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  1. The opinion that you read says that this verse is a prohibition against the marriage of a Believer with someone guilty of zina, until the adulterer repents, thereby being cleansed of the sin and no longer being an adulterer. This is based on the taking the statement “it has been prohibited” at one of its literal and apparent meanings and applying it to marriage. However, the majority of scholars have said that this is not a prohibition in terms of validity of marriage, but rather they interpret the verse in many different ways. The beginning of the verse speaks about who is appropriate for marriage to another due to their character; that the only person who would want to marry an adulterer is one who has similar inclinations or makes light of the sin of zina, or a person who is not a Muslim and therefore does not see zina as being unlawful and sinful in the first place. The suitability of a man and woman of this nature is repeated twice to show emphasis on how detestable the act and its consensual perpetrators are, and it also highlights that this stigma is not attached only to the male or female alone
  2. First off all It’s haraam to engage in any form of oral sex (or any other kind of sexual activity) with anyone other than your spouse (in the OP case – wife). As the OP is not married then oral sex is haraam. Period. You guys should repent Allah Most High says: “A man guilty of adultery or fornication does not marry other than a woman guilty of adultery or fornication, or an idolatress, and as for a woman who committed adultery or fornication, no one but a man who committed adultery or fornication, or an idolater, marries her. And that has been prohibited for the Believers.” [al-Quran 24:3]
  3. I had been on Prozac and it was wonderful . it almost totally alleviated my these symptoms. Bit without Prozac they are back
  4. I. repeat words, phrases just to make sure that I said them well. And repeated, intrusive, unwanted obsessions of causing or being responsible for harm to others, myself . i experienced them as mental images or urges
  5. I have ocd , right now I'm having some crazy intrusive/blasphemous thoughts, i can't help it at all. I'm crying because I've tried so hard to get rid of these thoughts, it affects me almost every minute of the day, whether im eating, talking to a friend, praying, those horrific thoughts are playing in my head. I dont know what the hell to do about it, it's driving me insane, sometimes i think why was I born. Sometimes i speaks words of kufr (disbelief) and words that put me beyond the pale of Islam because of this compulsive waswaas, but without being aware of what I am saying or understanding what it means. And yup I stop taking the Prozac .stopped seeing my psychiatrist coz I moved and my appointment with the new psychiatrist here is not until July so I'm trynna do my best to work through my pure o ocd by reading books and articles...coz i wanna get this under control....
  6. Please read my storyI'm just really really confused and scared whether I have ocd or not...and I would really like as much comments as to what Is it that i could have please...please read i know it's a long one but please iam really suffering and I would appreciate even 1 sentence responses...PLEASE I KNOW IT'S LONG BUT IT'S KILLING ME..Ok...a couple of months ago I know for sure that I have OCD (self diagnosed) because it was really severe and it really effected my life. My OCD is to do with religion. So basically before, I would get blasphemous thoughts that were really disturbing and they would affect my prayer, my meditation, my college..practically everything and everytime these thoughts appeared, I would spend ages trying to solve my problem and finding proofs as to why I don't believe in the thoughts and I would write them down and I would think them to myself throughout the whole day...and most times I would be doing this for ages and they won't SINK in and I resort to crying...I just lie down and cry and Wish that my life was over because of these DISGUSTING thoughts...everytime Iam around religious symbols or I see them..I have this sudden reaction in my head and I automatically start thinking about why I don't believe these thoughts or why iam NOT what my ocd is telling me..i have the word Satan when ever i do anything remotely related to my faith especially me prayers LIKE EVERYTIME...it creeps in and i can feel the thought there, its presence always in my head....thoughts like Satan could be God, imagine satan being God(I feel sick writing this one..I wish I didn't ugh) u might worship Satan or u might become a satanist or might be one secretly or might secretly secretly want to be one ...or just the word Satan popping up WHENEVER i wanna do something related to my faith....as usual I cry afterwards coz I don't get enough certainty and am still ruminating..so I end up not leaving the house and not watching tv or anything that could trigger these thoughts...of course they get worse coz when I do end up going outside it the anxiety comes back triple the strength... Like I was physically and mentally exhausted from the anxiety and the thoughts...During this phase I didn't know what I had so I researched and was 1000000% sure I have OCD..and I 1000% sure that it WASN'T ME....so I went to see a psychiatrist and he did like a brief examination and asked me about the intrusive thoughts and my reactions to them and he's like "yep, u have OCD" so he put me on 20 mg of Prozac. He increased my dose after some time. I had stopped seeing that psychiatrist coz i moved and have one appointment in a couple of months time with a new one..Buuuuut, the thing is that now the intensity of the anxiety is way less and I don't do much avoidance or as much crying and I don't constantly engage in my thoughts but I still do sometimes and I think it's the medication (hopefully)... But now I'm in a state of massive confusion because I feel like since the intensity of the anxiety has decreased and am not doing as much avoidance...I'm actually thinking to myself u might actually want to be a