layla mah khan

Sis Layla, look how far you have come in these six years, look at progress you made, you got a degree and a good job, you learnt to stand up for yourself, you have been taking care of your parents and son.
Imagine for a moment how life would have been had you still been living with your husband. Surely, there is much to be thankful for

Asalam o alikum
My father passed away on 21 Feb 2016, he offered his prayers mostly regularly but not strictly. I am his only daughter, is it must on me to offer his remaining prayers?
Even if they not and I want to than how to know how much should I offer for him. If I don't know how many of his prayers are left.?
Once I already posted in a post here about the difficult situation I am in marital life.physical abuse and harassment etc. If my husband now asked me to leave my mother alone than should I?  I have no siblings.
I am currently doing a gazetted post job, my father did so much effort in making me independent. If my in laws or husband forces me to abaondon every thing then what I should do? 
Lastly my dad injury doesn't make any logical sense. I asked some good pious men to do istikhara all of them said its black magic ....
Is there any amal r wazifa that I can do to get some guidance that who did this. Can I see the person in my dreams. 
In istikhara it came that some one from my in laws family did this. 
Plz help me
I am Alone.......
 

How is your son now?
And don't worry about Child custody. I assure you he can not and will not take away the child  

Why are you calling them? Don't.

Hope you are well and living with your mother still INSHALLAH. Just checking up and see how are things going with you. I hope, INSHALLAH that everything is ok with you and your mother and your husband. I pray to Allah s.a.w to solve all of your problems sister and live in peace with all of your family members INSHALLAH.

asa,
 
it is not wajib on a female as per the vast majority of hadith/marja to make qada of parents. it is mustahab. you must however take the cost of hiring someone to offer them out of the free 1/3 of his estate.

Pakistan. 
Yes I can manage if my husband don't force me to abandon my job for his house chores.
I do job in a different city. And my husband lives with his parents in another city where he has job. 2 hours ride between both cities. He has his own car. 
He never supported me financially before or after baby. And before and after my job. 
Just because of the social stigma attchd with divorce women my father didn't let me apply for khula. 
My MPhil just ended. My parents and me both decided that I should apply for PhD scholarship abroad, take my baby and settle there. 
But than I stopped every thing after his accident. That happend on 11 jan 2016. He had head injury, I took him to a major city hospital where after 42 days he died right in my arms. 
I really don't know how I will now manage all this and move on and fight with my in laws for my rights and staying with my mother in future. 
I have a toddler son, the threat of him being taken away from me if I file for khula is another tension for me. 
Oh Allah I may not be capable of what You put on my shoulders.....
 

Please reply to my questions
Thnku
Mola bless u 
Ameen

Please reply to my questions
Thnku
Mola bless u 
Ameen

@layla mah khan       
Salaam, 
Please accept my condolences on your father's death. I pray Allah eases things for him in the afterlife and gives you and your mother the sabr and strength to carry on without him.
The impression I got from your post is that you are trying to deal with too many things at once, which is understandable since you have been burdened with some major responsibilities. I would suggest you take things one by one. That way you won't feel overwhelmed and emotionally drained.
You have experienced the death of a parent just now besides the other ongoing situation with your husband, so it's a pretty stressful period for you.The most important thing right now is to take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. So,first thing even though all the things you mentioned above are problems that need to be dealt with please understand that none of it is urgent....... so take a deep breath.
1.Your father's Qadha prayers. Contact a reliable molana or Imam of your masjid/Imam bargah. He will most likely know some people who read the deceased person's qadha namaz and charge money for it. Please notice I used the word reliable because ideally the person who does the qadha namaz should be a good practising momin. Also get some male family member involved when settling the payment, some try to take advantage of the situation and ask for a lot of money. Usually they charge on yearly basis. The molana who does Qadha namaz for my family does it Rs.4000 for one year of namaz, but I think you might have to pay a bit more. While estimating prayers it's always better to get extra done, like if you think he missed 7 years of namaz, get 10 years done. It would be just extra Sawab.
2. Regarding your marital issues, I see no reason why your father's death should change anything. You husband has proved himself to be an abusive, zalim, irresponsible husband and father. Continue with your life as before. If your parents lived in another city getting your mother to come live with you, now that your father's passed away, might be good idea.
3. You don't have to get in a conflict with your husband or in laws over this. YOUR LIVING ARRANGEMENT SHOULD NOT CONCERN YOUR IN LAWs. Set the boundaries and don't let them step over those. If they try, a simple, 'it's none of your business' should suffice. Again I am repeating do not engage in a conflict with them over this.  As far as your husband is concerned, tell him firmly that you will continue working and taking care of your mother and child. You don't have to make him understand, you don't have to convince him. Let him come to terms with it.
4. About your future, divorce, moving abroad etc. Leave those for now. It's never to a good idea to make life changing decisions when you are under acute stress. Give yourself time to deal with your father's death, spend time with your mother, take care of her. You can think over the other options after a couple of months when both you and your mother will be in a better state of mind.
5.Whether it was black magic or not, make it a habit to recite the 4 quls every morning and night to protect yourself and your son from all evils. Have the faith that the Quls will protect you from all harm, be it magic, evil eye, wicked people or your corrupt husband. 
6. You are never alone.Always remember : Allah is closer to you than your Jugular Vein.

Asalam o alikum
My father passed away on 21 Feb 2016, he offered his prayers mostly regularly but not strictly. I am his only daughter, is it must on me to offer his remaining prayers?
Even if they not and I want to than how to know how much should I offer for him. If I don't know how many of his prayers are left.?
Once I already posted in a post here about the difficult situation I am in marital life.physical abuse and harassment etc. If my husband now asked me to leave my mother alone than should I?  I have no siblings.
I am currently doing a gazetted post job, my father did so much effort in making me independent. If my in laws or husband forces me to abaondon every thing then what I should do? 
Lastly my dad injury doesn't make any logical sense. I asked some good pious men to do istikhara all of them said its black magic ....
Is there any amal r wazifa that I can do to get some guidance that who did this. Can I see the person in my dreams. 
In istikhara it came that some one from my in laws family did this. 
Plz help me
I am Alone.......
 

Thanku for ur kind words and support. May Allah bless u with happinesses of world

Of course you will meet your parents and family in heaven after all is done what makes you think otherwise?

( Bismillah) 
As Salam U Alai Kum Wa Rahmatullah Hi Wa Barakatuhu
 
I pray ths message reaches you in the best of health.
 
Inna Lillah Hi Wa Inna Ilaihi Raji'oon.
 
May Allah swt shower your father with mercy. To answer your first question, it is fard upon you to pray the prayers your father missed.Just offer as much prayers as you can.  As for your husband, i suggest you call the police because physically and mentally abusing a woman is totally unacceptable.  Ask Allah swt and he will answer your dua, In Sha Allah. 
 
To answer your final question,  i dont know abt Amal r Wazifa. Now, if Allah swt wills, u may see ur dad in your dreams.
 
Now dear sister, You are NOT alone. Remember dear sister in Islam, Allah SWT  is watching and he knows your trouble and problems.
Hope this helped.
Salam
 

inalillahi wainailaihi rojiun
i will pray for your father inshallah he'll be blessed with heaven and meet the prophets and ahlulbaith
stay strong everything will become fine ,have faith in god!!!!

Please reply to my questions
Thnku
Mola bless u 
Ameen