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AbdusSibtayn

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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Abu Hadi in Man acquitted of raping 17 year old in Ireland   
    Yes, it existed during that time, but there is a biiiiiig difference between that time and today. 
    At that time, and even up until the last 100 years or so (before things like tv, radio, internet were widespread), if you wanted to see a women who was scantily dressed or be with a prostitute, you had to go to a certain area. Most people knew where those areas were and people with good morals stayed away from those areas. Women who were not prostitutes didn't dress like prostitutes and it was very clear who was and wasn't a prostitute and men who didn't go to those areas probably never even saw a women who was dressed in anything other than normal conservative dress. There were variations in 'normal conservative dress', for example some women didn't cover their hair or the upper part of their breasts, even in those days, but this was within very clear and defined limits. 
    Compare this to now. I was watching a kids show a few days ago with one of my children, and all of a sudden, an add came on with a women in a skimpy bikini. I never asked to see this, was not looking for it, nor did I consent to it. Yet it happened. I'm sure every single man here (unless he lives in a cave with no electricity) has many similar stories, I have many more, but I don't want to bore people, you get the point. 
    So times are very different nowdays. We are living in an world which is altogether different, where certain groups feel that they have an absolute right to pollute the world with this sort of imagery (which has biological effects which can be measured). Most muslims also support this and think it's ok. Most muslim women, including most here, feel that they have an absolute right to dress any way they please, regardless of the effects it has on those around them. They are empowered by secularism, social media, etc. If the whole world tells you something is 'ok and fine to do', but with Allah(s.w.a) it is still not 'fine and ok to do', then is it 'fine and ok to do'. No. There is a reality that is above public opinion. 
    I'm not trying to justify what this guy did in this particular case, obviously it is completely wrong and he had no right to do it, no matter what they women was wearing. One violation of Haqq does not justify another violation of Haqq. 
    But we cannot say that we are living in the same world as Rasoulallah(p.b.u.h) and Imams(a.s) were with regards to this issue. We are not, at all. For most men, even religious ones, this is a very difficult issue to deal with. You either have to go live in a cave, which is not an option for most people, or just figure that you will be exposed to this at some point. It is the greater part of Jihad An Nafs, these days. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Khadim uz Zahra in Man acquitted of raping 17 year old in Ireland   
    Yes, there are women who dress provocatively and revealingly with the intent of attracting men, but that doesn't mean men are supposed to give in to your base desires and rape her. I don't care if a woman is walking naked on the street, you're not supposed to rape her. End of. It's important to recognise that besides being a sexual act, rape is also a violent act; if a woman walks around naked with the explicit purpose of arousing men, does that give men the right to murder her or beat her? If not, then it doesn't give men the right to rape her since it's an equally violent act. Even if one could argue that revealing clothes are for the purpose of arousing sexual desires and therefore men's subsequent arousal is justified, revealing clothes are not for the purpose of arousal of violence and therefore any subsequent violence is not justified.
    Secondly, this story is quite absurd. For one, the woman was probably wearing something above her underwear. So, how does an article of clothing that is hidden even signify consent? And if revealing underwear is somehow consent for sex, then all the beaches in the world must be just filled with justified rapes because women on beaches wear just as revealing, if not more revealing, clothing at beaches, without wearing anything on top of the bikini. So, unless this judge thinks raping any woman with a bikini is fine, I can't understand what the logic of this ruling was, unless there's more evidence pertaining to the case that has been omitted by the media coverage in favour of sensationalism.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Thoughts 2018   
    Irfan is just like medicine.
    Both an underdose and an overdose can injure your spiritual health when spiritually sick.
    And it must be dispensed only by a certified specialist.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Aflower in Being Socially Awkward   
    Assalamu alaikum ya ukhti,
    I have navigated around these challenges. I am socially awkward. I can't initiate conversations. Brothers and sisters on SC may think that I am very vocal and opinionated, but that is because I am typing all of the time from behind a screen. If I were to say this very thing in front of you, I would stammer and stutter atleast ten times.
