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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. I personally try to avoid it. I used to feel very self conscious about this when I first started working because the majority of my coworkers are guys, but I've found that most people don't really care whether I do or don't return a handshake or a hug, so I dont see why I should overthink it.  

  2. It's funny how there are so many contradictory opinions about skinny jeans.... back in November I remember listing to a radio channel where they had some expert who was saying skinny jeans would be the least selling holiday gift this Christmas since it's been a style for so many years now, everyone has so many, no one wants any more, this style is going out of fashion, etc. Yet I work for a major international clothing brand and the top item sold, out of everything in the entire store, were the skinny jeans. 

    I don't think they even look that good on most people. 

    It was barely a few years ago that a few brands started reselling boyfriend jeans and flared. I wish those would come back into fashion. 

  3. On 1/30/2017 at 6:05 AM, Iman said:

    For now would like peoples experiences and thoughts, but thanks, if we really are at crossroads we might do that.

    My brother recently came back from Hawaii. He travels a lot and never faced any issues at airports or when he's crossing internal borders. This time he was flying domestically and was stopped by airport security both to and from Hawaii and both times he wasn't let go until like 10 minutes before his flight. Both times they asked him very rigorous questions for over an hour. He's 20, has a common Muslim name, was mistaken to be Arab, and was traveling alone... It could have been a coincidence he got stopped, or it could have been related to the recent "Muslim" ban imposed in the US. I've had several other friends get stopped at airports as well. I really hope this thing calms down soon.

    Other than that, he had a good time at Hawaii. Said it looked very similar to Los Angeles. He ended up renting a car to get around instead of taking buses as their timings were very limited. Cost of living is very high as well. He was in Honolulu where there were mostly tourists from all over the world and a few locals who were also very friendly.  Be prepared however and plan out where you want to go beforehand as there are certain areas with high crime. 

  4. I think maybe you're interpreting this the wrong way. All sustenance and blessings and everything else we ask for is provided by Allah and only comes from Allah. There is no doubt about that. Thinking that any of God's creation has the power to make our Duas accepted is shirk. However, as we all sinners in this world, often times our sins push us farther away from our bond with God and block our duas from getting accepted. It is for this reason why we often ask for the ahlul bayt to intercede on our behalf, as they are sinless and they have a closer bond with God. There is nothing wrong with asking the ahlul bayt for shafa'ah or intercession, but please don't confuse that with them having the power to grant your duas. That belongs to God only.

  5. When I was in uni I did a lot of my studying and school work on my laptop and kept getting distracted by Facebook and other stuff online... I don't remember the name of the website anymore, but you could enter certain websites that would be blocked on your computer for certain timeframes (such as when you're studying or writing a paper), and when my semester finished I was able to go back and lift those blocks. I'm sure there's still lots of websites/apps available that do that. 

  6. Trust me, you're not alone. I also feel this way from time to time and so do several of my friends. But it's important to realize that it's caused by pressure from the media and the society we live in to act and dress and look a certain way to fit in. If I decide to take off my hijab, all I'm doing is compromising my beliefs in order to conform to what society "wants" me to look/dress/act like, which is not worth it. I don't know a single person who took off the hijab and said anything good came out of it. We all experience this feeling from time to time. I think you mentioned you were a revert; do you have any close Muslim friends you can speak to regarding this? Having a support system to rely on can make all the difference.

    Imam Ali (AS) said, like your body your soul also gets tired. So refresh it by wise sayings/doings.

  7. On 11/26/2016 at 1:33 AM, yahlulbayt said:


    I just moved to michigan from Boston for a program at UofM ann arbor. Idk what it is but I'm having trouble finding people to connect with here (or atleast people who are interested in learning more about islam/ like to have intellectual convos. If your from ann arbor/dearborn/detroit  area , we should connect :) 

    friend mehhh


    Sent you a PM :) 

  8. On 12/10/2016 at 10:11 PM, thuglife said:

    Salaam all

    So, many banks and credit unions (which are not-for-profit) will add money to your bank account for simply opening an account. And it doesn't hurt your credit to open.

