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  1. dragonxx

    Illegitimate Children

    I see your point. But I still stand by my point that the child is not accountable for the parent's sin, rather the child is effected by the sin of the parents. That doesn't mean the child bears the sin of their parents in the sense that the child is accountable on the last day for the act that the parents did - that's all on the parents. But the child can still be affected by something entirely the parent's fault, that's life. A pregnant mother consuming alcohol/a father who transmits syphilis to his pregnant wife - such things can result in physical effects on the child, it can result in mental effects on the child, but when it comes to a spiritual effect, that's impossible? On what basis do we make this claim? And this isn't extrapolating? How in the world did you come to this conclusion when the author never said that, and clearly stated in several other paragraphs that the child needs EXTRA care as opposed to 'let the child die'. I'm extrapolating? Not only that, but my second explanation was purely about the grammatical structure of the sentence. What is there to extrapolate there, it's basic english... You're repeatedly re-stating your own conclusions of how ridiculous this is without addressing any of the arguments. Or am I also interpreting and making my own rules of english grammar as well? Neither have you addressed - why the emphasis by Ahlulbayt (a.s) on illegitimate birth in regards to many historical personalities in Islamic History? Or are the Ahlulbayt (a.s) also unjust in bringing up this emphasis? Nobody is saying they are inherently deviant. Nobody said they are born evil. Nobody suggested to treat them with disrespect except your post... What the author said throughout, and which I've paraphrased is simple; babies born illegitimately are more prone to sin, the same for example as a child born into an atheist family. This isn't disrespecting or belittling them, the way I see it, it's an extra reminder and warning to these children when they grow up to take care and avoid sin. As for the sin of the conception itself, that's 100% on the parents come Judgement day, NOT the child.
  2. dragonxx

    Illegitimate Children

    I re-read it carefully. ..."should not be given whatever food and other things are available." To me it looks like he chose the word "whatever" on purpose, to indicate that precaution should be taken when providing the child with sustenance, and that the child shouldn't just get whatever but instead extra care should be taken. Then he says "and other things are available", not "should not be given whatever food and other available things." If he said the latter, then I'd agree with your point that he is saying the child shouldn't be given food + other stuff. Unfortunately this paragraph of his could be written better, but it's still clear. Why would he say get rid of such children, but at the same time clearly state that the child can live a happy life and attain a high spiritual status? Or another perspective, why would he say children born to parents with tuberculosis shouldn't get healthcare for the TB? Doesn't make sense to me. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding your point. I am also vehemently against treating a child with dislike/hatred/etc. no matter the reason. And I don't think that's what the link I posted was conveying. I think it was trying to explain that while Allah says in the Quran a child does not carry the sins of his parents, there are still consequences (not getting inheritance, not leading prayers, etc.) from what the parents did that effect the child negatively, just like how a medical disease can effect a child negatively before even being born. The link was bringing attention that we need to treat illegitimate children with extra care, and that the aforementioned "consequences" are a reminder of the precarious situation the children are in, and how much we should tend to them.
  3. dragonxx

    Illegitimate Children

    See, when we revise something emotionally, we are prone to making errors in our understanding. "in other words they should not be given food, and water and medical help and " - that's not what he is saying. Of course you care for them just like any other child. He means those with advanced TB can easily get infections, so you can't give them ANY food/water, you have to give them CLEAN food/water to minimize their risk of contracting disease from what they consume due to their immunodeficiency. I also like the selective quotes, to give a bit of balance.. Lastly, if being born out of wedlock means absolutely nothing, then why the emphasis on for example enemies of Imam Hussein (a.s) being illegitimate? This is NOT to say that all illegitimate children end up enemies of Islam, but more often than not, they clearly sway more to a deviant path. If you have a problem with this, then you should have a problem with Allah allowing children being born in societies which drink cow urine, or eat human brains, or those born into atheist families/societies. Or do you think a person who grows up with atheism has an equal chance to one born into Islam when it comes to finding the right path? Islam doesn't preach equality=justice. It preaches fairness=justice. As muslims we should have faith Allah is the Most Just, especially when we aren't understanding specific, universal rulings.
  4. dragonxx

