alot of brothers and sisters contributed to this thread in a very constructive way, well done.. personally i think respect is a big thing in marriage and what i found is sumthing couples need to do is always give and take! dont expect what you dont give and dont give what you wouldnt want to recieve, lol i dnt know if im making sense its so late but what i mean, is always put ur self in ur spouses shoes, treat them like you would like to be treated, give them what you would like to be given, act towards them in a way where you know God will be happy with you. a few guys said patience with the