satanist deep down and am just in denial..or iam a hypocrite coz I'm just pretending to be religious on the outside but deep down, even though it scares me, that iam a satanist or i want to worship him FOR NO LOGICAL REASON...like I might just be using OCD as an excuse for my true wants! maybe I secretly desire it...deep deep down....and am thinking like "what if I lose my religion and end up being a satanist, what if I'm getting closer to become a satanist...like I actually think that one day I will straight up want to be a satanist and I'd just follow these thoughts even though they will COMPLETELY destroy me. I'm actually doubting my OCD and it scares the crap out of me because I DON'T know what iam anymore??. Do I have OCD or am i just in denial about being a secret satanist or wanting to be one???Iam so confused...y had the anxiety decreased and why am I not responding to my thoughts when I get them...I feel like sometimes iam actually triggering these thoughts on purpose or purposely doing nothing as response to the thoughts coz If I don't respond it means iam starting to accept them and am starting to like it........I know u are not meant to respond to them and I know u have to put urself in situations where u have to trigger your thoughts and u have to learn how not to respond to them but I'm scared that am slowly becoming a satanist or accepting it secretly and I feel SICK...and since I'm not with my psychiatrist anymore I decided to do some exposure therapy myself and exposure myself to pure satanic situation but when I do that I feel like "what if I end up accepting them and believe them completely and i leave my religion" And when I'm around stuff related to my religion I keep questioning myself EVERY SINGLE TIME " are u truly a religious person? U wouldn't have these thoughts if u truly believed...maybe I'm pretending? Do you truly believe? And I feel guilty and I feel like I lost my religion or don't truly believe..I don't know....it's really scaring me.......I'm like super aware of what I do with my religion and I start questioning myself if its genuine or not? And I feel like iam preparing myself and dreading the day I actually accept of become a satanist...like I can FEEL its drawing closer even though I would have to be straight up nuts to accept it despite all my logical reasoning.....especially with the exposure therapy I do by myself I feel like ur preparing your self for the day I actually do accept it....I want to do the exposure therapy but I CAN'T because if these thoughts...I REALLY DON'T KNOW...I FEEL LIKE SCREAMING and CRYING because I'm screwed either way...coz i feel like i dont have OCD and this is my secret intentions OR if i do have OCD then I won't be able to face my fears coz of these thoughts when I do the ERP like it would result in me actually wanting it....So so CONFUSED I feel like I lost my self..Please tell me what's wrong with me and if this is normal for OCD or if its really me deep down.....and if it is still OCD (which I doubt), how should i tackle my exposure therapy by myself...please I would appreciate anyone's input. I've been googling like mad to make sure it's OCD but iam still NOT convinced and iam soooo scared of what would happen to me later on..
  7. Omg. I dislike it. I think it's a display of needless self violence that has little genuine emotion or purpose to it. When did the prophet or any of the Imams perform such barbaric acts for no reason other that to what? Show they are tougher/more dedicated than others? I feel it goes against what Islam and their message stands for. Feeling sadness over Karbala, even shedding tears of genuine emotion, contemplating the events, their repercussions, gaining understanding over the real life lessons learned... those are all things we should aim for and bring good to our character. Beating oneself bloody with a chain/sword/whatever brings nothing good.
  8. Without doubt, weeping over the Imam Husain (a.s.) the Chief of Martyrs (a.s.) has exemplary effects and blessings. But Blood matam in its present form does not have a rational or religious basis. It is a clear instance of deviation. At least, in the present day it causes Shi’ism to be questioned. Activities that do not have any relation to the goals of Imam Husayn (as) are razors, blades and locks. Striking the head with a blade is the same. This is a mistake. Some people take blades and strike their heads and back making blood flow for what? This action is not mourning.
  9. I have not seen any psychiatrist yet. Bcz my parents thinks that there is nothing wrong with me .but my fiancé is aware of my condition i ve been with my partner for 2 years years. I know I am not good for him now but he says he won't leave me no matter what. He always gives me positive vibes. But I am so weak I can't live with my mental illness now.
  10. Ameen :') I don't live in the west. I am facing this since Ramadan, I have not seen any psychiatrist yet.
  11. You have depersonalization disorder. Seek help. There is a video "depersonalization disorder frequency' on youtube. Listen and watch this
  12. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds. He begets not, nor is He begotten. He promises me a fair trial in the Quran, and He also gives me schizophrenia, bi-polar disorder, and major depression. These mental illnesses made me insane. Literally insane. If I try to end it, Allah will have me burn in hell while I repeatedly do the action that I ended my life with (this is in a Sahih Hadith). Allah gave me the mental illnesses that make me want to kill myself, and He will torture me in a pit of fire who's fuel is flesh and pebbles if I do kill myself. And yes, I know this world is a trial. Believe me, I know better than all of you combined about that specific point. But how is it a fair trial if I have mental illnesses? Don't mental illnesses affect free will? What kind of merciful God would torture His slave in fire for putting an end to a miserable life?
  13. I will watch and I am extremely sorry if it effect other people's iman but I really needed help!
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