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AbdusSibtayn

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  1. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Quran313 in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    This part was funny but sadly true.
     
    I was talking to a girl and everything was good. I really wanted to marry her. She was Hijabi, religious, etc. (at least to my understanding). At the later stages of our marriage discussions, we talked about Mahr and marriage expenses. Thank God we were not mahram yet. She asked for 20k Mahr plus main portion of marriage expenses (engagement hall and wedding hall expenses) plus asset division at the time of divorce if it happened. I tried to make marriage less expensive by like having wedding at home instead of hall etc., but it didn't work. She was active in the community and talking about Ashoura and Imam Hussain. I really wanted to marry her, but when I realized it's too much expense on me living alone in west, I gave up. If I find a girl that is okay to have a simple marriage, I save my money and spend it for the newly formed family later. I don't want to take loan and create financial problems after marriage.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from syeda f naqvi in ablution   
    Salaam,
    No, it doesn't.
  3. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from AStruggler in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Wassalam,
    Cut to chase, the further we stray from the sunnah, the more difficult our lives become. It's a take it or leave it. We are the ones who profit from it, or are at loss.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Syed Ali Mehdi Shah Naqvi in The ShiaChat Marriage Crisis   
    Bro we would love to marry but we have to complete degrees then earn some stupid money before that. And till that, we can do nothing but wait 
    Taxes on Nikah and the way people do marriages they spend too much on marriage ceremonies here because they consider not doing so a disgrace then after marriage, they have burdens of debt etc...
    Thats terrible.
    Shias (Sadly including me) do many things 180 degs to what imams told yet are big mouths
  5. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to SeekingHeaven in My dad is in the hospital   
    Salam, my dad was taken to the hospital after being bed ridden for days with a high temperature, he has COVID and because of his old age and health history he is struggling a lot especially with breathing 
    I just want to ask you all to pray for his recovery and give me advice on what to do in this time
    thank you
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Mahdavist in Hadiths   
    Wa alaikum as salam
    It's not so much about allowing or not allowing, rather it simply happens to be the case that many of the narrations from such collections wouldn't be considered reliable by us due to the narrators or transmitters. 
    If you want to read it there isn't any rule stopping you, but know that we usually don't refer to these books for our beliefs or jurisprudence.
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Mahdavist in Do we need to boycott Israel products & products helping Israel ?   
    Yes such products should be boycotted as far as possible. In most cases there are alternatives available. 
    http://www.inminds.com/boycott-fatwas.html
  8. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to MexicanVato in All that progressive Muslims are, are examples of colonization winning   
    I would feel more for a conservative muslim (conservative not neo-con) than the liberals and progressives. A lot of muslims, just like non muslims fall for the liberal agenda because they think the liberals/progressives care about the common folk. Throughout history they have been power hungry just repeating slogans that get them power. Muslims should have no business in supporting pro choice, LGBTQ and other absurd views that are destroying society. I declined to get involved with Muslim women with those views that wanted to settle down with me. It annoys me just like the muslims that take up the banner of marxism which is essentially the same end.
  9. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to BleedKnee in All that progressive Muslims are, are examples of colonization winning   
    Ilhan has gotten on my nerves personally. I'm just counting the days till she be walking around with the hijab. 
    But nah, just got triggered from some liberal Muslims on Twitter. 
  10. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to BleedKnee in All that progressive Muslims are, are examples of colonization winning   
    That's all I got to say. Good night 
  11. My Prayers
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Zainuu in Hezbollah stands for Lebanon again   
    Alhumdulillah. Hezbollah is playing an extremely crucial role in helping lebanon in this financial crisis accompanied by impacts of sanctions.
    Anyone can add to the thread if there is anything relevant.
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from AStruggler in Was ayatollah khomeini bad ?   
    He was a great man. And like all great men, he had his strengths and his weaknesses. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless his soul, and may He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive his mistakes.
    He (rh) is a role model for me. His life is an embodiment of the teachings of the 14 infallibles (عليه السلام). Whatever shortcomings he had pale into insignificance in front of the great services he did and sacrifices he made for the cause of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) 's religion.
    He is a mujaddid of the school of Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام), just like Allama al-Hilli (rh) and Allama al-Majlisi (rh).
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Mohamad Abdel-Hamid in Was ayatollah khomeini bad ?   
    He was a great man. And like all great men, he had his strengths and his weaknesses. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) bless his soul, and may He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive his mistakes.
    He (rh) is a role model for me. His life is an embodiment of the teachings of the 14 infallibles (عليه السلام). Whatever shortcomings he had pale into insignificance in front of the great services he did and sacrifices he made for the cause of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) 's religion.
    He is a mujaddid of the school of Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام), just like Allama al-Hilli (rh) and Allama al-Majlisi (rh).
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from MexicanVato in Is marriage mandatory?   
    Every time I visit the supermarket, and observe the behaviour of the couples there, I feel it is a blessing to be single, alhamdulillah!
    But then, like everything, marriage has its own tests and trials. (This bottom half is a disclaimer just to keep my standing within the wider SC community)
  15. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Mohamad Abdel-Hamid in Was ayatollah khomeini bad ?   
    Salaam,
    In my honest opinion Khomeini was a great leader and revolutionary, he changed Iran and even the Middle East for the better. It's not surprising to see he has been demonized by the West with their efficient yet twisted propaganda. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Sirius_Bright in Khamenai calls Bayah of Khoemini Bayah of Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) - So?   
    A Ma'soom can choose special representative to take ba'yah on his behalf. The representative cannot take ba'yah for himself, it is for the Ma'soom. 
  17. Thanks
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to EasternQibla in Why were there many occultations?   
    https://en.wikishia.net/view/Bihar_al-anwar_(book)
    At the bottom of the page, under 'see also' are the links
    https://en.wikishia.net/images/e/ed/The_Promised_Mahdi%2C_Part_I.pdf
    https://en.wikishia.net/images/2/22/The_Promised_Mahdi%2C_Part_II.pdf

