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Zarla

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  1. It depends on the situation and the severity of the emotional pain that a person experiences with rejection. In a situation where the guy doesn't know the person very well, they are less likely to experience anything drastic. If they do, then the pain might dissipate away quickly. Another factor to consider is their life circumstances, which also have an impact on the magnitude of the pain they experience. For example, if a guy has limited relationship opportunities, and gets rejected by someone they barely know, then they will probably agonize over the problem as much as those getting rejected by someone they really love or care about. And dare I say, I don't think there are any "real" gender differences. :dry:

  2. 6 hours ago, silasun said:

    Pretty sure you have to do a tonne of exercises too though? I screwed up in stats due to a lack of pratice.

    Oh yes, definitely! That's why we have weekly quizzes.  It's helped a lot in terms of giving us the practice that we need. The only thing making it difficult is the textbook, which is replete with examples from the author's life who tries so hard to throw in jokes to make stats 'fun' for some people who don't enjoy it or find it difficult to understand. I'm like okay, just give me what I need to know, I am not interested in your life story. And I don't want to read through lots of pages to finally be able to understand what you are talking about. :itsok:

  3. 9 hours ago, silasun said:

    My condolences. Stats is the worst thing that ever happened to me at school.

    Everything seems easy once you get your head around all of the basics - you feel like you have mastered the art of Stats. At least, that's how I felt, until I got to exploratory factor analysis and principal component analysis. But I know I can do this. I just need to spend a few more sleepless nights and reread every single page of the chapter. Then, I will be good.

  4. 1 hour ago, sidnaq said:

    no youre wrong, i know in my heart what happened over the past 2 years and it was abnormal like reall abnormal, it was not proper at all, i now realise it, i now realise that nobody else was goingthru this, and yes everybody was rude to me, no i didnt say anything or didnt smile i was normal perfectly normal.

    Okay, let's assume I am wrong and you are right. What exactly do you mean by "it was abnormal"? Are you referring to people's behaviour? Did every single person you met behave the same way towards you? Can you think of only ONE instance where a person was nice to you?  You say that you were the only one going through this. What makes you think that you were the only one? 

  5. I don't think it's the people that are rude. Maybe you expect everyone to be nice to you and let's be honest, not everyone can be nice towards you. Maybe you are too focused on the negatives that you overlook the nice things about people. Stop thinking in binary terms: e.g., "People are either rude or nice." Most people don't perfectly fall into either of these categories. 

  6. Belief is not all-or-nothing; we can believe more or less firmly, with more or less certainty and tentativeness. This then dictates how we behave in any given situation. We may act differently upon a tentative belief than upon a firm one. Another thing is that our belief may be very strong, but still overriden by other beliefs. Then there are degrees of unethicality. For example, we know that some crimes are worse than others and I am sure you would agree that murder is worse than armed robbery, which in turn is worse than shoplifting. In some circumstances we might do something which is wrong in order to avoid a greater wrong. Sometimes we have to make a decision on the basis of insufficient evidence. We must simply make the best decision we can with the knowledge we have. These are all grey areas.

  7. Salam sis, 

    Don't change the way you dress in order to change other people's perception of you. I guarantee you that even if you do that, people will still find something negative to talk about. Do what you think is right not what you think people will like. Wear the Hijab to please the Creator not the creation. I know it can be hard not to care about what others think of you, but always keep in mind that with struggles there are rewards, especially if you are doing it for the sake of Allah.

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