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  1. First, you don’t know him very much. So be wary. Second, you have to decide by your intellect. Everyone has intellect, but unfortunately, they mostly do not use it. Third, there is a difference between love and lust. You should know who the right person is. Fourth, hanging around with a different gender is not a good advice. The best friend of you could be found in the same gender. Fifth, the satisfaction of romantic relation is dissimilar between males and females. Men satisfy in a sudden, women satisfy gradually. So long time relation shows the reality. Sixth, any romantic relationship should be between couples who are married. Lots of times, I heard about girls who had an occasional relationship with a boy and eventually he abandoned her. He wanted her just for his pleasure in free times. Finally, seek mercy and affection. If you can find them in his characteristics, go ahead. And of His signs is that He created for you mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect. وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ ﴿٢١﴾Tanzil - Quran Navigator
  2. I am a Muslim and I do not hate anyone just because of his or her religion. There is an interesting verse in the holy Qur’an about Christians: So Islam does not urge any Muslim to hate any person just because of their religion. Instead, it commands to abhor the ones who have self-arrogance and are real tyrants. Looking at the Islamic narrations, you find some attributes of the ones who Allah, the Exalted, hates: So, anyone who has some above-mentioned attributes is most despised by the Lord, His Messenger, and Muslims. لَتَجِدَنَّ أَشَدَّ النَّاسِ عَدَاوَةً لِّلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا الْيَهُودَ وَالَّذِينَ أَشْرَكُوا ۖ وَلَتَجِدَنَّ أَقْرَبَهُم مَّوَدَّةً لِّلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا الَّذِينَ قَالُوا إِنَّا نَصَارَىٰ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ بِأَنَّ مِنْهُمْ قِسِّيسِينَ وَرُهْبَانًا وَأَنَّهُمْ لَا يَسْتَكْبِرُونَ ﴿٨٢﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [ii] إِنَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ الظَّالِمِينَ ﴿٤٠﴾ وَلَمَنِ انتَصَرَ بَعْدَ ظُلْمِهِ فَأُولَـٰئِكَ مَا عَلَيْهِم مِّن سَبِيلٍ ﴿٤١﴾ إِنَّمَا السَّبِيلُ عَلَى الَّذِينَ يَظْلِمُونَ النَّاسَ وَيَبْغُونَ فِي الْأَرْضِ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ ۚ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ ﴿٤٢﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [iii] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): إنَّ اللّه‏َ يُبْغِضُ كَثْرَةَ النَّومِ وكَثْرَةَ الفراغِ . [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 76, p. 180, no. 10] [iv] رسولُ اللهِ‏ِ (صَلَّيَ اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَ آلِهِ): ليسَ شَيءٌ أبغَضَ إلَى اللّه‏ِ مِن بَطنٍ مَلْآنَ. [Uyoun Akhbar al-Ridha (AS), v. 2, p. 36, no. 89] [v] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): إنَّ أبغَضَ خَلقِ اللّه‏ِ عبدٌ اتّقَى النّاسُ لِسانَهُ. [al-Kafi, v. 2, p. 323, no. 4] [vi] الإمامُ عليٌّ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): أبغَضُ العِبادِ إلَى اللّه‏ِ سبحانه العالِمُ المُتَجَبِّرُ . [Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 3164] [vii] الإمامُ عليٌّ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): أمْقَتُ العبادِ إلَى اللّه‏ِ سبحانه مَن كانَ هِمَّتُهُ (هَمُّهُ) بطنَهُ وفَرْجَهُ . [Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 3294] [viii] الإمامُ عليٌّ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): أبغَضُ الخَلائقِ‏إلَى اللّه‏ِ المُغْتابُ . [Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 3128]
  3. Hijab is a general rule for every person. Nobody is allowed to appear naked in the public. The difference between Muslims and non-Muslims in hijab issue is just the limitation of covering. A Christian woman observes some type of covering when she walks in the street, but it is not absolutely a perfect covering. We should note that hijab is not just an Islamic command. Jews and Christians have hijab. Look at the pictures below: The interesting point is that even western women about 100 years ago observed hijab. So, why a Muslim girl should not wear hijab? More information: The Leader's View of Hijab influence of hijab on the west
  4. It is worth mentioning the opinion of Iran’s Supreme Leader about this issue: Source: The Leader's View of Hijab