    How did I overcome this fear of communicating with strangers? Things changed in university when I began to participate in class discussions, and others began to notice me. That was an opening. I participated in group conversations, where I began to talk about things I was confident about; it wasn't that taxing because I was not the one initiating conversations, and only adding to them intermittently. I made many acquaintances that way. I also read up a lot on and visually observed how great leaders across history ( including our own Prophet{sawa}, aimmah {ams} and ulama{rh & ha}) would conduct themselves publicly, and that really helped.
    I think being socially awkward is a blessing in disguise. Because you speak less, people are curious about what you have to say, and it gives you some gravitas. Also, when I speak among my own peers, my academic English and (somewhat) literary, bookwormish Urdu puts many people off, because I don't know the 'cool' lingo current among youth, but I don't mind it that much. Don't compromise on your standards just to get a bigger audience.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Arabic Grammar   
    Salam,
    I'm very keen to learn Arabic Grammar because I have holidays now (free time )
    The benefit of learning Arabic grammer is that you'll be able to properly understand Quran when you recite the words inshallah and you'll appreciate it more. I'm planning to watch a series of lectures on the Medina Arabic book. The course is very popular and a lot of people apparently say that it has really improved their Arabic. The teacher is amazing judging from the lesson I watched.
    You can find the resources (English key and worksheets) here ---> http://www.learnarabic.info/p/references.html?m=1
    I thought I'll create this thread so users (those who are keen) can like update whenever they finish a lesson, in this way I'll stay motivated.
    @Husayni
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from starlight in Being Socially Awkward   
    Assalamu alaikum ya ukhti,
    I have navigated around these challenges. I am socially awkward. I can't initiate conversations. Brothers and sisters on SC may think that I am very vocal and opinionated, but that is because I am typing all of the time from behind a screen. If I were to say this very thing in front of you, I would stammer and stutter atleast ten times.
    How did I overcome this fear of communicating with strangers? Things changed in university when I began to participate in class discussions, and others began to notice me. That was an opening. I participated in group conversations, where I began to talk about things I was confident about; it wasn't that taxing because I was not the one initiating conversations, and only adding to them intermittently. I made many acquaintances that way. I also read up a lot on and visually observed how great leaders across history ( including our own Prophet{sawa}, aimmah {ams} and ulama{rh & ha}) would conduct themselves publicly, and that really helped.
    I think being socially awkward is a blessing in disguise. Because you speak less, people are curious about what you have to say, and it gives you some gravitas. Also, when I speak among my own peers, my academic English and (somewhat) literary, bookwormish Urdu puts many people off, because I don't know the 'cool' lingo current among youth, but I don't mind it that much. Don't compromise on your standards just to get a bigger audience.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to ali_fatheroforphans in Exposing Imam Shaikh Brother Mohammad Tawhidi   
    Imam Tawhidi's poor academic record reflects his ignorance. 
    How can a drop out and failure be speaking on behalf of our religion? He has not even studied properly.
    It's like I muck around at uni, don't attend tutorials and workshops, skip lectures and do crap in the final exam.
    Gosh how stupid of the Australians who support him! May Allah give them aql!
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to King in Being Socially Awkward   
    It is normal, when you go to university you will learn to navigate around such situations better.  It is just a matter of more exposure.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to ireallywannaknow in Being Socially Awkward   
    Socially awkward people are cute ^.^ Don't worry you'll be fine, as long as you have your small group of friends, that's all you need. I'm awkward too and I'm always overthinking everything I want to say. But I'm grateful I'm not someone who is constantly running her mouth. I've come to like being quiet and reserved. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to 3wliya_maryam in Being Socially Awkward   
    salam alaikum everyone hope you are all well inshallah
    I was wondering if anyone is or has been socially awkward around people or strangers, how were you able to deal with it
    The thing with me is that I find it quite difficult to talk to people that I barely know, I stay quiet, I don't what to say and sometimes worry that i might say something wrong, or that doesn't make any sense.
    Especially when visitors come over, god I get so shy and awkward, especially when an iraqi lady would come over, like I'd stay quiet the whole time unless she asks me a question and when I answer I feel like I'm not making sense because my iraqi arabic is kinda broken lols, so I just keep smiling and nodding
    The thing is i understand when they speak, I just don't know how to respond but most of the times my mother responds to their questions which isn't good tbh
    like thats how shy i am
    People see me as this really quiet person, but at home im the complete opposite lol, I'm like the loudest one in my family
     
