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ali_fatheroforphans

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  1. I don't think any of our maraja claim to be infallible in the first place. It's very rational that they are in a better position than us to derive rulings because they spent all their lives studying the traditions of our Imams (عليه السلام). There is a chance that one of their rulings may be incorrect (even if the chance is 1%), but it gives us no right to arrogantly reject the laws. On the day of judgement we will be held accountable because we had no knowledge of the rulings yet we were willing to reject them. That's the reason why taqleed is wajib on us, we can''t create our own rules. Yes, everything in our books of fiqh isn't 100% correct but it is our duty to follow the rules as a precaution, and anyone with some rationality will agree. Our maraja say- "According to the research I have done, these are the rulings and here are the proofs etc.". No one claims to be infallible.
  2. Well Sister, yeah I do reckon our community needs to be less judgemental when a mu'min brother/sister goes ahead with something halal. We really make it difficult for the youth out there and don't explain the solutions provided by our Imams (عليه السلام). It's okay to be aware of the pros and cons, but no one has the right to judge anyone who does mut'ah.
  3. Well we'll all have to answer Allah on the day of judgement. I just hope our youth don't go to the extent of considering the act of homosexuality to be halal. God save us all. Imam ((عليه السلام).) explained: “There is no one who leaves this world while considering sodomy Halāl, but that Allah hits him with one of the stones that had fallen on the people of Hazrat Lut ((عليه السلام).).”
  4. @Ali~J I was listening to this sheikh and it's actually a good idea to not let those feelings develop unless you're certain that you'll end up marrying a girl. It's actually our fault for putting ourselves in that position. Islamically, it is never wise to wait that long. Our scholars even go to the extent of making it clear that even if you are getting to know someone for marriage, you can't open up and get overly emotional. It's always wise to get parents involved early on. We actually put ourselves in that position. It's when you kept texting, you ended up getting emotionally attached to her. Shaytan comes to us in many ways and will justify everything. I know initially it must have felt very nice texting her, and you probs had assured yourself "But I'm not doing anything harram". This is where the problem starts. If you always focus on doing things the halal way, Allah will bless your marriage and place true love in both of your hearts. It's very important to get third parties involved right from the start. Our intentions have to be very pure too. Take this as a lesson because you do learn from your mistakes. Don't regret what happened because it's an opportunity for you to learn and become stronger. Please don't think I'm saying that you did anything harram. I'm just giving a heads ups to be mindful because a lot of us can get it wrong (including me).
  5. This is my routine: (1) When you wake up, use a face wash (which removes all the oils), not soap because that can be bad for your skin (2) Apply Nivea day cream which acts as a moisturizer and has spf 30+ to protect your skin from UV rays. (3) Wash your face at night using face wash. Then, apply Nivea night cream which regenerates your skin and keeps it moisturized the whole night. (4) Repeat I haven't gotten a single pimple ever since I started this routine. It's been like 3 months.
  6. Anyways it always has to be two-sided, you wouldn't want to end up marrying someone who doesn't even like you that much. It's actually good imo, It's meant to happen, you'll defs find a better girl.
  7. When you feel the pain, don't focus on your thoughts, pay attention to your body. If you feel anxious, feel the butterflies and let it pass. Just tell yourself that it's a natural feeling everyone goes through. It's a phase you're going through. Sometimes you feel that you can't find any other girl, but lemme tell you that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has someone for you who may even be better than her.
  8. The main character chose to follow some rules while he was unable give up on others such as abstaining from sex and dating. It's so sad how idiotic our youth are becoming. All they want to do is to fit in society and compromise on their values. This actually hurts me because I always have to see my own siblings head in a similar direction. People are legit becoming blind. Our youth don't even bother doing taqleed anymore. It's about "how I feel" and "in my opinion". May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) hasten the appearance of Imam Mahdi (عليه السلام). Our Imams (عليه السلام) have told us to spend our youth in worship. Lets not ever be influenced by what society thinks of us. We are on the straight path and it's not worth compromising on our values to impress every John, Bob and Harry.
  9. Well I say this to some people and they get shocked as to how cursing raises our Iman. I agree with you.
  10. I think it's not that black and white. The OP could have asked her daughter (maybe he did after), but parents sometimes need to have a say and an opinion on these matters. It's good to also get opinions from others. The OP wanted to know if it's a good idea for someone to have an age gap of 20 years, and whether there could be any potential issues in terms of compatability etc. Maybe the OP wanted to get opinions from other couples on ShiaChat who have a similar age gap. Parents want the best for their children and it's actually good thing to ask around. Also, I'm 22 years old as well and I can't say for sure that marrying a woman who is older than me is going to work out. I haven't even been through the struggles in life which my parents have been through. I also have no idea of the world. It's possible how that girl may be infatuated and will make a decision she'll regret. Therefore, I disagree with you that the opinion of others are irrelevant. The age gap is massive and there's a lot of things to consider.
  11. Would you say cursing is a spiritual act? Like by cursing the enemies you get closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), because some people deny this.
  12. Hey girl, it doesn't matter that you're twenty years older than me because you're too timeless.
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