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Amna_

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  1. When the jewish people visit Poland why do they need body guards with them ?

    Your police turn a blind eye to the violence committed by criminal gangs which they do in broad daylight in front of cameras with no fear.

    Your country is often referred to as the Eu country that is run by "hooligans" and you cannot solve this issue, so the "rule of law " do not apply in such situations.

    Let's not paint the good nation of Poland with the upholders of the "rule of law" when we all know it was just a mouthpiece used by your politicians to get into the European Union.

    And if you read my reply , you still haven't noticed that 20% of polish view domestic violence as normal , ( but real figures are probably  always double ) , so getting back to the OPs topic , close to 40% of Polish people think it's ok to slap the wife around , that's the highest rate of violence against women from a "developed" western nation.

    Seems like you are the 40% that wants to ignore this fact .

    I' ve seen so many jewish there and none was with body guards. It depends on a police man who is blind of who is not but im talking about the law not people and their actions. 

    You sounds so funny with your general informations, you know nothing about my country. And no, we don't notice violence as something normal and yes, it happens in Poland but the difference is- we can go to the police, we have a places to go if for example a husband is abusive, we are confident that we can leave this kind of man. Do not reply to me anymore, your informations are funny for me.

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    do you mean the good nation of POLAND ??

     

    where;

     

    One in five Poles considers that domestic violence is the norm in Poland, according to government-sponsored research.

    - See more at: http://www.thenews.pl/1/9/Artykul/80105,Domestic-violence-rife-in-Poland-research-finds#sthash.3Y7AJ58o.dpuf

     

    ​or the violence and discrimination against the jews and anti-semitism, the bashing of gays and now the increasing islamophobia sweeping your country.

    ​Is this what you call equal rights ?

    There is violence right but don't you see a difference? We can divorce, we can call to the police, we can leave this kind of man and we don't need to explain 1000 people why and none would tell us: " stay with him because he is your husband ". I haven't said there is no violence in my country ( read carefuly) but we can do more as a women with that then for example women in arab countries. 

     

    We are not talking about other nations and religions. We are talking about women's issue. If you want to talk about race/ religion discrimination- yes we have it ( as a every country ) but there is something like punish. You can always go to the police/ lawyer etc and they will help you. There is equal law for everyone here. This is a difference.

  3. The world has always been like this... culture has always been considered more important than religion. Why are you surprised? Only a few people in the world follow Islam properly in the first place. So why is it such a shocker that culture is taken more seriously than religion? Because it shouldn't be such a shock.

    You also mentioned some "double-standards" such as why can a man sleep around and not be punished yet if a woman were to be caught she would be shattered. At first glance, it seems ridiculous that the boy is considered a "playa" and the woman a "[Edited Out]". But if you actually think about it, it's not so weird that women get a greater punishment in culture.

    Here are some reasons why it's not so ridiculous:

    -The woman bears the child.

    -The woman loses her hymen; proves she lost virginity. Can't prove a man lost his virginity like you can a woman. Therefore a man can easily deny pre-marital sex and a woman can't.

    -Losing your virginity as a woman outside of marriage is also a sign of disrespect to you family. The permission of your father or grandfather is required in Islam (except in exceptional circumstances), thus by losing it outside of marriage you are spitting in their faces and also disregarding the laws set by Allah. The man does not need permission to lose his virginity.

    -The woman is more precious than a man.

    -The man is allowed polygamy.

    -The nature of man is different to the woman, one aspect of this as an example-women tend to have more self-control than men (this doesn't mean that men can't have more self-control, so don't go raging at me).

    There are many more reasons, those are just a few I thought about.

    In Islam yes, the man and woman do get the same punishment for zina. 100 lashes each as far as I know if somehow proven guilty. But again, only a minority of muslims in the world follow Islam properly, so I don't know why you are so upset with culture taking precedence over religion in the vast majority of societies.

    There's also the problem of the way society is built. It has been built like this over 1000s of years and similarly, it would take 1000s of years to implement the perfect Islam (assuming there is a willing population). Thing is if that were to occur, everyone would be in heaven and there would be no point in Earth. What is there to test if the whole population is perfect? What is the purpose of humans being on Earth if they were all perfect?

    I really hope I'm helping you let go of the anger and frustrations you're carrying (as opposed to fueling it), because it seems to be blurring your vision. It's as though you expect Earth to be heaven =/

    Yes and the woman a Queen. What's the matter with that?

    Im not angry but just can't understand it. "Woman bears the child"- this is not the reason.

