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The Straight Path

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  1. Would this indicate that women should not work at all and spend on their husbands? Or is it in regards to having a job with "immoral actions" as the previous quote states?
  2. Salam dear brother According to Sayyed Sistani, as an obligatory precaution one should say it in arabic if one can. Otherwise, it is permitted to say it in English for example as long as the same meaning of words are used:
  3. Regarding classical music: * Is it all right to listen to classical music, that is said to soothe the feeling and that which could be prescribed for certain psychological disorders?- Yes, music that does not involve play and delictation is permissible to listen to. https://www.sistani.org/english/book/49/2422/
  4. There's a hadith that comes to mind which I think is worth sharing: Not sure about the authenticity though, the arabic says that it is from a book called Kitab Almunaqib Almu'tabarat (I suppose المعتبرة is from the title of the book and not a reference to the isnad itself). @SoRoUsH What do you think about this hadith (from a isnadi perspective)? Not trying to say that one should keep a dog at home (I think most scholars agree that it should be avoided) because in the end a dog is still najis which I'm sure most won't deny. But l don't think there's anything wrong with treating them with kindness (as the above hadith seems to suggest).
  5. I came across this discussion from Sayyed Kamal Haidari which I thought was interesting and in this particular part (Part 4), some of the narrations shared in this thread are mentioned: https://www.iqraonline.net/womans-jurisprudence-fiqh-al-marah-sayyid-kamal-al-ḥaydari-lesson-4/ I know that Sayyed Kamal Haidari is a bit controversial (I might not agree with all of his views) but I thought he raised a good point regarding this verse: [2:228] and they (women) have rights similar to those against them. Personally I feel that the nature in some narrations are not in line with the nature of the Quran in regards to women. Maybe this is just my feeling due to me being brought up here in the west, but at the same time I would definitely not call such narrations fabrications since they could've been uttered by the Prophet/Imams (عليه السلام). Maybe they were uttered in a specific context, maybe they were misunderstood and so forth. So I would rather just put them aside and leave the matter for Imam Mahdi (aj) when he returns (May God hasten his reappearance). I also think one should combine all the hadiths on the matter and look at it from a historical point of view. For example, you'll even find few narrations saying that Women should not come down from their rooms (implying that they should even remain in their rooms). So the question is, weren't women part of the society during Prophet's (s) time? Did women really not go out to the markets as well? Where they really mostly locked up in their homes? Where they not allowed to be seen in their houses when friends or family visited them? Of course the time has changed since then and I'm not claiming that women used to go out as much as they do today. And I don't have any clear answers in regards to my previous questions, but I'm quite sure you'll find reports (either Sunni or Shi'i) that women were part of the society as well. Also, brother Ibn al-Hussain wrote something interesting in that linked thread: These are just some of my thoughts that I wanted to share. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) guide us all to the true path. وَالۡمُؤۡمِنُوۡنَ وَالۡمُؤۡمِنٰتُ بَعۡضُهُمۡ اَوۡلِيَآءُ بَعۡضٍۘ يَاۡمُرُوۡنَ بِالۡمَعۡرُوۡفِ وَيَنۡهَوۡنَ عَنِ الۡمُنۡكَرِ وَيُقِيۡمُوۡنَ الصَّلٰوةَ وَيُؤۡتُوۡنَ الزَّكٰوةَ وَيُطِيۡعُوۡنَ اللّٰهَ وَرَسُوۡلَهٗؕ اُولٰۤـئِكَ سَيَرۡحَمُهُمُ اللّٰهُؕ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ عَزِيۡزٌ حَكِيۡمٌ‏ [9:71] The believers, both men and women, are allies of one another. They enjoin good, forbid evil, establish Prayer, pay Zakah, and obey Allah and His Messenger.80 Surely Allah will show mercy to them. Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise
