notme

We have rules (see link in my signature) and occasionally we do have to censor content to maintain a friendly site, but we try to allow free discussion as much as is feasible. My personal opinion is that it's almost always better to refute than to silence.

If your family isn't helping, you're going to have to be proactive. Do you have an Islamic community? Participate in events, and let people know you are looking for a husband.

Inshallah all who wish to do good will be able. I'd enjoy seeing more stories of how people became Shia.

What prevents you from doing it? Obviously money, but what else? Can we help remove obstacles?

How would you prove or disprove that?

It was a long time ago. I don't remember the exact sunni hadiths that the ladies who I met taught me; they were something about the inferiority and inherent sinfulness of women. I've since heard similar ones from Shia sources, but I was much more fragile in my faith, as a new convert. Now when I learn some hadith or bit of history that seems wrong, I just remind myself that if it is not one of the pillars of Islam and I don't believe it, I'm still a believer.

I converted to Islam because I read the Quran. When I started learning about hadith I almost left Islam, but a friend told me there was more than one way of looking at Islam, and referred me to some shia websites (not shiachat though).

Real men don't let their wives do all the work.

@Dave follower of The Way How do you feel about the inconsistency in the Bible narration of this event, which refers to Isaac and also says Abraham is to sacrifice his first born, Ishmael, especially given the Bible's emphasis on "The Redeemer" being descended from the firstborn of Abraham?

Maybe he didn't get an answer? Though last year's answers are probably better than this year's so far.

These are valid and accurate criticisms. Socialism/communism with religious freedom is only mostly socialism/communism. I guess the early writers about communism had suffered or observed religious abuses and wanted to avoid them and this was their solution. And power always corrupts, so it's important to not have an elite leadership, and any power given to any individual must be of short limited duration and over only the minimum areas of life needed to do the job they are expected to do. I'm of the opinion (if you couldn't already tell) that communism is pretty good, with some significant flaws that need to be resolved so we can save our societies from falling into chaos when capitalism collapses under it's own weight. And as I've said before, Islam doesn't proscribe any particular economic system. It places limits and rules which can be applied as applicable within whatever economic structure exists in a society.

If you enjoy drinking it, the cost isn't hurting you, and it's halal, why do you want to break the addiction? Simply because you're addicted, or do you have health concerns? Duas to break addiction would be the ones for general health and for strength in adversity. If one exists specifically for breaking addiction, I've not heard of it.

I'm old. Young adult men nowadays are smarter than men my age. You'll find someone. Just be upfront about your needs before forming any kind of emotional attachment. I shouldn't have replied with a bitter, cynical response - that was unkind of me and I apologize. Duas for your success in work and in life, and that you find the right person to share your successful life.

Eid Mubarak to all. (Whichever day you observe it.)

Depends on whether you are a man or a woman. If you're a man, you will not compromise your goals for anything and will find a spouse who accepts and respects you. If you are a woman and you want to marry, you will be expected to compromise. If you do find a man who claims to accept that your goals are important to you, either he is desperate, he is lying, or you've found the one in a million.