    Illegitimate Children

    this may be helpful https://www.al-islam.org/philosophy-islamic-laws-nasir-makarim-shirazi-jafar-subhani/question-15-why-illegitimate-children
  5. yes, you are looking for the wrong thing imo. it might be cute and all at first, but after a while you're going to want her to be quiet more than anything =P but really, you aren't going to care much for this aspect after a while, other far more important things to look for in a wife.
  6. dragonxx

    Choosing your partner in heaven?

    إِنَّ الْمُتَّقِينَ فِي جَنَّاتٍ وَعُيُونٍ {45} The righteous (will be) amid gardens and fountains (of clear-flowing water). ادْخُلُوهَا بِسَلَامٍ آمِنِينَ {46} (Their greeting will be): "Enter ye here in peace and security." وَنَزَعْنَا مَا فِي صُدُورِهِمْ مِنْ غِلٍّ إِخْوَانًا عَلَىٰ سُرُرٍ مُتَقَابِلِينَ {47} And We shall remove from their hearts any lurking sense of injury: (they will be) brothers (joyfully) facing each other on thrones (of dignity). Surah Al-Hijr:45-47 From the sound of this, it seems like you won't feel any sort of dislike to others in paradise, quite the opposite.
  7. dragonxx

    I have a few questions

    السَّلآمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ الله وبَرَكآتُه  I'm a big fan of using Aql when I know I have all the information required to reach a reliable conclusion. This isn't the case here. In this case, I have come across multiple marjaas which would require him to pray the qadha prayers, merely feeling regretful isn't enough. An example of the importance of the qadha prayers, where even after death it has to be made up - If a person did not offer some of his obligatory prayers, and did not care to give qadha, in spite of being able to do so, after his death, it is upon his eldest son, as an obligatory precaution to perform those qadha, provided that the father did not leave them as a deliberate act of transgression. If the son cannot do so, he may hire someone to perform them. The qadha prayers of his mother is not obligatory upon him, though it is better if he performs them. https://www.sistani.org/english/book/48/2251/ I remind everyone, including myself, to take care in the future in substituting one's own opinion over religious rulings, because as Allah says in the Quran: قُلْ إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ رَبِّيَ الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَالْإِثْمَ وَالْبَغْيَ بِغَيْرِ الْحَقِّ وَأَنْ تُشْرِكُوا بِاللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يُنَزِّلْ بِهِ سُلْطَانًا وَأَنْ تَقُولُوا عَلَى اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ Say: My Lord has only prohibited indecencies, those of them that are apparent as well as those that are concealed, and sin and rebellion without justice, and that you associate with Allah that for which He has not sent down any authority, and that you say against Allah what you do not know. - 7:33
  8. swimming pool aside, totally false where I'm living when in the summer. women at the gym at least wear long pants and high top shirts, whereas when they go out in public they often cross by me in the street or wherever in mini skirts and low cut shirts =/ Salam. Again disagree here as well, the gym i go to there are indeed a handful of women but i have yet to see any interactions at all. I myself have yet to be forced into interaction with them despite going there for a while now. And again, the public 'dress code' in the West is non-existent. I'm sorry but this fatwa imo is poorly written. Perhaps it was referring to mixed gym classes, where men and women participate in the same class (yoga, stretching, plyo, cycling, etc.), there would definitely be an issue here because repeatedly catching vision of the women is unavoidable. Merely going to a gym for the weight room or to jump on the treadmill where you are doing your own thing shouldn't be an issue. Bottom line, the chances of seeing an inappropriately dressed women in the West is just as high or even higher chances in public than it is at the gym (except during winter), that's just my experience which is why this fatwa makes no sense in the context it has placed itself.
  9. dragonxx

