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  1. Same here i know someone who had that happen.
  2. I mean.... it doesnt HAVE to be but if the couple have materially significant concerns/matters ..it should be addressed somehow. The contract is just a means of protection, exceptions etc. Otherwise Quran would not have bid us to draft them. Technically all money the wife earns sactually stay with the wife per Quran. None of her belongings become shared with the husband. To men belong what they earn, and to women what they earn.” (An-Nisa’ 4:32) there's obligation to provide from the husband of his earnings, in addition to what Qur'an stipulates. the election of joint onwership can and should be in the contract along with other exceptional or pending concerns the couple has. Then it must be honored. one day randomly a fight can erupt and perhaps the instability will provoke one spouse to dishonor shared ownership or some other "verbally or cultural " implicit agreement. It could get ugly :/
  3. Salam man, Sorry to hear about the situation. It seems very complex and delicate and I'm not sure any advice I offer will be helpful without knowing more. Have you and your wife entered specific items in your nikkah contract? When Nikkah contract is drafted, these stipulations and requests need to be put in there and discussed (living location, money etc.) It seems to me the negotiating process between you and them has failed. Regardless of her psychological state, her father/brother or other family members are supposed to represent her interests and ensure these things are in Nikkah contract. You are in your right to respond and tell them you dont have an obligation to change living locations and on this basis if it is not in contract. Considering if you spent 9 years together and if you have not discussed these things, It is alarming. The contract is designated as a means of protection to her and you. In all fairness when a woman, even your wife asks not to be touched, you have no right to touch her. This is a grave mistake and breach of trust on your part. You must make amends for this. The quran specifically instructs us to seek counsel between the two families before approaching divorce. I would advise you to try and do this with a mediator who is fair and impartial.
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    I am having doubts.

    The how isnt as important as the "when " and "does one actually prostrate " reciting the verses, and what book they follow. How did the Jews, Christians and Muslims before and after the kaaba pray? لَيْسُوا سَوَآءً ۗ مِّنْ أَهْلِ الْكِتٰبِ أُمَّةٌ قَآئِمَةٌ يَتْلُونَ ءَايٰتِ اللَّهِ ءَانَآءَ الَّيْلِ وَهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ "They are not [all] the same; among the People of the Scripture is a community standing [in obedience], reciting the verses of Allah during periods of the night and prostrating [in prayer]." (QS. Aal-i-Imraan 3: Verse 113) يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْأَاخِرِ وَيَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَيُسٰرِعُونَ فِى الْخَيْرٰتِ وَأُولٰٓئِكَ مِنَ الصّٰلِحِينَ "They believe in Allah and the Last Day, and they enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and hasten to good deeds. And those are among the righteous." (QS. Aal-i-Imraan 3: Verse 114) I'm not so certain the righteous people of the scripture referenced above prayed according the prophet's example. They are hailed as righteous. And does it matter where we face to pray? Below piety/righteousness is defined for us: لَّيْسَ الْبِرَّ أَنْ تُوَلُّوا وُجُوهَكُمْ قِبَلَ الْمَشْرِقِ وَالْمَغْرِبِ وَلٰكِنَّ الْبِرَّ مَنْ ءَامَنَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْأَاخِرِ وَالْمَلٰٓئِكَةِ وَالْكِتٰبِ وَالنَّبِيِّۦنَ وَءَاتَى الْمَالَ عَلٰى حُبِّهِۦ ذَوِى الْقُرْبٰى وَالْيَتٰمٰى وَالْمَسٰكِينَ وَابْنَ السَّبِيلِ وَالسَّآئِلِينَ وَفِى الرِّقَابِ وَأَقَامَ الصَّلٰوةَ وَءَاتَى الزَّكٰوةَ وَالْمُوفُونَ بِعَهْدِهِمْ إِذَا عٰهَدُوا ۖ وَالصّٰبِرِينَ فِى الْبَأْسَآءِ وَالضَّرَّآءِ وَحِينَ الْبَأْسِ ۗ أُولٰٓئِكَ الَّذِينَ صَدَقُوا ۖ وَأُولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْمُتَّقُونَ "Righteousness is not that you turn your faces toward the east or the west, but [true] righteousness is [in] one who believes in Allah, the Last Day, the angels, the Book, and the prophets and gives wealth, in spite of love for it, to relatives, orphans, the needy, the traveler, those who ask [for help], and for freeing slaves; [and who] establishes prayer and gives zakah; [those who] fulfill their promise when they promise; and [those who] are patient in poverty and hardship and during battle. Those are the ones who have been true, and it is those who are the righteous." (QS. Al-Baqara 2: Verse 177) These verses support my argument that prayer methodologies aren't necessarily strict in a sense there is only one right way to pray. Heck these alone reshape the constitution of who a believer is and isn't and defies whatever upbringings/teachings I had growing up. i think not all hadith need be rejected but we have been placing far too credibility in them i feel. And perhaps are contributing to our divisions amongst each other more than we realize. From what ive gathered in quran, there are 3 times of the day to pray and we must cleanse/purify ourselves in preparation beforehand. I default to pray the # of rakats I've been taught.. for now until/unless my understanding changes.
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    I am having doubts.