  6. Well if it's haram according to your madhab then sure, but that doesn't mean it's haram in every madhab or that every scholar agrees with this point. According to Dar al ifta Egypt, it isn't haram either (as long as you don't promote their disbelief): https://www.dar-alifta.org/Foreign/ViewFatwa.aspx?ID=6815 "Commenting on the gifts that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) offered non-Muslims, Al-Sarkhasi said in Sharh Al-Siyar Al-Kabir (vol. 1, p. 96), "Offering gifts to others is from among good morals as per the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), “I was sent to establish good manners.” Scholars therefore deduced from this hadith the recommendation of exchanging gifts between Muslims and non-Muslims.In Fath Al-'Ali Al-Malik (vol. 2, p. 349), Sheikh 'Ilish was asked whether congratulating non-Muslims is considered apostasy. He replied, "Congratulating non-Muslims by wishing them a long life is not apostasy because it does not imply venerating or admitting disbelief.” Really sad to read that you feel that way of Muslims simply just wishing them 'Merry Christmas', without considering their other qualities of faith. Specially since it is not generally haram in itself. But you're free to feel that. Won't comment further since I just wanted to highlight the Shi'i view and also show that their might be some different of opinion among your scholars as well (not saying which view is more correct according to your school since I don't have knowledge of that nor have I studied this in depth). سلام
  7. Not really true, you missed some of the other narrations regarding non-muslim festivals: Abu Qabus reported: A woman asked Aisha, “We have a nurse among the Magians and they give us gifts on their festivals.” Aisha said: Abu Barza reported: He had neighbors among the Magians who would give him gifts during their new year celebration and festivals. Abu Barza would say: Ibn Taymiyyah comments on these traditions, saying: The point is that it is not unconditionally haram, rather if you feel that you are agreeing to their disbelief by just greeting them etc, then don't do it. But to say that it is completely haram or blame other Muslims for doing it, that's not right. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) guide us all to the correct path
  8. @Cherub786 Doesn't seem to be completely haram among scholars of Ahlul Sunnah: https://abuaminaelias.com/congratulating-non-muslims-festivals/ According to Sayyed Sistani: Question: Is it permissible to exchange greetings and gifts with a non-Muslim, if he is a neighbour or a co-worker, etc.? Answer: If he does not express hatred towards Islam and Muslims in words or actions, there is no problem in doing what is required in friendship like being good and charitable towards him. Almighty Allãh has said, “Allãh does not forbid you in regard to those who have not made war against you on account of (your) religion, and have not driven you forth from your homes, that you show them kindness and deal with them justly; surely Allãh loves the doers of justice.” https://www.sistani.org/english/book/46/2057/ ٦السؤال: هل يجوز المشاركة في مجالس الاعياد الغير الاسلامية ؟ الجواب: إذا كان فيه ترويج للمسيحية أو للفساد فلا يجوز . Question: What is the ruling upon the participation in non-Islamic events? Answer: If it includes promotion of Christianity or corruptness then it is impermissible. http://www.sistani.org/arabic/qa/0294/ So as long as you don't promote things that are against Islam, then there is no issue. I don't think anyone will say that a Muslim these days saying 'Merry Christmas' or exchanging gifts believes Jesus (عليه السلام) to be son of God. It's just a matter of being kind. Specially considering that Christmas is more of a secular holiday rather than religous in many parts of the world.
  9. Salam I know the website doesn't say so, the reason could be that Sayyed Sistani maybe didn't consider them as najis based on obligatory precaution before so they just haven't updated it yet. Or maybe they just missed putting that part when writing that page. That's the reason I contacted his office to get it verified. I wrote to them using sistani.org. I've also got this confirmed by two scholars (Sheikh Mohammad al-Hilli and Sheikh Safdar Razi here in Sweden).
