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  1. Prophet came and said: I am here to perfect the ethics of man kind. جأت لأتمم مكارم الأخلاق That is a famous hadith that everyone knows i think. There is also a hadith from angel gebrael to the prophet that indicates if a man hurts the feelings of a woman god will throw him on his face in hell. So lets talk about those who are in permanent marriage and do temporary marriages all the time how the wife would feel about that? Its halal but its ethically Wrong. This Need that a man has is like sleeping and eating if we excessively do it it will hurt us. Mutaa is halal does it mean men can indulge in 100 relatioships? Trust me those men are miserable already and they have taken their religion for fun. It talks in quran about them: Read Sura 7 - verse 51 to verse 53 see how God deals with such people الذين اتخذوا دينهم لهوا ولعبا Also read sura 4 - verse 24 how it is talking about multiple marriage and marriage from non-muslims and how in the end the verse says and if you are patient then it is more just for your souls. وأَن تصبروا خير لكم So you see there are actual men who are still modest and they practice religion like how i mentioned earlier. I met people that if something wasnt ethical but still halal they wouldnt do it. Brother our religion is very delicate, i live in an arab community too and i see the flaws but if i were to focus on these flaws and not see the bright side i would have left religion long ago. Just dont lose hope in this divine religion and always get ready for a way back to being religious. Even if you're gay and you didn't act on it thats fine. And some things among people are best kept unsaid. Remember the hadith of imam ali where he says: خاطبوا الناس على قدر عقولهم Speak to people in a way they will understand. If you speak to people less than what they know they will think you are dull and if you speak to them more than what they are capable to understand they will definitely fear/hate you. This applies to talking openly about you being a homosexual in front of a muslim that never saw a homosexual in their entire life. And plus homosexuality is not something irreversible. Work hard enough on it and you will get eventually attracted to the other gender. In the end we are all born to have a family and have kids. That is one of the main purpose of our fitra and humanity. And of course this thing applies on you and on everyone, disregarding their choices in life. Some people would say who am i to bring human beings into this unjust world... thats just something wrong to say and there is something wrong in this way of thinking. And trust me in Iraq the least of their problems is talking about homosexuality and allowing/forbidding mutaa. Thats another topic entirely that worth a single thread alone.
  2. I always wondered why most western committed men like to marry from the middle east, maybe this is one of the reasons why. But anyway i wouldn't settle for a partner that lives in the west who isn't religious, if a man can marry a western girl and make her commit before marriage then kudos to him. If the religious part in a man didnt matter to me i would have gotten married 4 years ago.
  3. So i'm confused. Is it about islam or muslims You first talked about how muslims practise their religion Then about islam how it lacks the capability of doing self revision to fit into this modern world; Despite how the west with their modern thinking and ways hurt their society and the earth on a daily basis. Then in the end you say that its not about islam but about muslims. It's still better to live among shias who represent the perfect individuals that ever stepped foot on this planet and practising their teachings, than living amongst the non muslim or non committed environment, Because simply wherever you go you will get attacked and criticized over whatever you do even if it's the right thing you're doing. So it's not really about islam, but lets say its about muslims, humans are prone to error and if they do not know how to practise something that is a perfect system then who it is to blame the people or the perfect system? There is a case i know where a man deceived two women after he made one of them convert from christianity to islam shia, and one who was already shia and convinced her to commit. So when the two discovered this man's utter hypocrisy, the revert simply was shocked and moved on but didn't blame it on religion and remained a practising shia, and this other shia woman left religion eventually and married a christian after a year. So who succeeded in this test here, who won their akhira? There is a hadith that i have in arabic and i will translate it to english the best i can: Aba Abdillah (عليه السلام) said: He who enters religion through people will leave religion through the people. And those who entered religion through the quran and sunnah, the mountains will perish and their religion won't. روي عن أبي عبد الله عليه السلام: أنه قال: من دخل في هذا الدين بالرجال أخرجه منه الرجال كما أدخلوه فيه، ومن دخل فيه بالكتاب والسنة زالت الجبال قبل أن يزول بحار الأنوار للعلامة المجلسي، ج ٢، ص ١٠٥ كتاب الغيبة للنعماني، ص ٢٢ أمالي الصدوق، ص ١٠٥ So if you wanna leave religion you have to have a better excuse than that please.