    Chase will give you $200 to open and do direct deposit of at least $500 per month for at least six months. I did this last year. Closed it after six months. Waited 6 months to qualify for the bonus again. Opened again. So, once a year you can get a free $200 bonus from Chase. Their rules in the fine print allow for this. Lol. So if you already have a Chase checking, close it. Wait six months.

    Credit unions are legit. Everything they offer will always cost less than banks. I'm honestly surprised when I hear people say they took a home loan from Bank of America or Wells. As in, you shoulda tried to work with a credit union. Wherever you live should have several credit unions, and they usually only operate in certain regions or counties.  Or shires. Tallie ho.  Look at ones in your area. They will usually have a "refer a friend" offer where: you (current member) get like $25 to $75 or whatever amount and the friend who opens also gets the same amount. I have never seen a credit union charge someone for keeping an account open. As long as you do e-statements, it will be free to have the account. So, you could just open so you both get a nice cash addition, and just let the account sit. For ever. Just make sure to read the fine print and do any requirements they have. Like "do 10 credit or debit transactions to trigger the bonus." I would just go to 7/11 and buy like the cheapest candy they have, one at a time. Or Walmart. Just not a mom 'n' pop store. So, the most you'll spend is like $3-4, which makes it still worth the 15 minutes one spends in the branch. Get like three people to open, and that's another like $100 -200 for you. Per credit union.

    Wells Fargo used to have good deals, but after all the bad press they had recently about employees opening accounts without customers' permission, they stopped doing bonus incentives.

    However, they usually say that the amount given will be "reported to the IRS as interest" and pay taxes on it. You can decide for yourself if this "interest" is halal.

    Interesting idea. Even though that may work in theory, How does this affect your credit score when you open and close all those accounts so frequently? 

  9. From reading your post, to me, it seems like you already know what you want to do, but it's the living arrangements/accommodations that are making you second guess your decision. I personally don't think it's that big of a deal having to work part time while in University. it may seem daunting if you've never worked before but keep in mind the majority of students do work one or two part time jobs; it's just a matter of balancing school with your other commitments. Plus you'll have work experience to add onto your resume. Like you mentioned there are so many opportunities you'd be missing if you stayed in your hometown. If you go to this out of state University and the experience isn't what you thought it would be, at least you can take it as a learning experience and transfer back to the school in your hometown if that plan doesn't work. On the other hand, if you don't even take the chance of going, won't you always be wondering "what if?" and regretting your lost opportunities? 


    Seems like you you already know what you want to do; you just need a push.

  10. On 5/17/2016 at 7:21 AM, notme said:

    I have a question about oil pulling: why is it recommended to do it first thing in the morning before eating or drinking anything? 

    It's recommended to do it in the morning because oil pulling helps eliminate the bacteria that will have accumulated in your mouth for the ~8 hours you were sleeping. If you were to eat before oil pulling, you may be ingesting that bacteria with your food.

  11. On 5/17/2016 at 6:42 AM, Langar said:

    So what are your views? 

    Have you tried this method of oral cleansing? Did you like it/dislike it? What are your experiences?

    Would you try it if you haven't already?

    I personally haven't tried it yet, but I do plan to as soon as I get myself a quality tub of Coconut oil.

    I don't do it everyday, usually every other day so 3-4x a week. I like oil pulling because it has several benefits such as naturally whitening your teeth, detoxing your mouth, helping keep your skin clear, reducing bad breath, improving oral hygiene, etc. I read somewhere that oil pulling reduced the gap in between someone's teeth. I don't know how true that is but it might be because the gums firmed up so the gap closed when the teeth pulled together... When I first started oil pulling, I had a few concerns - for example, I wasn't sure how I'd be able to keep the oil in my mouth for 20 minutes, worrying about all the grease and extra saliva, but I had no issues after I tried it. When you first try oil pulling, I'd suggest starting off with 5 or 10 minute intervals and slowly work your way up to 20. I read online that a lot of people trying oil pulling were complaining about pain in the upper gum/jaw area. I think some people experience that because their jaw isn't used to continuously using those muscles for a prolonged period of time. 

    I think this website has some good tips: 


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