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shia farm girl

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  1. As salaamun aleikum, Well, honestly what annoys me the most is not someone elses issues w hijab be they male or female. Of course it makes me sad for their own souls sake, cuz honestly, their own soul is the only thing that's getting harmed. Whether someone else is affected by that person's outwardly behavior is completely dependent upon how that other person allows someone else to affect their thinking and application of Islam in their lives. So yes, Islam is a religion of keeping care of society's well-being and health, however, someone cannot be hurt by someone else's actions unless they allow it to be so. Bad hijab, smoking hookah or not, how does that practically affect another human being? Only in the way they allow it to, so if some woman with bad hijab leads a man to commit Haram, he himself is responsible for his actions. Shoulda cast down his gaze. The same with some brother smoking hookah, does that mean a sister who sees him do that has to fall into that same trap? No it doesn't. Each is responsible for their own actions. The same goes with non-Muslims. I'm not going to deny the fact that as creatures, we are affected by what we see, cuz we are, but as Muslims, were a step ahead of the average person because we're aware of this. Unfortunatley, most all people fall victim to watching commercials and falling for it, or seeing sparkly nice glittery things of the Dunya in the store and feel compelled to go and buy them. All this advertisement stuff that the average person falls for, we SHOULD be a step ahead of them because we know we're supposed to cast down our gaze and not desire these things. The rest of the society who arent Muslim are at loss in this manner, however if they used their aql, they too could arrive at the fact that what they see "advertised" DOES have a compelling affect on them, however,,they have a choice whether to be lead towards that advertised item or not, so they themselves have the potential ability to prevent and protect themselves from falling victim to their senses and sensuality. All a person has to do is take the time to introspect and think about things instead of just acting and following others in their lives and they could prevent themselves alot of misguidance, and that's a big problem in the society that I live in, is people don't introespect or think, which works very well for capitalism and materialism. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) didn't just create people and leave them on their own without any type of ability of guidance. Each and every one of us, Muslim or not, has an internal Imam that will guide us if we resort to using it. But a majority of people are blinded to this and so things are the way they are in society. Regarding hijab, what annoys me MOST, especially living in the west, is having to go through my day-to-day life, seeing the absurdities and the bad thinking people exhibit here, and being someone who is not naturally comfortable dealing with large crowds where people are acting like idiots or any other type of annoying behavior that results from being around too many people in one place, what annoys me the most is the pressure that's put on me to act like there's nothing wrong and that I'm perfectly okay and happy and... It's just this front that I'm expected to have because I'm a Muslim. And in the society that I'm in, if I was wearing jeans a baseball hat and a T-shirt and someone did something inappropriate to me and I called them on it, it would be perfectly acceptable for me to do that. But as a Muslim woman wearing a hijab, if I do the same thing, both the Muslims AND non Muslims wlll judge me horrendously and horribly, and not just me, the non Muslims will judge the ENTIRE religion based on them seeing me do something that would be perfectly acceptable to everyone else had I not been a Muslim that did it. That's what annoys me and makes me absolutely insane, because I don't have a lot of tolerance to begin with and so to have this added pressure on top of me is really frustrating, but 99.9% of the time, I suck it up and accept it, but unfortunately someone else in my life that's close to me ends up having to deal with the stress and frustration of me when I actually have an explosion because the stress of having to maintain this front becomes too much for me at times, and it's usually the people around me and closest to me that suffer from it instead of the people that actually deserve to be put in their place in public but I can't because I don't want my entire religion judged upon me responding in what would be a perfectly normal and acceptable way for anyone else OTHER than a Muslim to behave. Qisas is a real thing and we are technically allowed it, however, I am forced to refrain from "getting my rights" or enjoning good and forbidding evil" because of the way it will be interpreted, based on the fact that the society I live in is jacked up and im a Muslim:/ Don't get me wrong, these things that I experience in society in going about my day today life would bother me being Muslim or not, so that's not the problem here. Standing up for what is right or wrong or getting your rights from someone else who has done you wrong is not a male or female , Muslim or non Muslim issue. Its just interpreted in a completly unjust manner when doing so as a Muslim female, which causes me to normally refrain from it due to "fear" of making Muslims look bad or simply because Islam says a woman shouldnt behave in such ways. Yes, Muslim woman should have more haya than a man, but does that mean that I have to let the grocery clerk treat me like crap? Or does that mean that someone who's running me around in circles and doesn't want to directly answer my medical questions when they're a medical professional mean that I have to take their crap when it comes to not addressing my question directly, just because they're a male doctor? Sometimes you have to stand up and meet people eye-to-eye, Toe to Toe regardless of if theyre male or female,just to be able to survive in this Society, but then it's considered bihaya for me to do so cuz im a female Muslim:( So many times, it comes down to having to make a judgment call of do I say something about this particular situation or do I suck it up to try to preserve the Muslim face and my "dignity" and just keep it to myself, since dealing with people who fight the truth, defend falsehood, argue with you based on ego, etc all can happen when dealing with peope in general, so whats it going to be? Slink and shy away, or go ahead and have a confrontation? Sorry for the rant! W/s