    I said about the culture not the punish from an islamic view. Thats why i was in shock because islam treats women better than some cultures. And yes, im in shock because where i live, all people have the same rights.

  4. Freedom is a concept that goes beyond religion. But if a woman accepts the islamic way, she will have to sacrifice some of her freedom for other rights. What I defend is that she should be free whether to choose that islamic lifestyle or not, and nobody should judge her except God. That's why I'm against the idea of an Islamic state, because religion as an obligation is just bliss, a system of cruelty as Nitzche would say.

    Freedom is a personal right that the Quran itself respect, we can notice that in several ayat. There is no obligation in religion. However, our culture is far from respecting a personal right such as freedom.

    We have our brains, our choice and we should know what is good, what is not. Personally i think some of things like not sleeping with someone before marriage, not meeting boys/girls, not going to clubs, not drinking and smoking are good. I agree with that in 100% but everyone should be punished in the same way. My iraqi friend talks to me alot about that. She says she loves to talk to me because she feels i understand her because im from a different culture. Well, its true but i don't understand the answer: "because he is a man!" "Okay, so why he can back to home late but a woman can't?" "Because he is a man!" " Why none would beat him if someone will see him talking with girls?" "Because he is a man!" To make it clear i don't even like to go out but its just about the fact. :P MAN- the king? The most important person in this world? To be honest, i could obey my man if:

    -he is more mature and has more experience

    - i trust him

    - i know he wants to protect me

    - he is not a hypocrite and doesn't treat me like a slave just because im a woman

    - he is smart and he knows that i have my opinion as well.

    I know i don't need to understand other's cultures because i look at it from my european view but the thing i want to understand is why this culture is more important than islam and why when i try to talk about it there is just one answer: because he is a man.. They don't know the answer, they just follow it so why i should know it.

    I just feel so sorry for some women because they don't know their rights and im also full of respect because even if their husbands are bad, they don't divorce (some does) them.

  5. In many cases culture is more important to the families than Islam itself. How many arab girls find the possibility to marry a white man if he's muslim and shia? Something like that, which is perfectly halal, is seen almost if it was haraam.

    This happens because our culture has zero respect for free will. And I believe it is a form of self defense towards the people of our culture. Many of them, if given freedom, would really deviate and act wrongly. So a very limited culture with a lot of social pressure has been the only way to pressure most people not to act as animals.

    This offered some advantages as said above, but at a very high price, especially for women.

    Now must say what does freedom mean? Sleeping with people without marriage? Muslim men can do that even if its not allowed. Divorce because he wants to? Sure. Have romance, chit chat with other girls? Why not! Beat his wife because he is the king of everything and a wife is just a slave for cleaning and cooking? Yes! Muslim men doesn't need freedom to do that. Where is a woman in this? Where are her feelings? Her rights? Where are her rights and her status from islam? Nowhere. This is a sad truth about some countries and their cultures. :(
  6. I was thinking about another issue. For example i can't understand why when a woman sleeps with a man without marriage, her family would kill/beat her and when a man does that, there is no problem or some families even are okay with that because he is a man! Or another example: husband beats his wife because for example she didn't take the laundry from the dryer or she lost her keys or whatever.. This is just a stupid reason.. Islam says that women sins the same way like men some societies are ok with for example man who has a gf but not with a woman who has a bf? I have a iraqi friend, she spoke about that with her abusive husband, he got angry more and he just said: this is the culture! So where is islam? Culture is more important? :/

  7. Im not angry or something but this is rude from you. You don't know all Western people and you made an opinion about us. We are different like all people in this world but if you think different, stay in your country where all people are good and problem is solved. :)

  8. when we say west..its usually the United States not Europe. so calm down. Go take your anger out on wonderful anti islam protest around Europe!

    A person who needs to calm down its you. So next time say US, not everyone knows that West for you means US.
  9. there is nothing wrong with it as long as inlaws respect your rights and views. And you respect theirs.

    infact in Islam good family terms increase your life and goodness in life.

    it's beautiful and ofcourse there are problems at times. but its good to learn to live together rather separated and isolated like in the western culture the 'aadam behzaar' lifestyle!

    Let me tell you something- im an european revert and you know nothing about the West. Do not say in general. Is it nice if someone says ALL muslims are terrorists? No. So don't say about Western people in general as well.
  10. Peace be with you all,

    Shias and Sunnis differ on their concept of Allah swt. As you can see , this difference has arisen from who we take our hadiths from,and who we believe preserved his Sunnah,

    Contention one: Can we see Allah swt, comprehend him or limit him in our knowledge?

    Bukhari

    9.530:

    The Prophet said, "You will definitely see your Lord with your own eyes."

