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  1. Assalamu alaykum, I've noticed a lot of sheikhs make those ''read this x times and you'll gain the same hassanat as x prophet'', ''do this and this and you'll be in the same level in paradise as the ahlulbayt (as)'' I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. Now my question is: what's the point of having for example a ''place'' in paradise reserved for only the best creation, when one can gain access by a relatively simple act? I feel as though your spiritually and connection to Allah and ahlulbayt is a great factor in how meaningful any act or dua is, but these promised rewards completely ignore such factor and make promises that to me seem extremely exaggerated. Wassalam
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    Losing spirituality

    We live a routine of which worship becomes just another part, that's the problem. The point of a routine is that you do things out of habit, sometimes on auto-pilot. But the point of worship and connection with Allah is that you're conscious of Him, and that it doesn't become something you do on auto-pilot. Ask yourself whether you're truly talking to Allah when reading Qur'an/Dua and praying. Are you really trying to be conscious and aware of Allah right that moment, are you trying to stay focused on maintaining that consciousness throughout worship? Or has it become the act of a body on auto-pilot, while your mind is just numb and asleep? What works for me is to realize my own consciousness and existence, from there awareness of Allah automatically follows. Or try to ''envision'' Allah's presence. Not in any physical way, but just think about His reality, that you know he's there. When you talk to Allah, realize that he's listening, don't just talk or read the Dua out of habit. Constantly remind yourself of the fact that Allah is listening. The moment you feel the sweetness of mercy you can stop focussing, that feeling is sufficient to have you stay conscious.
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    Types of Shiachat users

    I'm none, I only come on here every x weeks.
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    Anyone who knows Bourdieu? HELP

    Can you share a source to what he says? I'll read it and reply back to you. What do you mean with ''choose their own identity''? As in, do their parents allow them to deviate from what they hold to be true (religion wise), or more of an individual level, can they choose which identity to take on (that which they inherit from their parents/that of the country they reside in or do they have no psychological say in this?). Be a bit more specific please.
  5. I would not like it, but it would discipline me and make me more aware of death. I think a lot of people tend to forget that they're not immortal (especially youth), which gives them a false sense of safety and independence from God. Hence the question "why should I believe in God, what does it bring me?''. Now I don't ask that question, but I'd surely be better of with knowing the reality that I WILL die.
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    #52 Have You Ever Played on an Organized Sports Team?

    I played football/soccer from the age of 6 until the age of 15-16. I quit because I broke my collarbone and stayed at home for a while, only to realise how much I just enjoyed reading instead of running and all that. Oh... And I started disliking my team more and more. Some of those kids were bullies. I wish I never stopped though, having such sport at the age of 20 is a great way to stay fit.
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    Sister cheated on her husband

    How does one know he's sincerely repentant? I've difficulty knowing whether I'm truly remorseful or not, I think that's a good enough indication that I'm not really.
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    Lost in life

    Salaam everyone, For way too long I have felt lost. I don't know where to start, but here we go anyway.My faith is diminished, my inner-peace is gone, I've no direction in life, my days are unproductive, restless but unable to move. This lead to depression last year. Thankfully I'm not depressed anymore, but it will be coming if nothing changes. All this free time is an opportunity to really think about my life, but so far it has only distanced me from the solution(s) to the problems mentioned. I'm afraid this gap-year will pass without me having achieved anything in the right direction, instead driving me away to my doom. I don't know how to change my life, how to turn it around. I don't know how to regain my faith, and if I did, am I not simply deceiving myself into believing? I've had an Islamic upbringing, Islam is part of who I am, part of my identity. Do I wanna belief because I fear and love Allah, or because I'm as unable to remove part of my identity as I am unable to cut off a limb? Is praying, reading Qur'an and supplicating really a way to the truth, or fuel for my bias? I'm aware of my psychology, and for that reason I don't even trust myself and my reasoning. Just as much as I've difficulty believing right now, I've difficulty leaving my faith. I'm in between, and it's tearing me apart. I probably sound totally lost, and that's exactly how I feel. I simply don't know what the truth is. I've no certainty, and even if I did feel certain, I'd still doubt my reasoning. Add to that the kind of unfulfilling life I'm living right now, even to atheist standards. I don't know whether negligence of faith is what lead to dip I'm in now, or whether it is a chaotic life that lead to weak faith. What drives me crazy is that I can't even answer the question ''Do you belief in God?'' I simply don't know, even though I'm great add debating for the existence of God. Maybe that gives you in an idea of the state of confusion I'm in. Good friends of mine joked about me having a midlife crisis (I'm 18) because of my constant worries for the future but also for the point I'm at right now.I really hope someone can help me out with good advice or something to read that will be able to get me somewhere. Thanks a lot for reading.
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    Emotional Quotient Test

    This type of test is easy to sabotage into giving the desired outcome. If you're not honest with yourself you'll just answer according to faulty self-perception. Just sayin' Your score was 39 out of a possible 80. I'm not that empathetic, although I do understand people extremely well and can read most like an open book. It became a mind sport for me to guess the next thing a person might say. It's especially fun when you subtly bend the conversation into them saying a certain thing which you understand the underlying thought process of. Humans are interesting and fascinating, but I don't place myself in someone shoes at an emotional level.
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    #47 Are your Friends Mostly Shia or non-Shia?