  2. As salaamun sleikum, 2 things- I totally love your screen name because this is honestly how I feel most of the time. And the 2nd thing is, your post says EXACTLY the same thing I feel most of the time- drained by life and not having anything left of my basic life force to do much more than just manage my own life and issues..and I often fall short in doing this. On the average, I typically have such a lack of life force and energy thst im starting to think there may be something medically wrong with me...but then I look around at my life and the dunya in general, and im like, nope...its all this stuff:/ Thanks for your reply, W/s
  3. As salaamun aleikum rahmatullah, I don’t have the source right now, but to the best of my knowledge, drinking an impermissable form of alcohol intentionally does not exempt a person from praying for 40 days, rather, they are still obligated/it is wajib to offer the prayers, except they don’t count or work to "grow your soul" as they would if the person hadnt consumed the alcohol. Prayer is always wajib on us, and there is no excuse not to offer it as not offering it for 40 days would do more harm than good. The only time it is forbidden for us to pray regarding the alcohol subject is while we are still under the intoxifying effects of it, which wouldnt last for more than 24 hours AT THE MOST, so only for as long as youre still "buzzed". As someone else mentioned, the "40 days" is meant to produce remorse and regret in us, especially when we know that even though we are going through all the wajib actions and burdens of prayer, they are not counting in the same way...this knowledge also helps act as a deterent for someone who may be considering and contemplating drinking, yet remember that for the proceding 40 days their prayer will not be beneficial to them, yet they must still do it. W/s
  4. As salaamun aleikum all, Is anyone else having a problem getting the videos in this thread to play? None of them will play for me:/ Im in the States, if that makes any difference. Thanks, W/s
  5. As salaamun aleikum, thats interesting..the only thing I know is that if a couple who are engaged in mutah decide to end the mutah before the agreed upon expiration date, then the husband has to "gift back" the remaining time to the wife. There is a brief sentence that is said by the man, something similar to " I, so and so, gift back to you the remaining X amount of time of our marriage agreement" and the woman says "I accept", and it is over...she starts her iddah and they both can go their separate ways. (I don’t know the exact formulas words, please forgive me for any innaccuracy, in sha Allah) I don’t think this is considered a "divorce". Otherwise, the mutah ends at the agreed upon date when it can then be either extended or ended depending on different factors. I don’t think this needs to be disclosed on marriage sites as a "marriage". I think these sites are concerned about previous nikkah/permanent marriages, but maybe once a couple starts communicating, maybe THEN is the time to discuss matters such as previous mutahs. W/s
  6. MashaAllah, beautifully put, brother. W/s
  7. @starlight, thanks for mentioning that. I didnt know it was an option to say a full surah. I for some reason thought it HAD to be broken into 5. Thanks so much! W/s
  8. It took me 15 mins cuz I kept messing up tbe surah when trying to break it into 5 sections so had to keep redoing it. I finally settled with surah Iklass as I was getying nowhere with the other surah, which is the one performed in this video --.-- W/s
  9. I didnt know that was a rat thing Yes, she suspected he had been in a fight. He had been disappearing for days and nighys on end and would come back haggard, like he had been in battle or something...being a male feral cat is rough! And thanks for the info about it possibly being "something it walked through", cuz I never considered or was aware of that as a possibility. I will share that info with her. Yes, shes resigned herself to never knowing when one will pass, kinda like how it is with us humans. I worry about that with my parents all the time since theyre in their 70s and sick, but thats just life. W/s
