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John Romerro

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  1. I just want to ask since when Israeli/wahabi trolls are permitted on Shiachat & are allowed to spew their degrading rubbish about our great leaders & especially against HEZBOLLAH. Instead kicking them out from this forum,  these Israelis, wahabis, these adulterated semens are promoted to advance level? Why? I have found these two and I am sure there are more.

    @NameRemoved

    @RemovedName

    Dear @Hameedeh are you aware of this? 

    P. S. Before anyone lectures me for my language, please remember I have zero tolerance & no respect for those against HEZBOLLAH. Enemy of HEZBOLLAH is my enemy. So, if you ban me for this then I am better off without you. And then I'll know you are MI6 "Shias". Made in United Kingdom, Pentagon. 


  2. 6 minutes ago, AkhiraisReal said:

    oh sorry, I misread. I thought it was about najasat that couldn't be removed. Depending on what kind of najasat it's, If I had money yes I would move.

    But in your situation, I don't know.

    It's OK brother. I was just teasing(joking) you. Thing is I was just wondering about how to remove najasat from things that we cannot move. There must be a way. 


  3. On 1/29/2019 at 5:12 PM, Sisterfatima1 said:

    Salam 

    I’m told different opinions if tattoos are haram or halal 

    I been wanting to get a butterfly tattoo under my collarbone 

    just like a simple small butterfly 

    I am just wondering the rulings on it 

    I hope I am not breaking any RULE replying on females thread. I simply  couldn't stop myself not to reply.

    Apart from what religion or the society says about tattoos, I just find them totally gross. What is so proud feeling in transforming your body into a walking poster? I mean it is like a shirt you cannot take off rest of your life. And what is even more disgusting are people  I call as "skin poets". Those who put ridiculous quotes on their bodies. I mean if you have your mantra or magic word/quote, then why don't you put it on a paper or on the mirror that you see everyday? Why you must show it to the whole world where others can see or  I can see & then expecting that I shouldn't say anything or have no opinion about it? Of course I would say my opinion loud that people with tattoos are big idiots & shouldn't be allowed in public wearing shorts. 

    Now you want a butterfly. I'm sure just recently you must have seen some really beautiful & colorful butterfly and now you want her under your collarbone. But hey, that butterfly won't look as beautiful as the original one. No matter you bring Leonardo from the past & makes him to draw. Secondly, if you think you might be able to fly like that butterfly & after having it on you, then you are totally wrong. It won't happen. But chances are you make men fly away from you who might be interested in you but your tattoo put them off. But hey, it's your life & as they say my body my choice, you can do what you want but I hope you will keep my words too in your mind. Others will have their opinions too. 


  4. 8 hours ago, starlight said:

    What do you mean by this? ^^ Are you sure they are najis? 

    No, not sure but kind of. Let me explain. Thing is apartments are cleaned either by the ex tenant or by the landlord or by cleaner hired by the landlord before the new tenants move into the house/apartment. But, it is hard to trust their style of cleaning. I mean one may wash him/herself from the cleanest/finest water but if not done according to Sharia he/she remains najis. Similarly, knowing for sure the ex tenant consuming alcohol/pork & then dropping, throwing or touching, najasat can be everywhere. So, I wanted to ask what is the best way to clean the apartment especially door/cupboard  handles, knobs & floor etc.

     


  5. AS.SALAM.U.ALAIKUM to all,

    I would like to ask how to remove najasat from immovable things like door or kitchen cupboard handles or even from floor? Also note that there is no particular najasat I am concerned about and also there is NO possibility to use kur water, (unless I intend to ruin the whole apartment )  which I am definitely not. Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

    Wa.Salam, 

    Ali


  6. AS.SALAM.U.ALAIKUM 

    I know that Tuna fish is halal except for dog toothed & scale-less tuna. Since there are many different types of fish, I would like to know about yellowfin Tuna & skipjack tuna that are sold in cans in the country I live.

    Skipjack are mostly scale-less so I don't consume them. However,  yellowfin tuna does have scales but they are very small and are mostly visible behind head and are lacking behind the corselet. So my question is can I consume yellowfin Tuna considering they have scales though small & not much visible. 

    Please share your thoughts & views. 

