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  1. As salaamun aleikum, Personally, its exhausting and stressfull. I already have too many demands outside of my marriage that drain me of my life force and soul, and the LAST thing I want to do is to go to 10 places on the few days I am not overwhelmed with my other responsinilities, but I relent...and I go...and at times I end up in a "negative grouchy" mood simply cuz I don’t like being out and around in society in general, basically cuz I can’t stand being bombarded by the immorality everywhere, the constant blasting of music in practically every store we go to, and EVEN AT THE GAS STATIONS NOW Im just not a people person, nor do I like the inevitable and unavoidable nuances that accompany being around tons of people..I mean, how COULD I? Im barely able to keep my head above water after dealing with my family for 3 days. Anyway, im an extreme introvert, I like nothing better than staying in and reading or studying, but my husband HAS to get out at everyday, even on days im exhausted, so I go...cuz I think its the right thing to do. My idea of going out, is to run to the hills, mountains, country, go hiking and GET AWAY from all the chaos but...we don’t do that cuz hes sure mountain lions are lurking behind every single tree, bush, or blade of grass and we will end up slaughtered, so....thats just not an option for us. People need to definetly find out how much "alone" time each other needs, as well as what each others ideas of "going out" consists of. Otherwise, you could be in for some extra unnecessary stress in life if youre not able to find a way to balance things. This is a relatively small issue, and not a deal breaker, im just showing that there can definetly be some form of conflict when merging these 2 opposite personality types. It really comes down to finding the balance of mutual sacrifice and compromise, if the couple is able to do so. In all honesty, some don’t have the patience or maturity to do it... Just keeping it real. W/s
  2. Assalamualaikum, I'm with brother @Ralvi on this one. And I wish I could give you direct links or references for this, but I can't, but I have heard from a personal trusted source that Allama tabatabai was of the thought that animals DO have the ability to choose to some degree, so DO have the ability to go beyond the boundaries accorded to their specific specie. For example, you can have a wolf that's a regular wolf that lives its life doing what wolves do and in accordance with its fitra, but you can also have a wolf that's excessively aggressive, and that wolf that is excessively aggressive can be seen to be outside the bounds of whats allowed for a wolf's nature, according to its fitra, so it would be transgressing if it goes beyond those limits. I will see if I can get my source to provide more concrete info for you,in sha Allah. W/s
  3. As salaamun aleimum, Its importance is also mentioned in the big book "Call on Me, I Answer You" Suplications, Prayers and Ziyarats which is selected from Mafateehul-Jinaan/ Abbas bin Muhammad Reza al Qummi, Qom/Ansariyan Press. (Not that this means much) W/s
  4. As salaamun aleikum, But doesnt the Qur'an say that for those who do good deeds etc. there is no worry for them in general? Also, its generally known that in Islam that there are non Muslims who are "better" in deed and character than actuall Muslims, plus, isnt it that the people who were never exposed to Islam, will be judged according to what they DID know and how they behaved accordingly? Im refering to thise whose exposure to Islam wasnt convincing to their aql that it was the correct way, or whatever they WERE exposed to was corrupted, wahabbist backwards thinking that actuall Muslims find apalling? See, for me, the thing about buddhism and even hinduism is, pretty much anything humans get their hands on is eventually going to end up becoming tainted or corrupted.Even elements of Islam have become tainted and corrupted, even our beloved Shiism, but to what degree, I can not say. I personally believe that Buddhism and Hinduism all had monotheistic roots and that they were divinely revealed, it's just that they became so corrupted, that Allah has chosen not to even mention them as people of the book in the Qur'an. That's just where I'm coming from. I don't have any background in any type of religious study or anything like that, it's just looking into and reading some of what they have to offer, there's truth in it. You can't deny that, and where does truth come from and what is Truth? Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)... Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) sent mankind 124000 Prophets, and He said He sent them to every people. I don’t think its a big stretch that He sent Prophets to the Indus Valley people but they eventually corrupted the message and crrated the Hinduism we know today. The same with Buddhism. Before I converted to Islam, I even studied Native Americans religions and philosophies because I'm part native American. There's elements of tawheed in that too. Do I think for one second that Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) neglected the entire Native American nation and didnt send Prophets to them? No, of course He did. It's just that the message became corrupted, just like everything else people manage to get their hands on for the most part. It's just like that game of telephone they taught us back in elementary school. You start out with one message and 30 kids later you've got a completely different message. In one areas people, they ended up with 5000+gods, and in the other, tbey ended up with "0", lol..Leave it to humans, lol W/s
  5. As salaamun aleikum, Brother, can you give some tips about how to actually put what you have said it into action when constantly I see so much oppression happening on a worldly level as well as in my day-to-day life? I see the suffering that is happening in Palestine, Yemen, Syria, and everywhere else in the world, then I see local suffering with the homeless population increasing, multiples of families with many children living in small cars with their parents who arent even able to feed them, the progression of alcohol and drug use, the immorality of the media encouraging the further decline of humans into a state of animalistic existence,the suffering from the unnecessary illnesses that manifest many times because corrupted agnecies allow poisons and toxins to be pumped into our food supply, (at least here in America) resulting in everything from cancers to diabetes, and multiple other problems... I understand that Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has created everything,including what we view as "good" and "evil", and I understand it is us humans ourselves who are imposing this oppression,injustice and pain upon each other, it's just hard to have the view that you stated in your post while seeing these things constantly around me. From one day to the next, their is more and more human made oppression, hurt, death, etc. being unnecessarily committed and perpetrated, and what I mean by unnecessarily is, its due to people following their lowly desires and tabiat and literally treating each other worse than animals do.. I know that as Muslims, when we give charity, it's good for our akhira and our worldly existence as well as we are giving the poor person their "right" islamically speaking, so these horrible conditions give us the opportunity to "shine" as Muslims, build our akhira, and allows us to practice our religion, but it still doesn't make me feel any better or have a better view of the world and it's horrid condition. So yes, Allah has created this universe and much more, in His ultimate wisdom, and His attributes of Mercy, Justice, etc. are always manifesting, and He has created everything good, but how do you go from where I am at mentally and seeing the reality that people are suffering and in pain and I HATE it to be happening, and it hurts to see their pain, what is a tangible, doable way from me to transition from how I see things into what you have posted above? This is an honest question and it's something I struggle with day to day. I was told recently that the reason why I am suffering in this way is because I have not completely submitted to Allah, in other words, accepting and understanding my nothingness my helplessness, how hardly ANYTHING is actually within "my control", and how there's nothing BUT Allah, and that as long as I fail to accept that and don’t actually submit to it, I will continue to suffer, and I wont advance spiritually. Regardless of my own personal spiritual journey and its bumps, trials and challenges I need to overcome, the reality is that people ARE suffering, and I don’t see how this very truth is going to make me think positively about this world we live in W/s
