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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. This is why i wouldnt define polygamy as an islamic act. Just like i wouldnt say enaging in the slave trade by buying or trading slaves, was islamic. The verses were brought down to limit both acts during our time of jahileeya. God knows His creation best. Women are possessive, jealous and sensitive. Polygamy is regarded as a trial, a burden, an afflication, -insert any other hurtful synonyms- to most women. I am yet to meet a women who would accept a man looking to marry more than a single wife. Because that's just the way we are. God has made arrangements to help men with their lustful
  2. Im confused too ... i thought they were speaking against interracial marriages and asked women to stick to tradition by marrying someone of their own race ...? Every culture has its good and bad. The "western" culture isnt exempt. I put it in quotation marks since west often refers to europe, north america and australia- different continents, different countries, different people and different cultures. In the Uk, if you befriend the average adult woman or man (28+ years), you'll come to realise that our gender roles aren't too different. In fact, i feel like (us) arabs care more abo
  3. Salam So i typed this very long response, and decided to visit the first page to check whether i missed anything from your original post... it all disappeared. Shiachat used to save your response - what happened?! I basically said I had a friend who is in a very similar situation to your own. She married her cousin from her motherland but had to return to the west, because she was still a student. And you- for whatever reason- moved to a new country. Both with a complication as a result of marriage. You expect one thing, but get another. I used shock to describe what you both were
  4. Salam I'm really going to start with this- Some men are such hypocrites! I don't see the connection whatsoever... how do did you make that deduction? What source did you use? What hadith or ayah made you come to that conclusion? I'm genuinely curious to see your thought process. Isn't this why God commanded a woman to wear a hijab? To protect men from their supposedly weak hijab and shaytaan whispers (wrong thoughts)? So without a woman's khimar and jilbab, are all men disbelievers who lack love? Your thinking is flawed. We all possess desires and may fall for temptati
  5. .... i workout with my dad lol I honestly dont think people will pay attention to a woman in hijab. You might get a few curious glances but that's all. I dont know what sort of gyms your countries run- I'm quite concerned now... One of my favourite things to do is rent out bikes and cycle with my dad around our local park. We've planned on going to the gym on a few occasions but our plans never worked out
  6. Salam I think perhaps they ask because many reverts choose another name...? So maybe that's just their attempt to keep a friendly conversation going..? A name is very important in our culture too. Some even believe it to influence a person's fate- my mother is one of those people. Middle-easterners often use names to identify a person's faith. An arab looking man called George is probably a christian, Omar is probably a sunni and Abbas a shia. A surname helps paint a better picture. Sadly, ISIS actually asks for names for this very reason. Names and location, they can tell you a l
  7. Salam More than the comment, I'm disappointed by the reactions. She's asking you for help, don't mock her. She said she was participating in the past, but after quitting her job, she wanted to become a better person. She's a changed person.
  8. Death? Please reference your source... there is no death punishment in islam. at most, the punishment would be lashing. Clearly the two misunderstood the validity of their marriage. They are not committing zina if they're ignorant. So you need to clarify and convince them. If that doesnt do it, you leave them be. They're not in a muslim country and as such, are not subjected to sharia law. But the marriage remains void islamically. The lady is living a lie.
  9. In my extended family, the children followed their father. There is one family with both shia parents, but an iranian mother and an iraqi father. Here, the children identify as iranian not iraqi and only speak farsi. So from my own observations, children are more likely to take after their father. Growing up, i also favoured my father's opinion over my mother's. Plus even when i didnt want to do something- like wear the hijab- i had to because he wanted me to. My mother didn't want me to wear it, but that didnt matter. Also, i didn't say they weren't religious. I said they weren't too
  10. Salam, I always wonder whether it will last. Especially if one of the two is a revert. Did they revert with the right intentions or solely to be with the woman/man they love? In my family, many interfaith marriages occurred. Not only involving sunnis, but christians too. None but one lasted. There remains one sunni man married to an aunt of mine, but both aren't too religious. They pray and do wajibats (except my aunt doesn't wear the hijab), but they let their children do whatever they want. They don't seem to care much whether their children commit to islam or not. So do i
  11. Brother, what you see on social media does not represent real life. Sit down and actually talk to married men/other women. With regards to bigger women/men, I think obesity is a result of more than just poor choices. There is an underlying cause, whether a medical or mental health problem. These need to be addressed. Both genders should have access to support communities. I think what needs special attention are male victims of domestic abuse....
  12. Salam sister, I understand the trouble you have experienced while wearing your hijab. I have faced some too, though fortunately none of them were aggressive. But I have friends and family who've had the misfortune of running into sick minded people. I think within our community the purpose of our hijab has been placed in a false frame. I think it often focuses on men- it hides a woman's beauty, it protects her from assault, it protects her from a perverted gaze etc. In reality, I think a woman develops her own purpose for her hijab. Personally, I believe the hijab was gifted to us by God
  13. Salam though this is sad what upsets me more is the fact that it had become international news. our sisters in hijab face such discrimination on a daily basis. Are their voices given a platform too? Liberal and reform jews don't regard the kippah as a compulsory command. It's optional. He can simply choose to take it off. A woman in hijab however, will continue to experience the abuse... He didn't even care to mention other people who've faced religious or racial discrimination. If he was actually wearing the flag around his body, it wasn't because he was a jew but because he was a zioni
  14. Salam, would you mind clarifying some things? You say independent women are materialistic women who also lack faith, but encourage young men to engage in extramarital relationships? So you shame women for their independence, but encourage men to commit sins? Unless you mean to say, they should be marrying women at a young age. That would explain your frustration, considering an increasing number of young women choose to pursue a higher education and therefore opt for a later marriage. Because they are career driven and often well established in their working place, they also tend to beco
  15. Salam I think a lot of brothers here are misunderstanding the purpose of this topic. Ignoring the grave sin of using Nakshawani as an example, she asks why there is little attention paid to a man's dress code. I will be digressing, but I just wanted to add some things. Because I don't think reflecting the treatment of women and projecting it onto men, will help either gender. I just wish for men to understand how difficult it is for a woman to accept or even love her hijab. We struggle a lot, ... we do. This is why I sometimes feel a little envious of men. So I just hope you come un
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