  5. Unfortunately, there are lots of discrimination in the world, especially about the jobs. After modernization in 18th and 19th centuries in the west, the governments attempted to open new factories and manufacture new products. In order to have better outputs, they employed lots of employers. Among them were women and even children. They paid them very low income with the high working day. It was a prevalent discrimination until lots of protests staged after the advent of some novels like ‘Oliver Twist’. After that, the labor laws were passed banning employers from engaging children for hard work. Thus, the history is full of prejudice against women and children. Unfortunately, nowadays there is some discrimination for women jobs. Women are mostly employed for some jobs which have low income. If the employer exchanges her with a man, he should pay more than such income to him. Men are responsible for their family and have to earn money. So they need a job by which they could manage their family costs. Women in low-income families attempt to help their husbands and apply for a job. These kinds of jobs for women merely satisfy their desperate financial needs. I know some couples who both work, but the income of women are less than men. They should hold down their jobs because they need money. In Islamic principles, men are only required to earn money in the family. If women work, their income is for themselves and they are not obliged to expend it in the family. وَعَلَى الْمَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ Tanzil - Quran Navigator
  6. The covering body was one of the first actions of the wise human being. According to Islamic narrations, Adam and Eve (peace be upon them) had some sort of hijab. When they tasted of that forbidden tree, they became naked and then attempted to cover themselves. The Holy Qur’an attests the story: “So they both ate of it, and their nakedness became evident to them, and they began to stitch over themselves with the leaves of paradise. Adam disobeyed his Lord, and went amiss.” Thus, it seems that covering the body roots in the nature of the wise human beings. Hijab was observed gradually by Muslim men and women after the advent of the Holy Messenger of Islam peace be upon him. When all Muslims were completely ready to accept hijab, the order of hijab revealed and they obeyed it. So if you gradually adjust yourself to hijab and understand the philosophy behind it, you will accept it by your free will. It is due to the fact that you, before trying Islamic hijab, had some sort of covering, although it was not complete. Then, it would not be wrong to wear hijab for you. Try it on. فَأَكَلَا مِنْهَا فَبَدَتْ لَهُمَا سَوْآتُهُمَا وَطَفِقَا يَخْصِفَانِ عَلَيْهِمَا مِن وَرَقِ الْجَنَّةِ ۚ وَعَصَىٰ آدَمُ رَبَّهُ فَغَوَىٰ ﴿١٢١﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator
  7. Salamun Alayhum. First, the command of hijab is revealed by the Lord. “ O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the faithful to draw closely over themselves their chadors [when going out]. That makes it likely for them to be recognized and not be troubled, and Allah is all-forgiving, all-merciful.” Second, when there is a paradox between the command of your creator and your parents, you have to obey Allah, the Exalted. “ But if they urge you to ascribe to Me as partner that of which you have no knowledge, then do not obey them. Keep their company honourably in this world and follow the way of those who turn to Me penitently. Then to Me will be your return, whereat I will inform you concerning what you used to do. ”[ii] Third, Allah, the Exalted, helps His servants. “Allah will indeed defend those who have faith. Indeed Allah does not like any ingrate traitor.”[iii] Fourth, do not lose your self-confidence. Anyone who reprimands you today will be shameful tomorrow. “Indeed the guilty used to laugh at the faithful, (29) and when they passed them by they would wink at each other, (30) and when they returned to their folks they would return amused, (31) and when they saw them they would say, ‘Indeed those are the astray!’ (32) Though they were not sent to watch over them. (33) So today the faithful will laugh at the faithless, (34)”[iv] Fifth, according to the command of the Lord to bid what is right and forbid what is wrong, you should talk to your family and convince them. “But the faithful, men and women, are comrades of one another: they bid what is right and forbid what is wrong and maintain the prayer, give the zakat, and obey Allah and His Apostle. It is they to whom Allah will soon grant His mercy. Indeed Allah is all-mighty, all-wise.” [v] If he does not accept, it will be not upon your shoulder to persist. “To you your religion, and to me my religion.”