    I beleive hadiths are for the most part BS. Perhaps you're like me who believes in the message/Quran and not the controversial, contradiction ridden hadith its supplemented with.
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    Definition of Shirk

    If a non believer or a polytheist, or one committing shirk does not acknowledge Allah's existence.. and instead imposes Deity on let's say, an idol, or an object/or person.. is that not assocoating partners with Allah? And what about those the Quran refers to below? @Salsabeel أَلَا لِلَّهِ الدِّينُ الْخَالِصُ ۚ وَالَّذِينَ اتَّخَذُوا مِنْ دُونِهِۦٓ أَوْلِيَآءَ مَا نَعْبُدُهُمْ إِلَّا لِيُقَرِّبُونَآ إِلَى اللَّهِ زُلْفٰىٓ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَحْكُمُ بَيْنَهُمْ فِى مَا هُمْ فِيهِ يَخْتَلِفُونَ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَهْدِى مَنْ هُوَ كٰذِبٌ كَفَّارٌ "Unquestionably, for Allah is the pure religion. And those who take protectors besides Him [say], We only worship them that they may bring us nearer to Allah in position. Indeed, Allah will judge between them concerning that over which they differ. Indeed, Allah does not guide he who is a liar and [confirmed] ingrate." (QS. Az-Zumar 39: Verse 3)
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    Definition of Shirk

    Well obedience is one way to look at it perhaps. I haven't tried looking at it that way. I figured it was because in this verse 6:121, compliance/obedience (or conceding) to the mushrik/disblievers about eating what God has forbidden and making it halal .. is indirectly associating them with God (at least God's authority, when it was made clear in message what we can and cannot eat)... which is essentially a form of disobedience but not sure if it directly correlates to someone knowingly disobeying knowing its wrong yets ask for forgiveness. In that case they do not make what Allah has made forbidden as halal, invalidating them as committing shirk, but disobedient only . But it demonstrates if we let others influence us ( like taking non Muslims as protectors or allies per Quran verse) it relegates us as disbelievers ( obeying friends of shaytan in 6:121). Which is shirk. So that makes sense . They (mushrik or anyone) cannot undo Gods decree in that we must eat that which Gods name is mentioned, and food must not be carrion/already dead, etc. Otherwise we committed shirk per Quran. Perhaps a more compelling verse is the verse telling us Muslims to fight! وَمِنْهُمْ مَّنْ يَقُولُ ائْذَنْ لِّى وَلَا تَفْتِنِّىٓ ۚ أَلَا فِى الْفِتْنَةِ سَقَطُوا ۗ وَإِنَّ جَهَنَّمَ لَمُحِيطَةٌۢ بِالْكٰفِرِينَ "And among them is he who says, Permit me [to remain at home] and do not put me to trial. Unquestionably, into trial they have fallen. And indeed, Hell will encompass the disbelievers." (QS. At-Tawba 9: Verse 49) This says they would be disbelievers, this form of disobedience supports that point directly. Edit: Actually this could make the argument that 9:49 is referring to a person who always was a disbeliever pretending to believer. The prior verses indicate Allah prevented such individuals joining fight lest their agenda was to spread dissension and cause weaknesses on field due to lack of faith. But I think other verses command us to fight otherwise we are of mushrik
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    Definition of Shirk

    Might be good to supplement with 6:121 And eat not of that over which God's Name has not been mentioned; it is ungodliness. The Satans inspire their friends to dispute with you; if you obey them, you are idolaters.
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    Definition of Shirk

    Shirk has different thresholds and meanings depending who you talk to. The most straightforward I suppose is to get it straight from Quran. Concept of shirk is associating anything with God, or imposing Gods attributes on anyone or thing with God, such as people as intercessors or lords, idols.
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    Quran 1:6

