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AbdusSibtayn

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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Khurasani in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    The ugly reality of our times, brother. The general descent of the society into money mindedness means that the parents have come to treat their children as capital, which they can invest to reap profits.
    As for the ruling on the necessity of obtaining the walī's permission for marriage, even those marājā who have ruled it obligatory, such as Sayyid as-Sīstānī (ha) and (to the best of my knowledge) Sayyid al-Khamenaī (ha) and Shaykh Makārim Shīrāzī (ha) have made this notable exception-
    But the exact modalities of how this will happen is not known to me. Perhaps the wakīl of the marjā will be involved.
    Although I personally don't think that rescinding the obligation of obtaining the walī's permission will be a good idea- swindlers and con artists still abound in the marriage market, and I myself have witnessed such scams being perpetrated especially on the prospective bride's family. The ruling, in my view, hasn't outlived its purpose yet.
    This, however, is a totally different case. The daughter herself is demanding an impossible and exorbitant amount as dowry.
  2. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in An Urgent help on Al-Ayn   
    No brother. She is not in India.
    I actually tried to contact al Imaan also through call because there procedure was not clear to me but I didn't recieve a response. Also, as I said that the payee is outside India so for her it would have been easy to pay al-ayn.
    But I will this time try to pay my own khums to al imaan inshallah when the time arrives.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Zainuu in An Urgent help on Al-Ayn   
    Assalamu alaikum,
    Brother, assuming that the sister is also from India, why not try sending her khums to Al-imaan Trust, Mumbai? They are also ijāzah holders from Sayyid as-Sīstānī (ha). And it will also solve the problems of converting into a foreign currency, insha'Allah.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    The ugly reality of our times, brother. The general descent of the society into money mindedness means that the parents have come to treat their children as capital, which they can invest to reap profits.
    As for the ruling on the necessity of obtaining the walī's permission for marriage, even those marājā who have ruled it obligatory, such as Sayyid as-Sīstānī (ha) and (to the best of my knowledge) Sayyid al-Khamenaī (ha) and Shaykh Makārim Shīrāzī (ha) have made this notable exception-
    But the exact modalities of how this will happen is not known to me. Perhaps the wakīl of the marjā will be involved.
    Although I personally don't think that rescinding the obligation of obtaining the walī's permission will be a good idea- swindlers and con artists still abound in the marriage market, and I myself have witnessed such scams being perpetrated especially on the prospective bride's family. The ruling, in my view, hasn't outlived its purpose yet.
    This, however, is a totally different case. The daughter herself is demanding an impossible and exorbitant amount as dowry.
  5. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in An Urgent help on Al-Ayn   
    Firstly, There is no problem with the foundation. It is genuine and even I payed my khums to them. There link is available on the website of Sayyid al Sistani and I even have there ijaza.
    She mailed to them because by mistake she payed more than her actual Khums. This matter can only be resolved by mailing.
    Anyways, now she has received a response from them Alhumdulillah and they have asked her to fill up some form. So, all is good. They might be taking time to respond due to any reason.
    Thanks brother @Diaz and @Quran313 anyways for your concern and help.
    May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Uni Student in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    That is why if the father rejects a proposal for an invalid, un-Islamic, materialistic reason then his permission is no longer necessary for the marriage to be valid.
