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Islandsandmirrors last won the day on May 5 2019

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  1. Salam Islandsandmirrors,

    I wrote this post about you. I hope you read it:

  2. Hello everyone, 

    I’m leaving ShiaChat permanently due to unfair biases, bullying, and unislamic/toxic attitudes.

    I’m sure you all know that this site is extremely biased toward women and ruthless to those who are not “perfect” enough in Islam. This forum has encouraged incessant bullying and verbal abuse to take place and I will no longer stand for this. That is why, after 3 years of being an active member on this forum, I have decided to leave permanently.

    This online community has failed to be of an encouraging and positive place. Instead, it’s home to those who ridicule and shame and bully others—those who have no lives and hide behind their computer screens, forgetting that we are real people with real lives, emotions, and struggles that are not to be made fun of by the Ummah.

    If you are a bully and you call yourself a Muslim, then you need to re-evaluate what it means to be Shia. Being a Shia is not just beating your chest for Imam Hussein (عليه السلام) or fasting during the month of Ramadan. You must be willing to treat others well, year-round, 24/7. Not just when it’s convenient. Maybe it’s time to reflect during this month and own up to ill-treatment of others. 

    1. Ruqaya101


      Hmm, thats upsetting that you have felt that way. Not sure if you will see this, you may come on as a guest, so, if you do see this by any chance, Im sorry that you had to deal with any unnecessary comments and/or bias, that may have personally affected you. The online world on average, isn't really the brightest place to be on/around. 

      I pray you that you find better ways to handle everything that comes your way. And I pray for your success and happiness. As for the bullies, I think that people are more brazen to speak out truly what their views are knowing theres no physical consequence for it.

      Stay strong and move on, sister. Take care. Theres more good then the bad. 

    2. Noor Taleb

      Noor Taleb

      OMG I love you sister

      I will pray for you my dear!

      Hope who ever bullies others gets punished by Allah 


    3. Lilly14


      I agree with many of your points. But my first interaction with you was when I made a discussion topic and your response felt like bullying towards me, perhaps partially because you hadn't read the discussion fully and got an incomplete picture. So, I'm just saying, you need to also be mindful too. 

  3. It’s time to move on with my life and move on to greener forums, focus on my career, and my personal life. Thank you to the few members who have made this place a memorable and great experience. Your friendship, wisdom, and your support means so much to me. You know who you are — I will miss you guys dearly. Islandsandmirrors
  4. Yes, you can get married without witnesses, but why would you? While I understand not wanting to have a lavish wedding, getting married in secret would be no fun. There’s something nice about having a small and intimate nikah with a few close family members. You ideally get married once. It’s nice to have people there to support your union and see you get married. Everyone dreams about seeing their son/daughter get married. So you might end up regretting getting married in secret/without witnesses down the line. Just something to consider.
  5. Lol this guy is just trolling us, come on. He talks about wanting the perfect wife in hijab because of the children and in the same sentence talks about marrying non-Muslim women? Because the children, right?
  6. The reality is that in restrictive settings and/or arranged marriage route, most people are not open and upfront about who they are. They tend to lie a lot or exaggerate their abilities due to familial pressure and wanting to just be married to someone. Then you get married are are stuck with someone and just have to deal with it at that point. It’s not a very healthy model of marriage nor is it romantic. Not only will the couples never get a chance to experience the love that so many non-Middle Eastern born and raised people do, but also it devalues the sacredness of marriage. Marriage i
  7. Lol the majority of people who claim that one should embrace arranged marriages and that falling in love is a waste of emotional investment/not real have likely never been married and have no idea what a lasting and healthy relationship takes.
  8. I have started university and since this is a new campus, I’ve developed allergies (blinking too much, watery eyes, runny nose) being around so many trees. How do I manage my symptoms?
  9. I believe you need to fall in love before marriage —but wait until you get married to do what people in love do. Otherwise, what’s the difference between marrying some random person on the street verses being arranged someone for you, where you’d feel little to nothing for the person and likely won’t know them well? Marriage is between two people who are committed to spending the rest of their lives together. Obviously there must be something that would differentiate someone from another person. People who advocate for arranged marriages over estimate the importance of looking good on a p
  10. Lol you just described me, Gaius. Hope I don’t annoy you. Things that annoy me: 1. Abrasive people who completely lack emotional intelligence or disregard emotion entirely. (They tend to disrespect others.) 2. Anger/people who yell all the time. 3. People who try and over-exaggerate an event for the sake of gaining sympathy. 4. Perpetual victims. People who view themselves as endless victims to manipulate and control others.
  11. Definitely not so, where I was helping out. The third graders would write and polish their essays for just two hours before their first recess. As I would grade papers, they’d ask me for help on sentence structure and correcting any grammatical errors. I had to read everyone’s essays out loud as I’d correct them. I managed to help them with their essays individually during silent work (25 kids) within the allotted time before moving on the next subject (I believe Science.) prior to lunch break/recess for one hour. During this time, I would re-organize the room, and grade some more, take
  12. Yes, I’m sure. In your post, you mentioned that all schools waste time on things that you don’t find necessary like extra curricular activities. It seemed like you were talking about the school system in general and not about your children’s school. If it’s a private school they attend, then I’m really not surprised. Private schools can either be great or really bad. Maybe you approached the topic as more parent-centered while I approached it from a more teacher-centered position. Also, I don’t really know what public schools are like around the world. I don’t know their
  13. I’m just rephrasing what Starlight said. She said she thinks that her children are wasting precious time being in school and thinks that she could do a better job at teaching her children. Which obviously is an insult to teachers since we are the ones who put in all the work to teach. But yes, former teachers and teachers do complain and bash the system, but those who complain end up leaving the profession anyway due to burn-out and unreasonable expectations. People know what they are getting to when they decide to teach. So those who bash didn’t have the drive or motivation to follow th
  14. You decided to go on a rant about how awful all public schools are. Teachers work in public schools and to bash their place of work where they passionately and tirelessly take the time to make sure your child is getting an education and the solid foundation they need for success is very much in poor taste. It’s very ungrateful and it seems as if you are saying that our hard work is useless and meaningless, that our profession is meaningless and you think that you could do better, which you had stated in your previous reply. No one who isn’t in your line of work would tell you, “I would d
  15. There is a curriculum/lesson planning handbook for teachers to use. Teachers mainly use the worksheets in the handbook for in class/take home assignments, however, it’s a teacher’s individual choice how to teach lessons. Also, teachers adjust the pacing of the class depending upon the capabilities of the particular climate of students. If teachers see that a few students have failed to understand the required standards, often small group workshops will be made where a teacher will work individually with students who are struggling with similar topics. Most teachers will never use the han
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