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  1. The big issue is that they didn't know until today. A lot has happened since I made this post, but the cat is out of the bag. Thankfully, may parents were not terribly upset with him for having lied to them about her. My only concern has always been, and will be, the well being of my family. I don't really care what people have to say about their relationship, lol. However, the guy kept harassing my mother and telling her all these things but made it sound like my brother was seriously in trouble. It's been a stressful day, but Alhamdulillah it has all worked out for the best!
  2. First off, I should explain I do not come from a Muslim family. While my father and mother are christian, my brother does not seem to be religious in any way (at least not outwardly). This story starts in December of last year, a few weeks after he started dating this girl. He told us that she was 18 and that she was about to graduate high school and all that. However, I started getting messages from some of his former friends, telling me that she was actually 16 years old. I was, at first, shocked but also not convinced. After all, these were his former friends, and I didn't know if they were just trying to start trouble. Still, I confronted him, and he assured me they were lying. Still, I couldn't let it rest (while I love my brother dearly, I am sad to say he is not very trustworthy.) Turns out they were right. Some snooping on instagram revealed she was, indeed, only 16. And newly turned 16 at that. My first fear was the law, but where I live in the US the age of consent is 16. Next, my fears went to family. Legal or otherwise, if my parents found out they would be furious. He just got off probation and I didn't want to see him fall down again. So I confronted him again, and we had a deep, rather heated, discussion. Long story short, I told him that as family I'd always have his back, but that I did not necessarily approve of the relationship. I thought that was the end of that. However, today, one of his former friends started messaging me again, talking about how I was an "a-lister" and my brother a pedophile, and began posting things on Facebook. He didn't name any one, but it's very obvious. I'm not sure what to do, especially if this blows up in his face. I personally do not feel threatened by this guy, but I worry about my family back home.
  3. I'll check out that one from Redfez, that looks like it might be helpful! Thanks, Starlight. I know its not a common theme, in fact there's a reason I'm struggling to find them, but if I can, I think it will be a worthy goal!
  4. While certainly a fantastic looking story, it's not a literary journal :/ what he wants us to have is an online location where people publish non fiction works. Like a collection of different peoples works. I do appreciate it though!
  5. Salaam, For my Non-Fiction writing course we've been tasked with finding an non-fiction literary journal that works with creative non-fiction. I have a lot of things at my disposal, but I was really hoping to do something that I'm sure no one else in the class will do, and that is find a way to bring the creative non-fiction of Muslims into the class. I think it would both be eye opening for me, and for everyone else. I'm wondering if anyone by any chance knows of anything of the sort? Thanks!
  6. I play a few games on the PC. Europa Universalis 4 League of Legends I've tried getting into CS:GO but I've always been more of a strategy gamer than a shooter. I also play Smash 4 (used to play melee but I prefer 4)
  7. These are questions that are better asked to someone wiser than me. From what I know, if you did not seek harm for yourself, then I cannot see it being a sin. i would ask an imam or someone better versed in these matters, of course.
  8. I would not say it was extremely sinful. You did not go out there with intention to harm yourself or seeking self harm. I would be more careful in the future, and of course like I said earlier: pray. Pray for forgiveness, pray for thanks that Allah (swt) kept you safe from harm, or pray about both. Do not beat yourself up brother, but think before acting next time.
  9. Salam, First, I am happy that you are in fact safe, and will continue to pray for your safety! Second, I am no expert but I do not think that you have committed any sin. You reacted to a unique situation by going to see what the commotion was about. If anything, you acted bravely. Who knows, if there had been a person outside your home who needed assistance you would have been there to help, instead of staying inside. I'm not saying go running headfirst into danger, but realize that if things had been bad you would have been there to do something. To me, that is bravery, not sin. Even if, in some way, it was sinful, then pray. We all can see that you are concerned, and from what I have learned about Islam, Allah (swt) always forgives those who regret the sin. Sometimes the best way to ease the chaotic mind is to pray. That is the only concrete advice i can give. Be safe, my friend!
  10. Thank you for the link to the Hadiths, first off. I'm also aware of the prohibiting of Alcohol and pork. I've already cut pork out of my diet. It wasn't terribly difficult, as the only pork I ever really ate was bacon or sausages. I know I still have a lot to learn about Islam before completely committing to it, but I feel that it is the truth, and I want to be a part of that. Hence why I still struggle with some things, because I don't want to give up on it,
  11. I used to have a pretty poor relation with my mother as well. One of the things I found was that we didn't talk together very well, mostly because we both lacked something to discuss that we had in common. Like you said, it is hard to 'get to know' a person who won't talk to you about special things in their life, and it rubs off on you. One of the best things I ever did to fix this was do things with my mom that did not involve discussion. I don't mean being mute, but just required a bare minimum of communication. I helped her cook things, or we'd sit down to watch tv or a movie together. Spending time with each other will make you two more comfortable, and you won't have to take much of a risk of saying something that sets her off. Before I knew it, my mom and I were actually discussing the shows we watched, or we'd have more conversation while cooking than just "can you chop up the salad, thanks." Soon enough, my mom and I were making conversation about things that did not directly relate to what we were doing. Another thing is this, if you're at college or away from home, just call home. Even if she does not answer the phone, leave a message that lets her know how you are doing. Even simple things like "I got my test back today, got a B on it" and just filling her in on your life will help. She's a parent, and all parents love to know the successes of their children.
  12. Oh I'd love to but I have to make those 25 posts first, LOL I used to play Xbox, but I've since moved all my online gaming to the PC. But if it's all the same I'm still happy to find new friends online! Yes i do plan on taking Shahada soon! like i said in my OP, I already think of myself as Muslim. I'm just not 'officially' one, yet.
  13. I don't know, but I'm feeling a lot better. I sometimes suffer from mild depression (I don't like taking medicine so sometimes it just gets to me) but at the same time Qa'im is right. It's the lifestyle. I just finished my Maghrib prayers and I felt great doing them, but I don't have any Muslim friends (which is more of a fault of geography and the demographics of my school.) Like I said, this is the roughest part of adopting the correct lifestyle. I don't have any Shia friends, let alone Muslim friends. I'd love to, but there aren't any at my school that I know of. So It's rough to form bonds with people. That, and the nearest mosque is pretty closed off, and the only Islamic Center is in the city a little over 1 1/2 hours away. I live in the U.S, so Islam isn't a common thing in the rural areas where my college is. I will definitely search for this, thank you. To everyone else, thanks for you kind words and encouragement. I'm doing better, and getting back into praying is helping me a lot, even though I still struggle with the language.
  14. Salam Alaikum I'm not a convert, yet, as I have not taken shahada. But I do find myself identifying as a Muslim, or at least holding Muslim beliefs. Recently, though, its been challenging. I'm struggling with practicing, with prayer and abstaining from Alcohol and such. I do believe there is God and he created everything, so it's not like I'm doubting faith I'm just struggling with adhering to its tenants. I'm asking for help, how can I recover from this? How can I get back into the swing of things? Are there any useful Duas, Quran verses, anything, that I can look at to give me strength?
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