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Are there any questions I should ask this person that would allow my parents and I to assess him further as a husband?

Walikum asalam, I appreciate your input. To add more context, they were in the relationship for 8 years total. The girl told her parents she wanted to marry him 4 years into the relationship as she was afraid of her parents reaction as they are Sunni and did not think she would be serious about him as more than a friend. He was known as her friend in their friend group with others so their relationship was considered as such in her home until she told her parents explicitly that they liked each other and wanted to get married. At the time of the mutah, she also did her research and decided to partake in it. I'm not sure if that warrants any further input, but, I'd like to know if you have further thoughts. His point to me was that they were trying to get their parents to come around for so long that it seemed the best option since they would stay with each other when visiting and it didn't feel right to partake in such actions openly whilst "living together" during visits.

Any opinions?

I'm Shia and speaking with someone who is also Shia for marriage we met through a muslim marriage app and are South Asian Pakistani/Indian, he is 2-3 years younger than me. Within the first few weeks of us speaking he was upfront with me and told me he was in a 7-8 year relationship with a Sunni girl. They had planned to marry but, her parents were not willing due to the sect difference which dragged on for some time until he ended it. Since they were in different states they would fly to each other to visit and in order to make it halal and for peace of mind he suggested Mu'tah and she agreed. Although they were intimate prior to that for a few years, they were living with their respective families back in the home country and at that time did not do Mu'tah. He said the reason for doing it here in the US once they each moved here for work was because he wanted to make it halal as the eventual goal was marriage and if one of their planes crashed or something happened during travel etc at least he would have the peace of mind knowing it was halal. I spoke with his ex later on and she also attested to this. I want to get married with him but, my parents are considering this a huge red flag that he's engaged in Mu'tah before and it's become a reoccurring topic of argument in our home as a reason to not get married to him when I bring him up. Reason being, that my parents consider it taboo and a way to engage in haram without the strings of a documented marriage attached aka no documentation=there could be multiple women and he's lying or that he might do it again in the future after nikkah. He's spoken to my parents about this as well openly and told them the same when they asked him and was clear that his ex was his only relationship and the only person he's done that with as the end goal with her was a nikkah which because of parents and personal differences did not end up happening. He also stated he does not plan on doing mu'tah after having his nikkah and also does not plan on getting married to anyone else. I guess my question is, am I overlooking a huge red flag and being too nonchalant about all this? Does this mean he is fooling me? I'm not sure. Otherwise, his qualities as a future husband are apparent and positive. I also suppose this question is more geared towards women? Please let me know your thoughts/opinions/further questions to form an opinion?

My marja is A. Sistani. Any advice on how to pray qasr like the intention and such? Is anything changed?

My mom and I are traveling to to our home country from the U.S to visit family. We'll be staying for around 20 days. Is it possible to do the full regular prayers or do we need to do qasr prayers while we are there? I asked my quran teacher and he said we can do the regular prayers since we're staying more than 10 days and my mom is a citizen of there but I read on here that that doesn't matter? I'm confused can anyone let me know if we need to do qasr prayers there for the duration of our trip? and also how to do qasr prayers? Thank You

I was fasting today and went to an iftar at a mosque near me but I forgot to say my usual dua before eating! Does that mean I need to redo the fast? I had already read maghrib/isha and was in line for food, I went and sat down with my friend and ate the fruit, I remembered I forgot to say the dua after a few bites! What should I do? Please help!

anyone? The floor is tile so I am confused because everyone is addressing carpeted areas?

So basically, since the dirty water was all around the basement (it has now dried), I should put clean water on the whole floor and wipe it up 3 times?

Who should I then give the sadaqah to? There is a sadaqah box at my mosque would it be okay to put it in there?

My cousin passed away sunday night and my mom was wondering how to give sadaqah on my cousins behalf? Is there a verbal niyyat or a specific place to give the sadqah, what would be the proper procedure? I follow Ayotallah Sistani.

So, I've read some topics here on Shiachat and am confused. I understand that once you pass gas your wudu is void. However what is that constituted as? Do you only have to not redo your wudu if there is no smell and odor? or redo if its loud and has odor? I understand with myself when I go into sadjah I feel something small there pop but its not loud nor does it really feel like "real" gas, more like minuscule air bubbles. I follow Ayotallah Sistani for those wondering. Please let me know.

Okay, also I found a few on my sweater, I took them off but am still paranoid. Any tips on how to get them off for sure? Should I put it in the wash or would that just spread the najasah?

Okay, are my boots najis do they need to be washed?

Thank you, but does anyone else know? I just want to be sure.