran, 4:3)

    Here in above verse Allah says that husband can have upto 4 wives given he have to be just

    Here in sister’s case he is not neglecting his responsibilities , he is taking care of her and children.she is hurt that he married another woman. polygamy has been practiced by our  Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), imams( may Allah be pleased with them) and prophets companions.brother in regards to islam being  just all i can say is woman can have it stipulated under marraige contract that her husband shouldn’t take another wife while she is married to him. here sister in question doesn’t have it. marrying an other woman can not be a valid reason unless you want to go against Allah’s words.

    Allah SWT has made it legal and Halal in Islam for a man to marry more than 1 woman.i doubt if you can leave your husband for merely doing something that is halal in the sight of Allah.If sister develops an aversion from husband and hates him and The hatred must have reached a proportion where she would not allow him conjugal rights then khula is permissible.brother i was told by some one that if you accept Quran then you need to accept everything that is in there you can not take that which is convenient and leave that, which isnt .


  14. 9 minutes ago, Karbalai110 said:

    Please read my reply to ephemeral...often man don't give approval for khulla you are right man in required and that's when the islamic court calls the man and if the man is an extreme walking shaytan and doesn't show up still even after court's order den also khulla takes place...

    Don't make this beautiful deen bad please with little knowledge.

    brother have you read my post ?? if not may i please ask you to read it again.

    i said " wife can not take khula with out husband's consent .. if he is being unreasonable and refuses to give his consent then she will have to approach scholars and they would do the needful.. but she definitely have to ask him for khula divorce first before approaching them and yes , in islam marrying another woman is not a valid reason "

    what little knowledge are we even talking about here?


  15. 44 minutes ago, Karbalai110 said:

    You don't need to ask him for divorce. He might be stubborn and not give you.

    You have the right to take 'khulla' if you have any reason and you definitely can take khulla from him if you don't want to share him with any other female.

     

     

    3 minutes ago, Karbalai110 said:

    This is VERY OBVIOUS that she will tell her husband that she is going to take a khulla and if the man doesn't agree then the court does the needful to call him so that khulla proceedings can be finished...

    brother my explanation was based on your previous post.. where you said " you dont need to ask him for divorce" . clearly your later post is contradicting your own statement.


  16. 35 minutes ago, Karbalai110 said:

    You don't need to ask him for divorce. He might be stubborn and not give you.

    You have the right to take 'khulla' if you have any reason and you definitely can take khulla from him if you don't want to share him with any other female.

     

    brother according to islam shia or sunni ... wife can not take khula with out husband's consent .. if he is being unreasonable and refuses to give his consent then she will have to approach scholars and they would do the needful.. but she definitely have to ask him for khula divorce first before approaching them and yes , in islam marrying another woman is not a valid reason.Cheating can be a valid reason 


  17. sister , i agree with above points you have to speak up and in addition to that every time you are in that store wear niqab (as this would stop him from looking at you ).

    schedule going there in such a way that you have some one with you , dad , brother or may be any of your girl friends .

    if its normal groceries get it delivered to your house , you would find few Cheapest supermarket online grocery deliveries look it up and see which one would work for you.( this would cut down your frequency of going there to some extent )

    if none of these works then yea taking a bus is only option .. if possible mean while try to save up and get yourself a car (even if its a second hand for time being ) it would be lot more convenient .


  18. 1 hour ago, Rayhana80 said:

    Is it allowed for a husband to hide his second marriage from his first wife for 8 years? 

     

    42 minutes ago, Hamodiii said:

    No, what? You are not allowed to marry any other woman without her premission.

    According to sistani you can have second wife with out first wife's consent unless she is from ahlul kitab.

    From Sayyid Ali Al Sistani(ha)

    395. A Muslim man who is married to a Muslim woman is not allowed, in his concurrent second marriage, to marry an Ahlul Kitab woman, i.e. a Jew or a Christian, without asking the consent of his Muslim wife. Based on obligatory precaution, the man should refrain from marrying her, even it is temporary and his Muslim wife consents to it. Whether or not the Muslim lides with him is immaterial. (See the question-answer section below.)

    http://www.najaf.org/english/book/5/inside/45.htm

    From Sayyid Fadlallah(ra)

    Q: Is it obligatory for man who wants to marry a second woman to take the permission of his first wife? 10/12/2006 10:27:56 AM

    A: This is not obligatory, unless, as an obligatory precaution, if his first wife is a Muslim woman and he wants to marry a woman who is of the People of the Book.

    Publish Date: 12/11/2006 8:56:21 PM

    http://english.bayynat.org.lb/QA/qa.aspx?id=76

     

     

  19. sister as  brother amiralmuminin said , it is recommended but not wajib ..

     it depends on what you want in your life, how you want your life to be.its all and all your decision..

    1 hour ago, Hamodiii said:

    The life of an unmarried is tough, Allah made you female and male, to share love and live in peace on Earth.

    brother hamodiii married one's life is tough too..being married doesn't guarantee happiness and being single doesn't condemn one to misery.. 

    if you decide not to get married , the hardest part for you would be to answer those relatives/friends  who constantly keep pestering you to get married.For them ,of all the topics in the world  the only important topic to discuss with you would be "when will you get married and what problem do you have in getting married"


  20. 34 minutes ago, Sisterfatima1 said:

    but as you know wahabi view us as kuffar so I generally don’t support or like people who think that about me 

     

    “And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided. And remember the favor of Allah upon you – when you were enemies and He brought your hearts together and you became, by His favor, brothers. And you were on the edge of a pit of the Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you may be guided.” – The Holy Quran 3:103

    sister tell me shia, sunni or wahabi arent they our brethren in islam ??  did Quran and our beloved prophet ask us to be unjust with them ?? lets say person who is wahabbi  praises Allah and our beloved prophet is it wrong ?.. tell me what is he saying in the video ? why is posting that video wrong ? you are telling me person has to be from my faith and should follow what i follow for me to appreciate him??? 

     

    1 hour ago, Sisterfatima1 said:

    and im just wondering why the op was pointing out that the singer is  a wahabi and how does he know he’s a wahabi

     

     

    am sorry sister i dont care what xyz person follows , doesnt matter if he is from my sect or not , doesnt matter if he likes me or not..  if he does good , i will appreciate him  i will support him and be very just in my actions and likewise if a person is from my sect and does anything wrong, i will definitely go against him and voice my opinion gently in sha Allah will do it  because that is what our beloved prophet taught us and that is what Quran preaches.

    “O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.”  – The Holy Quran 49:11

    “O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allah , even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allah is more worthy of both. So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted.” – The Holy Quran 4:135

     


  21. 6 minutes ago, Shah Khan said:

    Oh :O Not all Wahabis are like that. :pushup2:

    Brother  Ma sha Allah thats a very beautiful and meaningful nasheed . May Allah reward you for sharing this. 

    i agree with you , that not all Wahabis are wicked .. just like not all shias or sunnis are good. 

    i dont understand , what is wrong with the nasheed you posted ? it doesnt promote terrorism , or any wickedness. infact it just so beautiful.

    just because it has Wahhabi tag to it , people think of it otherwise .

    just like how few non muslims  tag every muslim to be as a terrorists.

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