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AbdusSibtayn

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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Anonymous_male in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Salaam,
    If this is the case, then those religious trappings are mere veneer, a carefully curated gloss of religiosity to gain a standing within the community. Scratch that veneer of pious talk, and you will see the real substance of avarice and materialism beneath.
    Islam is Islam. Either one submits to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and his Prophet (S) kaffatan, or one doesn't. If this is the real face of these 'religious' people, then I can't take their pretences to piety seriously. People might reckon me an extremist, but I can't help but hate such people. Not only are they worldly beings through and through in reality, they don the garb of religiosity to mislead people about their true nature. I won't keep any social intercourse with such double-faced characters; I would not so much as eat or drink anything from them, have a conversation with them or pray behind them; I am afraid that their spiritual najāsah and hübb al-dunyā might get to me and pollute my heart. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) be easy on me, but I can't bear the sight of these 'religious'people.
    Best wishes for your quest for a life-partner, ya akhi. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) fulfill your hājāt.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to guest 2025 in Question from a nonmuslim   
    This isn't the official position of Islam just my opinion: Marriage has the potential to destroy a woman much more than a man, so we need more checkpoints. Throughout the marriage the woman is much more vulnerable than the man. If she's dealing with a scumbag he could leave her and she's left to take care of the kids alone and support herself at the same time. The man could live like he never got married in the first place. Tell your friend that there are a lot less Muslims single mothers than non Muslim ones. In the US, roughly 10% of households are single mother, and about 25% of those are in poverty.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Ashvazdanghe in Sainsbury's Medjool dates product recall [PLEASE PASS ON]   
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    Think Palestine: Boycott Israeli Dates this Ramadan!
     
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Khurasani in [Mature topic] An Alarming Trend   
    A point that i haven't seen mentioned is pornography addiction and how it affects a huge part of the population. It makes people develop bizarre fetishes going against their own nature. The reaosn this happens is because like other drugs the body develops tolerance so an extremer dosage is needed, with porn this dosage is through more disgusting and shocking clips. Given enough time many porn addicts eventually start watching stuff outside of their sexual orientation. I have read many people say this aswell. Some dude thought he was gay because of it but when he quit the addiction his natural sexual desires came back but it had rewired his brain so much he had developed a homosexual fetish. And he isn't the only one this has happened to.
  5. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in [Mature topic] An Alarming Trend   
    May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) hasten the reappearance of Imam Zamana (عجّل الله تعالى فرجه الشريف).
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Muhammed Ali in [Mature topic] An Alarming Trend   
    Many muslim children did not get into zina, drugs, alcohol, atheism etc and these were in the culture before the LGBT phenomenon. Educate the children. Parents need to take more responsibility in learning for their own sake and also for the sake of their children.
  7. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to hasanhh in [Mature topic] An Alarming Trend   
    This is something bandied about in the 70's. There are other covering 'explanations', too.
    l don't know about women, but with the its/others what it is is choice and addiction.
    They choose to try it and then get addicted to these enemas.
  8. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Abu Hadi in [Mature topic] An Alarming Trend   
    For us Shia, that just means the time for the Zahoor is very near. This has already been predicted. 
  9. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to 313_Waiter in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    JazakAllah khyr
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Abu Hadi in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    Salam brother, 
    You have hit alot of good points in your post. I have thought many times about leaving the site because I think 'What's the point ? '. I do one post, which gets quickly spammed over by many other posts from those categories that you mentioned. Nowdays, these posts might not even be from actual people but from spam bots which are AI enabled and the algorithms are getting so good that it's hard to tell the spam bot posts from the posts by regular people. Every time I seriously consider leaving, I think well there may be a few sincere brothers and sisters who are truly confused and seeking guidance. So I don't want to dissapoint them, so I stay. 
    The problem with the way our speakers are trained is that they are trained to have one way presentation, and not conversations. They give lectures, which of course we need, but thats only part of what we need. We need to have conversations with the youth, where they can feel free to ask questions, and get responses from a person who in knowledgeable and sincere and willing to spend the time doing an activity which is not 'glamorous' and is risky because they may give 10,000 correct answers to questions, but if they give 1 wrong answer, that wrong answer will be plastered over social media, and their reputation may take a short term 'hit'. 
