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  1. Salam, Social anxiety, I have suffered from it myself and still do at times. I grew up in an overly protective conservative family so I think that is the root cause. It was triggered by other events and being disappointed in people's actions. What worked for me is shutting out everyone that was negative and surrounded myself with positive people(not necessarily Muslims). I also made it a goal for myself not to hate or judge others instead try to give them benefit of the doubt/excuse. The more I exposed myself to humans the less defensive my body was in social situations. So try to go out more and more. A little at a time don't force yourself but also don't be lazy about it.. Face your fears brother. The freedom from fear is worth the struggle.. Some days you will want to stay home and not interact and that is okay too, take a break, and when you are feeling your best take full advantage of that energy and go out. You can start small and build your way up to larger crowds. Most importantly be kind to yourself. Pay attention to what you are saying to yourself about yourself. I would also advise against listening to music, not because it is haram, only because it doesn't give you time to quiet your mind. Anxiety comes from over-thinking. Instead of listening to music try to meditate. And lastly, exercise! Get fit. Let your blood circulate. That alone will give you 20% improvement in mood(based on my experience and those around me) As far as the suicidal thoughts and constant mood change I think you should see a medical professional. A psychiatrist. It could be chemical imbalances in your body which could be treated by medication. I am not an advocate of pharmaceuticals but it might be right for you. I understand as a muslim why you would reach out to fellow muslims is search of a solution to what you probably think is linked to your faith. However, hearing your symptoms, I don't think any of us can be the best help for you, if its a mental health issue... Remember you are a physical being.. God challenges/tests us with our health. Seek help from a professional and Pray Allah makes it a cause to end your suffering. Brother I pray for you. Much love. Wsalam,
  2. I looked further into this matter and my understanding is wrong. Disregard my posts..
  3. @UltraVires All so eager to list references to hadeth and Quran on why you are in the wrong. I don't think Hijab in its traditional form is for everyone and every society. I do not cover my hair but I do wear hijab in the sense that I veil myself from the lust of man in my presence, demeanor, and self respect, which is enough for social life in the west. When I go to the mosque and in some parts of the Muslim world I do cover with the head scarf only in respond to cultural norm, as I would in any culture. Its safer and better to avoid unwanted attention in those places. People can be obnoxious. Now when I am in a place where there are animals of men I wear my largest clothing and speak in a very rough tone. To repel the perverts. This is for my own comfort. Again in everyday western life, if you're living in a safe area, I think traditional hijab is unnecessary. It brings more attention if anything. My opinion I am not speaking on behalf of Islam. Allahu Alam. My mother learned to accept me give your family the opportunity to accept you. Do what makes sense to you. Be yourself. Much love, Salam
  4. @BornShia looking further into his research and ideas I don't think he considers himself hanbali. Just a thought. I did not realize how distant Sunni Islam was from the Quran and the effect of the Ummayads had/have. Thanks again for introducing this thinker Hassan bin Farhan Al-Maliki. Its relieving that he is able to practice and preach whilst living in Saudi Arabia. May Allah protect him from his enemies.
  5. All the interviewer was concerned about was stirring rumors against her guest. Thanks for sharing..
  6. @CreepingSharia there is no word for world(s) in bism Allah alrahman alraheem
  7. @starlight I have to agree with @Haji 2003 that verse is related to Gods capability of resurrection. Without commentators the language is also telling. @allsayyidsareahlulbayt! (What's up with your name dude) I've only had a glimpse at this Ahlul bayt are nur idea so excuse my ignorance.. everything is possible for Allah but technically speaking how do Ahlul Bayt achieve this(I don't know what to call it) fluidity in worlds, transcendence?. How can one accept that^ without believing they must be non-human or another form, nur? What's nur? Do we have it? Why doesn't God just send those creations a messenger from within themselves? If Ahlul bayt are nur and human do they struggle with the worldly trials as we do? Do they get judged? Should we still aspire to be like them? Can you provide more hadeeths on this? Also, verses from the Quran that support. Not intended to deviate off topic but at this point Ahlul bayt are made to seem like alien-form anyway. Is this why people worship Imam Ali? Crazy ideas. Little knowledge :/
  8. It's interesting to think we are the last of those worlds.. How are Ahlul Bayt a hujja on these creatures if they are clueless of our existence? @Haji 2003 can you provide the verses in the Quran from the link you quoted.