  4. Now it is true, when couples marry each other and pass through hardships they will love each other more. Despite the woman that marries her husband and he is already settled, has a house a job etc... I think that a smart committed woman would marry someone that still have his future ahead of him cause the person who lives in the west and is unsettled is a temporary problem, since jobs are frequent and even the man who doesnt have a degree can still most of the time come up with working in something, have an experience and securing his future. Whereas in the middle east that's not true at all. Especially in Lebanon, and Lebanon is worth mentioning cause there are hundred of thousands of committed shias here that are facing this problem. The job market mainly favors christians here, despite sparse jobs and low salaries, and mortgage that has been suspended for 3 years now, etc... So basically you cant marry someone that gets paid 400$ (Minimum wage was way more but there is the currency crashing now) and there are no chances of promotion cause for example most companies are closing and local companies are mainly small and don't follow policies you find in multinational companies, or academia isnt finished cause the man left university to provide for his family for many reasons, etc... So trust me you being a student is the least of problems and inshallah when the right time comes god will guide you to the one for you.
  5. You know these are from sunni books right? To the sunna sect, prophets also make mistakes and are not infallible. And in shia we know that the lineage from prophet Adam to prophet Mohammad is pure.
  6. What? Kindly provide me a source for this info. I'm not sure if you missed the point of the OP but she is talking about ethics which is clearly an issue that we need to address more among the muslims now and you are talking about muslims judging muslims.
  7. Yes but already almost all committed people know that jealousy is haram, everyone knows that backbitting is haram, lying, being impulsive, being arrogant, being rude, arguing with parents, not abstaining from doing something wrong or haram when no one is watching, not knowing certain fiqh rules altho they are couple of buttons away available online (that's called جهل مركّب per fiqh), etc... The problem isn't about not knowing but rather having scholars Not emphasizing on these subjects strongly enough. Our sharia is a therapy when it comes to all forms of struggles but do we really use it this way or do we use the alternate solutions that are man made... This is how the issue should be addressed. When i entered the islamic society most of the things that i saw were norms and traditions, of course this is not the case with committed people who comprehend truly religion and their duty. But i'm also talking about people who pray fast and form a huge part of the shia society.
  8. I used to be a christian who is now a shia. If you maybe ask more specific questions we can help you more. We believe that all past religions came to ease the way for the guidelines that prophet Mohammad (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) gave, that we now find in the islamic sharia. Which makes christianity a part of islam. We do not believe that God has sent his son to save humanity from sins, this would make sins hereditary and plus why would someone be questioned or responsible over the things they hadn't done. Despite the other primary important thing which is that we believe God is One and that there is nothing like him in this world. Nor there is someone before him or after him.
  9. @Ain-Al HayatI agree with what our sister said here. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire universe Your sickness is from you but you do not see it, your solution is within you but you do not feel it. Imam Ali as وتحسب أنك جـِرمٌ صغير *** وفيك انطوى العالم الأكبر داؤك منك ومـــــا تبصر *** دواؤك فيك ومــــا تشعر الإمام علي بن أبي طالب. Now people who understand this statement of Imam ali can write hundreds of books about it that is beyond the capacity of our understanding... Most of the times our problems come from our perspective towards this world, how we perceive things how we assess things how we treat ourselves and the world... A believer, if he had to face the problems of the whole world it wouldnt matter to him, his conditions wouldnt change, and if he had to face all the good fortunes in the world he'd stay the same as well. This is how the prophet describes a believer when they ask him about his state of being. Now i obviously dont know about the details of your condition, you should be able to assess if you really need a medication after the medical advice your psychiatrist will give you, and you can always change him after listening ot him if you didnt like him. You might as well start of by using a medication to sort your ideas out and then quite it when you are capable, once i did that and i stopped taking the medication after a while because i really believe in the previous equation i mentioned and i work hard to live by it. And it works, just like we put our trust in our parents and close ones in getting things done to us we can do that with God trusting him to make us feel better and become better. But we always need to take the first step in bettering ourselves.