    I also think there is some factor of a 'colonized mindset' in the way muslims treat each other. Most muslims come from countries that were in the recent past or are still colonized and occupied by non muslims. Because these non muslims have the 'sultan' with a small 's' (the temporal power) currently or recently, they believe (maybe subconciously) that these non muslim, Western or Eastern powers, are more intelligent and sophisticated than them and therefore try to emulate them in many ways and look to them as the center of 'culture'. So they feel that they have to 'prove' to themselves and others that they are worthy of being treated well, as a human being, because they are not part of this 'intelligent and sophisticated' group. 
    Islam is very clear about this point. What makes people 'worthy' as human beings is taqwa. Everything else is just something random that will quickly vanish. Because these non muslim empires (America being amoung the most recent ones, and the Chinese Communist Party being another) didn't base their rule on encouraging taqwa, and encouraged the opposite, they are in the process of vanishing from the earth, as many empires did before them. It won't be long before muslims begin to see these empires which are based on worship of other than Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), crumble before their eyes. 
    I think we need to go back to gathering in person, rather than online for this because gathering in person reduces alot of the 'noise' associated with having online discussions and people tend to be much more polite and empathetic in person than they are virtually which will foster more discussion and encourage people more to engage in it. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    @AbdusSibtayn and @Abu Hadi,
    Brothers you were absolutely right on spot with what all you said. There was a reason why I mentioned this saying of Imam Ali (عليه السلام) in this thread and I was thinking exactly what you said above:
    We all are learners from birth to death and we all come up from different backgrounds. It is true that even I had a defect of passing judgement but now I feel I am curing myself slowly. 
    But unfortunataly we live in the end times and I would mention only two major defects that I see over here:
    1. Lack of tolerance to digest a different opinion.
    2. Lack of interest to learn coming along with a quest to win the debate.
    We derive our religion from our perceptions. We draw out conclusions from Quran through our perception. 
    It should actually be just opposite. It is Quran that should give us a perception/spectacle. 
    And from where does this perception comes up. It is natural that it is derived from the environment and the atmosphere and the ideologies we always feel comfortable with. We are fed with a thought through media which is most probably quite away from Islam. But we drag our Quranic interpretation so that it matches that perspective. This is extremely wrong on our end.
    But such defects are not even observed by the scholars who speak and show up as representatives of marjiyyah, let alone the thought of pointing out. 
     
    I remember when the biography of Allama Tabatabai (رضي الله عنه) where it was written that when he entered the hawza, he saw deficiencies in the hawza such as most of the books being in Arabic and not translated. People studying more Fiqh and Usool and no one focussing on research of Quran and Nahj ul Balagha. So, he fixed targeted to fix those deficiencies. This is the scholarly level we need. And it should always remain.
    There must be reformers in every sphere of hawza studies. Specifically on this lower level of representatives of office. 
    But I would ask you to please stay instead of thinking to leave. Sabr is an eternal weapon of a believer and we should not leave it anytime. Because it is Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) who guides and provides and who rewards for our deeds. Doesn't matter how much bad situation becomes, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will grant us if we are righteous. So, trust, hope and expectations should be layed on none but Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). And even if you quit here, you will see the same level of nonsense everywhere.
    May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) hasten the appearance of Imam (عجّل الله تعالى فرجه الشريف).
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Abu Nur in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    The Prophet (S) married Ā'isha when she was 9 years of age, and he was about 50. Fatima (sa) was 12 years old when she gave birth to Īmām al-Hassan (عليه السلام), her eldest child, suggesting that she was married to Amīr ul-Mu'minīn (عليه السلام) still earlier. Anthropologists believe that women in the older societies reached puberty, married and gave birth to children much earlier than they do now; in fact as recently as around a century ago 10-12 years was considered a nubile age for girls over most parts of the world, even in the West. What we understand as 'child' today hasn't been a timelessly fixed category thorough history.