    9.531:

    Allah’s Apostle came out to us on the night of the full moon and said, "You will see your Lord on the Day of Resurrection as you see this (full moon) and you will have no difficulty in seeing Him."

    Al Kafi

    H 261, Ch. 9, h 10- Graded SAHIH by Alama Majlisi

    "I asked Imam abul Hassan al-Rida (a.s.), about Allah if He can be described (defined in words). The Imam (a.s.) said, "Have you not read the Quran?" I replied, "Yes, I do read the Quran." He then said, "Have you not read the words of Allah, the Most High, "No mortal eyes can see Him, but He can see all eyes. He is All-kind and All-aware." (6:103) I replied, "Yes, I have read them." The Imam (a.s.) said, "Do they know the meaning of the eyes?" I replied, "Yes, they do." The Imam (a.s.) said, "What is it?" I replied, " It means seeing with the eyes." Then the Imam said, the Awham(mentioned above) of the heart is far greater comprehensive in knowledge than eye-witnessing. It is not able to comprehend Him but He comprehends all things.

    (One paragraph taken from the hadith) H 253, Ch. 9, h 2 Graded SAHIH by Alama Majlisi

    The Imam said, "How can a person who brought such messages to all creatures and told them

    that he has brought such messages from Allah and called them to Allah by His commands and said, "The eyes can not comprehend Him." (6:103) "They can not limit Him through their knowledge." (20:110) "There is nothing similar to Him." (42:11), then he would say, "I saw Him with my own eyes? I did limit Him in my knowledge and that He is similar to a man? Should you not be ashamed of yourselves? Even the atheist have not said that the Prophet first brought one thing from Allah and then announced from Him other things contrary to the first."

    Contention two- Does Allah change states, or undergo change?

    Bukhari:

    "...What keeps you here when all the people have gone?' They will say, 'We parted with them (in the world) when we were in greater need of them than we are today, we heard the call of one proclaiming, 'Let every nation follow what they used to worship,' and now we are waiting for our Lord.' Then the Almighty will come to them in a shape other than the one which they saw the first time, and He will say, 'I am your Lord,' and they will say, 'You are not our Lord.' And none will speak: to Him then but the Prophets, and then it will be said to them, 'Do you know any sign by which you can recognize Him?' They will say. 'The Shin,' and so Allah will then uncover His Shin whereupon every believer will prostrate before Him and there will remain those who used to prostrate before Him just for showing off and for gaining good reputation..."

    Al Kafi

    H 313, Ch. 16, h 4 – Graded Sahih by Alama Majlisi

    The Imam said, "There is nothing in the universe, but that is subject to annihilation, alteration, change, decay, transition from one color to another, from one shape to another and from one quality to another. They increase, decrease and change from decrease to increase, except He, Who is the Lord of the worlds. He alone is eternal and in one state. He is the first, before every thing and the last eternally. His attributes and names do not change as they do in the case of others. A man at one time is dust, at other time flesh and blood, then turns into decaying bones and finally becomes dust. A piece of date at one time is raw, at another time ripe, mature and then it dries up. With every change, the names and attributes also change. Allah, the Majestic, the Glorious is different from all such things."

    Contention three: Does Allah swt have a form?

    Bukhari:

    "...What keeps you here when all the people have gone?' They will say, 'We parted with them (in the world) when we were in greater need of them than we are today, we heard the call of one proclaiming, 'Let every nation follow what they used to worship,' and now we are waiting for our Lord.' Then the Almighty will come to them in a shape other than the one which they saw the first time, and He will say, 'I am your Lord,' and they will say, 'You are not our Lord.' And none will speak: to Him then but the Prophets, and then it will be said to them, 'Do you know any sign by which you can recognize Him?' They will say. 'The Shin,' and so Allah will then uncover His Shin whereupon every believer will prostrate before Him and there will remain those who used to prostrate before Him just for showing off and for gaining good reputation..."

    Al Kafi:

    Graded Muwathaq

    He said: I said to Abu `Abdillah عليه السلام: I heard Hisham b. al-Hakam narrate from you that Allah has a body, supported by light, His recognition is necessary and He bestows this [knowledge] upon whom He wills from the creation. So he عليه السلام said: Glorified be He, whom no one knows how He is except Himself. There is nothing like unto Him, and He is the Hearing, the Seeing. He cannot be limited, nor can He be felt, nor can He be moved, nor can He be comprehended [by sight, nor by] the senses, nor can He be contained in anything, nor does He have a body, nor does He have a form, nor a figure, nor a confine. (al-Kafi, Volume 1, hadith 278)

    Contention : Does Allah swt move position?

