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  1. Salam alaykum, I have my period for 7 days straight, and usually do ghusl on the eight day, but recently I read somewhere that I’d have to do my ghusl before fajr of the 8th day. Since I don’t fast until the 9th day, I miss 8 days without me being on my period the last day, is that unreasonable and do I have to make up 60 days for it, or only 1 day?
  2. Salam alaykum, if a product, let’s say body wash has gelatine in it, is it halal to use? Or any other products we may use on our skin/hair? Any it isn’t stated that it contains pork gelatine, it just says gelatine.
  3. Salam alaykum, I started on birth control a couple days before my period started and I didn’t get it whilst being on it, but then I stopped with it and I got my period, and I’ve had it for 11 days and I still have it.. How should I treat it? Should I do ghusl for haydh and pray or what?
  4. Salam alaykum, is the use of a menstrual cup allowed?
  5. Salam alaykum, so I was doing ghusl after shaving, and I got a couple of cuts from shaving on both my hands, and during the ghusl one of the cuts was bleeding a lot, like blood would ooze out of it constantly despite me rinsing it off during, but I still kept on doing my ghusl and trying my best to keep rinsing whenever blood would come out, is my ghusl valid and can I pray or do I have to take another one?
  6. I have friends and people I'm surrounded with, but I feel lonely from the inside. Kinda like God isn't in my life
  7. Salam alaykum, lately I've been feeling so empty and lonely. Does anyone have any tips on what to do.
  8. Salam. can I put my prayer mat on "dirty" ground and pray on it? Dirty as in I wore the shoes that I wear outside inside.
  9. Salam, I was wondering whether fasting everyday is permissible (except days like eid), and if it is, is it healthy/safe for us?
  10. She hasn't read or responded to my message
  11. My dad is home now, and so are my uncles. I can't go home, on top of that I have a restraining order on my dad and uncles.
  12. How do I maintain contact with my mother? I really don't know what to message her, last time we talked was on June 14.. I don't know what to send to her.
  13. It is allowed in Islam, but I recommend thinking about it for another year or so, just so that you're completely sure on the decision, bc once you do it, you can never go back. Also don't rush it and go to a cheap plastic surgeon, rather save up and go to one with good reviews, bc a girl I know completely messed up her nose (she got it done in Iran though).
  14. My mom can go to jail, but my little sister is a minor and also heavily influenced by everyone around her, so she won't get penalized for it, however my mom is just lying to save my dad so that's her choice.
  15. Here is an update on my situation, the Monday after the day I ran away to the women's shelter, my dad came home and they (parents and sister) supposedly went out and had pizza together, and he wasn't mad. However this will probably happen again in future, and I'll be happy I left. I want to focus on fixing my mental state and building a life for myself where this isn't something I'll do to my own possible kids in the future. The police has said that since there isn't any proof, that he'll most likely be free, because they'd rather let a guilty person walk free, than imprison an innocent person. I haven't ever taken any picture of the bruises he has caused me, since running away and reporting him, was never a step I would have dared taking, also they used to take my phone away after he beat me up. I don't have any bruises on myself now either, bc the last time he beat me up was in December, I've also never recorded him doing anything, or told the authorities or anyone (including friends) before this, because I felt so embarrassed. So I don't have any proof. He is currently in pre trial custody along with my two uncles, and they'll get released in a week. When they get released I'm going to get a restraining order on the three of them. My mom hasn't messaged me since Sunday, and I haven't messaged her either. Today me and two friends went to the house, and I though that my mom was at work, so I planned to get my sister and make her go home and make sure no ones there, so I could get a couple of things, however my mom was at home and I wasn't able to, but I did get to talk to my sister, and she said that my grandma and aunt on my dads side knows, and my moms relatives in Pakistan think I ran away with a boy lol, so does my grandma here. My aunt said "what jinn got into her". After the incident where my uncle came to the police station, he told the police that he saw my two friends smoke outside the police station.. Lol I guess he wanted to just get them in trouble for something (btw they don't smoke), however it's not even illegal since one is 18. My family is blaming this on my friends, saying that they influenced me to do this, but I would have done this without them. My family thinks that I ran away with a guy, however no one has contacted me or anything. I'm going to get the police to go home to me and get my mom to pack a couple of my things, including my winter jackets, since I won't have anything to wear then, at first I didn't approve of the idea since I though it was going to hurt my mom so much to pack my things and all, but I really need my stuff so I'm going to ask them to do it. My little sister and mom had their interrogations with the police, and of course they lied in it. So basically it's my word against everyone who's involved. I still live in a women's shelter, and things are just really tough right now, I'm trying not to lose hope, however it's just so difficult. But thank you to everyone who made duas and prayed for me. May Allah bless all of you, and help you through your own difficulties. Please continue making duas for me, and pray that I get a good place to live, and that I succeed my education.
