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In the Name of God بسم الله


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  1. How would that be just and fair? I think not.
  2. wow this was powerful. Thanks for sharing..... now Im getting offline to hang out with the family - sometimes we need that reality check ;)
  3. there is a trick to tying the hair under hijab.....give volume without wearing the khaleeji clip lol
  4. I think this comes naturally to most people, and therefore its not often discussed. Usually we speak freely with our friends.... we have conversations, we say random things, and we have comfortable silences. I have known a young man like you. He was a dear friend and therapy really helped him become more socially adept. He had to learn to pick up the non-verbal cues etc. Good luck! and dont let the stigma around therapy put you off!
  5. Feelings are fickle. Many who have loved and lost grieve for years. and yet people live on... you'll be fine :)
  6. Burkenstocks are amazing and come in 2 sole types - soft and hard. Dont know how suitable they are for in the house... http://www.birkenstock.com.au/
  7. They will not stop coming to my home! lol even though Iv given them the whole "thank you but no thank you" speech. So like another poster I buy the Watch Tower magazine to keep them happy and they go on their merry way. no harm done.
  8. I have declined hand shakes from males for the last 5 years (since wearing hijab). Recently however I have begun to shake hands purely to put people at ease. Tensions between muslims and non-muslims in my area are rising and I found that I was causing a lot of offence but knocking back friendly handshakes (its a cultural display of mutual respect in australia)! For those who want to avoid it, its very simple. Put your hand on your heart, tell them its a pleasure to meet them but you dont shake hands. did this exact routine 100s of times. MashAllah this is a lovely way for a man to approach the situation.
  9. This is a topic I often ponder. Yes, I think everyone has their own tests in life but I also find it difficult to accept the harsh reality of life, for a majority of the worlds people. Comparing myself to others, I wonder how our tests can be equal? I know all the typical responses to this question^ as stated above, but I am still uncomfortable with the suffering of others.
  10. Best fashion sites: http://www.inayahcollection.com/ http://hijabhouseonline.com.au/ http://dianakotb.com/
  11. I've seen a specialist and consulted with my faculty....Im transitioning into med :) Thanks for your advice. Definitely helps to be open and honest with your academic advisor!
  12. If its organic chem id get stuck into the lecture notes and readings recommended by your prof. So much to memorise in biochem! If its physical chem you will prob find text books like Brown-Lemay good at explaining concepts and a source of practice questions.
  13. Waalaikum Asalam, Never heard of such a thing. Maybe its a cultural superstition? Regardless, praying to Allah swt to protect your child should be more effective than wearing socks!
  14. Unfortunately the earliest appointment I could get was in 2 months time. I would never want to put my patients at risk but cannot imagine a future outside healthcare..
  15. Salamu Alaikum, Im a 2nd year Dentistry student facing a real issue with my vision. Over the last 10 years I have had 5 squint eye surgeries (targeting abducens muscle), the latest being 2 years ago. Aesthetically I have perfect eyes and my vision has been perfect ( the one issue Iv had is that one of my eyes deviates when I am super tired but usually corrects itself after a good sleep). Lately however I have started to have issues focusing whilst working in the dental clinic. My eye alignment doesn't change but my ability to focus is impaired. I have to blink a lot to see what I'm doing and Iv noticed a marked difference in my cavity preps (really bad!). Im waiting to see my opthamologist but atm I'm really freaking out. This issue has persisted for the last month. Im worried about telling my supervisors because I really need this degree. This is my second degree and my family are really in need of an additional income. I dont want to delay graduation at all. Im really concerned that this issue is going to be a long term problem and that I may need to change course. Applications for medicine are open atm, and I would like your opinion. Should I apply incase my vision is not good enough to continue in dentistry? Or will my vision be a problem in medicine as well (id be happy working as a gp)? I already have a family and young child so the prospect of changing into med is depressing. However I would really appreciate your thoughtful advice!
