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Irfani313

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  1. I think what you are talking about comes under the topic of safeguarding your honor, property, family, or self, from fatal harm. Islam being the logical religion, allows us to safeguard ourselves and take retaliatory measures if necessary. Logic also dictates that those who attempt to harm others in anyway, on whatever pretext, right or wrong, should be ready to receive the same treatment from their would be victims. So a husband attempting what you wrote above, could also become the victim of her or her acquaintance(s), before he could attempt something. Are you ready for that? Bac
  2. This sounds more like a Catholicism than Islam. In Islam, nobody is inherently sinner, it’s opposite in fact. Qur’an tells us that each one of us is born on the nature of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), meaning we are already connected to the divinity. It’s what we do during the duration of our lives that makes us sinners, by our own “hard work.” Answering your A and B, only a slight minority really watches or thinks before they speak. The rest of us just talk, write, or yell whatever first comes to our consciousness. Fix: follow the instructions of Sura al Mu’minun, https://
  3. After reading the sad ordeal of a couple who ended up in domestic violence situation .. Here are a couple of advices from a married brother of yours (me). I would rather have young men start orienting themselves now in order to mitigate such situations in future (you). First of all just know that, in Marriage, many things would likely make you mad, BUT that no situation, absolutely no situation, requires you to hit her. Even if God forbid someone is involved in major sins. Here’s why and how you won’t want to hurt her physically: 1. Women bodies are truly very fragile. Tho
  4. Spent the night at a place which was maybe a few meters from the grave of Iman Hussain AS. What makes your father so special in your life?
  5. Nope. I just google and follow through to the last t. Who would you miss the most when you would be in your late 90s (provided you still remember everybody)?
  6. You forgot Pakistani ‘falsey’ which is sacrelige, unless it’s hidden in one of those English terms for it. Falsey with crushed black rock salt. Heavens in spicy land. @Aflower you haven’t tried US North East starwberries yet, without genetically grown, their natural form is size of an apple, and if ripened in sun for half a day, are crispy sweet better than, well there is no comparison. And I would never adulterate mine with cream or chocolate.
  7. @Marbles the slow cooked lintels, are those cooked in the same pots they were served in? Are they clay, stone, or ceramic? I don’t want to turn this into the eat, ate, eaten thread, but I’m desperately trying to get my hands on stone pans / cauldrons for my slow cooking obsession now a days. I heard people could buy those made from some rock in Mashhad. Right now my pans of choice are those heavy cast-iron for everything grilling, baking, stirfry, and curries, even omelettes. Nice post, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) accept your Umrah.
  8. Simple age old solutions- 1. Treat others the way you want yourself to be treated. 2. Respect is a mutual contract in any interaction between any number of people, strangers or otherwise. 3. Anythig said and done without the civility and class is not worth doing, even amr bil maroof & nahi anil munkar. 4. Agree to disagree. 5. In conflicts, see things from other person’s point of view and get to a win-win conclusion. 6. Don’t give in to bullies, distractors, verbal abusers, or physical assaulters. Take a stand, for yourself and for others. It will ruffle
  9. It depends. If Joe Streetwalker comes and ask me the same questions addressing my Prophet (s) as someone casual, I would respond to him in the manners my Prophet (s) has taught me. But if a seemingly Shia (but not actual Shia) person addresses my Prophet (s) they same way, I would respond differently. I want the respect to be reciprocated. The trolls I mentioned are of the second kind, yet all Shia Mods here have been extremely patient with them, along with the rest of us. My original post is pointing out the characters, they could show up again with different names and in vari
  10. Dear All - I'm sure Mods have been seeing it more than the rest of us - But there are a few ShiaChat posters here, who tend to post in tandem on certain topics, while most of their posts are either covertly anti-Islamic or overtly against the causes or personalities we Shia, or any freedom loving, decent person would hold dear. It would be beyond Islamic Akhlaq to name them without a clear evidence; although if I ever have clear evidence, then it is Islamic obligation to expose them. As an example, there are two recent posts which were 'induced locked' due to the dust that was raise
  11. If she is not naming names, why are you? My humble request, although it's a public (privately owned) forum, kindly do not derail my thread. I want something related to my Original Post. Many thanks in advance for your understanding.