  13. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Abu Nur in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    Wa Alaikas Salaam, brother,
    All praise belongs to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), brother. It is my fortune that He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) made me useful in this regard. 'Wata izzu man tashā, wata zillu man tashā'.
    And I can very well understand your frustration with certain users here. That sort of behaviour is the reason why some of the best minds who were present on the forum previously, have now left it- and that too after such had been stated publicly. There was a time when I would engage with them, but not anymore. At a time when literally everything is just a Google search away, such appalling ignorance amazes me. If someone is this uninformed about the paradigm shift that has occurred in the philosophy of ethics over the past couple of centuries, the impact of the colonial modernity, Orientalism and Eurocentrism on the Muslims' self-image, the philosophy (and let me say, modern religion itself) of secular liberalism, and all of their impact on how Islam has come to be viewed today, then Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive me, but I don't have the patience to educate someone in all of this from scratch.
    Imagine thinking that parameters invented as recently as 200 years ago are rationally self-evident, unquestionable and apply to all of human thought both past and future. I no longer dignify their shrill, self-righteous rants with responses. No point in having 'rational' discussions when they are not informed. Even if I sit them down to explain things, they won't understand anything, because they don't read or reflect. They are like ants, mired in the wood chipping machine of modernity, who cannot see beyond the letters printed on the pages they are crawling on.
    One can do only so much, and I can understand why those learned brothers lost their patience at a point.
    As for your point about the junior clergy- the deputies, office staff etc, I share your frustration. It is high time the hawzas begun courses in public dealing along with the regular dīnī curriculum. Nowadays scholars graduate from the hawzas, get their degrees, wear the amāmah and even begin giving lectures, but they are not able to deal with the masses satisfactorily. They can hardly answer the questions which was youngsters pose to them. If this continues, it is not surprising that more and more youth will keep turning away from Islam. Marājā like Sayyid Kamāl al-Haydari- however much we may be critical of him- have repeatedly expressed their concern about this issue. Hardly any attempt is made to address these issues from the pulpits- the impact of modern ideologies on the youth, their struggles with religion etc. People like the Qazwini brothers, Shaykh Azhar Nasser, Shaykh Usāmā al -Attar, Shaykh Nuru Muhammad, Shaykh Abdul Jalil, Shaykh Muhammad al-Hilli etc, who are our best known speakers, are only an exception in this regard, and a small minority. It gives the impression that the hawzas, and the marājā kirām are cut off from the masses and don't care about their issues.
    The incompetence of the lower clergy one of the factors that fuelled the Reformation in Europe,that permanently eroded most of the Catholic Church's (and ultimately religion in general) influence there. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forbid something like that happens to Islam in the near future,if we fail to learn from history.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from AStruggler in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    The Prophet (S) married Ā'isha when she was 9 years of age, and he was about 50. Fatima (sa) was 12 years old when she gave birth to Īmām al-Hassan (عليه السلام), her eldest child, suggesting that she was married to Amīr ul-Mu'minīn (عليه السلام) still earlier. Anthropologists believe that women in the older societies reached puberty, married and gave birth to children much earlier than they do now; in fact as recently as around a century ago 10-12 years was considered a nubile age for girls over most parts of the world, even in the West. What we understand as 'child' today hasn't been a timelessly fixed category thorough history.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from 313_Waiter in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    Wa Alaikas Salaam, brother,
    All praise belongs to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), brother. It is my fortune that He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) made me useful in this regard. 'Wata izzu man tashā, wata zillu man tashā'.
    And I can very well understand your frustration with certain users here. That sort of behaviour is the reason why some of the best minds who were present on the forum previously, have now left it- and that too after such had been stated publicly. There was a time when I would engage with them, but not anymore. At a time when literally everything is just a Google search away, such appalling ignorance amazes me. If someone is this uninformed about the paradigm shift that has occurred in the philosophy of ethics over the past couple of centuries, the impact of the colonial modernity, Orientalism and Eurocentrism on the Muslims' self-image, the philosophy (and let me say, modern religion itself) of secular liberalism, and all of their impact on how Islam has come to be viewed today, then Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive me, but I don't have the patience to educate someone in all of this from scratch.