[vi] Finally, be firm and steadfast. “O my son! Maintain the prayer and bid what is right and forbid what is wrong, and be patient through whatever may befall you. That is indeed the steadiest of courses.” [vii] يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ ۗوَكَانَ اللَّـهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا ﴿٥٩﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [ii] وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖوَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا ۖ وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ ۚ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿١٥﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [iii] إِنَّ اللَّـهَ يُدَافِعُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ خَوَّانٍ كَفُورٍ ﴿٣٨﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [iv] إِنَّ الَّذِينَ أَجْرَمُوا كَانُوا مِنَ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا يَضْحَكُونَ ﴿٢٩﴾ وَإِذَا مَرُّوا بِهِمْ يَتَغَامَزُونَ ﴿٣٠﴾ وَإِذَا انقَلَبُوا إِلَىٰ أَهْلِهِمُ انقَلَبُوا فَكِهِينَ ﴿٣١﴾ وَإِذَا رَأَوْهُمْ قَالُوا إِنَّ هَـٰؤُلَاءِ لَضَالُّونَ ﴿٣٢﴾ وَمَا أُرْسِلُوا عَلَيْهِمْ حَافِظِينَ ﴿٣٣﴾ فَالْيَوْمَ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مِنَ الْكُفَّارِ يَضْحَكُونَ ﴿٣٤﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [v] وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ ۚ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَيُؤْتُونَ الزَّكَاةَ وَيُطِيعُونَ اللَّـهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۚأُولَـٰئِكَ سَيَرْحَمُهُمُ اللَّـهُ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ ﴿٧١﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [vi] لَكُمْ دِينُكُمْ وَلِيَ دِينِ ﴿٦﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [vii] يَا بُنَيَّ أَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَانْهَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَاصْبِرْ عَلَىٰ مَا أَصَابَكَ ۖإِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ مِنْ عَزْمِ الْأُمُورِ ﴿١٧﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator
  8. The Holy Messenger of Islam peace be upon him said, ‘Love children and have mercy on them.’ ‘Part of the prosperity of a man is that he has a righteous child.’[ii] ‘Whoever has a child should act childishly to him.’[iii] A sensible and well-balanced family system is the very foundation of a happy life. Indeed, it is the root of an advancing civilization. Religion comes to take human beings nearer to Allah. Therefore, it must create an atmosphere conducive to that ideal; otherwise, it cannot achieve its goal. The Holy Prophet said to `Ali (a.s.): “O' `Alli, there are as many rights of children incumbent upon parents as there are rights of parents incumbent upon children.” ‘A child is a master for seven years, a servant for seven years, and a minister for seven years. If you want, engage his assistance until [the age of] twenty-one, or else strike him on his shoulder (let him go) for you have completed your excuse to Allah in him.’[iv] Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘There are three things obligatory upon a parent for his child: to have him at his mother’s disposal, to give him a good name, and to go to lengths in disciplining him.’[v] Rights and duties are inter-related. The right of `A' is the duty of `B'. Although natural parental love was a sufficient surety for the upkeep, welfare and upbringing of the child, Islam prepared some wonderful guidelines for the parents. Thus, Respect your parents so that your children respect you. Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘Be good to your parents and your children will be good to you.’[vi] Do not make any difference between your sons and daughters. The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Maintain justice among your children in gifts, just like you would like them to be just with you in goodness and affection.’[vii] Read more about this subject: Children and youths https://www.al-islam.org/islamic... WWW.HADITHDATABANK.COM ———————————————————————————- رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيه وَ آلِهِ: أحِبُّوا الصِّبيانَ وارحَموهُم. [al-Kafi, v. 6, p. 49, no. 3] [ii] رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيه وَ آلِهِ: مِن سَعادَةِ الرّجُلِ الوَلَدُ الصّالِحُ. [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 104, p. 98, no. 67] [iii] رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيه وَ آلِهِ: مَن كانَ عِندَهُ صَبِيٌّ فلْيَتَصابَ لَهُ. [al-Faqih, v. 3, p. 483, no. 4707] [iv] رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيه وَ آلِهِ: الوَلَدُ سَيّدٌ سَبعَ سِنينَ، وخادِمٌ سَبعَ سِنينَ، ووَزيرٌ سَبعَ سِنينَ، فإن رضِيتَ مُكانَفَتَهُ لإحدى وعِشرينَ، وإلاّ فاضرِبْ على كَتِفِهِ، قد أعذَرتَ إلَى اللّه فيهِ. [Kanz al-`Ummal, no. 45338] [v] الإمامُ الصّادقُ عَلَيهِ السَّلامُ: تَجِبُ للوَلَدِ على والِدِهِ ثَلاثُ خِصالٍ :اختِيارُهُ لِوالِدَتِهِ، وتَحسينُ اسمِهِ، والمُبالَغَةُ في تَأديبهِ.[Bihar al-Anwar, v. 78, p. 236, no. 67] [vi] الإمامُ الصّادقُ عَلَيهِ السَّلامُ: بَرُّوا آباءكُم يَبَرَّكُم أبناؤكُم. [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 74, p. 65, no. 31] [vii] رسولُ اللّه صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيه وَ آلِهِ: اِعدِلوا بَينَ أولادِكُم في النُّحْلِ، كما تُحِبُّونَ أن يَعدِلوا بَينَكُم في البِرِّ واللُّطفِ. [Kanz al-`Ummal, no. 45347]
