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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. I am currently investing money in a retirement plan (Roth and 403b) and investing through Fidelity and TIAA-Cref. There are a lot of different mutual fund options where groups will invest money for you. It came to my attention that many of these are potentially haram because they may invest in businesses that are involved in haram. It is hard to know which companies are so certain mutual funds create filter based on principles to avoid this issue (social responsible investing or SRI). This issue was addressed and confirmed by marjas, such as Sistani: However, there are a few companies such as AMANA which also involves riba: However, if you review other rulings from Sistani, he allows investment into interest bearing bonds and acquiring interest from non-Muslim banks. Do we need to concern ourselves with this added emphasis on interest and, if so, to what extent?
  2. I haven't disputed the fact that God is perfectly capable of doing this. I am questioning about any evidence that humans "normally" lived this long.
  3. The reality is that life expectancy has gone way up, especially in the past 100 years. Either way, we are not talking about a few decades but 100s or even 1000s of years here. As is mentioned above: I just can't wrap my head around this to be honest.
  4. Wa laykum asalaam. Yes, I do. As I said though, I don't find it logically or religiously objectionable that Allah (swt) can do such a thing. I just find it strange to justify a worldview where in the past people normally lived this long. There are simply a lot of problems these hadith raise that I haven't seen answers for. It only is difficult believe because I can't make sense of it any historical context. As for it being in Jewish sources, I am not sure that it adds much to what has been said. I think you would hard pressed to find any independent evidence for the claims outside of it.
  5. The hadith literature is filled with narratives of the past prophets living for extraordinary long periods of time. Although I do not find this logically disturbing (as God can prolong the life of any human), I do find it historically objectionable. Below is a list of some of the ages that have been described in hadith literature: In Shaykh Rizwan Arastu's book "God's Emissaries: From Adam to Jesus" he notes: One could as had suggested, say this was counted in months; however, this seems entirely ad hoc. To suggest that it was "normal" is also problematic in that it seems to contradict what we know about the world and how it was. I don't see a shred of evidence outside these hadith that humans had lived that long normally. Any suggestions about how to view all of this information?
  6. Salaam, While believing in religion and God necessarily entails belief in the "supernatural" and miracles, at times it can feel too much and inconsistent with the reality. While the history of our own prophet and Aimmah (peace be on them) seems rather mundane and believable, the stories of the prophets of old feel a bit different. Although many of the stories contain powerful moral lessons, we shouldn't be prone to interpret them as allegories, as we believe these prophets were real historical figures and the stories are real. I'll illustrate just a few of many examples from a great book recently published by Sheikh Rizwan Arastu "God's Emmissaries: Adam to Jesus." I will provide sources for any of these upon request. Woman during the time of Noah menstruated yearly, instead of monthly People did not grow gray hair until Abraham did Mary was miraculously transported to Karbala to give birth, while Musa was transported there to receive his prophethood. Solomon commanded an army of jinns, birds and talked to ants. The entire Nile river turned to blood, but only to the disbelievers. When the believers drank from it, it was clear water. Noah lived 2500 years and most of the other prophets of old lived at least few hundred years old (without seemingly any comments from the population). ------------------------- These are to just name a few of several stories. I have found it hard to understand many of stories in historical context and many modern historians have their own scathing criticisms of these prophets and their stories (such as Exodus, the flood etc..), albeit from a Biblical perspective. At first, I was nervous and perhaps even ashamed to make a thread like this. Most people seem to read these narratives and it has little effect on their certainty of Islam. It makes one feel their faith is deficient and by pointing out difficulties, you are insulting the religion and scripture and demeaning God's ability . However, I wish to be honest with myself that such stories do cause doubts for me and haven't sat well with me for years. If someone were to ask me to defend and make sense of many of these stories and histories, I would have a lot of trouble doing so and feel it to be unnatural. I have always craved a faith that is perfect and can have certainty without having lingering doubts and things swept under the mental rug. Although certainty none of these are core Islamic tenets, they are in our tradition and we have to deal with them. How would do you guys deal with stories like these? How do you guys deal with Islamic issues that go against what you deep down inside think is right?
