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  1. (salam) Is it Wajib/possible for a woman to fast while she is still experiencing the Nifas bleeding after childbirth? What if she is also breastfeeding?
  2. (salam) Can somebody please translate the answer to this question? Thank you very much.
  3. I was randomly approached by another Mod and asked if I wanted to join the team... And of course, I said yes.

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  4. (wasalam) It's normal to feel all sorts of weird and wonderful emotions during pregnancy, especially if this is your first, because everything you are experiencing is completely new and different. Your body is going through so many changes during this time and your hormones can sometimes send you from feeling all happy and excited one moment, to upset and tearful the next. There isn't always much you can do about this, but it helps to know that this is a very common thing that happens to many pregnant women. I would suggest you talk to your husband and let him know exactly how you feel. You may be surprised at how much guidance and support he is able to offer. It will also keep your relationship open and healthy. One of the biggest reasons for feeling scared about certain events is uncertainty or a lack of knowledge about the subject. I suggest you do as much research as possible about pregnancy, birth and parenting from both Islamic and non-Islamic sources, in order to gain a more informed understanding of these matters. This should help ease your fears. On a last note, your unborn baby benefits from every single action you perform or are exposed to during pregnancy. There are so many Mustahab acts of worship and supplications you could read - See Chapter 6 here: http://www.al-islam.org/heavenlypath/ Don't forget, you don't always need to go out of your way to do something extra special for your unborn baby if you feel tired or not bothered. Even the simple, everyday activities you often perform will have a positive effect on the child, for example, your daily prayers. Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy. Enjoy these last few moments with your baby inside of you and make the most of this time that you have, if possible. Remember, it's never too late. My Dua's are with you for the easy delivery of a healthy child.
  5. Maybe you should consider studying to become a fashion designer?
  6. I was very specific with my question. I explained my entire situation and concern in exact details. I'm still waiting for the second response from him though...
  7. I know for a fact that when it comes to a woman's health and anything medically related, it is okay for her to expose her private parts, even to a male Doctor - But of course, if there is an available female Doctor, that should be the first option. I also know that exposing one's breasts in front of other women for reasons such as breast feeding is okay too. However, I don't quite understand why a woman's own mother would not be allowed to see her private parts during such a critical and life-changing event as labour and birth. I mean, even if they were to see it, I highly doubt that they would be looking at it with any sort of ill thoughts or suspicions, and I doubt that they would even look at it for what it is - Other than the fact that it happens to be the only passage-way for the child to enter the world. On another note, the people that would be present during a woman's labour and birth are obviously not there just for a show. They're there to help her and offer her support, even if it isn't medically related, but moreso moral and emotional support. I wasn't really satisfied with the reply I got, as it was the first time I had ever sent a question to www.najaf.org (as advised by other ShiaChatters), so I sent it again to Sayed Sistani's original website - www.sistani.org. We'll just have to wait and see what he says.
  8. Sure. He simply said: "It is not permissible."
  9. ATT: Moderators Can this thread please be deleted? I've received the answer from my Marja'.
  10. I personally believe that being married is a much more enjoyable and fulfilling way of living your life, as opposed to being single. I also agree with what other people have mentioned above, about how each individual would view both ways of life differently depending on their personality, circumstances and experiences. In my case, marriage provided me with a new sense of freedom. I am now free to do whatever I like in the comfort and privacy of my own home, I am free to clean whenever I feel like it, cook whatever I feel like eating, see whoever I have the energy and desire to see, have relations with whomsoever I like and respect, attend or leave an event at my own level of comfort, and so on. It has also provided me with independence, in the sense that I am now mature and responsible enough to make my own decisions about affairs concerning my personal life and the household. I also love the fact that I am now responsible for looking after the people that I love within my new family, i.e. My husband. I enjoy caring for him on a physical level as well as emotional. I actually like the fact that on one hand, I've taken over his mother's previous role - Of cooking for him, cleaning for him, preparing his clothes, and so on. And on the other hand, I am the only one who shares the intimate details of life with him, and the one he turns to for companionship and support. I also enjoy the responsibility of representing him in public with the way that I dress and behave, and so on. Marriage has made me feel more 'complete' - With a supportive and loving companion who is always there by my side. It is also an avenue in which I can fulfil my life-long dreams of having and raising a family. And as someone has previously mentioned, on a religious level, it is fulfilling a much recommended act of worship and securing yourself against many possible sins.
  11. Subhan'Allah - It's amazing to learn how the Ahlul Bayt (a.s) had so much knowledge of issues that we are only just starting to figure out in this 'modern-day society'. This advice is great - Especially for a first-time-mother-to-be (Insha'Allah). If you come across any more, please post them up. Thanks!
  12. (salam) I'm sure that this topic has probably been previously discussed, but ShiaChat's search engine isn't very 'competent' - So if it is a repeat, especially an overkilled one, then I'm sorry in advance. My question is: Is it permissible for a female to see another female's private parts? I have heard that it depends on the situation - For example, a female Doctor viewing a female patient's private parts is okay for medical reasons, but a female beauty therapist viewing a female client's private parts for reasons such as waxing isn't allowed according to Islam. Am I correct? My question relates moreso to a different situation, which I'll elaborate upon: I'm due to give birth in less than two months Insha'Allah, and besides my husband and the Midwives present, I would like my mother and (possibly) my sister to be in the room with me while I am in labour and as I give birth. I know that my husband is definitely allowed to see me, and the Midwives would be too - If they fit the description for the abovementioned 'medical reasons' ruling - But what about my mother and sister? Sorry to be so descriptive, but are they allowed to look 'down there' to watch the baby being born? I've sent my Marja' - Sayed Sistani - this question, but I haven't received a reply yet, so I thought I'd check if anyone else here already knows the answer to my question.
