Gaius I. Caesar

Allahumma salli ala Muhammadiw wa Ali Muhammadin wa ajjil farajahum. Astaghfirillah, I need help. Ya rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqir.

Allahumma salli ala Muhammadiw wa Ali Muhammadin wa ajjil faraja hum. Astaghfirillah.

Being shy or reserved is simply one aspect of being introverted, it can be true for some introverts, not all but where I wanted to bring your attention to is here: ^ This is what I define an introvert e.g. I don't feel a need to fit with the "in" crowd or keep with the Jones family because I am focused on my personal needs/problems/thoughts. Now why am I bringing this up and how does it pertain to your question? Well, a bully bullies people for control over them, how they perceive him/her and give them a sense of security and/or power.. Again, this is also true for cyber bullies, especially the perception part. A bully will try to silence others or ideas that make him/her uncomfortable, they are very preoccupied with others and their environment. They seek to validate themselves in the approval/fear of others. They want to be approved of or feared by their family/friends, community, forum and they thrive off the attention. This is why they gang up on people, power. They simply love it, because it justifies their beliefs or behavior and gives them a reason to continue. Introverts don't care for it, attention can make them physically ill from stress or exhausted because they don't like being put on the spot, that's why there is no real need to actively seek out attention for the point of view of an introvert. Bullies are emotionally/mentally stunted people, very socially inept as well. They react inappropriately to life's inconveniences, instead of calming down or finding a different alternative/solution to the problem. In life, they will punch, berate, threaten or scream until you give them what they want (e.g. attention, reaction). Cyber bullies will also harass you until you give them what they want namely, attention. When our attention is given, the cycle will continue. http://aplatformforgood.org/the-mind-behind-the-bully-the-psychology-of-bullying/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compulsive-acts/201501/cyberbullying http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/ucla-psychology-study-explains-when-and-why-bystanders-intervene-in-cyberbullying ^ Some relevant links to check out and read,

You're not understanding the word "introvert" and what it means: A person characterized by interest in or preoccupation with oneself or one's own thoughts as opposed to others or the environment; shy or reserved. ^ Does this sound like a bully to you @Aflower

Most people are uncomfortable with staring and it is debatable whether staring can be seen as checking out or not ^ Sad but true, some people can be really disgusting. No cloth ever will deter them, it really is a spiritual disease of the heart. Except Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) but it's up to us to obey Him. He does decide our fate through our actions though, from what I understand.

It was just an example but even in the West, we are not oppressed. Our religious rights are protected and we are safe from political attacks or terrorism. Oh ok, I see

^ This, completely agree button x1000

Might be true for Shias in Pakistan and in the Gulf but Shias in general are not outcasts, look at Iran- 90-95% Shia, are you going to tell me that they are outcasts or oppressed in their own country for following the official state religion?

You'll have a fifty percent chance of encountering a Christian woman in the UK.

Silent pain- is the petrichor after the rain The sky's clear ichor, it threatens to stain Them walls and cobblestones The hadiths say when it rains, we shall then atone Among the malls and hardware stores As the cold seeps into our bones Hissing our names

Or in my case, there might not be a Muslim community (besides SC) @Murtaza1 Say nothing at all if you can't or aren't unwilling to understand the OP's situation: Being insular and "settling with your kind" isn't really working out for Muslim communities.

Please tell her for me, that she would never be punished for leaving this guy. Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى saw everything and knows truly what was in this man's heart. Any doubts or second guessing is waswas from the Shaitan (la)

I see, by the way, I don't there is proof that Bibi Maryam (sa) did shun marriage.

Continued... I strongly disagree with this statement, anyone can get remarried. If there's a will, there's a way and as long as people desire re-marriage, everyone gets the same chances.

You're missing the point, look at the above text. I don't think she should remarry anytime soon, she needs time to recover. Celibacy is undoubtedly haram but not everyone's problems can be solved with Nikah.