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AbdusSibtayn

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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to notme in LGBTQY ?   
    No I'm not saying that. It's comparable to television shows always casting an Arab looking person as a terrorist or a poor black young man as a thug; low-key expression of prejudice. 
    What I'm saying is rather than letting it rile you up, stick firmly to your arguments. Answer chaos with order, it'll make your point more strongly and is better for your peace of mind. 
    Sometimes you have to call it out, but sometimes it's best to just let it go. You know Muslims and Christians have a deeply rooted cultural prejudice against people who express homosexual urges, whether they act on them or not, so choose the big battles. If you're always fighting the little ones, you'll wear yourself out. 
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    Everyone has their tests. 
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Saudi plot to assassinate Iranian leaders   
    Lol! General Soleimani is not Khashoggi!!
    Those Nasibi Madhkhali scum!!
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Aflower in Muta discussion with the Brothers... Sisters are welcome too   
    This is the beauty of modernist thought. It flips between the two extremes of unabashed hedonism and prudish Platonism ( where conjugal relationships are concerned) with remarkable ease, depending on its convenience.
    WHICH brings me to my (unrelated) question- what if the prospective bride/groom is age- fluid like me, aged between 5 to 35 years? ( Regressive cabbages believing in age- stereotypes, please stay away from this post).
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Sirius_Bright in What do you think about this muslim pakistani party ?   
    This is how every political party deceive masses before getting onto the seat. They see voters and make promises accordingly. Most of the time they don't look back and if some of them try to live upto people's expectations they face obstruction from opposition. 
    History has famous examples of Bani Zubair and Bani Abbas getting into power by promising revenge for Imam Hussain (a.s.) and when they succeeded they oppressed Imams of Ahlulbait (ams) continuing the legacy of Banu Umayyah (la). 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to starlight in Muta discussion with the Brothers... Sisters are welcome too   
    Why is everyone bringing up the physical aspects of marriage? Be it temporary or permanent, besides physical intimacy there is emotional intimacy and a sense of companionship which is priceless and equally important to both men and women. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Khadim uz Zahra in Muta discussion with the Brothers... Sisters are welcome too   
    Permanent marriage could also be argued to literally be a permission for sex in exchange for a lifelong stipend. Those are the very basic requirements for marriage, if you only look at the law. And if two people want to get permanently married just to have sex, and the man pays the woman living expenses but they live in separate houses, don't love each other and so on, that's also a perfectly valid marriage Islamically. But that's not the ethical point of permanent marriage.
    At the end of the day, it doesn't matter in my opinion, what people's intentions for either mut'ah or permanent marriage are. Very simply put, despite our societies having become incredibly puritanical, Islam recognises that sex is a human need. Not a want, but a need. Sure, some people may argue men need it more than women, and that can be argued forever, but both sexes do need it.
    Just like how hunger is a basic human need and God provides halal foods to sate our needs in that regard, he has provided the two forms of marriage to sate our sexual needs. As long as people use these tools provided by God to avoid sins, and as long as both people understand and consent to what they're getting into, whether they do mut'ah for a one night stand or to get to know each other for permanent marriage or a man uses it for a legal means of marrying a non Muslim, kitabi woman for life (since regular nikah is not allowed in this case), it really doesn't matter. And it shouldn't matter. At best, some of these things may be makrooh,  but the people who make it such a big deal, do they always eat with their right hand and enter the bathroom with their right leg and leave with the left? When it suits them, it's okay to ignore every mustahab  and makrooh act, but when something is causing the youth to become irreligious and commit sins, then it's all about not doing makrooh actions? We'd rather let our youth commit sins instead of letting them do something makrooh. Is that not the epitome of irrationality?
    Do we not see the almost constant threads about teenagers complaining they are masturbating and they can't stop? Do we think God won't question us about how we created a society where His halal was made haram by societal pressure, where people were forced into sin and unable to use the halal means of satisfying their urges? We all read the hadith about halal and harm being interchanged at the end of times; is this not a glaring example of the same?
