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  1. As salaamun akeikum, havent seen you here in a while. Hope all is well, in sha Allah:bye::)

    W/s

    1. Sisterfatima1

      Sisterfatima1

      She got married 

    2. shia farm girl

      shia farm girl

      Oh, MASHAALLAH! Alhamdulilah, so shes busy:clap::)

      Whew, thats a relief:) 

      Thanks for the info sister.

      W/s

  2. shia farm girl

    sleep disorder causing me to miss salat

    Melatonins great and safe. I don’t know how much youre using, but ive used up to 20mg before and been ok, just a lil tired the next day. I used that amount when I quit using the other stuff I was using and stepped down to 5-10mg per night. The science says somewhere between 1 to 3 mg should be sufficient for people, but not all of us are the same and I found 5 to 10 to be the most effective for me. It doesn't at all help with my constant waking up in the middle of the night, like last night, I woke up every hour for the first five hours. Needless to say I'm burned out as heck today. Be super careful with the Benadryl, especially if you're taking them regularly and a lot at a time. I used to take up the seven pills per night just to fall asleep, and the next day was literal hell for me because of The Hangover effect, but that's the least of my concerns when it comes to Benadryl. Any of the drugs that have the word "anti" in front of them, like antihistamine anti-nausea anti-anxiety Etc, almost ALL of them deplete the brain of acetylcholine. They have been linked to dementia and Alzheimer's later on in life. A quick google search will turn up many medical journal articles about it. Theyre dangerous. When I found out the link, I dropped all those drugs. My mother has dementia, and I'm telling you, it's a horror for us as a family to go through, and I have no idea how hard it must be for her personally. All I know is she repeatedly tells me that she wishes she was dead, she wishes life was over, she says life has gone on for too long, and then she asks me if I ever just wish life would end The Dr... put her on medication for this, and it made things worse. I think it's just the fact that someone who can't remember things past 2 minutes, doesn't know where they're at, doesn't recognize people, doesn't understand why things are going on around them, can’t follow converstaions through, and so on and so forth is enough to make a person want to die I don't think that's the kind of thing that's relieved by anti depression meds cuz shes still going to have the same problems ! She repeats everything she says after 2 minutes maximum. Everything. Same questions, same concerns, over and over and over and over and over ad infinitum. And there's many more problems too, but this isn't the thread for me to dump all the stresses of having a family member w dementia and the horrors of what thats like..Dementias not a joke, and I personally recommend getting off of any of that stuff because it's a special kind of hell that none of us ever want to experience. All I'm saying, is at least dump the Benadryl, esp if it doesnt work. If you've got to take the prescription anti-anxiety meds, then take them in the least amount as possible, or, like sister @starlight said, if the drugs arent working, have yourself reevaluated and get them changed. I know there are antidepressant meds out there that do not cause dementia, I was on one of them once, but whether that particular one would work for you or not is between you and your doctor's and of course, a matter of trial and error. So I'm not trying to scare you by telling this, I'm just giving you some truth about the side effects of some of these meds. I don't know anything about Prozac so I'm not going to speak on that. Just please be carefull with your brain, its the only one you have. Oh, one last thing, if you've been taking these drugs readily, like every night, and then you stop, be it slowly or cold turkey, at first, you're going to have more problems falling asleep than you did before. That's normal. When I stopped taking the stuff I took, it took me about four or five days before I could finally fall asleep without taking anything other than melatonin. My sleep is completely jacked up, but eventually I was able to fall asleep w/o prescription meds/benadryl etc. The first 4-5 nights, I didn't get ANY sleep at all, I tossed and turned, I was a miserable person the next day, so just be on the lookout for that if you do decide to drop these things. Don't just go through a night or two of sleeplessness and then decide you MUST go back and take them again, because then you'll just end up in a never-ending cycle of taking them. You've got to get through the first few nights before you will feel anybrelief and for your body to regain its homeostasis, and essentially, to detox. Even if the meds aren't working, our brains build get used to having them there, so when we stop, the brain doesn't know what to do and has to start readjusting itself to function without it, so even though the medication is not working for you, there is still the issue of your brain needing to adjust to it not being there. Everything I said may not apply to you at all, and I sincerely hope it doesnt, but because I don't really know what your usage of these products are, I'm responding according to the life knowledge I currently have, so I apologize if I have spoken wrongfully. W/s
  3. shia farm girl

    My faith is diminishing.