    Imagine thinking that parameters invented as recently as 200 years ago are rationally self-evident, unquestionable and apply to all of human thought both past and future. I no longer dignify their shrill, self-righteous rants with responses. No point in having 'rational' discussions when they are not informed. Even if I sit them down to explain things, they won't understand anything, because they don't read or reflect. They are like ants, mired in the wood chipping machine of modernity, who cannot see beyond the letters printed on the pages they are crawling on.
    One can do only so much, and I can understand why those learned brothers lost their patience at a point.
    As for your point about the junior clergy- the deputies, office staff etc, I share your frustration. It is high time the hawzas begun courses in public dealing along with the regular dīnī curriculum. Nowadays scholars graduate from the hawzas, get their degrees, wear the amāmah and even begin giving lectures, but they are not able to deal with the masses satisfactorily. They can hardly answer the questions which was youngsters pose to them. If this continues, it is not surprising that more and more youth will keep turning away from Islam. Marājā like Sayyid Kamāl al-Haydari- however much we may be critical of him- have repeatedly expressed their concern about this issue. Hardly any attempt is made to address these issues from the pulpits- the impact of modern ideologies on the youth, their struggles with religion etc. People like the Qazwini brothers, Shaykh Azhar Nasser, Shaykh Usāmā al -Attar, Shaykh Nuru Muhammad, Shaykh Abdul Jalil, Shaykh Muhammad al-Hilli etc, who are our best known speakers, are only an exception in this regard, and a small minority. It gives the impression that the hawzas, and the marājā kirām are cut off from the masses and don't care about their issues.
    The incompetence of the lower clergy one of the factors that fuelled the Reformation in Europe,that permanently eroded most of the Catholic Church's (and ultimately religion in general) influence there. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forbid something like that happens to Islam in the near future,if we fail to learn from history.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Muhammad Al-Hurr in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    The Prophet (S) married Ā'isha when she was 9 years of age, and he was about 50. Fatima (sa) was 12 years old when she gave birth to Īmām al-Hassan (عليه السلام), her eldest child, suggesting that she was married to Amīr ul-Mu'minīn (عليه السلام) still earlier. Anthropologists believe that women in the older societies reached puberty, married and gave birth to children much earlier than they do now; in fact as recently as around a century ago 10-12 years was considered a nubile age for girls over most parts of the world, even in the West. What we understand as 'child' today hasn't been a timelessly fixed category thorough history.
  17. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Zainuu in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    Wa Alaikas Salaam, brother,
    All praise belongs to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), brother. It is my fortune that He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) made me useful in this regard. 'Wata izzu man tashā, wata zillu man tashā'.
    And I can very well understand your frustration with certain users here. That sort of behaviour is the reason why some of the best minds who were present on the forum previously, have now left it- and that too after such had been stated publicly. There was a time when I would engage with them, but not anymore. At a time when literally everything is just a Google search away, such appalling ignorance amazes me. If someone is this uninformed about the paradigm shift that has occurred in the philosophy of ethics over the past couple of centuries, the impact of the colonial modernity, Orientalism and Eurocentrism on the Muslims' self-image, the philosophy (and let me say, modern religion itself) of secular liberalism, and all of their impact on how Islam has come to be viewed today, then Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive me, but I don't have the patience to educate someone in all of this from scratch.
    Imagine thinking that parameters invented as recently as 200 years ago are rationally self-evident, unquestionable and apply to all of human thought both past and future. I no longer dignify their shrill, self-righteous rants with responses. No point in having 'rational' discussions when they are not informed. Even if I sit them down to explain things, they won't understand anything, because they don't read or reflect. They are like ants, mired in the wood chipping machine of modernity, who cannot see beyond the letters printed on the pages they are crawling on.
    One can do only so much, and I can understand why those learned brothers lost their patience at a point.
