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  1. Salam, May I request that you delete my account and ALL my posts. Please this is very important to me. I have made the request but it has not been gone through. Thank you again.

  2. Actually I do know that for a fact. Because I know my parents and because of past experiences.
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    Salam Alaykum, Please delete my account and all posts. Thank you.

  4. You obviously don't believe that there are parents out there who disown their children...are you living in a perfect world? Guess what there are parents out there who are like that. So yes it does make sense. I told you his his father was worried about his status not he himself was. And his father never knew that he was in a halal relationship because I didn't want him to tell ANYBODY. I don't know about you but I am not the type of person who throws blame on everyone. What happened was something we both did. He did not force me into marrying him so no he was not the only one to get what he
  5. Being that he is Lebanese and you're Iraqi shouldn't be a problem especially since the cultures have similarities BUT religion is very difficult. Think about your future children and how they will be raised and about family gatherings and the differences between the two sects. If you think you can convert or he can convert than that is a horrible idea because if someone converts only for marriage it never works out.
  6. I do agree with you that I am THEIR daughter but what everyone else has been saying makes sense to some extent. Marriage is a part of my deen. I want to stay as far away from sins as I can possibly and really speaking to my parents may be the only way even if it is over and over and over again. At the end of this life no one will be going in my grave but me. I know you are trying to help and I don't mean to sound rude or anything but you should never judge anyone without knowing them. Calling him an idiot or anyone you don't know for that matter is uncalled for. As I said before if I had tho
  7. Actually, my parents were pushing me to finish my studies and get a job so that I can help them financially. As well as pushing me to get my licence so I can drive my mom everywhere. I honestly think this is what is stopping me from getting a job and getting my licence because I have learned to drive but are prolonging getting my licence. I don't want them to depend on me because than it will be harder for them to let me go. Everything that everyone has said has helped me a lot. And has encouraged me to stand up to my parents. I was starting to really feel bad about my mutah marriage and fee
  8. Thank you for all the advice and support. This is a very emotional and difficult situation for me. This is something I do not want to happen to me. If I do go against my parents and get married I don't know what the future will hold. I don't want to lose the support of my family. Parents just don't realize how their decisions impact us. Thank you for your understanding. InshaAllah I will be able to make the right choice with Allah's help. That is what I ask myself all the time. I keep thanking Allah that I met a man who put my needs ahead of his own. I have been seriously thinking about
  9. That is a horrible thing to say! These are the people who raised me...I thank Allah for them everyday. They were there for me when I was a child who wasn't able to help myself in any way. Their thinking may be wrong but at the end of the day they are still my parents and I am thankful for them because matters could be worse. Alhamdillah! If only my siblings were the type that would help me. They are all married and the things they say tell me they are afraid if I ever do get married they will be "stuck" with my parents. I am also their go to person every time they have marriage problems. I ac
  10. Maybe I am thinking with my emotions here but I don't see him to be cold. Yes he left me but when I think of it...can I blame him? He knows he will be turned down and I know he will be turned down by my parents. And because he is someone I see often and he sees my family often I wouldn't want him to be put in that position. If there was the smallest chance of them agreeing than it would be different. I wouldn't give him a second thought. He told me in the future if my parents come around than InshAllah if it is what Allah wants for us we will get married. As for the miserable marriages around
  11. Thank you for your advice and no you did not hurt my feelings. I know that if there is no Islamic reason for their rejection they have no right to turn proposals away and that is what lead me to do what I did. I have multiple time brought up that it is haram but not directly speaking about myself and marriage. I do not want to seem desperate. Finding a husband is not as easy it some make it out to be especially since I am not the type of person who is out there but rather shy. Yes we are old enough to decide for ourselves but there is also the aspect of respecting our parents which is some
  12. Salam, I have been reading topics on this site for quite some time but tonight thought I would make a post and maybe I will be able to get some help. As many people on here I find that finding a spouse to be very difficult. For me, it is not because there are not any proposals but rather the proposals being turned down for no reason other than my parents not wanting me to get married. I am 26 years old and have completed my studies so that is not the issue. You may think they have valid reasons for this decision of theirs but I cannot seem to come up with a single one. I am very mature and phy
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