    Why do we think people will leave Islam and reject the Imam at the time of his zuhoor? It will be because their personal standards of ethics will be so different from Islam, that his actions will not make sense to them. Because they will judge a woman for doing mut'ah, while the Imam will allow it and, as the Hadith about its reward show, even encourage it for those who need it.
    What do they think is going to happen when the Imam tells their sister or their daughter to do mut'ah if the situation requires it and even tells her that she'll have a boatload of reward in Heaven for it, and their deluded idea of ghirah makes them think the Imam is sending their daughter down the wrong path? How many of the people here would accept it, then? If they can't accept it now, then they need to rethink their relationship with Islam and with the Imam because he could come tomorrow, and they might end up rejecting him.
    The rest is just cultural baggage. Islam is about not lagging behind the Prophet, but we should also not go beyond what he says. If he allowed something, we shouldn't judge people - especially the women since Muslim men are for some reason so enamoured with virginity while our Prophet married widows and divorcees with no hesitation - for doing something that he allowed.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Qa'im in Muta discussion with the Brothers... Sisters are welcome too   
    Mut`a is just as halal for women as it is for men, but there are reasons why the cultural double standards exist. For most men, to even consider marriage, you must be financially independent. It's very difficult to marry permanently before 25; and even marrying before 30 requires one to be very proactive, mature, go through rejections, etc.
    Muslim women on the other hand are regularly approached for marriage before 30. Regardless of where they are, what they're wearing or who they are with, they are pursued. It does not matter if they're still in school/college, it does not matter if they're working full-time or part-time, it does not matter if they hide all day in their basement; it does not even matter if they're mature or not, they and their families are still approached at that age. And it's not just the "pretty" ones, normal-looking women in that age group can get married if that is their goal.
    Libido for women peaks in their late 20s and 30s. For men, libido peaks after puberty and declines later. 15-25 is an awkward age for men, because they're not quite men, nor are they boys; and they cannot marry until they learn to become men. In general, women prefer a man that knows what he's doing (emotionally and physically mature, knows how to please women), and in general, men prefer a woman with less experience. So it makes complete sense to me that men would rely on mut`a until they can support a wife, and that women instead find a quality spouse while they are young.
    Obviously there are many millions of exceptions to everything I've said here, I'm speaking very generally. To answer your last questions, it really depends on their age. If a woman in my family is older or divorced, mut`a is her business. But it's usually not worth it for a woman to waste her youth or virginity on mut`a, because those are important in finding a permanent spouse.
  8. Haha
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from MohammadAli1993 in Umar's statement of shirk   
    Yeah, brother. We all know that. The joke is on the neo- Kharijites who say, "Anybody who invokes the help of someone other than Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى is a mushrik!! Read the ayah 'Iyyaka nasta'een', ya mushrik!! May He guide you or break your back, ya mushrik!!"
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from hasanhh in Write down your needs   
    She's talking about Sayyiduna Hussain mosque, Cairo, which is dedicated to the Imam(as) and which, according to some reports, housed the severed head of the Imam after his martyrdom, until the head was taken back to Karbala.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from hasanhh in Write down your needs   
    Knowledge. Zuhd and taqwa. Excellent akhlaq. Rock-solid iman.
    Thank you so much for your efforts, dear sister!
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Urwatul Wuthqa in Umar's statement of shirk   
    All praises are for Allah (s.w.t), the Lord and Sustainer of the Worlds, Peace & Blessings of Allah be upon Prophet Muhammad (S) and his pure progeny. 

    Lets get straight to the famous saying of Umar Bin Khattab, who said on various occasions, 'If it were not for Ali, Umar would have been ruined." and similar words. Is this not the statement of shirk? It is indeed a form of shirk in praising a creature.