  9. Wsalam, Aha makes sense. So ok the verse I quoted has nothing to do with the topic discussed. But it is intriguing to think that there are other creations of God being tested like we are. Do Ahlul Bayt(3) speak of this subject at all?
  10. YAS! I'm so glad you asked this question. Please also give meaning to the following verse: وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ خَلْقُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَمَا بَثَّ فِيهِمَا مِنْ دَابَّةٍ ۚ وَهُوَ عَلَىٰ جَمْعِهِمْ إِذَا يَشَاءُ قَدِيرٌ (Quran 42.29) And from His signs He created the heavens and the Earth; and the land animals that He scattered in BOTH of them (heavens and Earth); And He is capable of gathering them (in one place) if He wishes.
  11. Salam, الِاسْمُ غَيْرُ الْمُسَمَّى If you accept that the name of things are not the thing itself then your questions naturally cancel out. The names of Allah are there for the sake of our comprehension. Therefore, he is what he is whether or not we know and comprehend. He does not change. The limit is within us. إِنَّ لِلَّهِ تِسْعَةً وَ تِسْعِينَ اسْماً فَلَوْ كَانَ الِاسْمُ هُوَ الْمُسَمَّى لَكَانَ كُلُّ اسْمٍ مِنْهَا إِلَهاً We must accept that names are not the thing in itself otherwise we have 99 gods. Which isn't rational. Example: If living things become independent of water, is it no longer water? Do its qualities change? Does it exist? It still exists. It's qualities do not change. It is still water even if we strip it of its name.
  12. Well.. How much of the Quran needs support from Hadeeth? There is an undeniable hujja(reasoning, argument, pretense) the Quran presents, alone. Sometimes people choose to ignore it anyway. The claim that alcohol being permissible is ungrounded and people still find a way to accept it. I would rather deal with a quranist than any hadeeth based judgement based off "Al Kutub Al Sittah", the 6 major Hadeeth books.
  13. Salam ChritianLady, God, being just and graceful, does not do anything without reason. However, it is not necessary that we should know the reason of each and every Devine law/action. God is the most beneficial. Still we are ordered to think for ourselves. "Indeed, the most disliked created beings in the Sight of God are the deaf and the dumb who do not use their intellect. (Quran, 8:22) You shall not accept any information, unless you verify it for yourself. I have given you the hearing, the eyesight, and the brain, and you are responsible for using them. (Quran, 17:36)" So for the sake of understanding.. It is inappropriate to compare homosexuality to incest and beastiality. Let us say that two consensual adult homosexuals do not wish to marry, since marriage is only for man/woman, is it still a sin? We have reached a place in science where reproducing can be done by donors. On the other hand there are entire countries, example Japan, who suffer low sub-replacement fertility(adult to child ratio) where homosexuality isn't a factor. Is t still a sin?
  14. Salam Miss Wonderful, Homosexuality was removed from the DSM by the American Psychiatric Association in the early 70's. Hence, should not be viewed as a pathology. That will serve no one, only waste resources and cause a lot of pain to all those involved. Let us assume the gay person is Muslim and doesn't want to disobey God.. Then through the Qur'an he/she would be guided if the person so believes. {And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient. Quran 2:155} Thinking homosexuality is a pathology is dangerous. Imagine the treatment options that will arise due to this dilemma. You don't have to imagine it.. Just google conversion therapies. It's horrible. All you can do for your friend is accept him the way he is. If he's happy be happy for him(this isn't Islamic advice). And remember... إِنَّ اللَّهَ لا يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّى يُغَيِّرُوا مَا بِأَنفُسِهِمْ {"Allah does not change a people's lot unless they change what is in their hearts" Ar Raad 11} If he had accepted himself no amount of "treatment" or advice can change him. It's a tricky subject so let's not hold firm to any opinion because of our upbringing and emotions. There is so much we don't know.
  15. Well nowhere in the Qur'an is there a punishment for homosexuality. There is an idea that suggest it was not homosexuality that damned the people of Lut instead they were condemned for committing other criminal acts such as rape, murder, refusal of hospitality, etc.. Allah Alam Just as the woman's biology does not not support her to have multiple sex partners at once, due to her vaginal ecolog, and it being impermissible for a woman to marry more than one man at once. Similarly, a homosexual lifestyle between two men might/does contract stds. But if its all just biology what then about lesbian sex? What about protected sex? I am not attempting to answering your question... just pondering along with..
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