  7. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Abu Hadi in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    This is why, I am guessing, there is some movement on the issue of getting father's permission 'ihtiyat wujubat' (required out of precaution). There are some marjaa' now like Sayyid Rouhani who say it is mubah only, and some others who are changing their positions. It is precisely because there is a huge trend now to use the daughter as a tool to climb the social ladder, increase their status within the community, or just outright 'get paid' by means of holding this permission over their daughters head with not one ounce of empathy for the position of their daughter, her happiness, or the happiness of the potential groom and without any considerations for the teachings of Islam on this issue, other than this one ruling (i.e. that they have the right to decide who their daughter marries without taking her thoughts or wishes into consideration)
    The purpose of the wiqalat of the father when it comes to marriage was to protect the daughter from marrying a fasiq, a non muslim, someone with extremely bad aklaq, or someone who was using the marriage to do fraud. Permission was only to be denied in very specific cases where the daughter wanted to marry one of these types of people. Outside of this, the permission of the father was something that was not his right to withhold. But it is mostly no longer used for that purpose anymore (it still is in some cases though), but rather used for the father to 'hand pick' a husband that he wants her to be with, rather than one that she wants to be with. This was not the intended purpose of the wiqalat in marriage. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Diaz in Hezbollah stands for Lebanon again   
    Oh, u forgot to mention Hezbollah made 300 ready project and currently 2k are still being studied. For Sajjad card any one can get it as long as they live in Lebanon and their income is low. But ofc because of the news many people won’t get the card. 
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Besides, what kind of a woman calls herself a Shi'ā of Alī (عليه السلام) while demanding such a huge and unreasonably high dowry? I mean, if you don't hold the mahr of az-Zahrā (عليه السلام) to be the ideal dowry, why pretend to have that fervent devotion for the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام)?
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    99% of the male population shall have to remain celibate in that case.^
    I recall reading somewhere that in the Prophet (S)'s time some of the sahābā who were poor would propose to their would-be wives with something as simple as a piece of cloth for the dowry, and the women  concerned would consent to the marriage because of the piety and the social standing of those sahābā among the Muslims. We have indeed come a long way from those times, and not for the better.
    It is at such times that one yearns for the son of Zahra (aj) to return and salvage the ummah of his grandfather (S).
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Anonymous_male in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Salaam,
    If this is the case, then those religious trappings are mere veneer, a carefully curated gloss of religiosity to gain a standing within the community. Scratch that veneer of pious talk, and you will see the real substance of avarice and materialism beneath.
    Islam is Islam. Either one submits to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and his Prophet (S) kaffatan, or one doesn't. If this is the real face of these 'religious' people, then I can't take their pretences to piety seriously. People might reckon me an extremist, but I can't help but hate such people. Not only are they worldly beings through and through in reality, they don the garb of religiosity to mislead people about their true nature. I won't keep any social intercourse with such double-faced characters; I would not so much as eat or drink anything from them, have a conversation with them or pray behind them; I am afraid that their spiritual najāsah and hübb al-dunyā might get to me and pollute my heart. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) be easy on me, but I can't bear the sight of these 'religious'people.
    Best wishes for your quest for a life-partner, ya akhi. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) fulfill your hājāt.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Abu Hadi in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    99% of the male population shall have to remain celibate in that case.^
    I recall reading somewhere that in the Prophet (S)'s time some of the sahābā who were poor would propose to their would-be wives with something as simple as a piece of cloth for the dowry, and the women  concerned would consent to the marriage because of the piety and the social standing of those sahābā among the Muslims. We have indeed come a long way from those times, and not for the better.
    It is at such times that one yearns for the son of Zahra (aj) to return and salvage the ummah of his grandfather (S).
  13. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from ShiaChat Mod in My dad is in the hospital   
    Salaam,
    bihaqqi Muhammadin (S) wā Aal Muhammad (عليه السلام), may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) ease your difficulties.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Zainuu in Hezbollah stands for Lebanon again   
    Mashallah!
    May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless the Resistance, and may they remain steadfast upon the path of the 14 infallibles (عليه السلام)!
     
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from MexicanVato in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    99% of the male population shall have to remain celibate in that case.^
    I recall reading somewhere that in the Prophet (S)'s time some of the sahābā who were poor would propose to their would-be wives with something as simple as a piece of cloth for the dowry, and the women  concerned would consent to the marriage because of the piety and the social standing of those sahābā among the Muslims. We have indeed come a long way from those times, and not for the better.
    It is at such times that one yearns for the son of Zahra (aj) to return and salvage the ummah of his grandfather (S).