     
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from 3wliya_maryam in Write down your needs   
    She's talking about Sayyiduna Hussain mosque, Cairo, which is dedicated to the Imam(as) and which, according to some reports, housed the severed head of the Imam after his martyrdom, until the head was taken back to Karbala.
  13. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from ali_fatheroforphans in Write down your needs   
    Knowledge. Zuhd and taqwa. Excellent akhlaq. Rock-solid iman.
    Thank you so much for your efforts, dear sister!
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Carlzone in Country of origin?   
    Racial purity in pre-modern Asia was a joke, sister. All of us are mixed race to some extent.
    I know for a fact that I am Indo- European and Mongoloid mixed, even without a DNA test. My eyes, physique and cranial structure betray that.
  15. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Aflower in Write down your needs   
    Knowledge. Zuhd and taqwa. Excellent akhlaq. Rock-solid iman.
    Thank you so much for your efforts, dear sister!
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from 3wliya_maryam in Write down your needs   
    Knowledge. Zuhd and taqwa. Excellent akhlaq. Rock-solid iman.
    Thank you so much for your efforts, dear sister!
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to 3wliya_maryam in Write down your needs   
    Salam alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu
    I hope youse are in the best of health inshallah
    I know I have mentioned this more than once, but my dad inshallah will be going to Cairo tomorrow to visit the shrine of Imam Hussain(as) 
    If any of youse have any needs or duas , nows your chance, please mention them below and I will write it on a piece of paper on your behalfs and my dad inshallah will put it there
    Insha Allah all your prayers will be accepted
    fee amanillah
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Shahrukh K in What Happens After Death?   
    I was sitting in the examination hall Fluid Mechanics paper in my hand and i know that i will not be able to answer a single question, i was sweating profusely, desperately trying to solve a numerical, it seems to me that i forgot everything and then suddenly i woke up. It was so real that it took few seconds to realize that i am sleeping in my bed comfortably and it was only a dream. 
    Then i laughed aloud.
    That is what will happen after death.
  19. Haha
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from shia farm girl in LGBTQY ?   
    A young, 'progressive' mom with a liberal arts degree decided that her infant son is 'gender-fluid' because he picked up a barbie doll at the garage sale.
    I sometimes feel that I am also 'age-fluid'. My age is anywhere between 5 to 35. Age is not a monolith. It's a whole spectrum.Those who believe otherwise are regressive folks believing in age -stereotypes.
    *wink*!
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ralvi in LGBTQY ?   
    A young, 'progressive' mom with a liberal arts degree decided that her infant son is 'gender-fluid' because he picked up a barbie doll at the garage sale.
    I sometimes feel that I am also 'age-fluid'. My age is anywhere between 5 to 35. Age is not a monolith. It's a whole spectrum.Those who believe otherwise are regressive folks believing in age -stereotypes.
    *wink*!
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from starlight in LGBTQY ?   
    A young, 'progressive' mom with a liberal arts degree decided that her infant son is 'gender-fluid' because he picked up a barbie doll at the garage sale.
    I sometimes feel that I am also 'age-fluid'. My age is anywhere between 5 to 35. Age is not a monolith. It's a whole spectrum.Those who believe otherwise are regressive folks believing in age -stereotypes.
    *wink*!
  22. Confused
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Asghar Ali Karbalai in If Marijuana is Haram Why Do Sufis Use It?   
    I think a better translation for marijuana would be ganja.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Haji 2003 in LGBTQY ?   
    https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/nov/08/dutch-man-69-starts-legal-fight-to-identify-as-20-years-younger
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Haji 2003 in LGBTQY ?   
    My doctor refused to give me free treatment for a cyst.
    I complained to my family that had I self-identified as female I'd like have gotten the far more expensive gender reassignment surgery free of charge. 
    Then a thought struck me.
    If I self-identify as female, does that make my wife a lesbian?
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Ralvi in LGBTQY ?   
    Qrstuvwxy and z
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