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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. Mainly I think the worst barrier for both men and women is the lack of community help. It's almost shameful for a girl to mention she wants to marry (even if she tells another girl) and it's shameful for the guy (unless he is stacking villas and cars into the dowry). This is even the case on SC. I think the generation that is married and capable of helping needs to be more active in marrying those that are facing difficulties. Whether it be financial, circumstantial, geographical, whatever it may be. Not every man has parents that can help him, nor does every girl live in the most populat
  2. OP: This is one of the most beneficial lectures I've ever listened to. And yes I confirmed all of his research afterward on my own. Please watch:
  3. One of the single ones here just hoping to throw in my opinion. Hope no one minds. I don't know his side so I will focus on yours and I hope you know this is only constructive criticism : A lot was revealed by your OP. It seems you see a loss of character or individuality if you adapt a little more to his ways. But a woman should mirror the actions of her husband, especially if they are bettering her. Being active in the community, discussing news/politics, caring for ones parents means growing up and bettering ones self. That will earn his respect. Look to him as an example and a motivation
  4. I never understand people that want revenge when others harm them. Honestly brother worse things have been done to me, you have to forgive and let go. She's already living a false life, that's punishment in and of itself. As for forgetting, this is why full love and trust should only be placed in Allah (swt). Your happiness shouldn't be based on a person. In the future choose a woman that loves Allah (swt), because as long as she loves him she will honor you. And move on. Past the memories and past this hatred.
  5. Totally agree ^^ To this day I never met a man in person I was attracted to. Perhaps that's because I don't bother looking. As for the "like brothers" ("like" being the operative word here) that's not acceptable. Period end of story.
  6. You have to actually live together to prove you're married so I'm not sure how you're planning on pulling that off. Unless you're going to do katb-ktab and then get divorced? Why get yourself in such a mess? Marriage isn't a toy. I suggest trying every other option first and if that's you're final option then I suggest looking for a real-marriage. And if a real-marriage does not interest you than don't even consider this fake marriage business. My sister brought her husband here, she had to prove through pictures, whatsapp convo's, facebook convos, phone bills, interview questions and re
  7. Alhamdilla I'm glad the new marriage was a lie. Just move on brother. From a girls perspective; emotions will get you nowhere in life. And from a religious perspective; just because you want something, doesn't mean it's good for you. Best of luck inshallah.
  8. A one state solution in favor of the Palestinians is impractical and very very unlikely. A two-state solution is the most practical option. Of course they could just deport all Palestinians to KSA, they seem to love their wahabis.
  9. Situations like this is why people need to stop playing with Mutah. Im not talking about you but she should have been aware of this or at least asked. People need to stop treating Mutah like its boyfriend/girlfriend and need to take it as serious as its meant to be taken. It is a marriage, look up the rules, regulations and standards before you jump in and jump out. Look at this ridiculous situation she placed everyone in now. Either her dad is lying or she's committing zina with a man who is innocent and there's a very likely chance she can get pregnant. If I knew this girl I'd smack some
  10. Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. All of us need this reminder.
  11. Oh wow. I don't even know why you would fall into a depression over her. If anything she harmed herself more than she harmed you. If I were you I'd be breathing a sigh of relief. In any case its too late to do anything about it. So just let it go. Btw if she was technically still married to you can she even marry anyone else? Wouldn't that mean that her marriage is negated and batel? Which could also mean she's living in zena and will probably have kids in zena? Or am I wrong here?
  12. No need for a PM. No I'm not from outside the USA. Being that you didn't discuss a females physical looks you haven't necessarily discussed something haram. However, your post was insulting, overgeneralizing and stereotypical. But that says more about you than the people you're discussing.
  13. "He who indulges in jokes and loose talk loses a part of his wisdom" ~ Imam Ali (AS)

  14. Do u really care to hear it? After all I dont want to keep ruining everyones "fun".
  15. Curled up with a Quran is the best place to be. Tho it has nothing to do with consoling myself. But thank u tho, I can't imagine a better way of being viewed :)
  16. I kind of see where this post is coming from. As much as we love our parents they are not perfect and sometimes they learn from us just as we learn from them. Often times my mom will not need to spend the extra $300 I might have laying around but she will do it anyway because that's how she is with money. She sees it, registers it in her mind then sets the goal of spending it entirely in one day. This is why I don't tell her that I have it, unless I feel she actually needs it. She even forgets how much she has. I've found that I often have to hide her own money from her so she can budget
  17. It is not a joke to offend people. It is not a joke to make a Muslim woman an object when the Prophet (pbuh) eliminated that. Look at the topic that you are discussing as a "joke". The sadly ironic part is that its the females that are continuing to push this entire post. Like I said and I will continue to repeat just the fact that this thread was created is an insult. The fact that everyone decided to go back and forth about looks is a disgrace. Everyone can hide behind their "humor" and their "jokes" but that doesn't justify wrong decisions. Wrong is wrong. Clothing it and dressing it up wi
  18. Marbles read the reply before this one. Right above^^ Speechless. Im left speechless. Allah yehdiki sister. Salam.
  19. OMG I CANT! I don't easily lose my temper, but tbh I've had enough. What is wrong with everyone? Stop this nonsense. Steho 3a damkon. 3eb!!! 3eb this superficial talk and this ridiclulous back and forth about such insignificant topics. No one cares! People are starving in the world. People don't have homes. People don't have families. They dont have dreams. They don't have education. They dont have jobs or beds! Children don't have mothers or fathers! And you're all seriously going back and forth about what Arabic country has the best looking women????!!! Have u forgotten you're muslims????
  20. Unfortunately neither of your posts made me feel any better. Marbles: I'm Lebanese and no one in my entire family, including extended (that includes about 60 Lebanese girls) has EVER done plastic surgery. I'm not saying no Lebanese people do, but Lebanese people have a tendency to do it and show it off where as others do it and hide it. But like I said in my family you will find 0000. Absolutely none. In my family it is looked down upon, its not an option. And Fatima: I only chose to quote your comment because it was the closest. That's not to say other peoples post weren't just as ludic
  21. OMG this girl has NO idea what she's doing. Noooooo idea. My God. My God. The consequences are going to be disastrous for everyone if she doesn't wake up!! I don't even want to know what's going to happen once her future husband finds out!!! I don't even want to imagine where all this lying and hiding will lead to. You need to talk to her. Tell her to be fearful of Allah (swt). Mutah is not a joke. Having a relationship is not a joke. Hiding the truth and lying to people is not a joke. She's playing with fire and she thinks she is taking the easiest way out. But it's not. Its the worst poss
  22. Sweety let me give you some advice. I learned a long time ago to assume all men are evil when it comes to women. Seriously. The devil loves to play on our worst desires so always assume the worst. You wanted the truth so here it is: We can't tell you. We weren't there. But for the future, you and only you (not us and most definitely not the HR manager) would know what your intention and your behavior was. If I were you I would reassess my actions, and then reassess them again just to do your best to avoid these situations. With that being said, unless you told him "come here and touch me"
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