  16. Salam, if you've read my previous thread, you know of the situation. I was wondering whether it is islamically right of me to cut ties with my cousins, and uncles and etc?
  17. I didn't leave in the middle of the night. I left during the day, but I didn't tell her I was going to the police, because obviously she would never have allowed me to. They have several times told her that she can stay in a women's shelter, and I will ask someone tomorrow whether they could get someone to talk to my mom about what she can do financially right now.
  18. It's just that my mother is one to put her kids before herself. Before eating she always made sure we were fed and everything. Always did everything for us instead of putting herself first. She has always sacrificed her wishes in life for us, always making sure we got everything we wanted and needed materialistically, and that's why I feel like what I'm doing is wrong. But in this situation she's really worried about what others will think. She's sent me a new message saying: this isn't the person I gave birth to, I don't recognize you, and that people are laughing at me and making a mockery out of me because of you, and after all I've done for you this is how you repay me. And that death would be better than this life, also that she doesn't know how to pay the rent, because it's always dad that's done that. I replied with "you can tell the police, and they'll get people that work around that field to help you with that."
  19. What about the messages she sends such as you're killing me, have mercy and all that. She knows I'm safe, but I don't know whether I should reply to these, and what I should reply with.
  20. I'm going to reply her with this. (her message about me killing her and Islam not allowing the child to leave their mother for death) "No, but Islam says you should stand up against thulm, say something when something wrong is happening to you or others, and it is my obligation in Islam to save myself from thulm. One who can beat up his own daughter and say all the things he says for several years, is not suddenly going to stop now. I tried to help you on Thursday, and I did my part, but if you don't want help, I can't do anything about it. Mom you are 37 and I think you know right from wrong. I must and will help myself now. I didn't tell the police that they should penalize him, and he is in custody so that they can investigate properly, I can't do anything about it. If he is not punished, I will have nothing to do with him anymore, unless you want to help yourself, no one can help you. I understand where (my little sister) comes from since she has only been beaten twice, but I literally get beaten up every six months, therefore I really want to change the situation compared to her. I also don't want to put myself in a situation where I was going to killed myself out of fear or hopelessness, which God never forgives. Nor do I want to live like that, even if I had actually survived living with him, I might have one day done it to my children. If in the future I ever get kids, and beat them up or make them that afraid of me, then I really hope they leave me and do something about the situation. And the fact that (my cousin) sends messages blaming me for everything, and says that every parent gets mad at times is wrong, parents shouldn't do that, and it's their duty to remove threats and dangers in their children's lives, not create dangers." I really don't know how to maintain contact with her, as most of you say I should. What should I reply to her?
  21. I did go to the police and told them the absolute truth, that's the reason why my dad and uncle is in jail right now, so that they don't disturb the investigation. What should I reply to her then? I really don't know what to say to her, she says that I'm killing her, and she's begging me to tell the police to release my dad and uncle, saying she can't live without my dad and me. That's up to the police, to release them or not, and I've told her several times. On top of that she's saying that this is not love, and asking whether Islam says to leave your mother for death is right and all.
  22. Would it be islamically wrong if I just don't log on into my facebook and ignore her messages, that's what she's contacting me on, I get so stressed and anxious whenever I read them.
  23. In my first interrogation everyone made me lie and say that my dad has never been abusive towards me, my mom and sister, and that I didn't actually see him beat my mom up.
  24. She's saying that I'm killing her and she's alone now when my father is in jail, and that it would have been better if I killed her, instead of doing this. She also said that he's not going to do anything to you when gets released, so please tell them to not penalize him, and that she can't live without my father and me. I said: I can't do anything about him being in pre trial custody, and when I lied to the police I failed my duty as a Muslim. I can't lie or take back what I've said to the police. I love you mom, but what happened is wrong, and I can't lie anymore, and you know well that he's not going to let me be when he gets released. She replied "Does the religion of Islam teach you to let your mother die, you don't even have any mercy for me, after everything I've done for you. I can't leave the house you've brought shame upon my face, this isn't love, you're killing me.".
  25. I can't tell the police to release him, he's in pre trial police custody, so that he doesn't ruin the investigation, it's up to the police what happens not me. I just told the truth.
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