  9. It is a grave sin. The grave sin is a kind of sin which Allah, the Exalted, has mentioned punishment for it in the Qur’an. A grave sin could also occur when someone insists on a sin which s/he thinks is not so important. But it is very important to avoid them. A non-hijabi woman continuously commits a sin. The Holy Qur’an has ordered women to cover themselves in some situations. “And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appear thereof. And let them wear their head coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments...” (Surah an-Nūr 24:31) It is also mentioned in Surah al-Ahzāb, “O Prophet! Say to your wives and daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over garments, this will be more proper, that they may be known and thus they will not give trouble. And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (Surah al-Ahzāb 33:59) In the same chapter, Allah (S.w.T.) says: “O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other of the women, if you will be on your guard, then be not soft in (your) speech, lest he whose heart has a disease yearn and speak a good word.” (Surah al-Ahzāb 33:32) Another verse states, “And when you ask them (the wives of the Prophet) any goods, ask of them from behind a curtain, this is purer for your hearts and (for) their hearts.” (Surah al-Ahzāb 33:53) In the above verses, the Muslim woman is ordered to veil herself. She must not come before non-mahram without Hijab. She should dress in such a manner that strange men do not get an opportunity to glance at those parts of her body which arouse passion; and thus make her an object of desire. It is the responsibility of a woman to assume such poise and behaviour that she does not excite a man’s passions. Even a glance of lust can infatuate a man and a seemingly harmless encounter eventually lead to mischief and corruption in society, destroying entire families.
  10. Salamun Alaykum. Allah, the Exalted, has created everything on the earth or in the sky. He is the one who created Love and Compassion. He loves what he has created. It is the free will of human and Jinn that sometimes banish them from the Lord’s bliss. Allah, the Exalted stated in the Holy book of the Qur’an: “Say, ‘If you love Allah, then follow me; Allah will love you and forgive you your sins, and Allah is all-forgiving, all-merciful.’” Thus, it is you who can make such a good relationship with Allah, the Exalted. Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘Whoever wants to know the status of his position with Allah must first find out what status of position Allah holds with him, for Allah places the servant in the same position whereat the servant places Allah with respect to himself.’[ii] The Messenger of Islam peace be upon him said: ‘The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Him are those that are the most useful to His servants, and the most persistent of them in establishing His right, those who endear virtue and its practices.’[iii] His successors also advised people to love the Lord because He loves the ones who love Him: Imam Zayn al-Abidin (AS) said, ‘Indeed Allah loves every sorrowful heart and loves every grateful servant.’[iv] Imam al-Sadiq (AS) said, ‘When the believer abandons this world, he is elevated and finds the sweet taste of Allah’s love; he appears to the people of this world as if he is confounded in his mind, whereas truly it is they who have confounded the sweetness of Allah’s love such that they do not occupy themselves with other than Him.’[v] He (AS) also said, ‘The heart is the sanctuary of Allah, so do not lodge other than Allah in Allah’s sanctuary.’[vi] ‘Man’s faith in Allah will not be pure until Allah becomes more beloved to him than his own self, his father, his mother, his children, his wife, his wealth, and all people.’[vii] Imam al-Husayn (AS) said in one of his supplications, ‘It is You Who removed the strangers from the hearts of Your lovers so that they never love other than You… What does the one who loses You find [besides You]?! And what does the one who finds You lose [out on]?! He indeed fails who is satisfied with a substitute for You.’