    Regards, 

    Ali


  7. 1 hour ago, Aquib Rizvi said:

    Wa aleykumsalaam,

    Such actions can be found in our narrations, read the following hadeeths.


    حدثني محمد بن الحسن قال حدثني محمد بن الحسن الصفار عن أحمد ابن أبي عبد الله البرقي قال حدثنا أبي عن محمد بن أبي عمير عن مرازم قال: قال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام قال إن رجلا أتى النبي صلى الله عليه وآله فقال يا رسول الله اني جعلت ثلث صلاتي لك فقال له خيرا فقال يا رسول الله اني جعلت نصف صلاتي لك فقال ذلك أفضل قال قد جعلت كل صلاتي لك قال إذا يكفيك الله ما أهمك من أمر دنياك وآخرتك فقال له رجل أصلحك الله كيف يجعل صلاته له؟ قال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام لا يسأل الله شيئا إلا بدأ بالصلاة على محمد وآل محمد.

    Narrated to us Muhammad bin Hassan who said, narrated to us Mohammed bin Hassan Al-Saffar from Ahmad ibn Abi Abdullah Al-Barqi who said, narrated to us my father from Muhammad bin Abi Umair from Marazim who said: Abu Abdullah (عليه السلام) said

    "A person came to the Messenger of Allah ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s.) and said, “I have dedicated my one-third prayer for you.” The Holy Prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s.) said, “Goodness be for you.” The man said, “I have dedicated half of my prayer for you.” He replied, “You did a really good thing.” The man told him, “I have dedicated my whole prayer for you.” He replied, “Allah will fulfill all your desires of this world and the hereafter.” At that time, a person asked Imam Ja’far Sadiq ((عليه السلام).), “May Allah do good to you, how can a person dedicate his supplication to the Holy Prophet ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s.)?” Imam Ja’far Sadiq ((عليه السلام).) said, “Send salutation of Muhammad ((صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم).s.) and his progeny before asking for anything from Allah.”

    And in al-Kafi Shaykh Kulayni has narrated from Ali ibn Ibrahim who has narrated from his father from ibn Abu ‘Umayr from Murazim likewise.

    Source:

    1. Thawāb al-aʿmāl by Shaykh Saduq, Pg 157.
    2. al-Kafi by Shaykh Kuylani, Vol 2, Pg 493, H 12.

    Grading:

    1. Shaykh Ahmed al-Mahuzi said hadeeth has "Saheeh Sanad" (Authentic Chain) in his Thawāb al-aʿmāl, Vol 1, Pg 432.
    2. Allamah Majlisi said hadeeth is "Hasan kal-Saheeh" (Good like Authentic) in Mirat ul Uqool Vol 12, Pg 99.

     


    4 ـ عدة من أصحابنا ، عن أحمد بن محمد بن خالد ، عن يحيى بن إبراهيم بن أبي البلاد ، عن أبيه ، عن علي بن المغيرة ، عن أبي الحسن عليه‌السلام قال قلت له إن أبي سأل جدك عن ختم القرآن في كل ليلة فقال له جدك كل ليلة فقال له في شهر رمضان فقال له جدك في شهر رمضان فقال له أبي نعم ما استطعت فكان أبي يختمه أربعين ختمة في شهر رمضان ثم ختمته بعد أبي فربما زدت وربما نقصت على قدر فراغي وشغلي ونشاطي وكسلي فإذا كان في يوم الفطر جعلت لرسول الله صلى‌الله‌عليه‌وآله ختمة ولعلي عليه‌السلام أخرى ولفاطمة عليها‌السلام أخرى ثم للأئمة عليهم‌السلام حتى انتهيت إليك فصيرت لك واحدة منذ صرت في هذا الحال فأي شيء لي بذلك قال لك بذلك أن تكون معهم يوم القيامة قلت الله أكبر فلي بذلك قال نعم ثلاث مرات.

