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Everything posted by AbdusSibtayn

  1. Assalmun alaykum, There are a few things I'd like to suggest- 1. Tackle the language issue. When reverts come, kindly switch to English/the local language so that they feel included in the conversation. 2. Do not humiliate/ make fun of the reverts if they get something wrong. Please understand that everything is very new to them, and they'll take some time figure things out. 3. As has been mentioned by the other members - an end to idiotic marriage restrictions. A supportive statement by our maraja in this regard would be a big psychological boost for those of wishing for this sorry state of affairs to end.
  2. I am not sure, but I think Ayatollah Sistani (ha) also has a fatwa along similar lines.
  3. Words are poor comforters, sister. Stay strong. That's all I'll say.
  4. Assalamu alaikum, A new beard trimmer. Still learning to use it correctly.
  5. One more category- The irregulars- they come once in a while, post something, and then disappear for weeks/months on end. I belong to this type.
  6. May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى lengthen his life!
  7. Wa alaikum assalam, No, thanks. Sorry, but I disagree. That'll work just fine, thanks. I'm sorry,but I won't be able to make it. I am sorry, but I am unable to help you with this. Depends a lot on the situation, actually.
  8. Ah great!! Didn't know that!! Pretty interesting!!
  9. Don't know where I fit in. I think I have a post-structuralist approach when it comes to these classifications. Same for personality tests.
  10. Assalamu alaikum, Dear sister, Don't lose hope. If Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى is delaying things for you, there must be something good waiting for you at the end. I don't know that well about women in the mid- twenties, but for us men, 20-25 is an awkward phase (I myself fall within this age group). It's a confused state of mind to be in. We instinctively feel that we are no longer boys, and we also know that we are yet not quite men either. In their mid- twenties, most men have just finished their education and are looking for jobs and financial stability. It's a sudden realization of their familial responsibilities that strikes them. For most of us this is a rough patch to navigate through, especially if we have had protective parents and an overprotected upbringing. Trust me, guys this age don't even seriously know what marriage is. They are attracted to women, and they crave female companionship, but they are afraid of committing, and the responsibilities that it entails. They are just not in the right frame of mind to settle down, because deep down they know they are yet not matured enough for the task. Consider relaxing the age limit a bit. Include men in their late twenties in your list. 3-4 years of age gap won't make that big a difference. I am convinced that men take longer to mature than women. What kind of intellectual pursuits are you interested in? Have you considered joining any related clubs/societies?
  11. Also, parties are a strict no no. I always make it a point to be away from such gatherings. While on field trips, I have many a times insisted that the group should lunch at an alcohol free venue, and made sure that it happens. Not that big a deal if you have considerate colleagues.And it is haram to attend gatherings where alcohol is served.
  12. Assalam alaikum, I am in general agreement with the rest of your post, brother, but I think that the talking with non-mahrams point requires a bit more qualification. I feel that informal conversation with colleagues of the opposite gender is not wrong in itself. In the corporate and the academic spheres, the boundaries between personal and the professional might not be that clearly drawn at times. It might very well be the case that informal connections beyond work might get you a good business deal or a good peer review. Moreover, excellence of personality may also act as an instrument of dawah, and conversations provide a window to showcase that excellence and refinement. I feel what it ultimately boils down to is the contents of the informal conversations one is having. An instance is the Prophet(S) 's joke with the old lady who came to ask him if she would go to heaven, and he replied that old people won't enter heaven, and just as she was about to leave disheartened, he said that the old would be made young again and then enter heaven. Are you discussing spirituality, politics, hobbies, offering life-advices etc to the opposite gender colleagues? I don't see any un-Islamic stuff there. But, if your conversations are about frivolous things, gossip etc then it is problematic.
  13. Actually, SC is my kind of social space!!
  14. There is also this controversy in Iran, that banning Facebook and Twitter has given a shot in the arm to the royalists and CIA-MI6 stooges to spread misinformation by making it impossible to post a counter narrative on these platforms. Honestly, it is an individual choice, according to me. If you feel that social media is interfering with your peace of mind, then quit at once. I like SC much better than Facebook. Part of the reason is that I am an introvert/socially awkward, and I like the relative anonymity and Islamic environment that SC offers. Secondly, brothers and sisters here are vastly superior in terms of their online behavior here. Moreover, the content quality on Facebook is no match for that on SC. I have personally benefitted much from this site.
  15. Which is precisely why we must start teaching philosophy and logic to the children in our schools. And this is precisely why studying history is so important. To a typical Muslim or non-Muslim product of the machinery of modern Western education, everything in this report will make complete sense. But once he/she comes to understand the political/philosophical vantage points from where these condemnations are coming, down to their epistemological foundations, and how these are historically linked with the project of colonization, hegemonic dominance and 'civilizing the barbarians', he/she'll see through these allegations, in all their logos, pathos and ethos, and their agenda. These rants don't bug me anymore. Maybe these people, who have written this propaganda piece, should man-up and debate the Muslim intellectuals on what their definition of 'religious freedom' is, and how it is logically sound and argumentatively tenable. But this time, the shortcoming is from the side of the Muslim intellectuals, and their state of intellectual frigidity and dormancy in not nipping this shrill propaganda siren in the bud.
  16. Assalamu alaykum, What works for me is, I read the text carefully, divide the material into subtopics, and then jot down points under each subtopic. It just looks like a bare skeleton/minimal summary of the text and I keep the writing to the bare minimum. Our focus should be on understanding the text, and the notes are just ready-reckoners for revision before exams. also, we should try to write things in our own words as far as possible.
  17. Sick sellout. Whoever thinks that they enjoy even an iota of support amongst the shia of India. This bloke and his more respectable 'maulana' cohort (now vigorously aiming for a Rajya Sabha seat on a BJP ticket)are absolute sellouts and apologists of the current ruling dispensation. This (edited out) even accused Maulana Kalbe Jawad of embezzling waqf funds and trusts, when the maulana spoke out against his rampant corruption in the Shia waqf board. May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى give this (edited out) his due and dispatch him where he belongs, slimy (edited out)! If the moderation rules were not here, and this weren't SC, I would use even more uninhibited language to truly describe this man.
  18. [CONTROVERSY ALERT: NOT INTENDED TO RAKE UP A DEBATE. THE STATEMENT IS HIGHLY PERSONAL AND SUBJECTIVE AND THE READERS ARE AT LIBERTY TO COMPLETELY DISAGREE] Ever since I became Muslim and joined the school of Aal Muhammad (as), I have dabbled in a modest amount of metaphysical stuff to understand Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and gain proximity to Him. But there is nothing like performing the amaal prescribed by the Ahlul Bayt(as) when it comes to gaining ma'rifah and qurbah. There is nothing like reading the Qur'an and their ahadith if one wishes to gain true gnosis. Each passing day convinces me that the kernel of irfan is nothing else but zuhd and it'at of Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى, through which the servant ascends higher and higher through the various spiritual stages (maqaamaat), until the state of annihilation or fanaa is achieved, when his entire being is subsumed in the divine will, and what remains is that state of subsistence (baqaa) where his will becomes identical with the will of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى. All that remains within the slave is not him, but 'Him'. Music, stylized and synchronized rituals, and flamboyant turbans and robes are all mere artifices. Those who have tasted the fruit alone know its sweetness.
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