    As for your point about the junior clergy- the deputies, office staff etc, I share your frustration. It is high time the hawzas begun courses in public dealing along with the regular dīnī curriculum. Nowadays scholars graduate from the hawzas, get their degrees, wear the amāmah and even begin giving lectures, but they are not able to deal with the masses satisfactorily. They can hardly answer the questions which was youngsters pose to them. If this continues, it is not surprising that more and more youth will keep turning away from Islam. Marājā like Sayyid Kamāl al-Haydari- however much we may be critical of him- have repeatedly expressed their concern about this issue. Hardly any attempt is made to address these issues from the pulpits- the impact of modern ideologies on the youth, their struggles with religion etc. People like the Qazwini brothers, Shaykh Azhar Nasser, Shaykh Usāmā al -Attar, Shaykh Nuru Muhammad, Shaykh Abdul Jalil, Shaykh Muhammad al-Hilli etc, who are our best known speakers, are only an exception in this regard, and a small minority. It gives the impression that the hawzas, and the marājā kirām are cut off from the masses and don't care about their issues.
    The incompetence of the lower clergy one of the factors that fuelled the Reformation in Europe,that permanently eroded most of the Catholic Church's (and ultimately religion in general) influence there. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forbid something like that happens to Islam in the near future,if we fail to learn from history.
  18. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    Salaam brother,
    Firstly, may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless you because you did an extremely nice thing by sharing this link. You ended up a fitna getting propagated on SC. 
    I was too frustrated with this. And many people with whom I usually don't agree but there criticisms were correct (keeping aside there bad conduct).
    So, again it falls upon the same problem that I shared in the similar thread at another place. 
    It is not the marjas who are a problem but the deputies. They are only good at roaming around the world attacking Sunnis. It has been a long time but there arguments don't change. They don't discuss these extremely important and controversial issues which creates a gap between Marja and people. 
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Zainuu in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    @pisceswolf96
    I think this might be relevant to this thread. Ayatollah Sistani (ha) himself is discussing this ruling here, and why it was rescinded in the latest edition of Minhāj üs Sāliheen. Refer to the third point.
    https://www.sistani.org/english/archive/26348/
    From what I can glean from the response, the Sayyid (ha) means to say that the ruling was made keeping in mind the conditions of the old societies, and is not relevant to our times.
    But I can't understand why an office staff would say something that is not in line with the written statement of the marjā himself. Are the office staff not supervised closely?
  20. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to pisceswolf96 in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    Thank you so so much. You put my mind to peace with this, May Allah grant you Jannat Al-Furdus.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from pisceswolf96 in Sistani's Office Response to His Thighing Fatwa   
    @pisceswolf96
    I think this might be relevant to this thread. Ayatollah Sistani (ha) himself is discussing this ruling here, and why it was rescinded in the latest edition of Minhāj üs Sāliheen. Refer to the third point.
    https://www.sistani.org/english/archive/26348/
    From what I can glean from the response, the Sayyid (ha) means to say that the ruling was made keeping in mind the conditions of the old societies, and is not relevant to our times.
    But I can't understand why an office staff would say something that is not in line with the written statement of the marjā himself. Are the office staff not supervised closely?
  22. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from ShiaChat Mod in My dad is in the hospital   
    Salaam,
    bihaqqi Muhammadin (S) wā Aal Muhammad (عليه السلام), may Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) ease your difficulties.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Diaz in Being wealthy   
    Wassalam,
    Personally, I think none.
    Not only is big amounts of hoarded wealth which is not under circulation bad for the economy, it is also against the spirit of tawakkul in Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى). Why would I need to hoard wealth if I firmly believe that the Rāziq will provide for my needs in the future too, just as He is doing at present? I must always remember that if Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) were to cut off my rizq, even all the wealth in the world won't suffice me. Money is merely a medium, the real sustenance comes from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).
    Of course, we should set aside enough to meet the expenses of ourselves and those dependent on us, and spend the rest fī sabīlillāh. Anything hoarded beyond that is superfluous.
    This is my personal opinion. People are welcome to disagree.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Diaz in Being wealthy   
    Precisely why Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) calls wealth a "test" in the Qur'ān.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from notme in Being wealthy   
    Precisely why Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) calls wealth a "test" in the Qur'ān.
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