  6. As salaamun aleikum, If im not mistaken, all Sufi orders trace their "lineage/start" back to Imam Ali(عليه السلام) except for one order, and can’t remember their name at the moment. They trace theirs back to Abu Bakr, if I remember correctly, but as for "inception", I can not help you there. Sorry. W/s
  7. As salaamun aleikum, Lol, to be honest, im getting really sick of all this literalist views of what jannah is going to be like...its like, chill already with the houris, virgins, slaves, eating all you want, and all this other over indulgence stuff.. Its like, if thats what someone needs to propell them to behave in this world then fine, but my personal missin is to get past all this fleeting distractions and animalistic desires of this lower existence and IN SHA Allah attain SOME level of spiritual enlightenment, no matter how small on the grand scale of things it may be, but im sure as heck not going to live out my life hoping that once I die, im going to be swingin in some land of religiously condoned corporeal lusts But to each their own. Now I will just sit back and wait to be attacked by the literalists who are literally dieing to meet their million "houris in wait" --.-- W/s
  8. As salaamun aleikum, Ive always been a bird lover, had MANY different kinds as pets, but after the AMAZING and unparalleled relationship and bond I shared with a fledgling crow I rescued and was blessed with having in my life for 8 years, if I could be ANY bird on Earth, it would DEFINETLY be of the Corvid family, either a crow or their larger relative, the raven. They are extremelly smart, they enjoy playing, are omnivorous, and function at the age of a 3-4 year old child, they can learn to speak and are really good at mimicking other sounds. What a great question:) W/s
  9. @Ashvazdanghe Thanks for this post brother It made me so happy to see her in Iran!!! W/s
  10. As salaamun aleikum, Quick question- are these 12 leaders the same as the 12 tribes/children of Prophet Yaqoob? Im curious, cuz if so, those guys were off to a bad start right out the gate considering 11 of them threw their brother, the Prophet Yusuf, in a well and left him for dead That doesnt really mean anything tho, cuz the Qur'an makes distinctions such as "My convenant doesnt include the unrighteous", as well as "I am with you. If you establish prayer and give zakah and believe in My messengers and support them and loan Allah a goodly loan,..." etc.And whatever happened to the lineage of Prophet Yusuf?? He had at least 1 child, maybe more... W/s
  11. MY understanding of it is, the "face/wajh" of Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) means "what is apparent", just like our faces are apparent to each other. So, the ayatt, "everywhere you turn, there is the face of Allah", refers to what has been made apparent to us of His Names/manifestations, and that everywhere and anywhere we "look", there is not a place or thing that is Allah-less, as everything is a manifestation of Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). W/s
  12. @notme youre right, its 89th percentile. I got 8/10 as well... W/s
  13. As salaamun aleikum dear sister, Sorry its taken me so long to get back to you! The thing I probably spend too much time doing, is being aware of worldly goings ons, politically speaking. Putting together the giant web that has been woven by particular peoples with specific agendas, figuring out whos running things and how...becoming familiar with the different tactics they use to mislead the masses...I guess you could say learning all I can about the enemy, so when the Imam comes, I can recognize him, not only by what he is and what he does, but also by what he DOESNT do. There are hadith saying that a good portion of Muslims will reject him on account of them not "recognizing" him. I believe this has a lot to do with most people/Muslims at that time not being able to discern truth from falsehood, as falsehood is very often clothed in the garb of goodness that appeals to our fitra. I would give specific examples and names of organizations that use these "fitra attractive names", but im not comfortable doing so. Anyhow, aside from working on myself and striving to gain a better working practice of tawheed in my everyday life, this is what I do. Thanks for asking:) W/s