  16. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Diaz in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Besides, what kind of a woman calls herself a Shi'ā of Alī (عليه السلام) while demanding such a huge and unreasonably high dowry? I mean, if you don't hold the mahr of az-Zahrā (عليه السلام) to be the ideal dowry, why pretend to have that fervent devotion for the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام)?
  17. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Diaz in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    99% of the male population shall have to remain celibate in that case.^
    I recall reading somewhere that in the Prophet (S)'s time some of the sahābā who were poor would propose to their would-be wives with something as simple as a piece of cloth for the dowry, and the women  concerned would consent to the marriage because of the piety and the social standing of those sahābā among the Muslims. We have indeed come a long way from those times, and not for the better.
    It is at such times that one yearns for the son of Zahra (aj) to return and salvage the ummah of his grandfather (S).
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in Hezbollah stands for Lebanon again   
    More to this.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Qa'im in Ilm ur Rijaal - Challenge to Everyone Whos After Sahih Chains   
    Whilst valid criticisms of rijal exist, saying that the system is useless would pose a number of questions:
    1. What is to be done with hadiths that are very late (say, 19th century)? Why?
    2. What is to be done with hadiths that irreconcilably contradict one another?
    3. What is to be done with hadiths that contradict indubitable aspects of reality?
    4. What is to be done with hadiths narrated by Sunnis, Zaydis, Isma`ilis, and Nusayris (since chains don't matter)?
    These are questions that would really test one's methodological consistency.
  20. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Abu Nur in Ilm ur Rijaal - Challenge to Everyone Whos After Sahih Chains   
    I was watching the lecture about the response of usuulis of these questions which seems also a reasonable response:
    In Shia islam we have this wonderful system that even if the chains are authentic, It does not mean that the context is and the whole hadith could be fabrication. We are not like Sunnis who have such a strict system of ilm rijal, but look how they ended up to never critize the content with sahih chain. 
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Salaam,
    If this is the case, then those religious trappings are mere veneer, a carefully curated gloss of religiosity to gain a standing within the community. Scratch that veneer of pious talk, and you will see the real substance of avarice and materialism beneath.
    Islam is Islam. Either one submits to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and his Prophet (S) kaffatan, or one doesn't. If this is the real face of these 'religious' people, then I can't take their pretences to piety seriously. People might reckon me an extremist, but I can't help but hate such people. Not only are they worldly beings through and through in reality, they don the garb of religiosity to mislead people about their true nature. I won't keep any social intercourse with such double-faced characters; I would not so much as eat or drink anything from them, have a conversation with them or pray behind them; I am afraid that their spiritual najāsah and hübb al-dunyā might get to me and pollute my heart. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) be easy on me, but I can't bear the sight of these 'religious'people.
    Best wishes for your quest for a life-partner, ya akhi. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) fulfill your hājāt.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from syeda f naqvi in ablution   
    Salaam,
    No, it doesn't.
  23. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Sirius_Bright in Is this too much to ask? (Responses from sisters would be appreciated too)   
    Your request is reasonable. However, shi'a society is not doing enough to get young sisters understand why putting 'Mandatory Eid pictures' on social media would be Haraam. If we frown upon/criticize such things often then it would make difference in perception of Hijab. 
  24. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Abu Nur in Is this too much to ask? (Responses from sisters would be appreciated too)   
    Don’t limit it to only westerns but try to accept others countries too. What you ask is neccesery for practical muslim, so choose a  believer God fearing and modest woman who looks for practical and God fearing man.
  25. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in An Urgent help on Al-Ayn   
    Salaamunalaykum brothers and sisters,
    There is a sister I know who was paying her Khums to Al-Ayn Foundation, UK. But due to some confusion regarding currency she ended up paying much more than the actual khums on her. It all happened by mistake. 
    Now, she has mailed Al Ayn (UK) to return the extra amount she payed by mistake. But we haven't recieved any response. It has been a week since she mailed. After her first mail, I also gave a reminder to al-Ayn involving her but no response.
    If anyone is in contact with the foundation branch in UK or works there or can help us in connecting with them in anyway possible, then it would be very helpful. 
    Jazakallah
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