    Non-Shia, even non-Muslim... ATHEISTS! If I were to select my friends based on religion I'd be truly friendless.
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    Lost in life

    It's OK. You'll be fine, trust me. Take it one step at a time: what worries you most right this moment, and what is the best thing you can do right now to help away that worry? Sometimes even answering those questions isn't as easy as it seems. That's why you've to tackle life one step at a time, it makes it doable and less chaotic. It's often our own chaos that makes things difficult, not their actual difficulty. I can imagine how you feel. I took a gap year exactly for the reason you're describing here. Really, keep us updated and write down for yourself what your coming steps will be. Always know where you're heading, otherwise you will end up feeling as lost as I felt when I started this thread. Feel free to message me whenever, I'll be there if you need anyone to talk to.
  12. Salaam brothers and sisters, Allow me this question regarding homosexuality. I expect some to answer ''because God said so,'' and although that's a good reason for me and you, it's not the answer I'm looking for. Rephrase my question to "what's the reason God prohibited homosexual acts?'' if you will. That is, if you belief all God does is reasonable. I understand why thievery is forbidden: it's an egoistical act. Use enough reason and you conclude that thievery goes against the message of tawheed: worship is for God alone. Egoism is self-worship and hinders humankind from reaching her potential in attaining nearness to God. But what about homosexual acts? Why are they forbidden? In what way do they hinder humankind from reaching nearness to God and attaining their potential? I can't empathise with homosexuals nearly as well as I can with thiefs, so I'm unable to find a first point from which to reason towards a conclusion regarding the harmful aspect of homosexuality. Insha'Allah someone can answer this question.
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    Why are homosexual acts sinful?

    Your no less justifying your stance than you're listening to his stance. Saying ''filthy behaviour'' is not a way to discuss something. Look, I'm a Muslim just as much as you or Bakir, but I see no reason to discuss this way. Honestly, if I was discussing something with an atheist that had your mindset in this discussion, then I'd have told them this is of no good and would've left. Absolutely nothing to do with who is right or wrong, but all to do with how willing you're to listen to a person, and to actually understand their point first, and not make a strawman argument against them. I'm sure we ALL agree to the prohibition of homosexual acts. Next step: mutual understand?
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    Why are homosexual acts sinful?

    Seems overly simplified. If the reasons of prohibiting homosexual acts is AIDS then we'd find that the same logic applied to A LOT of others things. Almost nothing would be halal in such scenario.
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    What are your hobbies and interests?

    My ability to match things is non-existent... I've been 'mocked' often enough by my sisters for my clothing choices upon leaving the house. As you said, we all have different talents (although I'd call them interests which can eventually change into skills) which is perfect as we can help each other that way. Would you mind sharing what country you're from? I suspect somewhere in Europe. Just curious! I feel uncomfortable speaking about something I know I'm good at, as though I've no right to because I can still get better. But here goes anyway: let's divide drawing into 10 levels, 1 is absolutely disastrous, and 10 is the greatest skill. For me personally from one until around 8 is just a switch that needs turning, something that clicks, a mindset that can change by an hours lesson. From 8 until 10 then becomes improvement through practise. I hope I'm making myself clear enough. Friends of mine 'suck' at drawing, until they sit next to me for 10 minutes and see how I do it and find some guidance from a source they trust. Really just as simple as knowing how to do it. Drawing well is having objective eyes, or something making you aware of your own bias in drawing. Does that explain well enough? 1-8 is mindset and not skill, but will be perceived as a stair of gradually increasing skill by outsiders, even though that's not really the case.
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    What are your hobbies and interests?

    There's no need to change, you probably have a friend around like me; ready to answer all your technical questions! There's a LOT to say about drawing, I don't know whether you asked for this explanation or not, but here goes: drawing is not a talent, it's either a set of skills that combine into ability to draw well, or a lot of concious practise. Or a combination of both. Drawing was never difficult for me, I did well from the get go, and I'd say that's totally my mindset and the way I look at things... but others have convinced me it really is skill. Maybe best way to explain it is as something you've to realize, something that suddenly clicks. That's how it is for me, but after that there's a very steep learning curve, although for most people you'll be a good drawer already.
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    What are your hobbies and interests?

    Reading (both fiction and non-fiction), drawing (photo realistic portraiture), coding (JAVA), gaming (not so much), walking, writing. I'm one of those tech savy dudes, you could argue that to be a hobby too. Religion is also a thing I spend a lot of time on, obviously.
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    Why are homosexual acts sinful?

    There's a respectfully disagree button, because this site is meant for actual listening and discussing. You owe the person whose opinion you call nonsense an explanation. This is not the place for lazy and silly comments like this, either actually discuss or stay away.
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    Lost in life

    Salaam roses, Wonder how you're currently doing, hopefully your situation is improving. Please keep me updated!
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    Why are homosexual acts sinful?

    Hmm, thanks for the effort! I can't find the part where he specifically answers my question: he only answers why we accept the sinful character homosexual acts, but not how God determined their harm and thus sinfulness specifically. I wonder if any grand scholars have an explanation other than because God said so.
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    Why are homosexual acts sinful?

    One could argue most of our knowledge is speculation, regardless of its evidence. But that's not what this topic is about.
  22. Salaam brothers and sisters, In less than a week I'll go on a weeks hike in Ireland with two friends of mine. Does anyone have experience with combining hiking with tahara (ritual purity) and prayer? We will be away from bathrooms and toilets, which means I need to find a way to keep clean so I can offer the obligatory prayers. Any advice would be appreciated!
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    Shia in Italy, Netherlands and Philippines

    Shi'a from the Netherlands here.
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    Western Christian

    So you say Jesus is your exemplary person in regards to achieving spiritual excellence. Is he the exemplary person because he practised what he preached and attained an incredible spiritual rank himself?