    As salaamun aleikum brother, Warning: Really long post coming,lol.. I first want to offer you 2 narrations from Imam Ali(عليه السلام). "There is enough light for those who want to see". And... "Your sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it, and your remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. You presume you are a small entity, but within you is enfolded the entire Universe. You are indeed the Evident Book, by whose alphabet the Hidden becomes Manifest. Therefore you have no need to look beyond yourself. What you seek is within you, if only you reflect "- Ali Ibn Abu Talib. Just so you know, Ive been in your shoes many times. Few things I learned: Meds for depression can help, but don’t make them a permanent part of your life unless its absolutely necessary, and make sure to ween off of them appropriately and carefully when its time. Many of them cause weight gain which can bring on a whole slough of new problems but if theyre necessary, theyre necessary. For your anxiety, avoid prescription antianxiety meds if you can as they can cause addiction,dementia and alzheimers in later life due to the depletion of acetylcholine they cause during use. Before resorting to those, try a good L-Theanine supplement. Its an amino acid found in tea and works to take the edge off. Science has found it puts the brain waves into the state common in meditators who have been practicing meditation for YEARS. It also slightly lowers blood pressure. Ive found for myself, 200-300mg works very well. I use an online supplier and buy it bulk. Its MUCH cheaper than vitamin stores. L-Theanine is a really safe alternative, but consult your Dr.. if youre already on bloodpressure lowering meds or have naturally low bp. My average bp is between 102 and 112. Even at these low levels, L Theanine has been safe, but thats just me. Make informed decisions about what you put in your body EXERCISE is a BIG one, and many people don’t get enough. For me, getting away from EVERYONE, going on long hikes and doing dhikr, making dua, learning new surahs, streaming Islamic lectures, etc. help to take the "worldly/dunya-I" aspect out of the activity and make it Allah-hi in nature. I found physical activity to be what is missing everytime I end up in your shoes....And it always helps to pull me out. Mind you, im not talking about a short walk around the block. Get out there and take a SERIOUS, STRENUOUS hike, or mountain bike ride..like, a REAL one...This will help relieve your anxiousness and restlessness. Supplementing with weighlifting or even just calisthenics/resistance training at least every other day will serve the same purpose, but you gotta push yourself. don’t just pick up some 5# dumbells for 10 mins and call it a day. Challenge yourself and REALLY work out. (Of course, take your current physical condition into consideration. If you are super out of shape, you should consult your Dr.. before doing anything. We want you to have a nice, long life devoted to serving Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)and engaging here on Shia Chat. Many times when we experience restlessness, stress, anxiety, etc it's because our body is trying to tell us that it needs something that we are not giving it. Our human history has been one of physical activity and hard manual labor, and a sedentary lifestyle is a more recent phenomenon, which is causing many problems for people's health in pretty much every aspect. If you are interested in seeking professional help, find an Islamic counselor, because they know and understand our trials, whereas secular psychologists just don’t. Theyre good for the basics of psychology, but in my experience, they do not understand the struggle, especially when it comes to religious obligations and things like that. There is a sheikh I know of who has a website, and he is the resident molauna at a local Masjid in my general area. I don't know where you're located, but this brother is located in Bay area of California. His name is Sheikh Hadi Yaseen. You can Google him if you want to go that route. I don't know what services he offers, maybe he does live stream, I don’t know, but I've heard really great things from people in my community about him. One more thing I want to mention is, it's very common for people of all faiths and beliefs to think that when we are experiencing the "high" in our spirituality, that that is the end goal and that's what we're trying to achieve and to "feel" all the time. The truth of the matter, and I only recently arrived at this through guidance and then reflection and finally experiencing it, is we have misinterpreted the goal and have created expectations of what we THINK our spiritual experience "should be". Spirituality is not about being on a continuous high and feeling good about our practice and what's going on inside us all the time. True spirituality is accepting that we have highs and lows and everything in between and experiencing them when they come, to be in appreciation for them when they happen (ALL of them, not just the good/positive moments.)Were not meant to always "feel it", if you know what I mean, and to expect that causes us to end up in a never ending cycle of "want/don’t want", meaning, we are constantly wanting to be on that spiritual High, and the rest of the time NOT wanting to be experiencing the lows, and everything else in between. Rather we need to strive to recognize and accept whatever the experience is at that time and continue onward and forward, knowing that its just a feeling/experience and it too will pass. The one thing we cannot do, is let our faith go when we're feeling down in the dumps. That's the time we have to press through, if we don’t, we will feel worse for NOT pressing through. I have many days where all I'm really able to do is the wajib requirements. Then, I have days where I am constantly in remembrance of Allah and His attributes and I feel great! THOSE are the times scholars, ullema, arifs, what have you, encourage us to make the best use of, whenever it comes, for however long it lasts. Offer those extra rakats, read those long supplications, extend your prostration, do salatal layle, etc. But don’t FORCE yourself to do those things when you are in a state of malaise and spiritually low. When the "high" comes, roll with it, cuz the "other" days will come as well, as you know...For me, the "low" days are when I struggle to keep my mind off of the Dunya and its overwhelming problems and almost completly forget Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and my true identity. It's just the nature and the reality of things. None of us are free from it, but we can learn to "work it" so it doesnt "work us". Another thing I want to say, is try not to fall into the Trap of feeling guilty that just because you are not suffering in a war-torn country, that all your problems should be easy. Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has placed each and every single one of us in our lives in the positions and situations we are in for reasons known only to Him, and our challenges are all different, butvwe WILL, all of us, be tried. It says in the Qur'an our striving is diverse. And that doesn't just mean that we all have different jobs, LOL. Each of our lives have our own individual challenges that we have to overcome, we just need to turn to Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and ask Him for the strength, knowledge, skill, will, persistence, etc to persevere and that He grants us success. Keep in mind sometimes our success lies in what we perceive as failure, it just all depends on where our ultimate kheyr lies, so just because the brother in this video says all his problems vanished when he became Muslim, be sure he's going to have other trials, you can count on it. My biggest trials didn't come until after I was Muslim four maybe five years, and THEN stuff started happening in my life that was really trying for me, and is STILL happening. Back in the beginning, I thought I had it all together, but the fact of the matter was, I hadnt really been being tried yet. The early part of my conversion was more a time of gathering information and learning about the deen, and then once I had enough to go on and work with, THATS when my challenges came and that's when I had to put what I learned to work. But that's just MY story. Each of our stories is different and for whatever the reason is, these are your trials. I know it sounds cliche to say "embrace them", but there really isn't any other way around it. You know in your heart of hearts leaving the religion is not the thing to do, so don't do it. Try and just accept the Ebb and the flow and be appreciative for them, and know that they won't last. Imam Ali says, there are two days we have--one is for you, but don't get too happy about it, and another is against you, but don't be too upset or depressed about it, as neither of them last. (Sorry, paraphrasing here, but you get my point.) I pray Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) guides you to your peace, in sha Allah. W/s
  4. shia farm girl