    I have a few questions

    According to who?
  10. Will all my respect to the scholars behind Sayed Sistani, this fatwa appears really flawed. By this logic, one shouldn't go out of their house in the West unless they need food, water, or they are going to work in order to earn a living. This is because people in public dress even less appropriately than the gym often times! If people don't "need" to go to the gym to maintain their health, then why should people "need" to go to a shopping mall for extra stuff, or go out to buy chocolates, or visit a friend, etc. Some people need the gym in order to maintain their health - Islam highly encourages maintaining a healthy body through physical activity. Many other types of gyms, including boxing gyms, are actually quite expensive often times. Running outside can only help so much, and there are times when it is not feasible and downright repulsive. What does one do during 5 months of winter? Sloth at home? Or run outside and catch pneumonias repeatedly? I'd love if anyone knows the logic behind the fatwa just out of curiosity, because as far as my experience goes, it's doable to avoid even glancing at women while at a mixed gym. Yes it takes a lot of awareness to do that, but it is very doable. I'm glad my taqleed is different.
  11. dragonxx


    It's funny you mention this, because being born and raised in Canada, although I am Arab, to this day there are parts of surahs I am still translating in my head to English to understand. However in this regard, I never felt that was a barrier of any sort. I never felt being born and raised in Canada put up a barrier where I can never be sincere in what I am practicing. Sincerity in my opinion isn't the act, it's the intention. So a person who doesn't speak arabic and has greater intention may have in fact have 100x more sincerity than the best arabic speaker who is merely parroting the Quran, and therefore the former would have a far superior status in the eyes of God. I have no doubt countless others who don't speak a lick of Arabic, and are forced to translate, feel its a means to break down that barrier as opposed to it being something that strengthens the barrier. That's just my perspective, though it seems you're not buying that, hopefully someone else can offer a different perspective you can better relate to!
  12. dragonxx


    Perhaps... You don't become a perfect person to be muslim. You be muslim to become a perfect person. As long as the core beliefs are there, I don't see why music should be a barrier to embracing Allah, no matter how huge a part of your life it is. As for arabic culture/ties being a necessity, hopefully one day you will be a person who attends Hajj, so that false notion is dispelled.
  13. Totally agree with your post, including this. I just find it weird those parents who sacrificed so much, but when it comes to one extra sacrifice of one of their many children moving away for valid reasons, while they themselves are relatively young and healthy, suddenly it becomes more about control over love/sacrifice. Sure, many cases you can call it abandonment, but what about sincere cases where a person really doesn't have many local options for jobs or married life? What if it was for a sincere mumin/mumina, a true Shia of Ahlulbayt (a.s), would that man/woman still not be worth it? Even all that aside, even if the child were to abandon - that's his/her failure to uphold valuable principles, and possibly Islamic duties which will come back to bite him/her. The parents still shouldn't compromise on their principles/Islamic culture regardless of their child, and should try and support a genuine endeavour the child may have (job, marriage or whatever).
  14. Many parents have this line of thinking: "I've spent all my life caring for this child, therefore I own them, and so they will serve me, marry who I want, and listen to all my commands, even though I am fully able to take care of myself and my partner. I am their mother (or father) and they are obliged to obey me or I will guilt-trip them to the end of my life, and die displeased with them." It's unfortunate that parents can't look at it from the other side of the coin, for example, "I should sacrifice having my child around so that they can marry and complete half their religion, and inshallah be closer to Allah through that, even if that means putting myself at unease, for verily, the Prophet Ibrahim (a.s) was ready to sacrifice the life of his child for Allah, and Prophet Yacoub (a.s) was separated from his child for the sake of Allah. I too will sacrifice for the pleasure of Allah." Too bad it never goes that way haha.
  15. dragonxx

