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  1. (salam) Equally could you prove he knew he would have become blind or wouldn't have stopped had he known. As you said in the same message we have no right to judge people without knowing their intentions and whilst we can surmise his position, we don't really know whether he knew he was becoming blind or whether it was sudden or gradual. Moreover we have hadith of our Imams (a.s) crying non stop and even crying blood with no indication of eventual damage to the eyes.
  2. (salam) That's hardly the way it goes. Timing is important and a lot of young women do want to complete there studies, especially when they have already put time and effort into their education. Whilst the OP seems to be very supportive and InshAllah was sincere in his desires to help her, a lot of the time support from the husband and family is offered but then retracted after marriage when the girl ultimately has to deal with it unless she wants to seperate with her husband. Moreover he promised her 0% problems but realistically noone can do that. As for the original question about marrying young, we have hadith that recommend it, so once you are ready you shouldnt delay it if you can. But the hadith telling us seeking knowledge is wajib should not be ignored either.
  3. (salam) ^Found 'desi' in the oxford dictionary :D "Desi: A person of Indian, Pakistani, or Bangladeshi birth or descent who lives abroad." http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/desi
  4. (salam) Usually women and men only find out after trying and failing to conceive that they are unable to conceive naturally. However there are numerous conditions such as polycystic ovary syndrome, endometriosis and disorders of gonadal function ie amenorrhoea which are associated with infertility in women and can be diagnosed prior to marriage. Symptoms such as lack of menstruation, excessive hair growth, insulin resistance and acute pain can indicate these conditions prompting further testing and a diagnosis. Sometimes infertility does not occur in all cases of a condition but rather occurs in a certain number of cases, an example is how around half of females with endometriosis will be infertile. Some genetic conditions completely render the person barren and no treatment is yet avaliable whilst other conditions make it harder for a women to conceive and sustain a pregnancy. Those with the latter conditions are recommended to keep trying to conceive and may never conceive or may conceive numerous times after many years of trying.
  5. (salam) Or you could just buy a house in hell
  6. (wasalam) Just keep doing what you're doing, keep going to gym, continue your hobbies, keep remembering Allah swt and keep your Imaan strong. People who say six months are enough have probably not been as emotionally invested in a long term relationship. There are stages in healing and although you can't see it because there is still a lot of pain, you are healing slowly. You've admitted that time has helped you heal a little and you now want to forget her which is another step in the healing process- you no longer want to hang on. You were in contact for 7 years, together for 3 years and married for 1 year. Taking this timescale into consideration, its no wonder you still feel like this. It's going to take a bit longer but don't despair.
  7. (salam) Kind Fahd For Fahd, Khomeini was a danger because the Ayatollah had called the Saudi monarchy “un-Islamic,” though Saudi Arabia was one of Saddam’s chief financiers during his war on Iran. But Saudi-Iranian relations were never good. Fahd’s police kept a close watch on Iranian pilgrims, and in 1987 some of them raised placards criticizing the USA and Israel just outside the House of Allah, the Ka’aba, in Mukkah. It should be mentioned that according to Islamic tradition Allah has absolutely forbidden bloodshed in any form or quantity (haram) in and outside theKa’aba. That’s why the Ka’aba is called Masjid-e-Haram, the “Forbidden Place.” The Iranian pilgrims were not protesting against Fahd or the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, but the Saudi police opened fire nonetheless, killing hundreds. King Fahd perpetrated these murders in order to spite Khomeini and to show who was in charge. To Khomeini, Fahd’s massacre was the greatest and most painful blow of his life, even worse than the killing of his own son and hundreds of thousands of Iranians during the Iraq war. Khomeini used to say that he could forgive Saddam, but not King Fahd for the the sin he had committed in Mukkah. -Ayatollah Khomeini and his tormentors by Abbas Zaidi http://www.gowanusbooks.com/Khomeini-Zaidi.html
  8. salam) I was speaking to an Iraqi scholar about this and its all about understanding the context of the time. The 'jilbab' was used to describe a non-form fitting garment and is a little bit different to the abaya we have today but the principles are similar.The women of ranking at the time used to wear outer garments but it used to be left open in the manner of a jacket. They used to cover their hair too but the head dress used to go behind their ear, thus the neck and bosom were revealed. The combined verses of An-nur and Al Ahzab do not make wearing a jilbab mandatory which is why the scholars do not universally prescribe wearing the jilbab. They instead insist on covering the ears and bosoms (in addition to the other parts) and ensuring your outer garments are loose which can be done in the form of a loose jilbab or other clothing. It's about wearing loose clothes not the jilbaab itself as in countries ie UAE where the purpose of wearing jilbab is fashion not hijab, they can be very tight and form fitting which defeats the whole purpose. Similarly there are other cultures in the world where wearing the jilbab isn't the norm yet hijab is maintained quite well through loose clothing. Body type is of course an influencing factor as material clings to curves so you have to take precautions according to your own body.You can't put everyone under the same umbrella. I think wearing pants would come under this as it depends on how loose it is (ie palazzo pants are literally skirts), the material and the body type. Of course, niyah is important too. Correction: Modesty is not a Muslim thing. Hijab is.