[viii] So, with these holy sentences, we will be sure that Allah, the Exalted, loves His servants. قُلْ إِن كُنتُمْ تُحِبُّونَ اللَّـهَ فَاتَّبِعُونِي يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّـهُ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ ﴿٣١﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [ii] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): مَن أرادَ أنْ يَعرِفَ كيفَ مَنزِلَتُهُ عِندَ اللّه‏ِ فلْيَعْرِفْ كيفَ مَنزِلَـةُ اللّه‏ِ عِندَهُ ، فإنَّ اللّه‏َ يُنزِلُ العَبدَ مِثلَ ما يُنزِلُ العَبدُاللّه‏َ مِن نَفْسِهِ. [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 71, p. 156, no. 74] [iii] رسولُ اللهِ‏ِ (صَلَّيَ اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَ آلِهِ): أحَبُّ عِبادِ اللّه‏ِ إلى اللّه‏ِ أنْفَعُهُم لِعبادِهِ، وأقْوَمُهُم بحقِّهِ، الّذينَ يُحَبَّبُ إلَيهِمُ المَعروفُ وفِعالُهُ . [Tuhaf al-`Uqoul, no. 49] [iv]الإمامُ زينُ العابدينَ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): إنَّ اللّه‏َ يُحِبُّ كُلَّ قَلبٍ حَزينٍ ، ويُحِبُّ كُلَّ عبدٍ شَكورٍ. [al-Kafi, p. 99, no. 30] [v] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): إذا تَخَلّى المؤمنُ مِن الدُّنيا سَما ووَجَدَ حَلاوَةَ حُبِّ اللّه‏ِ ، وكانَ عندَ أهلِ الدُّنيا كأنَّهُ قد خُولِطَ ، وإنَّما خالَطَ القَومَ حَلاوَةُ حُبِّ اللّه‏ِ فلَم يَشْتَغلوا بغَيرِهِ. [al-Kafi, p. 130, no. 1] [vi] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): القلبُ حَرَمُ اللّه‏ِ ، فلا تُسْكِنْ حَرَمَ اللّه‏ِ غَيرَ اللّه‏ِ . [Jami al-Akhbar, p. 518, no. 1468] [vii] الإمامُ الصّادقُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ): لا يَمْحضُ رجُلٌ الإيمانَ باللّه‏ِ حتّى يكونَ اللّه‏ُ أحَبَّ إلَيهِ مِن نَفْسِهِ وأبيهِ واُمِّهِ ووُلْدِهِ وأهْلِهِ ومالِهِ ومِن النّاسِ كُلِّهِم. [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 70, p. 25, no. 25] [viii] الإمامُ الحسينُ (عَلَيهِ الّسَلامُ) ـ في الدعاء المنسوب إليه ـ: أنتَ الّذي أزَلْتَ الأغْيارَ عن قُلوبِ أحِبّائكَ حتّى لَم يُحِبّوا سِواكَ... ماذا وَجَدَ مَن فَقَدَكَ؟! وما الّذي فَقَد مَن وَجَدكَ؟! لَقد خابَ مَن‏رَضِيَ دُونَكَ بَدَلاً [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 98, p. 226, no. 3]
  11. Since the beginning of time, women have always been exploited. Known for our gentleness, delicateness, and beauty, women are often used as mere objects to attract men or sell products and services. Unfortunately, today a woman’s physical beauty is likened to a man’s trophy, to be shown off to the whole world. In an interview with former rapper “Napoleon” from Tupac Shakur’s band, the OutLawz, revert Mutah Beale said, “The music industry is where they really exploit and degrade women. We’d pay them a hundred bucks to strip for our music videos, and they’d do it!” Sadly, women have become well accustomed to this routine and also take pride in displaying their beauty. But what Muslim women realize is that our beauty is sacred and certainly not for any random man to gawk at for pleasure. A research, conducted by Dr Viren Swami from the University of Westminster and colleagues looked at body image issues amongst British Muslim women. Dr Swami explained: “In the West anxiety about body image, for women, is so prevalent it’s considered normal. This study aimed to explore how these attitudes differ within a British Muslim community.” A total of 587 Muslim women aged from 18 to 70 years from London participated in a number of tests. From this group 218 women stated they never used the hijab and 369 women said they used some form of the hijab at least now and then. Participants undertook a number of questionnaires that asked them to rate their own feelings of body dissatisfaction, how much pressure the media put on them to be attractive and how religious they were. They were also asked to match their own figure to a set of female silhouette images that ranged from emaciated to obese. The results showed that women who wore the hijab generally had a more positive body image, were less influenced by the media’s beauty ideals and placed less importance on appearance. Dr Swami said: “Although the results showed only a small difference between those who wear or don’t wear the hijab it does suggest the hijab offers Muslim women a small protective effect in terms of feeling positive about their body image. It appears that those who choose to wear it are better able to distance themselves from the Western thin ideal. “These results may have useful implications for intervention programmes aimed at promoting healthier body image among Muslim women in the West. For example, by identifying those aspects of hijab use that are associated with more positive body appreciation in future studies, it might be possible to isolate factors that can be targeted in intervention programmes.” The journal, entitled “Is the Hijab Protective? An Investigation of Body Image and Related Constructs Among British Muslim Women”, can be accessed here. The Society publishes 11 academic journal titles in conjunction with our publishing partner Wiley-Blackwell. The British Journal of Health Psychology publishes original research on all aspects of psychology related to health, health-related behaviour and illness across the lifespan. Visit the Wiley online library for more information. — Source: BPS http://www.aimislam.com/study-we... Why Wear the Hijab?
