(salam) Brothers, I truly understand what you guys are through and all of you have valid points. But I will give it to you straight because the best medicine is usually bitter: Modern society, your communities, and women DO NOT care. They will NEVER care. They do not care what problems you're having or what you're going through. And guess what, it is only destructive to you, both in the short and long term (especially the long). You must do away with the blame game because even though it's valid, it won't do anything but hurt yourselves. Sex will still be bombarded on you by the media,