  14. As salaamun aleikum, Being Shia Farm Girl, this works for me..
  15. I can touch,smell, taste, etc because Allah is: Ar Rahman,(The Mercifull, its His mercy manifesting through the senses given to us) Ar Rahim, (His compassion is manifesting tjrough these senses) Al Baseer (reading brail, for example) Al Muqeet (The Maintainer of our abilities) Al Kareem, Al Hakim (we learn through all our senses) Al Wadud (these senses are granted to us as He is the All Loving and his lovingness is manifested through our use of these faculties) and on and on... Allahs Names do need to manifest in the most obvious ways, such as Al Baseer=seeing. He IS Al Lateef, (The Subtle) so sometimes seeing Allah in actions may not be so obvious or cut and dry as it is with the first 3 in the example given. This is how I understand things to be, but im open to different takes and perspectives. W/s
  16. As salaamun aleikum, Something I read recently proposed that the returning that we do is by our choice/will in the sense that we can either choose to live a life of complete disregard and non- recognition of our reality, which would be that we are seperate, and are our "own selves", and Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is oitside us somewhere in some fashion, therefore persisting in the false idea of duality (technically shirk) or, instead, choose to recognize and return to our TRUE reality, which is that we are nothing BUT Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), which is nothing more than different combinations of Allahs (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) Names which make up each of our unique, personal constitutions.. Each of us is different in the sense that we are like the channels on an equalizer. Some people are more treble, less midrange, tiny bit of bass, or any other type of combination of these, but of course, the Names of Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) are much more than just 3 channels,lol. Anyhow, we each have our own unique Names constitution. Our job is to infuse ourselves with and manifest as many of His names in the best ways possible while we are here. Anyhow, by recognizing our true reality, we are returning to Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). This is something I read lately, and am still pondering and looking into this perspective. Im not claimimg to be correct, just providing another view. I know there are many other angles that I could be presented with showing this may not be correct, such as "how can all actions be returned to Allah if this is the case", so I don’t profess to "know" anything, really. Im just here to learn and investigate. W/s
  17. As salaamun aleikum, yes you can procede to keep your fast for the day, in sha Allah with the intention of doing it for Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) as long as you havent done anything to invalidate it. W/s
  18. As salaamun aleikum, All actions emanate form Allahs Names. We "see", but the power of seeing is Allahs- He is the real Seer. Of course our intentions are judged, but I am beyond that point. Im looking at the active action of seeing and Who is really doing it... W/s
  19. ﭛ ﭜ ﭝ ﭞﭟ ﭠ ﭡ ﭢ ﭣ ﭤﭥ ﭦ ﭧ ﭨ ﭩ SAHIH INTERNATIONAL And you did not kill them, but it was Allah who killed them. And you threw not, [O Muhammad], when you threw, but it was Allah who threw that He might test the believers with a good test. Indeed, Allah is Hearing and Knowing.
  20. As salaamun akeikum, havent seen you here in a while. Hope all is well, in sha Allah:bye::)


    1. Sisterfatima1


      She got married 

    2. shia farm girl

      shia farm girl

      Oh, MASHAALLAH! Alhamdulilah, so shes busy:clap::)

      Whew, thats a relief:) 

      Thanks for the info sister.


  21. Melatonins great and safe. I don’t know how much youre using, but ive used up to 20mg before and been ok, just a lil tired the next day. I used that amount when I quit using the other stuff I was using and stepped down to 5-10mg per night. The science says somewhere between 1 to 3 mg should be sufficient for people, but not all of us are the same and I found 5 to 10 to be the most effective for me. It doesn't at all help with my constant waking up in the middle of the night, like last night, I woke up every hour for the first five hours. Needless to say I'm burned out as heck today. Be super careful with the Benadryl, especially if you're taking them regularly and a lot at a time. I used to take up the seven pills per night just to fall asleep, and the next day was literal hell for me because of The Hangover effect, but that's the least of my concerns when it comes to Benadryl. Any of the drugs that have the word "anti" in front of them, like antihistamine anti-nausea anti-anxiety Etc, almost ALL of them deplete the brain of acetylcholine. They have been linked to dementia and Alzheimer's later on in life. A quick google search will turn up many medical journal articles about it. Theyre dangerous. When I found out the link, I dropped all those drugs. My mother has dementia, and I'm telling you, it's a horror for us as a family to go through, and I have no idea how hard it must be for her personally. All I know is she repeatedly tells me that she wishes she was