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Irfani313

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  1. Very shallow.. here’s another example My counter argument from Quran: just one Ayayt which dashes this whole baseless and overly simplistic assertions. وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا مِن رَّسُولٍ إِلَّا لِيُطَاعَ بِإِذْنِ اللَّهِ وَلَوْ أَنَّهُمْ إِذ ظَّلَمُوا أَنفُسَهُمْ جَاءُوكَ فَاسْتَغْفَرُوا اللَّهَ وَاسْتَغْفَرَ لَهُمُ الرَّسُولُ لَوَجَدُوا اللَّهَ تَوَّابًا رَّحِيمًا ‎﴿النساء: ٦٤﴾‏ We did not send any apostle but to be obeyed by Allah’s leave. Had they, when they wronged themselves, come to you and pleaded to Allah for forgiveness, and the Apostle had pleaded for them [to Allah]for forgiveness, they would have surely found Allah all-clement, all-merciful. (64) You Kamoonpuri clan; back to the drawing board young man (from FIFA 2020).
  2. Another Ramadhan, another mass murder of the Shia youth in Afghanistan. In 2020 Ramadhan, a pediatric care hospital was targeted, newborns were murdered cold blooded in their cribs. In 2021 Ramadhan, a girls school was hit in the same neighborhood with over 50 victims. Here’s Fundraising link for the victims. https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/helpkabulchildren?experiments=b2c_054_show_hide_fitness_totaliser%2Cb2c_059_donate_to_yourself_v3&successType=StaticDonateButtonClick
  3. نہ محبت، نہ موودت، نہ والا مانگی ہے نہ فضائل، نہ فضیلت، نہ ثنا مانگی ہے نہ کبھی نصرت اسلام کی دولت مانگی نہ یہ تلوار چلانے کی ادا مانگی ہے نہ یہ جرار، نہ کرار، نہ یہ خیبر میں علم نہ یہ آنکھوں کی مصیبت، نہ شفا مانگی ہے نہ کبھی نفس ہی مانگا، نہ کبھی شب ہجرت جاں نہ یہ بستر، نہ خالق کی رضا مانگی ہے نہ یہ والشمس کا چہرہ، نہ یہ وللیل کی زلف نہ ید اللہ، نہ آواز خدا مانگی ہے نہ سلیماں کی حکومت، نہ وہ قوت مانگی نہ انگوٹھی، نہ یہ دہلیز عطا مانگی ہے نہ کبھی حضرت داؤد کا لہجہ مانگا نہ کبھی غیب کے پردے کی سدا مانگی ہے عمر بھر جس نے نہ مانگا ہو خدا سے کچھ بھی اس نے عباس ع کے آنے کی دعا مانگی ہے
  4. ^ Can’t agree more. Just this weekend, had a phone conversation with a literally sobbing cousin, in his late 50s, who love married (I call it hormonal married) in his twenties to a Sunni. Now with kids who won’t know their religion (praying on turba doesn’t make you Shia, believing in the wilayah of Allah, Muhammad, and Ali makes you Shia), a wife who is still a Sunni, a household where he “has” to allow Paki dramas to run the next day of Ashura; he just sees the rest of us, our households, and all he has is what-ifs. I guess it truly becomes sad once these couples get older.
  5. “Do not allow yourself to feel sorrow for what you have lost, such that it preoccupies you from what is yet to come.” Imam Ali (عليه السلام). GhararelAhkam
  6. Note on Magrib salat time from Ayatullah Sistani’s website. The time of Maghrib and Isha starts from sunset and lasts till midnight. The first part is confined to Maghrib and the latter part to Isha in as long as each of which takes .[You should not start Maghrib prayer until the dusk, appearing in the East, disappears from the sky].* Could you explain what Eastern dusk is?- It is a reddish colour that appears in the East, opposite the direction of sunset, that disappears once the whole disc of the sun descends below the horizon. https://www.sistani.org/english/book/49/2406/
  7. Yes.. and then break the gps hoping to be lost in space (fun till the supplies last). What annoys you the most in yourself?
  8. IRreplaceable (we never truly die, we just move on) - but also - FANI (we eventually do get annihilated) 313 (hopefully would get to see one or be with one)
  9. In the recent past: Karbala; specifically offering myself to stand in front of Ali al-Asghar when the arrow was shot at him In distant past: when our Arwah were being ordered to accept the Wilayah, and we stepped forward, and to see who I was grouping with when there.
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    1. Laayla

      Laayla

      Thank you brother.  Did you write this?

  11. ^^ none of these two are my most favorite, but shows the Urdu language variation across a century of almost equivalent stature poets of same genre’ of poetry, the classic Ghazal.