    sleep disorder causing me to miss salat

    Salaam sister @starlight Thanks for the advice, you make a very good point. If I could go back and do it all over, I would be more proactive with how I took the meds. Im not sure when I will be able to try it again as they were meds that my husband brought back from Iran where they are OTC whereas here, they are prescription only and my insurance doesnt cover them...they cost a CRAZY amount of money out of pocket:( Alhamdulilah, one of the problems that has been wearing on my mind for YEARS now may be resolved next week, IN SHA Allah. It wouldnt suprise me if I sleep better after this os taken care of. W/s
  5. shia farm girl

    sleep disorder causing me to miss salat

    A salaam alaikum, I have this problem too. I have two different issues going on, my circadian rhythm is way off, and on top of that, my mind is very active, so right when im about to fall asleep, some problems in my life jump into my mind and it startles me and wakes me up.! So I have sleep onset issues, as well as sleep maintenance issues. There have been times in the past where I was taking pharmaceuticals but I end up hungover way into the next day and I cannot live my life like that. Besides that, those medications have been proven to contribute to dementia and Alzheimer's in the future. Right now I'm dealing with melatonin, but I still don't fall asleep until 3, and I I wake up every hour, so I'm not really getting good deep sleep, making waking up for morning prayer one of the most difficult if not impossible things I face in my day-to-day life. I want to fix this, but I don't really know how. When the month of Ramadan comes around, things actually seem to get worse because I end up staying awake all the way until morning prayer, because I would rather stay awake and offer morning prayer than miss it start my fast off with a sin. It just seems like missing morning prayer simply due to a sleep issue would invalidate the fast right out the gate. I look forward to seeing answers on here from other people that may have overcome this. W/s
  6. shia farm girl