    The True Toxicity of Social Media

    Summary of some of the points made in the video: · Social media causes conditioning. · Fashion industry was founded by homosexual men. The ideal profile for them is young teenage male figures, and so girls were made boy-like in their physique (i.e. anorexic). This resulted in women believing this is what men want, despite studies clearly stating otherwise. Similarly in terms profiling, social media was founded by all men (not a single woman) who were schizoids, most of these men were asexual or had very little sexual activity; this profile of men is narrowly defined and social media was created in their own image - this tool was therefore geared to schizoid, asexual, white men. This technology with a very specific psychological profile is now being used by people outside this psychological profile, and this is where conflict arises. · Screen time decreases happiness, self-esteem, life satisfaction, as well as enhancing depression and anxiety. · 63% of all instagram users are unhappy - likely the platform made them unhappy, not the other way. · Teen suicide climbed by 31% since 2010, and today is the leading cause of death in teens up to the age of 24, which is intimately connected to social media. · Pathological envy is a form of aggression, and all social media encourages aggression via algorithms. · Social media was deliberately created to foster hatred, aggression, bullying, fake news etc. in order to foster addiction and increase usage. · Ex-Chief Engineer of Facebook admits it was designed to cause addiction, and foster hatred. · Twitter limited the number of characters since it was created. Aggressive speech acts are much shorter than non-aggressive speech acts according to studies. · The "network model" was specifically chosen in order to exert network effect by social media - it spreads the fastest. Unlike hierarchy model, or curated model like forums, this model will get people addicted. · Social media in new role models such as school shooters, cults, psychosis, mass hysteria, etc. · There was never a moment in history until social media that there is such a large group that are becoming mentally ill (over 1 billion people). · We have no tools to treat people with internet addiction. What if a group sue for lack of disability benefits as a result of this diagnosis? · Internet addicts are akin to zombies. · The amount of face-to-face interactions among teens dropped by 70% in the last decade. · Many teenagers despite sitting next to each other still communicate via social media. · Homosexual orientation has tripled in less than 6 years - one of the reasons is social media. Social media enhances like-minded people interactions; easier to interact with people who think like you and agree with you. · People are literally -(explicit word that starts with F)- themselves, or rather an archetype of. · Selfies today constitute 60% of all activity on social networks. · 51% of internet users watch porn once a day for the purpose of masturbation. When looking only at males, this figure stands at 90%. · Psychological regression - people are brought into primitive defence mechanisms such as splitting. · Social media is comparable to tobacco in the aspect of conditioning; it's literally designed to do that. · Social media will likely be banned at some point in the future. · Increases suicide by 31%. · Why not implement a usage clock where after 2 hours for example you would be blocked from Facebook or twitter? · Humans fear being isolated more than anything, being very social creatures and all. · "If I post a banana peel I will get more likes than if I post a quote from Aristotle" · Social media forces you to conceal your identity and conform to an ideal which is a narcissistic ideal. · When you post a selfie, your anxiety shoots up, because you are exposing yourself and making yourself vulnerable to people who don't even know you or care about you, including haters. · "Digital natives" (those born with a tablet and social media in their hands) are doomed, there is no world outside social media, their world is social media and there is no reality outside of this. They are prone to making disastrous decisions not grounded in reality, which may lead to catastrophes such as Donald Trump getting elected. · There is no difference in principle between simulation and reality. Reality is a simulation made of carbon atoms. Simulation is a simulation made of other material. · Social media is anything but social - needs automized, lonely, hermit-like individuals. · The users are the employees of social media - it's supposed to be a content platform but you make the content where you do everything. Twitter and Facebook are dumb idiotic spaces, doing nothing but obeying your input, you are working for them. 24 hours after posting a tweet, it expires, you get no likes, you need to post again. · Love, intimacy, real relationships, togetherness, all are threats to social media as they take the eyeballs away from social media. · Social media has exponentially multiplied the amount of negative interactions and pain from the hatred directed at people posting various things - this causes these individuals be averse to real-life intimacy because the pain that may be experienced there would be far greater than the social media intimacy where only small parts of people are presented. · If you want old-fashion love, emotions, true intimacy, then we are forced by social media to develop multiple personalities in the case of those who have a job on social media, they need to create a parallel life where they have real-life interactions such as through working with teams, having another job, etc.