  10. http://telegram.me/islamicpulse Their Telegram channel. https://youtube.com/channel/UCcNZ6BXlg9NFNeaiivx1TKA And thats channel islamic pulse 2. I'm sure this had something to do with them posting a critique video about the movie of sayeda zahraa.
  11. Salam Aalaykom, I am a christian convert to shia from Lebanon, I currently live here, it's been a while since I've been in the society here and some religious men and parents are open minded enough to accept a convert who is fully committed with a hijab. But some others refuse it totally due to the fear of what some people might say and they fear of their societal status. I still find it hard to get married here cause of these mindsets among the shias in Lebanon. What i can say about your situation is that you should take the step and have a hijab on, your parents will get mad at first and sure it will cause you problems but they will submit after a while, and if they dont its ok whats important is that god is pleased with you and he will support you and bestow upon you his blessings in whatever you decide to do in life. Now when it comes to the love of your life, I'm really amazed on what he's done and how he let it come to that, especially that he's religious. Now if he is brave and responsible enough, if he has the proper courage and jealousy over his woman i am definite that he will marry you permnantly and work on forming a loving islamic marriage. Just like you have something to risk for which is your hijab he in turn has something to risk too and because it is the right thing to wear the hijab and it is the right thing islamically and ethically to marry you as per our religion God will definitely do miracles in your future marriage. It's true that he only has to financially provide for the child as per the islamic shariaa but islam isnt JUST about islamic shariaa, it is also about Ethics as the prophet (peace be upon him) said: I came to perfect the ethics of man kind. InshAllah you both will be ok as long as you do whats right for your religion, other than that you have nothing to worry about.
  12. Habibit albe sister. I'm glad you enjoyed the story. I miss you. We should definitely arrange something when the numbers of covid reduce in the country.
  13. ''مَّا جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لِرَجُلٍ مِّن قَلْبَيْنِ فِي جَوْفِهِ'' ''Allah has not made for a man two hearts in his interior'' 33:4 It was a sunny day in the summer of 2015. I decided to go to a beach with my best friend like usual in jbeil to sit under the sun, swim and have a nice tan. In this phase of my conversion I was mentally wavering between the right and wrong, between hell and heaven. I was about to have a break point between my commitment and the earthly lifestyle that I had. My mind was aware of the wholesome idea of this worldly life and it knows where it is situated and what should be done. I was alert of the good and bad in this world as my religion started informing me about them, as Imam Ali (عليه السلام) says من لم يعرف الخير من الشر فهو بمنزلة البهيمة My actions, my thoughts, and habits were swinging along this mental state I had. I was in a situation contemplating all these hadiths of our religion were they emphasize on the fact that we cannot have both the life of the world and the hereafter. If we want the hereafter we’ll have to sacrifice all this void lifestyle that existed around me at the moment back then… Either suffer a bit, let go of all this and have all the self-security, self-satisfaction that God promised us once doing two things: applying the sharia and being in a state where we always search for knowledge laying behind this sharia since the latter without knowledge is like a body without a soul. It has been proved and documented throughout all the scholars that we, as humans, need to follow the path of Ahlulbayt(عليهم السلام) or perish and live a life that is against the true goal of what this dunya was created for. That day going to the beach made me experience a crossroad in my life between my Salvation and my Destruction. I went home that day and took my decision to embark on this eternal spiritual journey, I changed my number, deactivated my social media platforms, started praying, and took a vow not to miss a prayer in my whole life. You cannot love this world and the next. You cannot combine two opposite things in one place since it is against nature, the same apply to combining the love of this world and the next in one heart. In order to reach perfection and to reach heaven we should choose it more times than we can count in this life before reaching the next. So what will you choose? Will it be your lowly temporary pleasures and desires? Will you want to lead a lustful life were your fears, worries, anxiety and wild pleasures are in control of you? Or will you be willing to dwell and reflect deeper into the true meaning behind all that exists around you and lead a journey where your life and feelings are within your grasp?
  14. What makes it special about islam is that an individual can combine his religious life with the societal one, unlike other religions that make it almost impossible to be religious and an active member of society. Which is one of the reasons why non-muslims are mostly religiously inactive. And recently Wilayat al Faqih has reinforced the concept of collectivism of Islam Shia.
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