    The Rapture

    @Son of Placid Thanks for your input! You said a lot and provided different views and possibilities, which to me is great. Im fascinated and interested in learning, so the more info, tbe better. I totally get your point about the human physical body being useless in the next realm/afterlife, as well as it being a logical difficulty to accept, at least for me, because personally, I have a tendency to see "ascension" as a spiritual change to a higher one of existence not dependent so much on matter, therefore not a fully physical one. Ive always had an issue with the idea of having a physical body in any manner after death, when from all ive gathered, the next realm will at the very least, be semi immaterial. I have no problem with believing we will have a "body" of sorts, with possibly color, shape, size, etc, but I have problems accepting that it will be fully physical in nature and structure. Revelations is pretty intense and obscure. I remember my younger years, when I was Catholic, and later when I became non denominational Christian, Revelations always stood out to me due to its nature. Every once in a while, I give it a partial read here and there, thinking that since im older now, and God willing, a bit wiser than I was when younger, I may be able to benefit from it now. Thanks for your response!
  7. shia farm girl

    The splitting of the cattle’s ear?

    As salaamun aleikum, Hmmm....wonder if theres room for geoengineering, GMOs and transgenderism,etc. Seems us humans have been doing ALOT of altering of Allahs(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) creation since back in the ol' slitting cattle ears days. W/s
  8. shia farm girl

    The Rapture

    @sldevon21 Thanks for taking the time to respond, I appreciate it. I was born, baptized and raised Catholic as well as having attended Catholic school up to the 4th grade, so if the rapture HAD been taught or discussed, I have no recollection of it. I can totally see how it coukd be arrived at based on the verse quoted. I wonder how other Christian denominatins that don’t believe in rapture interpret this verse? It seems significant to me as its very specific in the sense that it literally says "this will happen to those of us". Its not a could be, may be, or might be type of sentence. Thanks!
  9. shia farm girl

    The Rapture

    Salaam/Peace to my Christian brothers and Sisters here, @Son of Placid @LeftCoastMom Can anyone here help explain the rapture to me, for example, where did this idea originate? What are the denominations that follow it? Is there a particular number of people that get raptured? I may have more questions depending on the answers I receive, but we can start from hete, God willing Thanks!
  10. shia farm girl

    Which Sunni Madhab Is Closer To Shia Islam

    As salaamun aleikum, I was under the impression this only applies if the truth of Shia has reached a person, yet they refuse to accept it based on arrogance, stubborness, etc. and instead make a very willfull choice to continue on in error. To the best of my limited knowledge, researching our religion includes ALL Muslims regardless of their status as born Muslim or convert/revert. It is mentioned in the Qur'an not to follow blindly what our forefathers have followed, this includes us, not just the idol worshippers from the days of jahilliya. We are called to study OUR religion too. This is how we gain yaqeen that it is the correct path. Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) wants for us to understand the Qur'an, our religion, how we truly relate to Him, our responsibility as His abds and to creation, and to not do empty acts of ritual and worship or practice things that come from who knows where. Thats why bidah is such a big deal. We have ahadith that say "one hour of contemplation is better than 70 years of worship", because its contemplation and reflection upon the Qur'an and the different aspects of our religion that Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) guides us through. Surah Ar-Raʼad : Verse (13 : 3) وَهُوَ ٱلَّذِى مَدَّ ٱلْأَرْضَ وَجَعَلَ فِيهَا رَوَٰسِىَ وَأَنْهَٰرًا وَمِن كُلِّ ٱلثَّمَرَٰتِ جَعَلَ فِيهَا زَوْجَيْنِ ٱثْنَيْنِ يُغْشِى ٱلَّيْلَ ٱلنَّهَارَ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَءَايَٰتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ It is He who has spread out the Earth and set in it firm mountains and streams, and of every fruit in it He has made two kinds. He draws the night’s cover over the day. There are indeed signs in that for a people who reflect. The very next ayatt says: Surah Ar-Raʼad : Verse (13 : 4) وَفِى ٱلْأَرْضِ قِطَعٌ مُّتَجَٰوِرَٰتٌ وَجَنَّٰتٌ مِّنْ أَعْنَٰبٍ وَزَرْعٌ وَنَخِيلٌ صِنْوَانٌ وَغَيْرُ صِنْوَانٍ يُسْقَىٰ بِمَآءٍ وَٰحِدٍ وَنُفَضِّلُ بَعْضَهَا عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ فِى ٱلْأُكُلِ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَءَايَٰتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَعْقِلُونَ In the Earth are neighbouring terrains [of diverse kinds] and vineyards, farms, and date palms growing from the same root and from diverse roots, [all] irrigated by the same water, and We give some of them an advantage over others in flavour. There are indeed signs in that for people who exercise their reason. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) doesnt say "These are indeed signs for the scholars, or the PHDs, etc. to refect on". He says for those who REFELECT, and exercise their REASON, which means everyone, to their best degree, even the most uneducated person is capable of reflecting, if only they take the time. It doesnt mean "read it and run with whatever you want", which is why everyone should strive to study as much as we can, so we don’t just take the first thing we hear as the Truth. If that was the case, id probably not even be Muslim due to all the absurd and untrustworthy things I heard in the beginning Unfortunately, many don’t do this. Some converts study only 1 side (Sunni or Shia) and don’t do a thorough, in-depth study, which is a responsibility we all have. Ive been Shia Muslim for 10 years, and im STILL digging, reading, contemplating, reflecting, etc. There is no end. Anyhow, if at the end of the day, a person has done this duty, and through all their studying, weighing of the evidence, etc. their aql arrives at a particular madhab of Sunnism as being correct, then I don’t see how Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) who knows all hearts, intentions, is Al Hadi, etc. would still judge against such a person, making their salaat invalid for the whole of their lives. That doesnt seem like a "Just" God. These are just my thoughts and understanding, hopefully I have not mislead anyone, and I apologize if I have derailed the OP In sha Allah, by our investment in reflection and reasoning, Allah(سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will guide us all to our very best. W/s .
  11. shia farm girl