  12. جھمکے دکھا کے طور کو جن نے جلا دیا آئی قیامت ان نے جو پردہ اٹھا دیا اس فتنے کو جگا کے پشیماں ہوئی نسیم کیا کیا عزیز لوگوں کو ان نے سلا دیا اب بھی دماغ رفتہ ہمارا ہے عرش پر گو آسماں نے خاک میں ہم کو ملا دیا جانی نہ قدر اس گہر شب چراغ کی دل ریزئہ خزف کی طرح میں اٹھا دیا تقصیر جان دینے میں ہم نے کبھو نہ کی جب تیغ وہ بلند ہوئی سر جھکا دیا گرمی چراغ کی سی نہیں وہ مزاج میں اب دل فسردگی سے ہوں جیسے بجھا دیا وہ آگ ہورہا ہے خدا جانے غیر نے میری طرف سے اس کے تئیں کیا لگا دیا اتنا کہا تھا فرش تری رہ کے ہم ہوں کاش سو تونے مار مار کے آکر بچھا دیا اب گھٹتے گھٹتے جان میں طاقت نہیں رہی ٹک لگ چلی صبا کہ دیا سا بڑھا دیا تنگی لگا ہے کرنے دم اپنا بھی ہر گھڑی کڑھنے نے دل کے جی کو ہمارے کھپا دیا کی چشم تونے باز کہ کھولا درستم کس مدعی خلق نے تجھ کو جگا دیا کیا کیا زیان میر نے کھینچے ہیں عشق میں دل ہاتھ سے دیا ہے جدا سر جدا دیا میر تقی میر
  13. Dear OP: you have very low opinion of men around you. It’s not true at all of what you said above, there are plenty of people, both men and women who are chaste, moral, and adhere to certain ethical codes. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows inherent weakness of us, hence all He wants from us is to strive in His path, He doesn’t want us to see angels. Don’t expect anyone around you to be an immaculate Imam, because none of us are or can be that. As long as a person is not Fasiq, doesn’t insist on haram and unlawful, is honorable and is working towards improving his Deen, he should be good enough. Of course look for Islamic Kufu’ attributes in him but be realistic too.
  14. سنا ہے لوگ اُسے آنكھ بھر كے دیكھتے ہیں تو اس کے شہر میں‌کچھ دن ٹھہر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے ربط ہے اس کو خراب حالوں سے سو اپنے آپ کو برباد کرکے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے درد کی گاہک ہے چشمِ ناز اس کی سو ہم بھی اس کی گلی سے گزر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے اس کو بھی ہے شعر و شاعری سے شغف تو ہم بھی معجزے اپنے ہنر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے رات اسے چاند تکتا رہتا ہے ستارے بام فلک سے اتر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے دن کو اسے تتلیاں ستاتی ہیں سنا ہے رات کو جگنو ٹھہر کے دیکھتےہیں سنا ہے حشر ہیں‌اس کی غزال سی آنکھیں سنا ہے اس کو ہرن دشت بھر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے رات سے بڑھ کر ہیں‌کاکلیں اس کی سنا ہے شام کو سائے گزر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے اس کی سیہ چشمگی قیامت ہے سو اس کو سرمہ فروش آہ بھر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہےجب سے حمائل ہے اس کی گردن میں مزاج اور ہی لعل و گوہر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے اس کے بدن کی تراش ایسی ہے کہ پھول اپنی قبائیں کتر کے دیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے اس کے لبوں سے گلاب جلتے ہیں سو ہم بہار پہ الزام دھر کےدیکھتے ہیں سنا ہے آئینہ تمثال ہے جبیں اس کی جو سادہ دل ہیں‌اسے بن سنور کے دیکھتے ہیں بس اک نگاہ سے لٹتا ہے قافلہ دل کا سو راہ روانِ تمنا بھی ڈر کے دیکھتے ہیں وہ سرو قد ہے مگر بے گل مراد نہیں کہ اس شجر پہ شگوفے ثمر کے دیکھتے ہیں بس اك نگاہ سے لوٹا ہے قافلہ دل كا سو رہ روان تمنا بھی ڈر كے دیكھتے ہیں سنا ہے اس کے شبستاں سے متصل ہے بہشت مکیں‌ ادھر کے بھی جلوے اِدھر کے دیکھتے ہیں کسے نصیب کے بے پیرہن اسے دیکھے کبھی کبھی درودیوار گھر کے دیکھتے ہیں رکے تو گردشیں اس کا طواف کرتی ہیں چلے تو اس کو زمانے ٹھہر کے دیکھتے ہیں کہانیاں ہی سہی ، سب مبالغے ہی سہی اگر وہ خواب ہے تعبیر کرکے دیکھتے ہیں اب اس کے شہر میں‌ٹھہریں کہ کوچ کر جائیں فراز آؤ ستارے سفر کے دیکھتے ہیں‌‌ احمد فراز