    Richard
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from hasanhh in Is marriage mandatory?   
    Every time I visit the supermarket, and observe the behaviour of the couples there, I feel it is a blessing to be single, alhamdulillah!
    But then, like everything, marriage has its own tests and trials. (This bottom half is a disclaimer just to keep my standing within the wider SC community)
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    AbdusSibtayn got a reaction from Ashvazdanghe in Is marriage mandatory?   
    Every time I visit the supermarket, and observe the behaviour of the couples there, I feel it is a blessing to be single, alhamdulillah!
    But then, like everything, marriage has its own tests and trials. (This bottom half is a disclaimer just to keep my standing within the wider SC community)
  20. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Aquib Rizvi in Is marriage mandatory?   
    Assalamualyekum,
    Marriage is a Sunnah and not obligatory, but here is an adivce from our Imam to a lady who did not wish to marry.
    3 - عدة من أصحابنا ، عن أحمد بن بشير قال: دخلت امرأة على أبي عبد الله فقالت: أصلح الله إني امرأة امرأة فقال: وما التبتل عندك؟ قالت: لا أتزوج ، قال: ولم؟ قالت: ألتم بذلك ، فقال: انصرفي فلو كان ذلك فضلا لكانت فاطمة (عليها السلام) أحق به منك إنه ليس أحد يسبقها إلى الفضل.
    A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn abu ‘Abd Allah from ‘Abd al-Samad ibn Bashir who has said the following:
    “Once, a woman came to abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, and said, ‘I pray to Allah to keep you well, I am a celibate woman.’ He (the Imam) asked, ‘What does that mean to you?’ She replied, ‘I do not marry.’ He (the Imam) asked, ‘Why do you not marry?’ She replied, ‘I seek thereby excellence.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘You must change your mind. Had that been anything of excellence, Fatimah, ‘Alayha al-Salam, would have been more deserving of it than you because no one could succeed against her to excel.’”
    Source:
    Al-Kafi by Shaykh Kulayni, Vol 5, Pg 509, H 3. Grading:
    Allamah Majlisi has graded this hadeeth as "Saheeh" (Authentic) in his Mirat ul Uqool 20/322. Sheikh Behbhudi has also graded this hadeeth as "Saheeh" (Authentic) in his Saheeh al-Kafi 3/71.
  21. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to hasanhh in Is marriage mandatory?   
    ??????
    l cannot 'argue' or (really) disagree with the Prohpet -(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s., BUT --in rhetorical question-- how can l be guarding half of my religion when l am cursing half the time?
    ln secular speak, there is Marred Man, Single Man, Sinful Man and --like ME-- Hermit Man.
  22. Completely Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to Mahdavist in Is marriage mandatory?   
    In itself it is not strictly mandatory, but can become so if you are committing sins which could potentially be resolved by marriage. 
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to MexicanVato in Is marriage mandatory?   
    Facts akhi. I kinda think maybe I don't want to be married. But alas I have human needs lol. I will say I am more focused when not having to deal with the stress of relationships. 
  24. Partially Agree
    AbdusSibtayn reacted to hasanhh in Is marriage mandatory?   
    Frequently in mosque we're reminded that "marriage is half your din."
    Personally, l think being marred is 'half your damn."
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    AbdusSibtayn reacted to KamranZ in Iran’s stance on Uighur Muslims in China   
    Hello All
    Please keep the emotions out. The issue of Uighur Muslims is rather a political issue and has nothing to do with the religion... There are some documentaries on these, which you can watch on YouTube...
    The problem of China with Uighurs is national sovereignty and not the religion...This is why US and western countries support Uighurs because it’s against the national security of China as a united country. Many of them are Isis supporters and majority seek independence from chinese soil...
    Otherwise there are about 120-130 million Muslims living in China without problems...They even have their own mosques, etc.
     
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