    Venezuela's crises

    Decided not to post the video afterall..
  12. shia farm girl

    Is the US still a democracy?

    As salaamun aleikum, Its an oligarchy.. W/s
  13. Assalamualaikum dear brothers and sisters, Can anyone provide information that shows how Islam in general has arrived at the conclusion that dogs are najis? This question has probably been beat to death, especially in this very dog-centric culture that a good sized portion of the world now lives in, but I can not for the life of me remember any direct line of HOW Islam has arrived at this conclusion. Note: I am not intending nor considering getting a dog, so im not looking to justify such a decision. Recently, the question came to my mind because ive been watching Muslim friends slowly erode and regress islamically, and I believe it is due to this....culture.....we live in, and not making Islam the central motivating factor in their lives anymore, rather, they have allowed the CULTURE to dictate their life choices first, before Islam. I have the feeling that the "impermissability" of having a dog live in your house, sleep in your bed, and be all over your everything, has probably not been proven to be "beyond a shadow of a doubt", so barring the obviously unclean and unsanitary aspect of it, if a Muslim is able to "get past that little inconvenience" and be ok with living in that way personally, then not having firm and definet reasoning as to why its not islamically permissable is something that can easily be embraced, and the impermissable aspect be overlooked and/or justified, especially by someone with a strong will to "do what they want", even if it opposes the higher living standards of cleanliness in Islam. I know there is a hadith saying something to the effect of angels not visiting houses were dogs are kept, but one hadith alone is probably not going to be very convincing for somebody with a strong will to justify. Besides, many people misunderstand and think this means that angels are afraid of dogs, LOL, which if you ask me, is irrational. Really, what it probably comes down to is a person deciding to willfully go against Islam, there for not inviting goodness into their houses because they're in defiance and not "in submission". I've heard this angle before, but I'm really looking for more, if more exists. In sha Allah this hasnt been taken offensively by anyone. Emotions have been running high on this site lately Thanks! W/s
  14. As salaamun aleimum, The name of the book is: Insan dar urf e Irfan, and it has 26 of Ayatullah Hasan Hasanzadeh Amolis spiritual/mysical experiences recorded in it, not 13, as I originally erroneously mentioned, but I don’t think it has been translated into Englush yet. Its in Farsi, I believe. Still have yet to find the "flying" lecture, but will return soon as I do, in sha Allah. I also wanted to respond to some of the posts here, but ive been super busy and will be for the next 2 days at least. W/s
  15. shia farm girl

    What’s the logic behind having a beard?

    Lol, in my opinion, he looks like a boy and needs a beard to even come close to looking like a man. My youngest brother is not a Muslim, he's a Christian, and he has hair longer than the guy in this picture, and whenever he grows a beard, he looks amazing! His beard is a color that none of the rest of our family even have, it's a dark reddish color, and I have no idea where it comes from in our genetics, LOL, but when he shaves it, he just looks weird to me.. Not that there's anything wrong with his facial structure or anything that would make him look like a "shaved chicken", lol...maybe it's just because I'm a Muslim now and look at things differently. I don't know.. W/s
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