    I dont think "servants" or أعيادنا only refers to the prophets/Ahlul bayt. Passages mix servants with ordinary people and prophets. We even have passage telling us who servants are: وَعِبَادُ الرَّحْمٰنِ الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ هَوْنًا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجٰهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلٰمًا "And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace," (QS. Al-Furqaan 25: Verse 63) وَالَّذِينَ اجْتَنَبُوا الطّٰغُوتَ أَنْ يَعْبُدُوهَا وَأَنَابُوٓا إِلَى اللَّهِ لَهُمُ الْبُشْرٰى ۚ فَبَشِّرْ عِبَادِ "But those who have avoided Taghut, lest they worship it, and turned back to Allah - for them are good tidings. So give good tidings to My servants" الَّذِينَ يَسْتَمِعُونَ الْقَوْلَ فَيَتَّبِعُونَ أَحْسَنَهُۥٓ ۚ أُولٰٓئِكَ الَّذِينَ هَدٰىهُمُ اللَّهُ ۖ وَأُولٰٓئِكَ هُمْ أُولُوا الْأَلْبٰبِ "Who listen to speech and follow the best of it. Those are the ones Allah has guided, and those are people of understanding." (QS. Az-Zumar 39: Verse 17-18) ثُمَّ أَوْرَثْنَا الْكِتٰبَ الَّذِينَ اصْطَفَيْنَا مِنْ عِبَادِنَا ۖ فَمِنْهُمْ ظَالِمٌ لِّنَفْسِهِۦ وَمِنْهُمْ مُّقْتَصِدٌ وَمِنْهُمْ سَابِقٌۢ بِالْخَيْرٰتِ بِإِذْنِ اللَّهِ ۚ ذٰلِكَ هُوَ الْفَضْلُ الْكَبِيرُ "Then we caused to inherit the Book those We have chosen of Our servants; and among them is he who wrongs himself, and among them is he who is moderate, and among them is he who is foremost in good deeds by permission of Allah. That [inheritance] is what is the great bounty." (QS. Faatir 35: Verse 32) "Wrongs himself, a servant " Iblis was a servant wasn't he? Angels are referred to as servants... and status was such he was among them though a jinn. Allah SWT said: قُلْ يٰعِبَادِىَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلٰىٓ أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُۥ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ "Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." (QS. Az-Zumar 39: Verse 53) Servants are infallible if they're prophet's and Ahlul Bayt, right? Why transgress themsleves?
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    Quran 1:6

    But the verse said the Qur'an is a guiding light for believers. Im genuinely confused by this seemingly unintuitive statement. It sounds contradictory. IF this ayah refers to Muhammad SAW directly it destroys the idea that he was a believer before revelation bringing a sizable chunk of hadith to the garbage can (although there are other supporting verses). No way was he a prophet before revelation nor a believer. If this ayah addresses all Muslims (in the time before and after death of prophet) then the intuition is muhammad in his lifetime taught quran as he was the only one revealing it from Jabriel to the people and had knowledge to supply. And guided non Muslims to Islam by calling them. That is the relevance of the verses you cited. You cannot misconstrue Wali and mowla, they're two very different words and meanings, these passages you cited do not have that. But after his death the quran itself (We made it a light, guiding thereby whom We please of Our servants;) in its complete form was a sufficient book to give guidance absent the prophet.... Who are believers/servants? إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ الَّذِينَ إِذَا ذُكِرَ اللَّهُ وَجِلَتْ قُلُوبُهُمْ وَإِذَا تُلِيَتْ عَلَيْهِمْ ءَايٰتُهُۥ زَادَتْهُمْ إِيمٰنًا وَعَلٰى رَبِّهِمْ يَتَوَكَّلُونَ "The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts become fearful, and when His verses are recited to them, it increases them in faith; and upon their Lord they rely -" (QS. Al-Anfaal 8: Verse 2) In which case The line of logic is only Muhammad in his lifetime had quran as it was revealed to him. The quran was guidance for Muhammad. Therefore only through him could we get that guidance so..he guided us...as a will of Allah. Muhammad completed reciting revelation to us and then passes away but now we have the light, quran....the light of guidance for us. @Raheel Yunus does this align with your line of thinking when you read these?
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    Quran 1:6

    @Salsabeel who do you think this ayah is addressing? The believers during time of prophet , all believers, Muhammad SAW only or mankind? Honest question.
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    why do we need the hadith?

    Thanks. Ill have to put this on order. Is this comprehensive or do other books that have other hadith grades fron other scholars/ayatollahs that exist?
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    why do we need the hadith?

    Could you please elaborate on that strong bank according to ayatollah khoei What do you know about it?
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