  10. As salaamun aleikum, Your post is absolutely SPOT ON, brother. Thats EXACTLY how its done. Thanks for taking the time to detail it all. My friend did exactly this with multiple cats. It all started with a feral female she started feeding. It was pregnant BOOM! 2 female kittens were born, they in turn grew and each had a litter, then the kittens that survived from THOSE litters grew up and had more kittens..She now has 11 adult cats that completely trust and love her, but they are outside cats only. Shes managed to get all but 2 females fixed, (they remained feral and unmanageable-I think its just their personal disposition, super sketchy and would never enter a cat trap and even though they trust her, shes not able to pick them up) Both of these each recently had kittens, but did so in a jungly area which is inaccesible due to it being on the other side of an 8ft cyclone fence and next to the freeway, but as far as she can tell, neither litter survived as she has seen both mothers laze around all day with no kittens or calls from any. Shes been through so much with all these cats, everything from finding kittens half eaten and decapitated, to finding one ran over, another one had a huge facial abcess that eventually went away, and just the other day, she said one of them that had been sick for some time was found dead in the driveway when she returned home that night. Its been one heck of a journey for her and them, but everytime I go to her house, she is greeted by a "train of 11 cats" that meet her at her car and follow her up the driveway to her house,lol..its very interesting to watch, especially since she wears chador, which I don't know why that makes it more interesting to watch, but it does W/s
  11. As salaamun aleikum brother, Nice to see you back! Was wondering where you went. So happy to hear you are doing better. This sheikh is my absolute favorite speaker. I thank Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for leading me to his lectures as they have helped me SO MUCH in my spiritual pursuit and path. He is more than a "one in a million" speaker. In sha Allah other lectures of his will also help you further along in your journey. I wish there wefe more speakers like him (He is also available for questions through his Facebook page. Just message/email him there if needed. Hes very generous and helpful in this manner, alhamdulilah) W/s
  12. As salaamun aleikum, Drs usually wear rubber gloves before they start touching people, so once you get to that point in your career, in sha Allah, just put gloves on immediately. Up til that point, I personally think youre already doing a great job. Its the same thing I do when these occasions sneak up on me, however, when I KNOW I will be dealing with a male, like when visiting my parents' male attorney, and knowing how these meetings generally end in handshakes, I prepare ahead of time by bringing a pair of thin black gloves that match my attire so I don’t look awkward. (I will, however, look odd if it is a hot day) But yes, the Islamic issue has to do with preventing bare skin contact with na mahram, not the shaking in snd of itself, so if at some point you believe you need to actually engage in the whole handshaking ritual, then try to have a pair of gloves handy. Use them with the guys too if youre worried about rowdying up some womans "issues". Otherwise, I think youre doing a great job already:) W/s
  13. As salaamun aleikum, Trying to trace who these peoples have been throughout history. What "peoples" did Prophet Yaqoob descend from? Also, far as im aware, the earliest we come to know of Prophet Yaqoobs (عليه السلام) 12 sons, the Bani Israel, of which one was Prophet Yusuf(عليه السلام) and the other Prophet(?) Benjamin, was when we read about them in Surah Yusuf(عليه السلام) The last I know of Prophet Yusuf(عليه السلام) historically is he became the amir of Egypt, invited all his brothers and father to egypt and thats pretty much the last of him as far as Quranic history goes. Then the Qur'an says in:Surah Al-Maeda, Verse 12: وَلَقَدْ أَخَذَ اللَّهُ مِيثَاقَ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ وَبَعَثْنَا مِنْهُمُ اثْنَيْ عَشَرَ نَقِيبًا وَقَالَ اللَّهُ إِنِّي مَعَكُمْ لَئِنْ أَقَمْتُمُ الصَّلَاةَ وَآتَيْتُمُ الزَّكَاةَ وَآمَنتُم بِرُسُلِي وَعَزَّرْتُمُوهُمْ وَأَقْرَضْتُمُ اللَّهَ قَرْضًا حَسَنًا لَّأُكَفِّرَنَّ عَنكُمْ سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ وَلَأُدْخِلَنَّكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ فَمَن كَفَرَ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ مِنكُمْ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ سَوَاءَ السَّبِيلِ And certainly Allah made a covenant with the children of Israel, and We raised up among them twelve chieftains; and Allah said: Surely I am with you; if you keep up prayer and pay the poor-rate and believe in My apostles and assist them and offer to Allah a goodly gift, I will most certainly cover your evil deeds, and I will most certainly cause you to enter into gardens beneath which rivers flow, but whoever disbelieves from among you after that, he indeed shall lose the right way. So...do the 12 chieftains descend from these sons of Israel(Prophet Yaqoob) after they relocated to Egypt? If so, the 12 chieftains must have come from whoever descended from Prophet Yusuf(عليه السلام), Benjamin, and the rest of the brothers years after he invited them to Egypt to settle with their families. I apologize for this post being all over the place, I really just want to know who are: The Bani Israel The Jews The 12 Chieftains Which ethnic people did Prophet yaqoob come from. I know he came from Canaan, but were Canaanites their own ethnic group, or are they like anyone else who lives in any chosen city but whose ancestry is something else? Where did these 12 Chieftains/tribes assimilate into or eventualy relocate to? Do they have any ties to people like the Thamud, Ad, Lut, or Ashab-al Okhdood ( Surah Boruj)? One last thing...are there any historical sources that put these people (Ad, Thamud, Ashab-al Okhdood, and everyone else) in chronological order of their existence? Thanks in advance, W/s
  14. @Moalfas Thanks brother, I really appreciate it! If it helps at all, it came to me through someone who was talking to an elderly iranian woman who lives in Tehran. I mention this only because certain things are sometimes used more regionally and commonly in particular countries/cities/cultures, etc, like there are duas that are more commonly recited in the Pakistani community moreso than in the Arab or iranian communities. Thanks in advance! W/s
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