  16. Apparently a lot of the chicken sold in Australia is either halal or kosher but companies dont want to label it for fear of losing business :(
  17. Yes there are wonderful Lebanese Australians, even some prominent community leaders (eg Coonamble Mayor Alan Karanough) but since the Sydney gang rapes, the hoons on ACA and the cronulla riots...The image of young lebanese males is tarnished. I'd love to defend them and say we shouldn't stereotype based on the actions of a proportional 'few' BUT I honestly feel there is a problem with Generation Y. Where did the respect for elders and women go? We need only spend a day in granville, parramatta, bankstown or merrylands to understand............... :wacko:
  18. "One of the first confronting and invasive questions that I was asked by a tutor during my first year at university was whether or not my parents would marry me off at a young age. This stereotype is one of many ridiculous and negative perceptions associated with the Arab woman. Indeed, the Arab woman is constantly and consistently perceived as a mystery hidden by a tantalising veil. She is shrouded from head to toe in black. She is a desirable, buxom and passionate creature. She is a wife trailing behind her husband. She is a mother who is overburdened by too many children. She is thewoman who “stole” George Clooney’s heart. She is a woman wailing on television at her loss. But most importantly, she is undeniably absent from the discussion taking place, the world over, about Arab women. The Sydney Morning Herald recently published a story about the Miss Lebanon Australia Beauty Pageant with the headline “Miss Lebanon Australia shows off new Arab woman“. The article quoted the pageant’s beauty and art director, Monie Gabriel, as saying that the contestants were an example of “the new Arab woman”. ”It has been the perception that Lebanese women often married young and concentrated on having children, but these days as you can see, the women are doing everything,” she said. Ms Gabriel’s reference to the existing stereotypes about Arab women is pertinent. The Arab woman is often used as a canvass for Western ideas about the Orient, or the East. She exists as a backdrop, as an ornament, and as an object that is, all at once, desired, pitied, and objectified. The Arab woman has no inherent depth, complexity or independence, or so we are led to believe by the mass media. She is merely a beautiful conquest, a creature of desire and a means to procreation. Hibah Aburwein, from the European Forum on Muslim women, puts it perfectly. “The Arab woman is used only as a sexual symbol and is observed as manifestation without deep recognition of her actual character. Arab women were always victims of the stereotyping process. There is little understanding of either their status as women or the total context of Arab woman lives. There is also very little understanding about the Arab woman’s role in the social, political, academic, and practical life.” According to its art director, the purpose of the Miss Lebanon Australia contest is to obliterate these well-established stereotypes about (Arab) culture and religion by enlisting contestants that are both intelligent and sexy. The contest can, therefore, showcase to the West the “new Arab woman” whose value is no longer dependent on the men that surround her because she is now a high achiever “studying a range of subjects from mechanical engineering to law and medical science”. But when was a beauty contest ever imbued with strong messages about power, religion and race? How can a contest that focuses on the image and perception of beauty be heralded as a platform to showcase the might of the new Arab woman? This new Arab woman engages in society by showcasing her beauty to a panel of judges. She is breaking down stereotypes by embracing the stereotype of an Arab woman as exotic. Arab women are no longer just getting married young and being baby-making machines; “they are doing everything”. Arab women are willingly competing to be the object of the voyeur. Orientalism has triumphed. Arab women are already represented in Western popular culture primarily as harem girls, belly dancers, and oppressed women who are veiled. According to Amira Jarmakani, an associate professor of women’s studies at Georgia State University, the veil, the harem, and the belly dancer are cultural mythologies that purport to represent the realities of Arab and Muslim women through sweeping generalisations that rob these women’s experiences of their diversity and historical context. She claims that these images masquerade as accurate portrayals of Arab and Muslim women’s lives. The beauty contest is an extension of this masquerade of Arab women’s lives. It sheds no light on the personality or complexity of its contestants. Indeed the contestants are not interviewed; they are merely discussed by a third party. They are pictured above the article itself preparing for the pageant, but we know nothing of them except that they are young, smart and attractive. Surely, women who are doing everything can speak for themselves? In sidelining the contestants, Arab women are again absent from discussions on Arab women. So, then, what does Miss Lebanon Australia achieve, and what does she represent? This article merely reinforces the stereotype of the Arab woman as exotic by promoting a tokenistic and meaningless contest, and by heralding it as the place to “show off” the “new Arab woman.” http://sajjeling.com/2014/05/04/the-problems-with-miss-lebanon-australia/ what do you think?
  19. Not sure....The longest I have gone without using it is a few weeks - When I run out or go on holiday etc.
  20. ^^Agree with the other posters, there is nothing wrong with living alone and rushing into a marriage could open up many other problems. Take your fathers threats seriously and file a report, with a gun things can escalate very quickly... Take care sister, I'm making dua for you...
  21. I found this in another thread you were commenting on: http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235020301-hijab-for-men/ "796. While offering prayers, a man should cover his private parts even if no one is looking at him, and preference is that he should also cover his body from the navel up to the knee." So it seems some shia marja' make reference to "navel to knee" in respect to modest dress code.... Im yet to find a definitive quranic/hadith referance.. :dry:
  22. Doesn't bother me if the shorts are knee length.. and I think thats the ruling for men right? "cover from the navel to the knee"? All the men in my family wearing long trousers unless we are hiking or going to the beach.. so I suppose choosing shorts over trousers involves setting too.
  23. Definiely thickened my eyelashes..you should try it :)
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