    Really it depends where I am and who I am with, for instance, if I'm around my close friends and then someone that I don't know well comes and joins in the convo or something I would become a bit more confident and start talking, 
    I'm the type of person who doesn't make alot of friends, I prefer having few friends since yano u can't trust that much ppl anymore
    I feel like its also because I haven't been out that much seeing friends and people, so it has also kinda had an impact on me too
    And sometimes I kinda worry going to uni inshallah, what would it be like since confidence is like such a huge thing when it comes to going there
     
    has anyone ever been in these kind of situations? what did you do to overcome it?
    fee amanillah  
     
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Murtaza1 in Sister cheated on her husband   
    I totally agree with you. It certainly seems a bit creepy for him to talk to her about it. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Soldiers and Saffron in Sister cheated on her husband   
    Ws,
    It is most certainty not appropriate for him to talk to you in private or over the phone. There are thousands of males, sheikhs, who can inform him about all of this. I cannot phantom how anyone here would recommend you to keep talking to him, is there a lack of males on planet earth with the knowledge of Islam?
    If a man who had already demonstrated a lack of moral compass dealing with women was in my near proximity I would keep my daughters as far away as I possibly could from him.
    If he is too lazy to find males who can help him with the information that is already online at his service, you could reefer him to a male sheikh, there is really no rational reason for you in particular to talk to him. I would personally not want anything to do with him nor my sister if she cheated on her husband. I hope this does not come out to your community because if your not married (and I assume your not since a husband would not be okay with you talking to him) it could severely affect your chances of getting married as well. I would personally not want to marry into a family that raised a daughter who cheated on her husband and then the parents asked the cheating man who slept with another mans wife to talk to the other daughter as well.
    This is what you should do in my opinion:
    Tell your parents you do not wish to be involved in this mess. Refer the guy to a sheikh or islamically knowledgeable male for his questions regarding deen. Value your personal reputation and dignity and try to protect your families reputation and dignity as well to the best of your ability and never forsake amr bil maroof wa nahi anil munkar.
  15. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from .InshAllah. in #49 Does the Muslim World Need More Philosophers or Scientists?   
    'More' in the sense that more than the numbers we have presently. Not more of one at the expense of the other.
    I would prefer going with philosophers, because, in the present situation, Islam faces the greatest ideological challenge and existential threat from colonial and post- colonial modernity, dealing with which requires a deeper epistemological engagement with it. This is a task for which we need more philosophers and social scientists.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to notme in #49 Does the Muslim World Need More Philosophers or Scientists?   
    Less than six hundred years ago, the two were the same. 
    Definitely we need more scientists. Both are important, but for every 100 scientists making new discoveries and working to understand phenomena, only one philosopher is needed to communicate that science into a spiritual or moral "reality" that the public can relate to. 
    However, scientists need to have at least a basic understanding of philosophy, and scientific philosophers need to have at least an intermediate understanding of science. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to notme in Thoughts 2018   
    You can learn more from books or from actual doing than you can from getting papers certifying that you learned such-and-such. If your goal is knowledge, there is little benefit to advanced degrees. If your goal is to become a university professor, it is necessary. 
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from notme in Thoughts 2018   
    Academia operates like a drug cartel, and higher education is overrated.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from hasanhh in Thoughts 2018   
    Academia operates like a drug cartel, and higher education is overrated.
  20. Haha
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Thoughts 2018   
    Is it just me, or are there other brothers too,who see the slimy, lovey-dovey,photos that some married/engaged friends of their's post on Facebook, and feel like writing (EDITED) in the comments section, but by a superhuman act of self- control, don't?
    PS- Indian and Pakistani brothers, feel free to use your creative imagination to fill in the blank!
  21. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to realizm in New Caliph Coming Soon   
    Funny thing is that amongst wahabis you find a hardcore trend who hate murjis (`ulamas of the palace) and do takfir on them, while claiming Yazid, Mu`awiya (la) and the great Abu Hurayra as sources of knowledge.
     
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from starlight in Thoughts on Fouseytube   
    I thought the post was an allegory on YouTube. Don't worry sister. You're not alone here.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from starlight in Thoughts 2018   
    Is it just me, or are there other brothers too,who see the slimy, lovey-dovey,photos that some married/engaged friends of their's post on Facebook, and feel like writing (EDITED) in the comments section, but by a superhuman act of self- control, don't?
    PS- Indian and Pakistani brothers, feel free to use your creative imagination to fill in the blank!
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from notme in When do you use Shiachat?   
    Whenever I am going through an existential crisis.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to starlight in Thoughts on Fouseytube   
    Wait! Fousey tube is a person!!! I read the title yesterday and thought it was something like YouTube!  
     
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