dead, she wishes life was over, she says life has gone on for too long, and then she asks me if I ever just wish life would end The Dr... put her on medication for this, and it made things worse. I think it's just the fact that someone who can't remember things past 2 minutes, doesn't know where they're at, doesn't recognize people, doesn't understand why things are going on around them, can’t follow converstaions through, and so on and so forth is enough to make a person want to die I don't think that's the kind of thing that's relieved by anti depression meds cuz shes still going to have the same problems ! She repeats everything she says after 2 minutes maximum. Everything. Same questions, same concerns, over and over and over and over and over ad infinitum. And there's many more problems too, but this isn't the thread for me to dump all the stresses of having a family member w dementia and the horrors of what thats like..Dementias not a joke, and I personally recommend getting off of any of that stuff because it's a special kind of hell that none of us ever want to experience. All I'm saying, is at least dump the Benadryl, esp if it doesnt work. If you've got to take the prescription anti-anxiety meds, then take them in the least amount as possible, or, like sister @starlight said, if the drugs arent working, have yourself reevaluated and get them changed. I know there are antidepressant meds out there that do not cause dementia, I was on one of them once, but whether that particular one would work for you or not is between you and your doctor's and of course, a matter of trial and error. So I'm not trying to scare you by telling this, I'm just giving you some truth about the side effects of some of these meds. I don't know anything about Prozac so I'm not going to speak on that. Just please be carefull with your brain, its the only one you have. Oh, one last thing, if you've been taking these drugs readily, like every night, and then you stop, be it slowly or cold turkey, at first, you're going to have more problems falling asleep than you did before. That's normal. When I stopped taking the stuff I took, it took me about four or five days before I could finally fall asleep without taking anything other than melatonin. My sleep is completely jacked up, but eventually I was able to fall asleep w/o prescription meds/benadryl etc. The first 4-5 nights, I didn't get ANY sleep at all, I tossed and turned, I was a miserable person the next day, so just be on the lookout for that if you do decide to drop these things. Don't just go through a night or two of sleeplessness and then decide you MUST go back and take them again, because then you'll just end up in a never-ending cycle of taking them. You've got to get through the first few nights before you will feel anybrelief and for your body to regain its homeostasis, and essentially, to detox. Even if the meds aren't working, our brains build get used to having them there, so when we stop, the brain doesn't know what to do and has to start readjusting itself to function without it, so even though the medication is not working for you, there is still the issue of your brain needing to adjust to it not being there. Everything I said may not apply to you at all, and I sincerely hope it doesnt, but because I don't really know what your usage of these products are, I'm responding according to the life knowledge I currently have, so I apologize if I have spoken wrongfully. W/s
  22. As salaamun aleikum brother, Warning: Really long post coming,lol.. I first want to offer you 2 narrations from Imam Ali(عليه السلام). "There is enough light for those who want to see". And... "Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it, and your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire Universe. You are indeed the Evident Book, by whose alphabet the Hidden becomes Manifest. Therefore you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect "- Ali Ibn Abu Talib. Just so you know, Ive been in your shoes many times. Few things I learned: Meds for depression can help, but don’t make them a permanent part of your life unless its absolutely necessary, and make sure to ween off of them appropriately and carefully when its time. Many of them cause weight gain which can bring on a whole slough of new problems but if theyre necessary, theyre necessary. For your anxiety, avoid prescription antianxiety meds if you can as they can cause addiction,dementia and alzheimers in later life due to the depletion of acetylcholine they cause during use. Before resorting to those, try a good L-Theanine supplement. Its an amino acid found in tea and works to take the edge off. Science has found it puts the brain waves into the state common in meditators who have been practicing meditation for YEARS. It also slightly lowers blood pressure. Ive found for myself, 200-300mg works very well. I use an online supplier and buy it bulk. Its MUCH cheaper than vitamin stores. L-Theanine is a really safe alternative, but consult your Dr.. if youre already on bloodpressure lowering meds or have naturally low bp. My average bp is between 102 and 112. Even at these low levels, L Theanine has been safe, but thats just me. Make informed decisions about what you put in your body EXERCISE