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  1. I laughed too :lol: Because you already did all the hard work, Ali-F. You basically solved it... you wrote: thus it is: 2x^2-x^2-y^2 The first to terms there are 2xsquared - xsquared 2 apples minus 1 apple = 1 apple. So you're left withxsquared - ysquared Adding: Actually, are you sure what you wrote is correct? --------------I know the answer is: x 2-y2 But when I try to simplify it I don't get that. 2x^2+2xy-x^2-y^2-2xy -------------- I don't want to solve it (last time I did, you didn't reply :P http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235025687-math-problems-need-help/#entry2742455 - lol, that above post was exactly 1 year ago... time flies!)... but one thing is that it seems to me 2x2(x+y) will become 2x3+2x2y But if the starting equation is actually 2x(x+y)-(x+y)2 [ not 2x2(x+y)-(x+y)2 ] ...then it seems the stuff you wrote would be correct.
  2. There is a point in my giving my opinion and analysis, and that photo I included makes clear the ridiculousness of the issue. Secondly, Ay. Sistani didn't answer the question, someone from his office did (someone whose English may also not be the strongest, which can affect the answer... plus, English doesn't seem to be OP's first language either). And I gave my opinion about OP's job and possible alternatives, because it can help him. I've sometimes made that point in other threads, where people ask a question and then someone answers definitively without saying "it's my understanding that". HOWEVER, note that I included phrases like "I think" and "in my (unqualified) opinion" Also, I (and others) have described how the language phrasing by the questioner is flawed. If you're not aware of it, then you haven't followed along. But I paraphrase: Don't pass judgement on other people's posts so easily. Thanks ;)
  3. I think this kind of thing relates to problems in how taqlid is applied today... It's an example of how people use "mental gymnastics" to rationalize things they shouldn't do + the issue of language differences between the people writing-in and those replying. 1) I think it would be clearly haram, based on basic Islamic principles.(unless you need to do the work to survive, of course... but that doesn't seem to be the case here) This would be halal:- A client comes to you and asks for you for a write-up on a certain topic, and you're reasonably sure it's not for a school assignment. When web site creators want content, they sometimes hire people do write articles via that method. But when you know it's for a school assignment, that clearly is un-Islamic. John Al-Ameli also made good points about the consequences. I see an analogy to this:- It's not illegal to drive a taxi and drive the customer where they ask you to go.- But it is illegal to be the "getaway driver" for a bank robbery. 2) As others said, there may have been a misunderstanding due to language + how the question was asked. Ali-F sent the questions to Sistani.org and Najaf.org and he wrote that "I asked them the exact question which you wrote here." That probably is part of the problem, because d_rizvi starts off by calling himself a "freelancer", which clouds the question. Whoever replied should have still realized that his work is basically to help people cheat, but maybe they didn't understand the nuances. 3) This came to mind for me when I read this thread a few weeks ago, but didn't get around to posting it: "India arrests hundreds over Bihar school cheating"http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-31998343 :blink: :lol: There's really no difference between writing essays + answering test questions, compared to the people standing outside those windows. One is online, and the other is in-person, but both are essentially the same. If someone asks a follow-up questions, they should include that article, to raise the issue of how it's any different. Also, d_rizvi, in my (unqualified) opinion, whatever you made in the past is okay, but you should stop doing that work. You can probably make just as much using your skills for other legitimate work, like doing write-ups for web sites?
  4. I happened to look into this a few weeks ago when HayderM mentioned the city, but then didn't get around to posting it. But anyway, in honour of the city named after me (just kidding it is a nice name though ;) ), I found these: https://www.facebook.com/Brightonfaithshiasociety https://instagram.com/brightonshiayouth/ And this seems to be somewhat close to Brighton: https://www.facebook.com/MillateJafferiyaCrawley Hopefully that will help you Brighton folk find other Shias
  5. That is true (lots of good people of many types), but the thing is that in terms of religious laws, Muslim women can't marry non-Muslims. Muslim men can marry Christians or Jews, but Muslim women can only marry Muslim men. I think the rationale is that the father would have more influence on the religious upbringing of the kids (although I think kids usually probably spend more time with their mothers, and that has a lot of influence... so the father would need to make a concerted effort to teach the kids about religious topics). But anyway, that does create a demographic issue, because guys are more likely than girls to either: "import" a wife from "back home" or marry a local non-Muslim. It reminds me of issues I've read about regarding the Black community too... because Black guys who are successful have a higher likelihood of marrying non-Black women, but that creates a demographic mismatch in the Black community as well; and Black women don't always have an easy time finding non-Black husbands. However, I don't see why those girls at your daughter's college would really care much about demographic issues at their ages... because I'm guessing most of them probably haven't even tried to get married yet. PS You and your family sound very nice (except I'll say that you and coldcow's gun knowledge scares me :lol: ) But if more people were like you, the world would be a nicer place. :)
  6. Yeah, I think there is a sleazy aspect to it... that "cheating website" stuff in the news lately comes to mind - it's obviously different too, but there is a similar aspect especially with guys who do it without telling the wife (and who don't even have any geographic distance problem). Also, Caliguy, regarding solutions, a couple of ideas I had are: - If you're able to work on the 2 days off, maybe that would help prevent the issue, by keeping you busy. - And maybe you could use those work days to either: (1) getting extra pay to help cover a trip to visit your wife (or for her to visit you) and/or (2) by working on weekends, use that worktime to cover days off in order to visit her. But in general, it sounds like if you keep busy outside your home on your days off, that would partly help.
