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Salaam Alaykum, Why not try and engage with her as to the content of the music, what type of music is it, what message is it portraying, how does it make her feel? Does she feel it "speaks" to her, if this is the case, then maybe you can speak to her about these issues that she might have as any teenager would have and what this music gives to her. If you simply try and ban her, or shut it off, we all know it won't work, maybe she needs an outlet for certain emotions she is going through, and when you find out what those emotions are you could re-direct her to other options.. Wasalaam

Salaam, I understand the point from which Cypress is coming from, it was indeed a very insightful documentary. Nothing to be squeamish or scared about. It was clear that these were real people from various walks of life. Wasalaam

Salaam, what members of the family were you going to visit? were any male cousins going to be present, not necessarily alone with you but simply present with other elder members of the family? Wasalaam

Salaam, Ok - but seriously, IF women are supposedly emotional and irrational etc etc etc and all that other garbage...then why does Islamic Law seem to depict men as irrational, emotional, unable to control their emotions, and thusly provided them with "outlets" to maintain these "deficiencies"? I mean seriously, you just have to hear the [Edited Out] that comes such as, "even if the man is angry and in the wrong - keep quiet even under these circumstances" "If a man has needs woman must do this and do that and drop everything" "Women can control certain things, men can't" "Men go away to war and need a woman laa dee daa" "Women are left when their men are abroad, nothing they can do about it" Seriously, take a browse through certain sections of fiqh, akhlaaq, and history and seriously women seem a hell a lot more qualified to lead. Another angle you could come from is this, if a woman is not fit to lead, then she is not fit to be a mother. If you are geniunely trying to convince me that women are irrational and emotional and unable to make rational decisions etc etc etc, then how the hell can you put such a precious thing as a child in her care? Wasalaam

Salaam, To be honest, men are more "emotional" and "irrational" Islamically speaking. A quick perusal through any book on Fiqh would highlight that. There 'must' be another reason :-) Wasalaam

Salaam, Maybe, but I think a more pressing point of finding out is because he exists in certain Shajarah's of Sayed families in Indo-Pak (and maybe others but not sure) Wasalaam

children will invariably follow the mother's belief as long as the husband and wife are balanced people

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Salaam, I am no expert on this but I have a question and would like some opinion from people with experience. If you don't eat anything at all, there is literally ZERO calorie intake (i.e. brocolli, green veg, green tea) and you do this for a very long time, at the same time you do cardio and weights regularly, and I mean hard training. What would happen? Wasalaam

Salaam Alaykum, This has been on of the biggest and most painful "wake-up" calls for me in my life. I am a guy (just for clarification), however I have never EVER witnessed Muta being practised by married man for any noble or Islamic reasons whatsoever. Oh and btw, men DO talk about it, (and other things when they get together) In the majority of cases their wives have no idea, and these men have convinced themselves that this is their divine right. To be honest it completely disgusts me, and you can throw as many ahadith as you want at me about what the Masoomeen did, quite frankly the Masoomeen did MANY things during their lives, but I am so surprised how easily some men are willing to "emulate" the practises which get them off. There are people in my life whom I regarded as brothers as we were growing up, and afterwards I lost complete respect for due to their activities after marriage.... It truly is a sad situation Wasalaam

Salaam Alaykum, Are there any other examples OTHER than the Holy Prophet(AS), Bibi Fatima (SA) and Imam Ali(AS)? The reason I ask is that I don't think their situations really apply in the modern context. You need to find a Masoom who's both parents were alive during their adult married lives and see what situation they lived under. Failing that, then look toward how the companions of the Masoomeen set up their families when there was no clear objection from the Masoomeen... Also taking in consideration historical methods of home ownership/leasing also - I dont think a simple straight comparison with then and now would be fair Wasalaam

Surely though, in theory, in prostitution the money paid for the act performed belongs to the woman also, yet some (or all of it) can still end up in the hands of "pimps". And a "pimp" can easily get around the "Iddah" as long as you have enough women under your control and it is properly organised. Mutah could very easily be used for prostitution, and in a pure technical sense not be haraam. However morally, well that is another question entirely.... don't you think?

I figured my password out....thanks for the offer though :D

Salaam, This is why I love you bro, u constantly strive to make a difference. My duas are with you and I promise you that as soon as I am able, I will help you out. Keep up the good work Wasalaam