  12. It could be a lot, but I love my parents. Everyone should love his or her parents, although they may have some disagreements. Nobody should offend or discredit his or her parents. The Holy Prophet of Islam peace be upon him says: “Beware! Abstain from angering the parents. The fragrance of Paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off ties with relatives will not be able to smell it.” The Holy Prophet peace be upon him also said. “One who displeases the parents, (it is as if) he has displeased Allah. One who angers both his parents (it is as if) he has angered Allah.” Elsewhere, it is mentioned: “One who hurts his parents hurts me and one who hurts me has hurt Allah. And the one who hurts Allah is accursed.” Mustadrak ul-Wasa’il (the name of a book) The Holy Prophet peace be upon him has also stated: “Allah will not speak to three kinds of people on the Day of Judgment (Qiyāma). Neither will He have mercy upon them nor will He purify their sins. There is for them a horrible chastisement. The Three types of people are the believers in destiny, the drunkards and those who disobeyed their parents.”
  13. Naming children the name of animals or evil creatures is really dreadful. You should call your kids with a name that when you call him or her you feel pleasure and respect. The holy Prophet of Islam, peace be upon him said: 'Name your children after the prophets.' Imam al-Kazim, Shiites’ seventh Imam (pbuh), said, 'The very first act of kindness of a man towards his son is to give him a good name, so keep good names for your children.'[ii] I think the most favorite name can be Muhammad, because it means someone who is praised. رسولُ اللَّهِ صلى اللَّه عليه وآله : سَمُّوا أولادَكُم أسماءَ الأنبياءِ [ii] الإمامُ الكاظمُ عليه السلام : أوَّلُ ما يَبَرُّ الرَّجُلُ وَلَدَهُ أن يُسَمِّيَهُ بِاسمٍ حَسَنٍ، فَلْيُحَسِّنْ أحَدُكُمُ اسمَ وَلَدِهِ http://www.hadith.net/en/post/33...
  14. According to the Longman Dictionary, sexist means “someone who believes that one sex is weaker, less intelligent, or less important than the other, and treats them unfairly because of this – used to show disapproval”. If your husband feels he is the higher gender and suppose you as an inferior, you are facing a problematic issue. Most of the time, this kind of personality forms in a person after a change in their ideology or beliefs. No one is born sexist. Thus, omitting the reasons of making him such a person will bring him back to the real life. You may deliver some good books to him to read about the equality of human beings. Some movies which appear to be made about this issue will help. If he loves you, you can gradually change his beliefs. Be firm and steadfast. According to Islamic beliefs, human beings, men and women, are equal. When they do right deeds, they become purer and much closer to the Lord. The Holy Qur’an states: “Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّـهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ ﴿١٣﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator
  15. It is not a general problem for all husbands. It is, I assume, pervasive in some specific sort of men who perhaps did not make a right and conscious decision about their couple. It could be also prevalent among married women who think their husbands do not deserve them. If you understand your mutual life and your partner and s/he also realizes your interests and needs, your life will not be constrained to sexual behaviors. Some couples get married to each other just because of presuming to love each other. After a while, when they understand that they have more needs than sexual affairs, they start arguing each other. I know someone who has three children and after about 20 years, he even could not go out of the house without the permission of his wife. So he does not love his wife as he did in the first month of their mutual life. It is only your Lord who can make mercy and compassion between you and your spouse. The holy Qur’an states: “And of His signs is that He created for you mates from your own selves that you may take comfort in them, and He ordained affection and mercy between you. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect. (21)” Spouse are as their own garment, so they can hide each other’s inefficiency: “…they are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them….”[ii] God has created everything in a couple, man and woman, male or female, electron and proton: “The originator of the heavens and the earth, He made for you mates from your own selves, and mates of the cattle, by which means He multiplies you. Nothing is like Him, and He is the All-hearing, the All-seeing.(11)” [iii] وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ ﴿٢١﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator [ii] … هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ… Tanzil - Quran Navigator [iii] فَاطِرُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ ۚ جَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا وَمِنَ الْأَنْعَامِ أَزْوَاجًا ۖ يَذْرَؤُكُمْ فِيهِ ۚ لَيْسَ كَمِثْلِهِ شَيْءٌ ۖ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْبَصِيرُ ﴿١١﴾ Tanzil - Quran Navigator
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