Islandsandmirrors

The divorce rate in America hasn’t been 50% since the ‘00s. It’s more like 39% and has been DECREASING.

I prayed in a Sunni mosque. I felt super awkward and out of place. People were staring.

I live in a big city, what are you talking about? I live in a major city and not some mid western, small town. It’s not just Christians—people of all walks of life and all religions in America will look down upon you. It’s still very taboo. I don’t know about Europe. In America, you are viewed as very selfish and immature to have children out of wedlock. The main reason people get married is not because they want to be husband and wife as we know it, but because of the benefits of being legally “locked down” with someone and for having kids. Most people will never have a child out of wedlock unless you’re really poor or really uneducated. I mean, we have a show dedicated to people with “baby daddies” and how they are so stupid.

Seriously, I asked about who a wife ends up with in Heaven, and the subject steers toward haram/halal. Do you have nothing else going on in your lives? The Qur'an doesn’t specify that a woman and a man automatically become haram for each other after their deaths.

My husband and I had an early Valentine’s Day and went to the movies. Now I don’t know if it was the chairs or because I was too close the soundbox or what, but I felt like I was spinning. Like imagine spinning around and around and then stopping and how your head feels strange and you feel off-balance. I tried eating some snacks but I’ve felt super drained and could barely focus on the road as we went home. It only got better once I drank water and had some fruit. The only time this happened was when I was hiking in the summer and I nearly passed out due to the heat. Should I be concerned? Is this a sign of anemia or something?

No, there are only 12 Imams. I think you’ve misunderstood the Hadith.

What does this mean exactly? Is this supposed to be some aircraft that was supposed to be released in the future?

Everyone says, “oh not every Muslim is like this,” when literally so many people are like this.

@AStruggler I became a practicing Muslim later in life instead of doing so right away. In the beginning, I was eager to make friends and be with my sisters. But so many other Muslim women are so cliquey and see me as less than because I don’t wear hijab. They are polite to my face but then talk badly behind my back and even speak in their own language in front of me and start laughing. Other Muslim women scowl at me when I smile at them and they are just so rude.

What don’t you understand? I said, “I’ve been through something, it’s been physically and emotionally painful but I got through it.” And you proceed to shame me instead of saying, “you went through a painful experience, and I don’t agree with how you said it, but these things happen. Maybe we should bring it up in the sisters forum instead.”

I went through so much with disorder, and because I wanted to write about it, you proceed to be arrogant. You could have literally just ignored my posts instead of intentionally triggering all the pain I felt from that time and being tactful and emotionally understanding that this was a very painful time for me. You don’t know what I’ve been through.

Was it bad that I said that the Ummah has this problem? Many women do, and already isolated enough. You have no idea how hurtful you are. I will make Dua that you experience what I went through so you get off your high horse. And I don’t care about you or that you don’t care. You lack empathy. That is disgusting and disgraceful. I didn’t ask you to care.

I can say whatever I want—you do not tell me what to do. This Ummah is an absolute disgrace, online and offline. Everyone can read your posts. You said I should have haya and be ashamed to which you know nothing about. If you had properly read my post, you’d know I wasn’t graphic. But no, you skimmed through it, and proceeded to write a very hurtful and rude post without even thinking.

Clearly you didn’t read anything I wrote. Nothing I wrote was shameful and I didn’t get graphic. It is you who has no class since you can’t differentiate between someone being shameless and someone sharing their story. This is not Islam—you’re projecting your own culture.