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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. I am currently investing money in a retirement plan (Roth and 403b) and investing through Fidelity and TIAA-Cref. There are a lot of different mutual fund options where groups will invest money for you. It came to my attention that many of these are potentially haram because they may invest in businesses that are involved in haram. It is hard to know which companies are so certain mutual funds create filter based on principles to avoid this issue (social responsible investing or SRI). This issue was addressed and confirmed by marjas, such as Sistani: However, there are a few companies
  2. I haven't disputed the fact that God is perfectly capable of doing this. I am questioning about any evidence that humans "normally" lived this long.
  3. The reality is that life expectancy has gone way up, especially in the past 100 years. Either way, we are not talking about a few decades but 100s or even 1000s of years here. As is mentioned above: I just can't wrap my head around this to be honest.
  4. Wa laykum asalaam. Yes, I do. As I said though, I don't find it logically or religiously objectionable that Allah (swt) can do such a thing. I just find it strange to justify a worldview where in the past people normally lived this long. There are simply a lot of problems these hadith raise that I haven't seen answers for. It only is difficult believe because I can't make sense of it any historical context. As for it being in Jewish sources, I am not sure that it adds much to what has been said. I think you would hard pressed to find any independent evidence for the claims outside of i
  5. The hadith literature is filled with narratives of the past prophets living for extraordinary long periods of time. Although I do not find this logically disturbing (as God can prolong the life of any human), I do find it historically objectionable. Below is a list of some of the ages that have been described in hadith literature: In Shaykh Rizwan Arastu's book "God's Emissaries: From Adam to Jesus" he notes: One could as had suggested, say this was counted in months; however, this seems entirely ad hoc. To suggest that it was "normal" is also problematic in that it seems to co
  6. Salaam, While believing in religion and God necessarily entails belief in the "supernatural" and miracles, at times it can feel too much and inconsistent with the reality. While the history of our own prophet and Aimmah (peace be on them) seems rather mundane and believable, the stories of the prophets of old feel a bit different. Although many of the stories contain powerful moral lessons, we shouldn't be prone to interpret them as allegories, as we believe these prophets were real historical figures and the stories are real. I'll illustrate just a few of many examples from a great
  7. I think the crux of what the video is getting at is that a master can dissolve the slave's previous marriage (after an Iddah) and then make them under the "right hands possess" category, negating the need for a marriage. Some have the opinion that marriage contracts dissolve when someone becomes enslaved. I must admit ignorance on the ruling itself but a quick glance at some past shiachat threads shows it's not clear cut. I do think slavery rulings are largely ignored by many modern marja but it does have important consequences with ISIS people running around claiming this is halal and actuall
  8. Do you have a rough idea of how many people usually show up and what the demographics are (age, race, ethnicity etc...)?
  9. Salaam, Has anyone been involved recently that can share there experience and what one can expect from it?
  10. Has anyone been to the event and in particular the matrimonial program? I have heard a lot of conflicting views about it and would like more information. Did you find it to be a halal/appropriate way to meet people? Was there a predominant nationality represented only? What is average age of people there?
  11. Loved the rant IbnSina and the video was also wonderful Sumayyeh. Some more content to add to this discussion: https://realtruelove.wordpress.com/2013/10/29/love-is-a-verb-i-didnt-love-my-wife-when-we-got-married-the-real-truth-about-love/
  12. I wanted to share another article on this topic: http://popchassid.com/didnt-love-wife/ Sample... Well worth the read. Does anyone else have experiences to share or thoughts on the issue?
  13. I think it's harder to tell than you state. Most Muslims have never been in a relationship before so it's hard to pick up on what is important because of lack of experience. Especially with the rules and boundaries in the Islamic courtship process, it is harder to access than the western way where it becomes apparent much more easily. I think it also depends a lot on the person. Some people are more complex or picky and others are satisfied and fall in love rather easily. Some people know exactly what they want, others don't and rely on intangibles and feelings alone.
  14. The article up for discussion is this: http://lovehaqtually.com/2015/02/02/love-before-vs-after-marriage/ It basically divides the marriage approach to 3 categories: 1) Love comes after marriage 2) There must be the potential for love, but not necessarily love itself 3) Love is a must or it’s a no-go Where did you those of you married find yourself and how were your feeling like for your spouse before marriage? For those unmarried, which category do you place yourself?
  15. I was wondering if people could give their experiences on being apart of a dual career family where both men and women work. Another aspect of this is that many women want to work for reasons other than money and find their own sense of fulfillment in that (i.e not out of need). In fact, it seems like the majority of second generation girls are like this because they are raised to be educated and independent. They find the idea of being a housewife unfulfilling and something that can be simply balanced and supplemented. Do you guys and girls find it difficult to balance? Input from both side
  16. One of the problems with my post is obviously defining traditional and what that entails. "Traditional" means something different to different people. I am not interested in coming up with a definition really but I did address specifics. I have not defined them as good or bad a priori either as some here would seem to suggest. Also, the article magma is addressing got edited out earlier but I couldn't put it back in for some reason. Here is is again. I think its extreme in some ways but spot on in other ways: http://elitedaily.com/dating/relationship-emotionally-unavilable-woman/820429/
  17. A lot of this post is more personal/cultural over religious. Although religion should be a primary factor in selecting a spouse, compatibility on others levels are important too. While there a lot of intangible qualities we look for and experience during a relationship, a lot guys (and girls) look for "traditional" wife/motherly/cultural qualities as well. How do you guys feel about the following aspects of a women if she lacks some of these "traditional" qualities? 1. Career oriented and seeks fulfillment in the work place. 2. Has no skills or desire to be a traditional housewife. C
  18. May I recommend some of the short articles below. I think they will benefit you: http://www.yasminmogahed.com/category/relationships/beforemarriage/
  19. This questions depends a lot on how well the couple got to know each other, obviously. Did you only get married when you felt a feeling of love? Simply fulfilled your requirements for what you were looking for? Feel like friends maybe? When did you feel ready to say this is the right person?
  20. Please read through the posts on this site: http://www.yasminmogahed.com/category/relationships/beforemarriage/
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