Night_Inshallah

1) I have a greek name but for some reason all the Muslims call me Aisha, lol. I am from the USA.

2) Reason 1. Keeps people from bothering me. Seriously. You have no idea how same-sex harassment/courting/flirting has taken over the American work environment. But that's a topic for another day.
Reason 2. It is a form of dawah. 
3) Modest in dress?  I guess so. I would not wear something immodest and put on a headscarf. But don't forget a woman can be immodest in behavior (I curse a lot a work, make dua for me).

GoFundMe for widowed sister
Over $90,000 has been raised for this sister in one day. The brother died yesterday morning and his janazah is today.
People from all over came together to help, Georgia, Alabama, New York, New Jersey, Cali, Philly,UK, black, white, arab, Shia, Sunni, Salafi,  Sufi, even NOI.  
This was a believing brother. May Allah have mercy on his wife and children.

GoFundMe for widowed sister
Over $90,000 has been raised for this sister in one day. The brother died yesterday morning and his janazah is today.
People from all over came together to help, Georgia, Alabama, New York, New Jersey, Cali, Philly,UK, black, white, arab, Shia, Sunni, Salafi,  Sufi, even NOI.  
This was a believing brother. May Allah have mercy on his wife and children.

GoFundMe for widowed sister
Over $90,000 has been raised for this sister in one day. The brother died yesterday morning and his janazah is today.
People from all over came together to help, Georgia, Alabama, New York, New Jersey, Cali, Philly,UK, black, white, arab, Shia, Sunni, Salafi,  Sufi, even NOI.  
This was a believing brother. May Allah have mercy on his wife and children.

I'm looking at this strictly as to how this would benefit me & my family.
If a brother wanted to take me as his 2nd and had the ability to give me all my rights (including a separate home, in my name, and maintaining it) yeah, I would go for it.
That means all of my earnings would be for me & my children. 

You would snitch on your own bro? 

You would snitch on your own bro? 

I just saw this........and laughed for a good 10 minutes. Friggin gold.......

There is a sister in Philly who makes custom niqabs. They are so cute.
https://m.facebook.com/janine.greenwood.144

It is still called ghusl.
 
http://www.mfs.asn.au/ghusl--burial-steps.html

It is still called ghusl.
 
http://www.mfs.asn.au/ghusl--burial-steps.html

Her youtube response
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ptAHBK8dMqg

Im fixing to ask a Shia Imam/scholar about this.....

I just don't like how they let a pig....I mean officer :)  come into the masjid and cause fitnah!
If my ID and my passport says female that is the end of that! 
For the board/Imam to be passing around her medical records among the masjid MD's is foul!
What's next? Will she have to submit to a GYN exam by one of the masjid doctors to be accepted? 
I would have no part in this community. :(

This is a complete mess. Because now they are OK'ing speculation & rumors.  I know a lot of sisters who don't look all Barbie doll feminine. Some are boney and muscular and flat chested and have strong facial bones. So now any sister who looks a little hard has to submit to an interrogation & sexual exam?  

I just don't like how they let a pig....I mean officer :)  come into the masjid and cause fitnah!
If my ID and my passport says female that is the end of that! 
For the board/Imam to be passing around her medical records among the masjid MD's is foul!
What's next? Will she have to submit to a GYN exam by one of the masjid doctors to be accepted? 
I would have no part in this community. :(

This is a complete mess. Because now they are OK'ing speculation & rumors.  I know a lot of sisters who don't look all Barbie doll feminine. Some are boney and muscular and flat chested and have strong facial bones. So now any sister who looks a little hard has to submit to an interrogation & sexual exam?  

I just don't like how they let a pig....I mean officer :)  come into the masjid and cause fitnah!
If my ID and my passport says female that is the end of that! 
For the board/Imam to be passing around her medical records among the masjid MD's is foul!
What's next? Will she have to submit to a GYN exam by one of the masjid doctors to be accepted? 
I would have no part in this community. :(

This is a complete mess. Because now they are OK'ing speculation & rumors.  I know a lot of sisters who don't look all Barbie doll feminine. Some are boney and muscular and flat chested and have strong facial bones. So now any sister who looks a little hard has to submit to an interrogation & sexual exam?  

I just don't like how they let a pig....I mean officer :)  come into the masjid and cause fitnah!
If my ID and my passport says female that is the end of that! 
For the board/Imam to be passing around her medical records among the masjid MD's is foul!
What's next? Will she have to submit to a GYN exam by one of the masjid doctors to be accepted? 
I would have no part in this community. :(

This is a complete mess. Because now they are OK'ing speculation & rumors.  I know a lot of sisters who don't look all Barbie doll feminine. Some are boney and muscular and flat chested and have strong facial bones. So now any sister who looks a little hard has to submit to an interrogation & sexual exam?  

www.iccpaz.com

LOL you can niqabis apart. Besides, no body else in niqab is out fighting the system but her.

No way would I marry an ugly brother.

Nice try, NSA

what the hell?

I think I'm going to take all my profiles down and just chill until after Ramadan.  This is really just too much trouble meeting all these goofballs.

Background: 
1. Was still looking for a husband.
2. Finally became open to the possibility of relocating.
3. Was contacted by a brother in Georgia.
4. He is not ugly.  He would look more attractive with a beard. He said he is from Iraq but he look kinda dark.  More like a dark pakistani than an arab.
 
So far............
We have had a lot of conversations about his expectations in a wife.  He asked me did I work and he said he does not want his wife to work.  I told him there is no way I'm relocating to another state and entering into a new marriage without a job.  I said when we start having babies I would have no problem with staying home but until then I'm going to keep work.  
 
This man had the nerve to tell me that I could work inside the home & open a daycare.  I told him there is no way I'm going to watch a bunch of other people's kids for chump change.  
 
He said what do I need money for if he is taking care of the home. I told him I like to shop and get my hair done. Then we had a loooooooooooong conversation about how I could buy everything I need and do my hair at home and then do other people's hair and make money that way.   I told him again I will not be side hustling out the house. I am educated and make a good living in my profession. I WILL CONTINUE TO WORK.
 
Other than us spending 2 hours on the phone arguing about me working he seems nice. He has his own business and a nice sized home (4 bed 2 bath) and plenty of land for me to grow a garden on.
 
I asked him what masjid did he attend and he said he does not go and that he has a masjid at home. He doesn't even go to the masjid for jummah and just prays at home. I asked him why doesn't he go and he said when he first came to America he didn't like it because they prayed to quickly and he likes to take his time praying.  
 
^^^This is the only thing that concerns me. I know I'm not supposed to be suspicious of another Muslims but I've heard of brothers who were abusive to their wives and have been shunned by the community so I will contact my wali to try to make sure this is not one of these types of fools.
 
I will be in Atlanta in 2 weeks. I need to confirm that he is accepting of me working and has a good reputation.