  10. Salam alaykom It is worth mentioning that Sayyed Sistani considers them impure as a matter of obligatory precaution. Personally I try to stay on ihtiyat (precaution) as much as I can but it's good to know that one is allowed to refer to another marja in this ruling. One well known marja who considers non-muslims tahir is Ayatollah Makarem Shirazi for example. Worth mentioning though is that the mainstream opinion right now among scholars is that non-muslims (except Ahlul Kitab) are not considered tahir. And the mainstream opinion not many years ago was that even Ahlul Kitab were considered najis. I asked Sheikh Mohammad al-Hilli a while ago about this topic and if I remember correctly he mentioned that the topic of the najasah of non-muslim is something that is discussed extensively among scholars today. It's not very unlikely that more scholars may change their opinion in the near future. Insh'Allah if this would be the correct opinion according to the Ahlulbayt (عليه السلام) then I hope this change will occur. Anyway if one sticks to the precautionary opinion then it will still not be as hard as one would think living here in the west. According to Sayyed Sistani you don't have to enquire about a person's religious beliefs and therefore you can consider everyone you meet as tahir, as long as they don't express their disbelief outwardly or you are 100% certain about them being atheists. This is the reply I received from Sayyed Sistani about this topic: In the Name of Allah, the Most High اگر ابراز تشکیک در وجود خداوند بکند به احتیاط واجب باید از تماس (با تری) با ایشان اجتناب کنید. If she expresses doubt about God’s existence, you should avoid what she touches with wet hands based on an obligatory precaution. May Allah grant you success. www.sistani.org Istifta Section - Office of His Eminence Al-Sayyid Ali Al-Sistani
  11. @gayboyanon Dear brother please check out this website by a Shia brother who went through having same sex desires but managed to overcome it: https://muslimwithssa.wordpress.com It's a well known fact that there are many muslims who go through this issue and the problem isn't having this kind of desire in itself, rather it is when you act on your desires or start to encourage living the Gay lifestyle where it start to become haram. Remember dear brother that you are first and foremost a Muslim and I pray to God that he helps you and also rewards you for your struggle. I think that Christians are much better at taking care of this issue with all of their websites and therapists aimed at helping those people who have same-sex desires. It is also a proof that you can overcome it and live a in a healthy relationship with a woman. Check out this website for example: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/get-help/leaving-homosexuality/ I personally believe that many of the 'Gay' people today would have been able to overcome their desires if they would've wanted to and tried, but since we live in a time where being Gay and having relationships with the same sex is becoming more and more normalised, they just accept it and go with it. I just want you brother to rethink what you're going through and reconsider whether you really want to marry a male or have a relationship with one, despite the fact that it is against what God wants (remember that I am talking about the same-sex relationship itself and not you as a person going through having same-sex attractions). This is confirmed in both the Quran and our hadiths and is an established fact: Sahih International: Indeed, you approach men with desire, instead of women. Rather, you are a transgressing people (7:81) The first step is you truly wanting to change and not just adopting to the gay lifestyle that (recently) have become so normalised. Again, please remember respected brother that you are first and foremost a Muslim and a follower of Prophet Muhammad (s) and his Ahlulbayt (a), don't let anything take this away from you. I understand that the easiest would be to just accept the feelings you have since pretty much everyone around the world are becoming more accepting of this, but the right course is not always the easiest nor is it always walked upon by the majority. If something is clearly forbidden in Islam, we need to not oppose it as that would mean opposing what God wants. Check out the articles shared in the first link above and you'll understand what I'm talking about. I wrote this because I know someone who is going through this problem and that's why this subject is something that's close to my heart. I truly hope you can accept the advice given, and if you choose to not do it then it is your own choice in the end. I would also like to ask the members here to try to keep the discussion as respectful as possible. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) guide us all! Salam
  12. Salam alaykom Their office in London are pretty fast in replying to questions: http://najaf.org/english/ It usually takes no more than 1-2 days and I've even received replies as fast as 10 minutes after sending a question.
  13. Kulayni and al-Kafi (Pt. I) https://shiiticstudies.com/2019/12/10/kulayni-and-al-kafi-pt-i/ Kulayni and al-Kafi (Pt. II) https://shiiticstudies.com/2019/12/24/kulayni-and-al-kafi-pt-ii/
  14. Salam alaykom dear brother As already stated by others, the feelings themselves are not haram at all. Rather it's haram when you act on those feelings etc. Don't forget that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is all-merciful, this is just one of His tests. لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا “Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear” (2:286) You also have to remember that you are not alone, there are many people who have gone through this and actually managed to overcome these feelings/desires. Check out this blog by a Shia brother who had the same issue: https://muslimwithssa.wordpress.com He shares a lot of good articles on the subject and good tips. Feel free to contact him if you want someone to talk with and who has gone through the same things you are doing right now. There are also many good Christian websites who deals with overcoming same-sex attractions, such as this one: https://www.livehope.org/?resource=keys-to-recovery-from-same-sex-attractions I pray that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) makes you stronger and keeps you on the straight path. Don't ever think that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) hates you or that you deserve punishment for this, you definitely don't! Wsalam
  15. This narration has been discussed in the above mentioned thread, thought it could be interesting to share brother Abu Tufayl's comment on it.
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