  15. Maybe vaccine version 2 or 3. This version, even Pfizer CEO didn’t take it yet.
  16. OP: we all have been there (post teens, college, freedom, wandering minds, and uncontrollable desires). First know that you are not the only one in this, and neither the first, nor the last. Am sure every person you look around in the library, classroom, or the cafeteria is more or less on the same wavelength as you are. Hopefully this would take half of the air out of the victimhood that most Muslim observing young men and women have. Yes you are suffering because you are opting for halal, and trust me, others are suffering too, even if they have opted for haram, but it’s different sort of sufferings and challenges that come with living in the circle of haram, that thankfully you and I won’t want to deal with (have seen it up close so I’m saying it with surety). The most important gift that you could give yourself NOW, in these few years of college, is to learn and practice patience, restrain, sabr, self control, and calmness in the face of these real and present onslaughts of desires (with the seriousness and grit like there is no tomorrow). I can guarantee you (again from experience) this would prepare you and mitigate you from a million setbacks throughout your life. If you give in now, then let me tell you, those who become the self pleasure or porn addicts, won’t quit even if they get the most wonderful women as their wives. In other word marriage is an outlet, but won’t solve the bad-sexual-habits problems ever, and would likely affect your intimacy with your future wife(s). So if marriage is not in the sight now, know that Allah is giving you this time to prove to Him your manly worth (of resolve and steadfastness) which will mean you trust Him... and in due time, He will open the doors of wonders for you too fulfill your desires in halal ways aplenty. Just don’t go close to any filth or filthy people. Just don’t. I’m telling you this now, it’s a ring of fire, once it catches on you, it’s hard to let go. Just hang on for a few more years and it would be better than ever.
  17. Dear sister OP: after reading a whole bunch of responses, I’m wondering if he ever correctly explained to you the nature of timed marriage (it is called timed marriage for a reason)? One of the literal translations of timed marriage (aqd muta) is ‘marriage for entertainment’ (lose translation but you get the idea). Muslim men and women engage in lawful timed marriages for various reasons, but mostly the reasons revolve around getting halal / sanctioned male-female companionship and all the beautiful things that come with it, and there is noting wrong with it because it is halal in the religion favored by God Almighty. If you read the rules of timed marriage in Islam, and the wisdom behind those rules, it becomes very clear that muta’ is not intended for reproduction, it’s for recreation for both the woman and the man, without being in the realm of filth and forbidden. Although if the baby is born out of this marriage, baby is totally legit, and the rules of Islamic parenthood kick in. But when pregnancies happen (or even if they don’t happen but the muta’ marriages end at their due time), women mostly play it victim without letting it be known that their “real” intention was to make it permanent, but the man somehow cheated on them by agreeing to the original terms. In reality they are the one who have been dodgy here without letting their “hidden” intentions be known, hoping - just hoping, that they would be able to impress the man enough to lure him into permanent marriage. Again there is noting wrong with this as most timed marriages start with the best intentions to make them permanent eventually, but sour loser sentiments appear once one party takes it strictly as timed, while other is thinking to somehow strong arm it into permanent. I do hope that he explained all this to you. A Muslim woman would already know these things, but you coming from a non-Muslim background should had been coached by him beforehand. Like the rest of us, I don’t know 80% of the details between you both, but I sincerely hope he is not running away from his Islamic and human responsibility of a future fatherhood. Keeping you as wife is again a prerogative on the intention he had at the time of the “timed” marriage compared to your intentions versus what you agreed to at that time. Lastly many prayers for both of you to see the light of guidance and do what’s best for the three of you and your extended families.
  18. Alams are a bold statement of Shias of minority regions (Ind, Pak, Afg etc.) of exercising our God given choice of disassociating ourselves from the King’s versions of Islam and having our Sunni brothers learn that there always is another path in Islam that doesn’t go through over the dead bodies of millions of mazloomeen over the ages. All they need to do is knock at the door of the house hoisting alam, and ask.
  19. Sorry brother — my apologies.. Brother it is. I counted the number of years I didn’t take my religion serious and multiplied those with 365 days. The ruling of Ay. Sistani is that you should pray Qadha for the least amount that you calculated but I didn’t give myself benefit of doubt, although I did pray in those days, I want to lean on the side of extra, hence my simple math of non-serious years times 365 days = few thousand. I’m trying to do 85 raka daily (5 days worth). My totals are trickling down like Chiense torture, not fast at all but they are coming down for sure alhamdolillah. Disclaimer: I said earlier it reminds me of the Hashr day, because that’s where we’ll be making up for all of our wajib shortcomings. Don’t read too much into it.