  9. (salam) I just use the times from local mosques, if I am out then I usually research the closest mosque and just follow those times. There are some area specific annual timetables too but for that you'd have to disclose the area of which prayer times you are interested in. (wasalam) For some reason those times are never accurate for me :(
  10. (salam)Only till a certain age ( Some schools infer adult suckling makes people mahram but Shia reject this idea) and there are numerous other conditions. 2483. The following are the eight conditions under which suckling child becomes the cause of being Mahram. That the child sucks the milk of a woman who is alive. It is of no consequence if milk is drawn from the breast of a woman who is dead. That the milk of the woman should not be the product of fornication or adultery. Hence, if the milk for an illegitimate child is breastfed to another child, the latter will not become Mahram of anyone. That the child sucks milk directly from the breasts of the woman. Hence, if milk is poured into its mouth, it has no consequence. That the milk be pure and unadulterated. That the milk be of one husband only. Hence, if a breast-feeding woman is divorced and then she marries another man by whom she becomes pregnant, if the milk of the first pregnancy still continues from the breast till she gives birth to the other child, and she feeds any child eight times with the milk from her first pregnancy before giving birth, and feeds the same child seven times with the milk from the second pregnancy, after giving birth, that child will not become Mahram of anyone. That the child does not throw up the milk due to illness. If it vomits the milk, the suckling has no effect. The suckling should be of such quantity that it could be said that the bones of the child were strengthened and the flesh allowed to grow. And if that cannot be ascertained, then if a child suckles for one full day and night, or if it suckles fifteen times to its fill, as will be explained later, it will be sufficient. But if it is known that in spite of the child having suckled for one full day and night, or for fifteen times, the milk has not had any effect on the bones and the growth of flesh of the child, then one should not ignore exercising the precaution. That the child should not have completed two years of his age, and, if it is suckled after it has completed two years of its age, it does not become Mahram of anyone. In fact, if, for example, it sucks milk eight times before completing its two years, and seven times after completing its two years, it does not become Mahram of anyone. But, if milk continues from the breast for more than two years since a woman gave birth to her child, and she suckles the child continuously, that child will become Mahram of those who have been mentioned above. http://www.sistani.org/english/book/48/2354/ Wa Salam
  11. (wasalam) That's a difficult question because I suppose as the end of the day only Allah swt knows in which deeds the most reward (and consequently the most punishment) is. Obviously all the deeds you mentioned are good and acts like Salatul Layl and particular Mustahab fasts especially, are prescribed to have high rewards but when the Holy Prophet (sws) was migrating to Madinah for example, Ali Ibn Abi Talib (a.s) who usually used to spend his nights awake in Ibadah, slept in the bed of the Prophet sws to protect him and the reward in sleeping (on that particular night) was great. Similarly sleeping in Ramadan has its own reward. As you can see, the point I'm getting at is there are many good acts ie giving sadaqah, dhikr, maintaining family ties, respect to parents and combined they should all bring you closer to Allah swt but there is no way of knowing whose actions or which actions are most beloved. I think niyyah when performing the act will be indispensable in how beloved the particular act is.
  12. (salam) I don't think the fact that people call Jesus the son of God in that building should necessary stop Muslims praying there but that's just my take on it. A situation where Imam Ali (a.s) and a companion saw a church and the companion said think how much shirk is being committed and Imam Ali (a.s) replied but think how much Allah is being remembered there comes to mind. And people pray in places that hoard wealth be it wealthier mosques or their own homes all the time. But then again, you made some valid assertions regarding the innate corruptness and the conspicuous gluttony of wealth and the involvement of that dynasty cannot be ignored I suppose. As you said Allah (s.w.t) knows best
  13. (salam) That's all well but the question is will they remain in prison this time... :mellow:
  14. (salam) This is the only way- Otherwise hijab is mandatory.
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