  7. Robots came to mind when I was reading this thread earlier too :huh: (regarding advice, not women) Because sometimes, the advice people give is almost the kind of thing one would expect robots / artificial intelligence to give, because people basically use "reductionist thinking". That other thread about the 14-year-old was one example:http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235031633-black-magic-and-marriage/#entry2825132 It seems like people just get into a tunnel-vision mindset, without considering context... "masturbation is haram, mutah is halal, therefore go do mutah". The case of the 14-year-old was a perfect example of how context matters (and would make mutah haram in that particular case, imho). Context always should be considered (although it may not always matter), but this case is another example where it's particularly important. If the threadstarter does mutah (or even attempts to), it could screw-up his life. Various issues: (1) I think most Muslims girls (and their parents... and non-Muslims too), if they found out that a fiance/husband went and slept with some other girl due to visa issues or some other delay, they would cancel the wedding / get a divorce. (2) Ay. Sistani (and I think all others) say that a married man can't do mutah with a non-Muslim, even if the wife gives permission. So: the guy would need to somehow find a Muslim woman willing to sleep with a guy who's already set to marry. How exactly would he go about that? - His fiancee/wife and her parents will probably get angry about that idea and cancel the wedding / get a divorce. - If he does it without telling her: He tries asking various girls, most/all of them decline, and word will inevitably get back to his fiancee/wife... then he'll probably end up not married to her + have trouble finding someone else to marry. - Even if the fiancee/wife agrees to it, other people in the community will find it bizarre that the guy is trying to find someone to sleep with while engaged/married. - And it's morally wrong (I would say haram) if he doesn't tell any "prospective mutah wives" that he's already married. So, that means he would have to find a Muslim girl who is willing to basically be a short-term wife for him, with no real chance of anything long-term. That's not going to be easy to find. And even the search process will create issues, as mentioned above. As such, for an engaged/married guy to try to do mutah in this situation is almost as impractical as a 14-year-old trying to do mutah. I suppose some guys are already chummy enough with other girls that they may be able to find a mutah partner, but I really don't think that type of pre-existing chumminess is appropriate. I think part of the issue is also cultural/theoretical... I think the people who argued for mutah earlier in the thread (1) probably don't live in a western country (and don't understand the local context + how few Muslims are around... although my guess is that in a country like India, it would probably be even harder to find a temporary wife while engaged/married) or (2) still a teenager. In both cases, the ideas are basically theoretical. Regarding what you wrote though, obviously Muslim women can only be married to 1 man at a time, and have the aspect of pregnancy, so that's the limiting factor... that doesn't make mutah the right option for the threadstarter, but just saying in general, I think the pregnancy issue is the main reason for the different gender rules.
  8. I don't know, I've never really heard anything about that. al-islam.com is a Sunni site, so that may create some confusion, but al-islam.org is definitely a Shia site. I think one of the most useful aspects of it is all the online books they have.
  9. I did a quick search, and it looks like this doesn't have a thread of its own yet. "In A Nutshell - Fact Sheets About Islam and Shi'ism" http://www.al-islam.org/nutshell/ is very good for introductory & summary info, and can be helpful in case people get asked about certain topics (like from Sunni Muslims or non-Muslims).
