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In the Name of God بسم الله
I have to say I was expecting more compassionate advice from my muslim brothers and sisters. With regards to the above there is much debate on Istekara on how and when to do it. What I believe is that if you do istekara then the good path will be made easier for you and the bad will be made harder. I do not think there is anything wrong with asking advice from people, in fact that is the reason for my post, but perhaps I should have done this before Istekara, however, judging by your reply's I think I will take whatever path Allah has chosen for me, I believe compassion is at the heart of a muslim's behaviour, after all without compassion what makes us better people than non-muslims?, I hope you will all be more sensitive when replying to others posts, your posts have sadden me and do not give me hope for a good Islamic future.
Dear brothers and sisters I am here to ask for advice. I have been waiting to marry my potential partner for nearly 9 years now but things keep happening that seem to prevent this. Initially he had no work, so I lent him money to make a business. The business needed a lot of money over the years and I have mostly unwillingly given all of my life savings to the cause. I would get promises that would always be broken, such as I'm getting this money from here, this money from there, the business is about to make a profit etc. but it never materialised. I also have not seen a penny of my money that was promised to me till today. Although we are not compatible in some ways such as education as I had made a commitment to him I stuck with him and remained patient. I have come to a stage now where another of him promises has not materialised and I could not help but think that maybe we were not meant to be together. With this thought I made Istikara a few times and it came out bad The reason I want advice is because he still wants us to marry and I do not want to hurt him. Although this post reads bad about him I do not think he is genuinely using me as he would marry me today but I fear I would have to support him. Please help