@Marbles I agree with so much of what you've said in this thread. But I want to add that when a woman is timid, soft, feminine, men aren't interested in her, because they want the career driven, financially independent woman. I and other women I know, love being at home cooking, sewing, doing arts and crafts, but God forbid we should say this in public. And I'm not boring, I have a degree, which had helped me raise my children. I.e. being educated.
When I opted to work part time, the most hatred and resentment came from other Muslim women. It's funny how you mention that men are attracted to feminine women... Where are these men? The men I've encountered seem to like butch women, you know, the masculine types. I wish I could express my femininity, but I'll get eaten alive if I do... By other women...some of the worst of creations.