  7. I think the crux of what the video is getting at is that a master can dissolve the slave's previous marriage (after an Iddah) and then make them under the "right hands possess" category, negating the need for a marriage. Some have the opinion that marriage contracts dissolve when someone becomes enslaved. I must admit ignorance on the ruling itself but a quick glance at some past shiachat threads shows it's not clear cut. I do think slavery rulings are largely ignored by many modern marja but it does have important consequences with ISIS people running around claiming this is halal and actually practicing it. So I guess the two fiqhi questions this video brings up (and why I put in Islamic Laws section) are these: 1) Does enslavement entail or give the master the right to dissolve previous marriage contracts? 2) Is consent required for conjugal relations for slaves?
  8. Do you have a rough idea of how many people usually show up and what the demographics are (age, race, ethnicity etc...)?
  9. Salaam, Has anyone been involved recently that can share there experience and what one can expect from it?
  10. Has anyone been to the event and in particular the matrimonial program? I have heard a lot of conflicting views about it and would like more information. Did you find it to be a halal/appropriate way to meet people? Was there a predominant nationality represented only? What is average age of people there?
  11. Loved the rant IbnSina and the video was also wonderful Sumayyeh. Some more content to add to this discussion: https://realtruelove.wordpress.com/2013/10/29/love-is-a-verb-i-didnt-love-my-wife-when-we-got-married-the-real-truth-about-love/
  12. I wanted to share another article on this topic: http://popchassid.com/didnt-love-wife/ Sample... Well worth the read. Does anyone else have experiences to share or thoughts on the issue?
  13. I think it's harder to tell than you state. Most Muslims have never been in a relationship before so it's hard to pick up on what is important because of lack of experience. Especially with the rules and boundaries in the Islamic courtship process, it is harder to access than the western way where it becomes apparent much more easily. I think it also depends a lot on the person. Some people are more complex or picky and others are satisfied and fall in love rather easily. Some people know exactly what they want, others don't and rely on intangibles and feelings alone.
  14. The article up for discussion is this: http://lovehaqtually.com/2015/02/02/love-before-vs-after-marriage/ It basically divides the marriage approach to 3 categories: 1) Love comes after marriage 2) There must be the potential for love, but not necessarily love itself 3) Love is a must or it’s a no-go Where did you those of you married find yourself and how were your feeling like for your spouse before marriage? For those unmarried, which category do you place yourself?
  15. I was wondering if people could give their experiences on being apart of a dual career family where both men and women work. Another aspect of this is that many women want to work for reasons other than money and find their own sense of fulfillment in that (i.e not out of need). In fact, it seems like the majority of second generation girls are like this because they are raised to be educated and independent. They find the idea of being a housewife unfulfilling and something that can be simply balanced and supplemented. Do you guys and girls find it difficult to balance? Input from both sides appreciated!
  16. One of the problems with my post is obviously defining traditional and what that entails. "Traditional" means something different to different people. I am not interested in coming up with a definition really but I did address specifics. I have not defined them as good or bad a priori either as some here would seem to suggest. Also, the article magma is addressing got edited out earlier but I couldn't put it back in for some reason. Here is is again. I think its extreme in some ways but spot on in other ways: http://elitedaily.com/dating/relationship-emotionally-unavilable-woman/820429/
  17. A lot of this post is more personal/cultural over religious. Although religion should be a primary factor in selecting a spouse, compatibility on others levels are important too. While there a lot of intangible qualities we look for and experience during a relationship, a lot guys (and girls) look for "traditional" wife/motherly/cultural qualities as well. How do you guys feel about the following aspects of a women if she lacks some of these "traditional" qualities? 1. Career oriented and seeks fulfillment in the work place. 2. Has no skills or desire to be a traditional housewife. Cannot cook or clean. Has relied on parents/society for such things. 3. Emotionally cutoff. Does not readily express or communicate emotions. Will keep things bottled up inside or not sure how to express them. 4. Is not the affectionate/nurturing type. More logical and less sentimental in thinking. 5. Very independent. Does not depend on husband and others for fulfillment. 6. Outgoing and active. Does not want to stay at the home. Constantly planning new activities to do. Are some of them positives or negatives? How important are the above qualities to you? Input from married people are especially appreciated.
  18. May I recommend some of the short articles below. I think they will benefit you: http://www.yasminmogahed.com/category/relationships/beforemarriage/
  19. This questions depends a lot on how well the couple got to know each other, obviously. Did you only get married when you felt a feeling of love? Simply fulfilled your requirements for what you were looking for? Feel like friends maybe? When did you feel ready to say this is the right person?
  20. Please read through the posts on this site: http://www.yasminmogahed.com/category/relationships/beforemarriage/
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