is a BIG one, and many people don’t get enough. For me, getting away from EVERYONE, going on long hikes and doing dhikr, making dua, learning new surahs, streaming Islamic lectures, etc. help to take the "worldly/dunya-I" aspect out of the activity and make it Allah-hi in nature. I found physical activity to be what is missing everytime I end up in your shoes....And it always helps to pull me out. Mind you, im not talking about a short walk around the block. Get out there and take a SERIOUS, STRENUOUS hike, or mountain bike ride..like, a REAL one...This will help relieve your anxiousness and restlessness. Supplementing with weighlifting or even just calisthenics/resistance training at least every other day will serve the same purpose, but you gotta push yourself. don’t just pick up some 5# dumbells for 10 mins and call it a day. Challenge yourself and REALLY work out. (Of course, take your current physical condition into consideration. If you are super out of shape, you should consult your Dr.. before doing anything. We want you to have a nice, long life devoted to serving Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)and engaging here on Shia Chat. Many times when we experience restlessness, stress, anxiety, etc it's because our body is trying to tell us that it needs something that we are not giving it. Our human history has been one of physical activity and hard manual labor, and a sedentary lifestyle is a more recent phenomenon, which is causing many problems for people's health in pretty much every aspect. If you are interested in seeking professional help, find an Islamic counselor, because they know and understand our trials, whereas secular psychologists just don’t. Theyre good for the basics of psychology, but in my experience, they do not understand the struggle, especially when it comes to religious obligations and things like that. There is a sheikh I know of who has a website, and he is the resident molauna at a local Masjid in my general area. I don't know where you're located, but this brother is located in Bay area of California. His name is Sheikh Hadi Yaseen. You can Google him if you want to go that route. I don't know what services he offers, maybe he does live stream, I don’t know, but I've heard really great things from people in my community about him. One more thing I want to mention is, it's very common for people of all faiths and beliefs to think that when we are experiencing the "high" in our spirituality, that that is the end goal and that's what we're trying to achieve and to "feel" all the time. The truth of the matter, and I only recently arrived at this through guidance and then reflection and finally experiencing it, is we have misinterpreted the goal and have created expectations of what we THINK our spiritual experience "should be". Spirituality is not about being on a continuous high and feeling good about our practice and what's going on inside us all the time. True spirituality is accepting that we have highs and lows and everything in between and experiencing them when they come, to be in appreciation for them when they happen (ALL of them, not just the good/positive moments.)Were not meant to always "feel it", if you know what I mean, and to expect that causes us to end up in a never ending cycle of "want/don’t want", meaning, we are constantly wanting to be on that spiritual High, and the rest of the time NOT wanting to be experiencing the lows, and everything else in between. Rather we need to strive to recognize and accept whatever the experience is at that time and continue onward and forward, knowing that its just a feeling/experience and it too will pass. The one thing we cannot do, is let our faith go when we're feeling down in the dumps. That's the time we have to press through, if we don’t, we will feel worse for NOT pressing through. I have many days where all I'm really able to do is the wajib requirements. Then, I have days where I am constantly in remembrance of Allah and His attributes and I feel great! THOSE are the times scholars, ullema, arifs, what have you, encourage us to make the best use of, whenever it comes, for however long it lasts. Offer those extra rakats, read those long supplications, extend your prostration, do salatal layle, etc. But don’t FORCE yourself to do those things when you are in a state of malaise and spiritually low. When the "high" comes, roll with it, cuz the "other" days will come as well, as you know...For me, the "low" days are when I struggle to keep my mind off of the Dunya and its overwhelming problems and almost completly forget Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and my true identity. It's just the nature and the reality of things. None of us are free from it, but we can learn to "work it" so it doesnt "work us". Another thing I want to say, is try not to fall into the Trap of feeling guilty that just because you are not suffering in a war-torn country, that all your problems should be easy. Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has placed each and every single one of us in our lives in the positions and situations we are in for reasons known only to Him, and our challenges are all different, butvwe WILL, all of us, be tried. It says in the Qur'an our striving is diverse. And that doesn't just mean that we all have different jobs, LOL. Each of our lives have our own individual challenges that we have to overcome, we just need to turn to Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and ask Him for the strength, knowledge, skill, will, persistence, etc to persevere and that He grants us success. Keep in mind sometimes our success lies in what we perceive as failure, it just all depends on where our ultimate kheyr lies, so just because the brother in this video says all his problems vanished when he became Muslim, be sure he's going to have other trials, you can count on it. My biggest trials didn't come until after I was Muslim four maybe five years, and THEN stuff started happening in my life that was really trying for me, and is STILL happening. Back in the beginning, I thought I had it all together, but the fact of the matter was, I hadnt really been being tried yet. The early part of my conversion was more a time of gathering information and learning about the deen, and then once I had enough to go on and work with, THATS when my challenges came and that's when I had to put what I learned to work. But that's just MY story. Each of our stories is different and for whatever the reason is, these are your trials. I know it sounds cliche to say "embrace them", but there really isn't any other way around it. You know in your heart of hearts leaving the religion is not the thing to do, so don't do it. Try and just accept the Ebb and the flow and be appreciative for them, and know that they won't last. Imam Ali says, there are two days we have--one is for you, but don't get too happy about it, and another is against you, but don't be too upset or depressed about it, as neither of them last. (Sorry, paraphrasing here, but you get my point.) I pray Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) guides you to your peace, in sha Allah. W/s
  23. Salaam sister @starlight Thanks for the advice, you make a very good point. If I could go back and do it all over, I would be more proactive with how I took the meds. Im not sure when I will be able to try it again as they were meds that my husband brought back from Iran where they are OTC whereas here, they are prescription only and my insurance doesnt cover them...they cost a CRAZY amount of money out of pocket:( Alhamdulilah, one of the problems that has been wearing on my mind for YEARS now may be resolved next week, IN SHA Allah. It wouldnt suprise me if I sleep better after this os taken care of. W/s
  24. A salaam alaikum, I have this problem too. I have two different issues going on, my circadian rhythm is way off, and on top of that, my mind is very active, so right when im about to fall asleep, some problems in my life jump into my mind and it startles me and wakes me up.! So I have sleep onset issues, as well as sleep maintenance issues. There have been times in the past where I was taking pharmaceuticals but I end up hungover way into the next day and I cannot live my life like that. Besides that, those medications have been proven to contribute to dementia and Alzheimer's in the future. Right now I'm dealing with melatonin, but I still don't fall asleep until 3, and I I wake up every hour, so I'm not really getting good deep sleep, making waking up for morning prayer one of the most difficult if not impossible things I face in my day-to-day life. I want to fix this, but I don't really know how. When the month of Ramadan comes around, things actually seem to get worse because I end up staying awake all the way until morning prayer, because I would rather stay awake and offer morning prayer than miss it start my fast off with a sin. It just seems like missing morning prayer simply due to a sleep issue would invalidate the fast right out the gate. I look forward to seeing answers on here from other people that may have overcome this. W/s
  25. @Son of Placid Thanks for your input! You said a lot and provided different views and possibilities, which to me is great. Im fascinated and interested in learning, so the more info, tbe better. I totally get your point about the human physical body being useless in the next realm/afterlife, as well as it being a logical difficulty to accept, at least for me, because personally, I have a tendency to see "ascension" as a spiritual change to a higher one of existence not dependent so much on matter, therefore not a fully physical one. Ive always had an issue with the idea of having a physical body in any manner after death, when from all ive gathered, the next realm will at the very least, be semi immaterial. I have no problem with believing we will have a "body" of sorts, with possibly color, shape, size, etc, but I have problems accepting that it will be fully physical in nature and structure. Revelations is pretty intense and obscure. I remember my younger years, when I was Catholic, and later when I became non denominational Christian, Revelations always stood out to me due to its nature. Every once in a while, I give it a partial read here and there, thinking that since im older now, and God willing, a bit wiser than I was when younger, I may be able to benefit from it now. Thanks for your response!
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