  20. You are welcome sisters. In my teens, I know I didn’t take the salat as seriously as my parents wanted to. Typical pseudo serious attitude of religion, so I don’t exactly remember how many I prayed, and how many I missed in those days of willful defaults. So lately I started praying five days of Qadha salat a day, to make up for all those teens years. The total I’m trying to makeup is in four digits. Physically it’s exhilarating & tiring mixed with determination. Spiritually I can tell you this, anybody who wants to view the day of Hashr, start praying your Qadha salat like there is no tomorrow. The spiritual void that comes with missed salat can only be filled by making up for the missed salat, as no other ibadha can substitute for it.
  21. Salam everybody- I’m sure many of you are already doing it. I’m just throwing the idea out here, since once the planet is back on its feet & wheels, these remote days and the extra time many of us have would be over. Might as well put it to good use. During the COVID-19 days when many of us are either in virtual schools or logging in remote, away from the office, we are saving lots of commute times. I found these days to be perfect to makeup all of the qadha days of salat that we might have missed. Here’s a link that mentions only the wajib portions of the daily salat. https://m.facebook.com/AyatullahSayyidAliSistani/posts/656731054403701
  22. I think what you are talking about comes under the topic of safeguarding your honor, property, family, or self, from fatal harm. Islam being the logical religion, allows us to safeguard ourselves and take retaliatory measures if necessary. Logic also dictates that those who attempt to harm others in anyway, on whatever pretext, right or wrong, should be ready to receive the same treatment from their would be victims. So a husband attempting what you wrote above, could also become the victim of her or her acquaintance(s), before he could attempt something. Are you ready for that? Back to the main discussion. In marriage specially, violence rarely fixes things. Walking away or separation is immensely more viable than beating her or him red and blue in any day and age. IF someone is addicted to major sins, they would find ways to do them even with their broken ribs and fractured arms. Violence is never worth it.
  23. This sounds more like a Catholicism than Islam. In Islam, nobody is inherently sinner, it’s opposite in fact. Qur’an tells us that each one of us is born on the nature of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), meaning we are already connected to the divinity. It’s what we do during the duration of our lives that makes us sinners, by our own “hard work.” Answering your A and B, only a slight minority really watches or thinks before they speak. The rest of us just talk, write, or yell whatever first comes to our consciousness. Fix: follow the instructions of Sura al Mu’minun, https://Qur'an.com/23, and Dua Makarm ul-Akhlaq.
  24. After reading the sad ordeal of a couple who ended up in domestic violence situation .. Here are a couple of advices from a married brother of yours (me). I would rather have young men start orienting themselves now in order to mitigate such situations in future (you). First of all just know that, in Marriage, many things would likely make you mad, BUT that no situation, absolutely no situation, requires you to hit her. Even if God forbid someone is involved in major sins. Here’s why and how you won’t want to hurt her physically: 1. Women bodies are truly very fragile. Those who are married would know, even if you inadvertently hold her wrist hard enough, say pulling her back from a spilled hot coffee, the blue marks would remain on her wrist for days. 2. We men seldom realize how strong our blows or grips are, even when we may lovingly do those. Again scars remain for days. 3. Women are amazingly stronger than us when it comes to their immunity or after trauma healing. But their bodies are amazingly softer when it comes to damage with a trauma that comes through any means. I recently knew of a case when a woman was shoved by her husband, lightly and in a joking fashion, she hit the door and ended up hurting her skull, and had to go in surgery. 4. When in rage, the best course of action, always, is to leave the place. This is what Qur’an tells us anyway when it uses the word Dharaba in that popular ayat, which means walk away. Just leave the room, or the car, or the mall, or wherever you both are butt heading. Because chances are even a light stroke of yours, even though natural because you might be mad, could damage her physically. 5. Women’s preferred method of getting back at you are their words. And man, their words could roast you from inside and out. Keep your cool, even if your ears are on fire, you are getting heart burns, and about to throw up, just leave the place. Practice these three things and inshAllah, you would be saved from any long term regrets or embarrassments. One, start practicing to walk away from the situation of potential violence. Two, teach yourself that words can’t hurt you, neither can the taunting or the sarcasm. Three, God made us husbands, the source of Sukoon (peace, protection, calm, serenity) for our women. Any action or any word that goes against us providing this Sukoon to them, brings us lower than who we are.
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