    Bukhari:

    1145( Abu Hurairah)

    “The Lord (Allah swt) descends every night to the lowest heaven when one-third of the night remains and says: ‘Who will call upon Me, that I may answer Him? Who will ask of Me, that I may give him? Who will seek My forgiveness, that I may forgive him?’”

    Man Lā Yaḥḍuruh al-Faqīh, Graded sahih by alama majlisi

    ‘O son of the Messenger of Allāh, what do you say about the ḥadīth which the people narrate from the Messenger of Allāh, that he said: ‘Allāh descends in every night of Friday (i.e. Thursday night) to the earth’s heavens’’.

    He said: ‘May Allāh curse (la`na) those who distort the words from its place, by Allāh, the Messenger of Allāh has not said that! Verily, he said: ‘Allāh) sends down an angel to the earth’s heavens in the last third of every night, and the first part of the night of Friday (i.e. Thursday night). And He commands him to call, ‘Are there any (who) asks, so that I can grant him?’; ‘Are there any repenters that I should forgive him?’;..."

    I conclude with the following excerpt of a hadith:

    He said: A man came to Abu’l Hasan ar-Rida عليه السلام from beyond the Balkh river and said: I will ask you a question, if your answer to me is the same as that which is with me [i will accept your cause]. So Abu’l Hasan عليه السلام said: Ask whatever you wish. So he said: Inform me about your Lord, when did He come into being? And how is His state? And upon what thing does He rely? So Abu’l Hasan عليه السلام said: Allah تبارك وتعالى was there before there was a “there”, and He was being before there was a “how”, and His reliance is upon His power. So the man rose to him and kissed his head, and said: I bear witness that there is no god except Allah, and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, and that `Ali is the deputy of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وآله and the succeeding upholder of what the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وآله established, and that you are the righteous Imams and the successors after them. (al-Kafi, Volume 1, hadith 233) Graded SAHIH by Alama Majlisi

    There is written that none from mortals will see Allah, not people from Jannah. If im wrong, correct me but i understood it in that way. :)
  11. Dear sister, i know it was a question for brothers but let me tell you something. There is so many similar stories like yours where husband adds girls and says it is just a friend, don't focus on Fb etc. but what they do? They focus on Fb.

    If you live in the West it is hard to not meet women because of work, mixed society etc. So if your husband see women in the work, in the class or whatever, its normal. If they ask him something its normal. You can be in the same situation that a man can ask you something for example in the class or work or even on the street- especially non muslims because they don't know that they shouldn't ask a girl. If your husband knows his friends in the real life (even if they are not muslims) i don't think there is a reason to delete them (its a bit rude) but if he adds girls and he doesn't know them, i think this is not normal. Sta blessed. <3

  12. IFK, your wudu will be not valid if you will make gel nails. You can make it when you have "women's days" but i think it is better to not make it and have your natural. :)

    I use natural oil or cream for my face, CC cream and mascara. By the way it is allowed to put a little bit of mascara? Im a blonde with white skin i don't feel good without mascara- like i don't have eyes. I can't use kohl because on my eyes it would look so much funny but i love kohl so much.

    IFK, your wudu will be not valid if you will make gel nails. You can make it when you have "women's days" but i think it is better to not make it and have your natural. :)

    I use natural oil or cream for my face, CC cream and mascara. By the way it is allowed to put a little bit of mascara? Im a blonde with white skin i don't feel good without mascara- like i don't have eyes. I can't use kohl because on my eyes it would look so much funny but i love kohl so much.

  13. Dear sister, leave him. He acts like a child, he just wanted to sleep with you.. We girls trust people easily, we love deeply and sometimes we are blind. You can't change the time but you can learn from this mistake. Look, what a hypocrite he is. He made zina with you, but he want a virgin wife. Today i had a book in my hand about women's right in islam. There was written that both men and women sins in the same, they will go to Jannah in the same way, they will be rewarded the same. He is just a hypocrite- i would never ever want to talk to this kind of men again. Make tauba, go deeply into islam, make yourself busy with the things you like and learn from this mistake. Don't worry about next marriage, there is so many muslim men who doesn't care about virginity, just find the right one. :) Don't be sad, make this mistake a big lesson for you, don't give up and keep your head up. Don't let this guy ruin your life, he is not worth it.

  14. How sunni? She believes in all sunni things but she accept that he is shia. Her sunni friends told her that this marriage is invalid but shia says to her it is valid. She is confused but the problem is- we don't know any shia imam in Poland.

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