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I find that cooking is a wonderful hobby. It's easier to learn how to cook from an early age. I had to learn once I was married-- lots of learning about Indian and Arabic dishes!

islamreligion.com Please view this site and discuss. I have gotten blocked repeatedly on the online chat forum, lol.

Sunnis condemn Yazid as well. They have written tributes to imam Husayn (as). The lies accusing today to cover up Yazid is nothing but something to discredit Shias. Sunnis erroneously think they must defend Yazid; Yazid wasn't a Sunni, he was a tyrant utilizing and manipulating Islam for mere power and wealth

lol I find these lies entertaining. Nothing more than half crocked lies to tear the Ummah apart. I have also heard disgusting lies about Sunnis

Again, you are not reading what I am saying. I am saying unequally in a way that is belittling/does not give justice to the wives. I.e. having one wife for the purpose of fulfilling sexual gratifications and the other as a mere maid. And you cannot say there are no marriages where the man does not give justice to his wifes. Even though polygamy is halal, if he does not meet the requirements of his duties, then he should not be having more than one wife. Simple as that. Some men think they all have the capacity to treat women with justice like Muhammad (pbuh) and the Imams (as), and quite simply, most do not. Allah, the Almighty has declared in the Quran: “…then marry [other] women, who seem virtuous to you, two or three or four; and if you fear that you cannot do them justice, then one [only]…”1 The point of the example was to show that people can have ill intentions and abuse halal practices with improper intentions. It would be as though you are marrying someone permanenantly with the intentions of eventually divorcing them. Permanent marriage is undoubtedly halal, but what if it is conducted with the intention that it will be eventually divorced? I am not saying the sanction itself is haram, but the intentions guiding and funding the motives are not halal. Mut’ah With Christian And Jewish Women The above, of course, is the general rule. However, what happens when the Shi’i man in need of mut’ah is unable to find a suitable Muslim spouse? Well, the Book of Allah has made certain concessions in this regard: Today, the good things are made halal to you; and the food of those who were given the Book is halal for you, and your food is halal for them; and also (halal to you are) the chaste ones from the believing women and the chaste ones from those who were given the Book before you, when you have given them their dowries, taking (them) in marriage, not fornicating (with them), nor taking them as girlfriends.46 This verse is in the last revealed Surah of the Qur’an. As such, it is the last law of Allah on the issue of marriage with non-Muslim women, and therefore effectively modifies the previous rulings. So, while mut’ah with non-Muslims is ordinarily haram, our Lord eventually allowed us to marry those of them who follow a religion that once adhered to a scripture from Him. These are primarily Jews and Christians today. Therefore, the Shi’i man is allowed to wed a Jewess or a Christian woman in mut’ah, as long as the following conditions are fulfilled: (a) she is unmarried and available for marriage; (b) she is chaste; (c) the purpose of the union is marriage and not fornication; (d) she must not be taken as a girlfriend; and (e) she must be paid her dowry. Meanwhile, if the Shi’i man is able to find a chaste Jewess or a Christian woman who agrees to do mut’ah with him, there are still some other conditions which she must consent to. Al-Ṭusi reports: Muhammad b. Ya’qub – Muhammad b. Yahya – Ahmad b. Muhammad – al-Hasan b. Mahbub – Mu’awiyah b. Wahb and others – Abu ‘Abd Allah, peace be upon him, who said concerning a believing man who seeks to marry a Jewess or a Christian woman: “If he finds a Muslim woman, then what is he doing with the Jewess or Christian woman?” So, I (Mu’awiyah) said to him, “He loves her.” Then, he said, “If he does, then he must forbid her from drinking alcohol and from eating pork. And know that in his marriage to her, there is a blemish upon him in his religion.”52 Al-Majlisi declares: Sahih.53 And al-Ruhani concurs: Sahih54 http://www.al-islam.org/nikah-al-mutah-zina-or-sunnah-toyib-olawuyi My point is that there are conditions to mutah, specifically with a Christian woman. And you cannot step all over the rights of Christian women and treat her like rubbish simply because she is not a Muslimah. Mutah is halal, but it has conditions. All halal sanctions have some sort of conditions.

I always enjoy reading your posts

Did you read what I said after? Or even how I phrased my sentence? (d) Shi'ite man uses Christian woman in a haram way, perverting the hala nature of Mutah. Essentially, he uses mutah to fulfil his sexual desires, and sees the woman as less worthy than others for permanent marriage. - If you are going to argue Shi'ite men can conduct innumerable Mutahs with women he perceives as worthless, and that this is what Muhammad (pbuh) would have been done, then you are mistaken. Did I not say "perverting the halal nature of mutah?" There is a way to ruin halal things and use them for ill intentions. Can you have 4 wives? Yes. Can you treat them unequally and use some for sheer sexual intentions and others for other means? No. Did the Prophet (pbuh) warn against this? Yes. Stop acting like I am attacking mutah, I am not.

Realistically, it is difficult for both parties to share the same idea of mutah if they are from differing religious backgrounds, i.e. Christian and Shi'ite. The problems that can occur are, and I have seen this first hand: (a) Christian woman does not perceive the legitimacy of an Islamic Mutah, and does not see the man as her "huband," and thinks of this as more fixed term dating. (b) Christian woman, specifically those who are more conservative, find Islamic Mutah "sinful" and "wrong," and therefore, if they do happen to be in this situation, the whole time they may see themselves as living in sin (c) Shi'ite man doesn't actually tell the Christian what "mutah" is and gets away with treating her as a girlfriend, or plaything, rather than what she should be really treated as, a wife. (d) Shi'ite man uses Christian woman in a haram way, perverting the hala nature of Mutah. Essentially, he uses mutah to fulfil his sexual desires, and sees the woman as less worthy than others for permanent marriage.

Not sure if this enquiry and answer from Makarem Shirazi is relevant, but it does speall on a woman enacting another temporary marriage with a man she was previously in a mutah with, though this is regaring iddah and childbirth: Iddah of a Woman who has Become Pregnant in Temporary Marriage [Iddah (the necessary waiting period for women after divorce) in Temporary Marriage] Question:- A woman has performed Mut’a (temporary marriage) and the time of her marriage and Iddah has been passed, but she has become pregnant f r o m the same man and has a baby inside. Is it permissible for the same person to marry her temporarily before the childbirth? Answer: The first husband can perform Mut’a with her again but no one else has the right to marry her before the childbirth.

I was a convert, so I met my spouse because he is the one who gave me information. Most converts who are not from Muslim families usually have to look online to find someone

It is permitted to say it in English right? Since it is a dua?

So if sites like ShiaMeet are not halal because they allow texting and exchanging between the sexes, how are people expected to select spouses. If you cannot talk online, talk in person about marriage? How do you pick a spouse? Do you just pick a number out of a hat and go "okay, I guess Ali is my husband"???

I would refrain from haphazardly psychoanalyzing the OP. Another member did this to me once, telling me that I "enjoyed" being abused. It is absolute rubbish and shifts the blame entirely to the victim. I would also refrain from calling women "stupid" within the sisters forum, it is disrespectful especially given the situation of the OP. Lastly, most people will maintain feelings for any partner and overlook faults because they believe that this individual has the capacity to change, or they wish the individual would change. Some people feel it is their "fault." This is a natural human behavior that is not limited to the female sex.

Yes, it is called renewing the marriage contract. Since mutah requires the specification of time, in cases where a couple is planning permanent, this may need to be renewed several times. I know people who were in a mutah marriage for 2-3 years before they married, they kept renewing the contract. Also, I believe some sort of dowry needs to be given every time it is renewed.