  10. I just posted this in another thread, and thought you might find it useful too: http://www.al-islam.orgis an excellent site Also, these are great for summary info: http://www.al-islam.org/nutshell/
  11. www.al-islam.org is an excellent site Also, these are great for summary info, and in case you get others questioning you about certain issues: http://www.al-islam.org/nutshell/
  12. This is partly to address Irfani313's earlier post, because he made some subtle insults at me about my previous post (and to anyone whose view differs from his): Context matters. I think that people sometimes ignore that aspect, even when their intuition sees it. Alaska and Hawaii are both non-contiguous US states, but they are very different. If you asked someone if they would want to live in a non-contiguous US state, and they say "Definitely not, because within those 2 states, I could only find a job in northern Alaska, and it's far too isolated and cold", that's important context. The context in Western countries makes it like "northern Alaska" in my above example: 1) Having a 2nd wife is illegal in most/all Western countries. As I understand, that alone makes it un-Islamic to do, because Muslims are supposed to follow the laws where they live, except for the condition I mentioned. 2) Since it's illegal, you can't be very public with it. - I'm not a fan of expensive weddings, but will there even be a wedding with more than immediate family? The more people who attend, the bigger chance word will spread and maybe that would lead to trouble with the authorities. - Then after the nikah, you're basically asking the 2nd wife to live her life in some level of secrecy. - And after kids are born, it will be awkward for them in many ways - including to have that aspect of secrecy in their lives. 3) The illegal aspect also means that people involved in a polygamous marriage can't really make it "official" in terms of pensions/banking/real estate/medical decisions, etc. The first wife is already registered as the "official" wife, so that leaves the 2nd wife (or 3rd or 4th) in a weaker position. - If the husband dies and the 1st wife then gets his pension, the other wives have no real recourse if she doesn't share it. If the guy is rich, he could make adjustments for that, but most people aren't that rich. - Or if he is incapacitated and an important medical decision must be made, the doctors will ask wife #1, not the other wives. - For people who live in places where society is only structured to have 1 "main wife", that's just the way it is -- and that's important context that cannot be ignored. So essentially, the likeliest woman you find willing to be a second wife is one who isn't getting interest from single men, and is probably over 40 and also probably divorced. So when women who aren't in that situation are asked to be a 2nd wife, it should be understandable why they may have a visceral reaction about it... it's like implicitly saying "Hey, since I think you aren't getting interest from single men, how about you become my 2nd wife?" The above is all important context. When a guy in a Western country asks a woman to be his 2nd wife, all those factors above are part of the underlying question, even when it's not said out loud. The 2nd wife & kids would have to have some amount of secrecy in their life, and that's not an ideal way for them to live, and doesn't seem very fair. Only 1 wife can be the "official wife", so any others are somewhat sidelined. TL, DR: - Yes, it's halal in Islam, but there are conditions. And the question in this thread was about how people would feel, not whether it's halal. [Additionally, there probably are some women who would be okay being the 1st wife, but not the 2nd wife] - Even then, if a woman is okay being a 2nd wife, she can do it - but in this thread, we have some views saying people who see problems with the 2nd wife issue basically have a religious deficiency. But people are allowed to have preferences - just because it's allowed* doesn't mean it's required (* allowed under certain conditions, which don't seem to be met in Western countries anyway due to the legal and secrecy issues). If people live in a place where the legal and social structures accommodate multiple wives, and a woman wants to live like that, maybe that can turn out to be her "Hawaii". And even in "northern Alaska", there inevitably are some people who would want to live there, but it's understandable why most people wouldn't in Western countries. But most people wouldn't want to live in Hawaii either, because there are lots of drawbacks - it's just a matter of preference based on situations and alternative options.
  13. For a woman living in a Western country, I think a very angry reaction is understandable, if getting asked to be someone's second wife. Because my impression is that when guys in Western countries do that, the first wife is kind of "the main wife", and then he decides he wants some "extra fun" and the second wife is, well, "secondary" (in the entire sense of the word). And most people, male or female, would see themselves as "the main event", not a sidedish. And there are all kinds of other issues, because Western societies don't recognize 2nd wives... e.g. wife #1 is already listed as the "official wife" and will receive pension/survivor benefits if the husband dies, has the right to make joint medical/financial/banking/real estate decisions, etc. In contrast, in Middle Eastern countries as Endless mentioned, polygamy is more common and legal structures can accommodate 2nd wives, so the multiple wives could see themselves as co-main wives. But essentially, for a woman in a Western country, I think an angry reaction is an instinctive reaction to all the above factors, because it can be seen as somewhat insulting in various subtle ways... I think it's almost like getting asked to be his mistress, because it would have to be kept somewhat secret. So getting angry in the context of all that is understandable. Also: 1) The secrecy aspect is because in most Western countries (perhaps all), if a guy is already married, then he can't get married again... it's illegal and called "bigamy". And Muslims are supposed to follow the laws where they live (unless the law is un-Islamic, like "you must eat pork every Tuesday"). So the secondary wife issue is moot in that sense. 2) Women can put in their marriage contract that the husband can't get a 2nd wife without the wife's permission, so that closes any possible loopholes (although obviously, one would want to trust him enough not to anyway, if he knew you wouldn't like it). Adding: But like a lot of things, it's just an option, and it could work well for some people. If a guy has "good genes", it is good in a way that he spreads them. It is an issue in modern society, where a lot of people who probably should spread their genes only have 1 or 2 kids, while some who ideally wouldn't have many kids have a lot (mostly due to not being able to afford birth control). I don't support eugenics, but I think that kind of imbalance has a long-term impact - whether it's nature or nurture, the probabilities are that less-ideal types will have less-ideal offspring (but of course, an excellent person could emerge from anywhere). Anyway, some women may be very independent and wouldn't mind being a 2nd wife... I've read of some Western women purposely increasing the chance of pregnancy when they're unmarried and childless at age 40ish, even if they don't have a commitment from their boyfriend, if they feel he has good genes (he might think she's on birth control, but she uses him to get a kid).
  14. Yeah, the question is a little odd, because it would be like asking "How many times per week does a married Muslim couple eat cereal, compared to a couple who is dating?" Because being Muslim doesn't really influence the answer. However, this does remind me of some info that's related to this. Here's a good book: http://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi And this page from it: http://www.al-islam.org/marriage-and-morals-islam-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/chapter-three-islamic-sexual-morality-2-its#5-days-times-sex describes times/days when sex is forbidden, discouraged, recommended, and obligatory.
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