  12. Dear brother - I'm responding to you only because I keep you in higher esteem. I habitually don't respond to noise. I've a co-worker of past decade who happens to be a strictly veg. with a little statue in the corner of his office at all times. You know by this what religion he adheres to. We have been to work related lunches and dinners many times. In those past tens of years, never once I've ordered anything non-veg while he was accompanying me. Few years ago, when this Danish cartoon blasphemy thing flared up, he started this discussion poking me on the stupidity of sentimental reacti
  13. Dear brother- I’m not here for Likes. I just called how I saw it. My sincere respects for you. Kind Regards-
  14. Dear All - I'm sure Mods have been seeing it more than the rest of us - But there are a few ShiaChat posters here, who tend to post in tandem on certain topics, while most of their posts are either covertly anti-Islamic or overtly against the causes or personalities we Shia, or any freedom loving, decent person would hold dear. It would be beyond Islamic Akhlaq to name them without a clear evidence; although if I ever have clear evidence, then it is Islamic obligation to expose them. As an example, there are two recent posts which were 'induced locked' due to the dust that was raise
  15. I'll keep posting these informative videos and articles related to government trolls and their tactics. I'm neither offended, nor being all those things that you said above. You, and another three Shia Chatters here have a pattern of threads and responses on anything political, one of which Starlight highlighted. All we have to do is click on your profile and look at your previous Likes, Dislikes, and diversion comments on ShiaChat to know that you are a likely paid troll. No offense but I'm convinced of it. But I don't hate you for that, just like us, the rest of humans, you have t
  16. Dear sister - as soon as Marzieh was released, this was what she said (see the video above), no hate talk, no bitterness, just plain facts and a call to oppose the gaps in our legal system. Any decent human being would do this. Contrast it with yours, as soon as you were released back on this temporarily locked thread.^ I pray, inshAllah over time you would get more wisdom and a deeper view of things and may strive to act better. My prayers..
  17. Like any movie about any culture, this one has lots of false biases but it’s a very interesting movie to watch. Some of the topics in there are what many of the ShiaChat marriage threads complain about (you be the judge). I loved one of the last scenes where his dad was reappointed back to his post, it was really comical. Overall the movie depicts a lot of false truths that are so prevalent in our Islamic Asian cultures. The main cast Ali (who also authored a book with the same theme) apparently did marry the real life female character some time later. After this one, he made some oddbal
  18. Calm down sister. Is your green card stuck in the process somewhere? -:) You sound like coming from some pale skin town of Oklahoma. Bring the balance back, I’m sure you realize the extremism of any side is bad.
  19. Many of us here who have been the beneficiary of American culture of meritocracy and fair reward for hard work often times forget to see the bad side of our culture, the overt, covert, underlying, overlying, hidden, open, supposed racial, material, and technological superiority with borderline sickness among some people of color (any color). I’ve seen it among many, among many people of various colors, also often seeing those who have been at the receiving end of it for a couple of centuries to be extra negative, seeing everything that’s done here from the lens of this past victimhood. And I
  20. Attention seeking is not bad at all, just have to be from the right people. In the zeal of devices, we sometimes forget those who are closer in vicinity and are wanting our attention. Its all good..
  21. Ok I again lost the key to my prescription cabinet- I’m sure you know Islam doesn’t recognize namesake blood relations equivalents, an example from the life of the Prophet (s) when he married the ex-wife of Zaid bin Harith who was his surrogate son. So yes there is affection to show & keep, the etiquettes of hijab have to be upheld.
  22. This is by far your best post I’ve read sister. Yes we are there to help, be caring, be compassionate but gotta have the goal in mind. We are there thousand of miles away to be in the vicinity of our Imams, ought to prioritise it. Without not being compassionate.
  23. Imagine -18C outside and paya inside (literally and foguratively). This is what I had yesterday with tandoori bread.
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