  13. (wasalam) This is completely ridiculous and disgusting. Even the first step taken by a man towards a non-Mahram woman's bare breast in order to drink from it (and the skin-to-skin contact) is Haram in itself, so how could it possibly lead to a Halal relationship? If the men and woman are experiencing such hardships and difficulties when working together, then maybe they should re-think their jobs and careers so that they are not forced to be in situations where they are alone and could possibly commit a sin. I'm not surprised by that narration about A'isha. She definitely is capable of doing something as low and contradictory to Islam as that. And to think that she is supposed to be "Um al-Mu'mineen", our female role model and the best wife of the Prophet (s.a.w.w). Ha ha, yeah right...
  14. (wasalam) I am not sure whether or not it is actually okay or recommended to pray for a male child, however, I found the following in Imam Zayn al-'Abideen's (a.s) 'Supplication for Righteous Children' - Sahifa al-Sajjadiyah: "æó ÃóÚöäøöí Úóáóì ÊóÑúÈöíóÊöåöãú æó ÊóÃúÏöíÜÈöåöãú¡ æó ÈöÑøöåöãú¡ æó åóÈú áöí ãöäú áóÏõäúßó ãóÚóåõãú ÃóæúáÇóÏÇð ÐõßõæÑÇð¡ æó ÇÌúÚóáú Ðñáößó ÎóíúÑÇð áöí¡ æó ÇÌúÚóáúåõãú áöí ÚóæúäÇð Úóáóì ãóÇ ÓóÃóáúÊõßó" "Help me in their upbringing, their education, and my devotion toward them, give me among them from Yourself male children, make that a good for me, and make them a help for me in that which I ask from You!" On the other hand, other supplications for righteous children made by the Prophets (a.s) tend to be gender neutral, so maybe there's a hidden lesson in that too. For example: 1. The supplication of Prophet Ibrahim (a.s): ÑóÈøö åóÈú áöí ãöäó ÇáÕøóÇáöÍöíäó “My Lord! Give me (an heir), one of the righteous.” 2. Another supplication of Prophet Ibrahim (a.s): ÑóÈøö ÇÌúÜÜÚóÜáúÜäöí ãõÞöíãó ÇáÕøóáÇóÉö æóãöäú ÐõÑøöíøóÊöí ÑóÈøóäóÇ æóÊóÞóÈøóáú ÏõÚóÇÁö “My Lord! Make me a maintainer of the prayer, and my descendants (too). Our Lord! Accept my supplication.” 3. The supplication of Prophet Zakariya (a.s): ÑóÈøö åóÈú áöí ãöäú áøóÏõäúßó ÐõÑøöíøóÉð ØóíøöÈóÉð Åöäøóßó ÓóãöíÚõ ÇáÏøõÚóÇÁö “My Lord! Grant me a good offspring from you! Indeed you hear all supplications.” 4. The supplication of Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.w): æóÃóÕúáöÍú áöí ÝöÜÜí ÐõÑøöíøóÊöí Åöäøöí ÊõÈúÊõ Åöáóíúßó æóÅöäøöí ãöäó ÇáúãõÓúáöãöíäó “And invest my descendants with righteousness. Indeed I have turned to you in penitence, and I am one of the Muslims.” 5. Another supplication of Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.w): ÑóÈøóäóÇ åóÈú áóäóÇ ãöäú ÃóÒúæóÇÌöäóÇ æóÐõÑøöíøóÇÊöäóÇ ÞõÑøóÉó ÃóÚúÜíõäò æóÇÌúÚóáúäóÇ áöáúãõÊøóÞöíäó ÅöãóÇãðÇ “Our Lord! Grant us comfort in our spouses and descendants, and make us Imāms of the Godwary.”
  15. Yes, the Sheikh that is present does give a short sermon about marriage (including the importance and benefits of marriage, and the rights and responsibilities of both husband and wife) before he conducts the contract between the man and woman. In some cases, the man and woman sit near each other and the Sheikh asks each one separately if they agree to marry the following person for the agreed dowry, etc. In other cases, the man and woman are sitting in separate rooms and the Sheikh first asks the woman if she gives him the permission to act on her behalf and marry her to the following person for the agreed dowry, then he goes towards the man and asks him if he accepts and so on. I understand that a Nikah can be contracted between a man and woman themselves, but there is also no harm in having a knowledgeable person of a high status conduct the marriage between the two. For one thing, he is able to provide the bride and groom with vital information about their rights and responsibilities in their marriage. Secondly, he would also be earning rewards from Allah (s.w.t) for bringing two people together. Thirdly, he is there to ensure that all words are pronounced correctly, all conditions are mutually agreed upon and all paperwork is signed - So he is also there as a witness to the marriage, along with the man and woman's family, relatives and friends. I also think that it is more of a 'professional' way to conduct the marriage ceremony, seeing as though there are usually many, many guests watching and listening to every word. Then again, it can be done without a Sheikh. It's just become a tradition that we (in our community) are very used to.
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