    A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn Khalid from Yahya ibn Ibrahim ibn Abu al-Balad from his father from Ali ibn (Abi) al- Mughirah who has said the following: 

    “Once I asked Abu al-Hassan (عليه السلام), ‘My father once asked your grandfather about reading all of the Holy Qur'an in one night.’ ‘(Do you mean it to happen) every night?’ Your grandfather inquired. ‘Yes, in the month of Ramadan.’ My father replied. Your grandfather asked him, ‘In the month of Ramadan?’ My father said, ‘Yes, in the month of Ramadan if I could.’ My father would read the Holy Qur'an forty times in the whole month of Ramadan. After my father I would read the Holy Qur'an sometimes more and sometimes less than he did, as I would get a chance within my work, activities and laziness. On 'id day (after the month of Ramadan) I would assign the reward for reading the Holy Qur'an once for the Holy Prophet, one for Imam Ali, one for Al-Sayyidah Fatimah and one for each Imam until yourself and I assigned the reward for reciting the Holy Qur'an once for you from the time I am doing this. Will there be anything for me in this? The Imam said, ‘On the Day of Judgment, you will be with them.’ ‘Allah is greater than can be described, this much for me!’ I exclaimed. The Imam, recipient of divine supreme covenant, said three times, ‘Yes.’” 

    Source:

    1. al-Kafi by Shaykh Kuylani, Vol 2, Pg 618, H 4.
    2. Wasā'il al-Shīʿa by Shaykh al-Hur al-Aamili, Vol 6, Pg 218, H 1.

    Grading:

    1. Allamah Majlisi said hadeeth is "Majhool Kal-Hasan" (Unknown like Good) in Mirat ul Uqool Vol 12, Pg 505.
    2. Allamah Majlisi-I said hadeeth is "Saheeh" (Authentic) in Rawdah al-Muttaqīn Vol 13, Pg 133.

     

    4 - وعن محمد بن علي، عن يونس بن يعقوب، عن عبد الأعلى قال: أكلت مع أبي عبد الله عليه السلام فدعا واتي بدجاجة محشوة بخبيص (1) فقال أبو عبد الله عليه السلام: هذه أهديت لفاطمة، ثم قال: يا جارية ايتينا بطعامنا المعروف، فجاءت بثريد وخل وزيت.

    From him, from Muhammad Bin Ali, from Yunus Bin Yaqoub, from Abdul A’ala who said:
    ‘I ate with Abu Abdullah (عليه السلام), so he called (for the meal to be served), and they brought the stuffed chicken and Khabis (a sweet made of bread and dates). So Abu Abdullah said: ‘This, I dedicated (gifted) to Syeda Fatima’. Then he said: ‘O maid! Bring us (also) our well-known (regular) food’. So she came with porridge, vinegar and oil’.

    Source:

    1. Wasā'il al-Shīʿa by Shaykh al-Hur al-Aamili, Vol 25, Pg 47, H 4.

     

    3 - وعنهم عن أحمد بن محمد، عن علي بن الريان رفعه قال: قلت لأبي عبد الله عليه السلام: لم كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله يحب الذراع أكثر من حبه لأعضاء الشاة؟ فقال: إن آدم قرب قربانا عن الأنبياء من ذريته فسمى لكل نبي من ذريته عضوا وسمى لرسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله الذراع، فمن ثم كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله يحبها ويشتهيها ويفضلها

    ورواه البرقي في (المحاسن) عن علي بن الريان والذي قبله عن جعفر بن محمد والذي قبلهما عن ابن فضال مثله محمد بن علي بن الحسين في (العلل) عن محمد بن الحسن، عن محمد بن يحيى، عن محمد بن أحمد، عن علي بن الريان عن عبيد الله الواسطي، عن واصل بن سليمان أو عن درست يرفعه إلى أبي عبد الله عليه السلام نحوه.


    A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ali ibn al-Rayyan in a marfu‘ manner who has said the following:

    “I once asked Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, ‘Why did the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, like shoulder meat more than meat from other parts of a sheep? He (the Imam) said, ‘It is because Adam offered a sacrifice for Prophets of his offspring and he for everyone named a part. The shoulder was assigned to the Messenger of Allah. For this reason he liked it, desired and preferred over the other parts.’”

    Source:

    1. Wasā'il al-Shīʿa by Shaykh al-Hur al-Aamili, Vol 17, Pg 40, H 3.

    Brother Rizvi! Thank you so much for your detailed answer. May Allah BLESS You and others. 


  8. 13 hours ago, Sirius_Bright said:

    Alaikas Salaam brother, 

    There's no problem in it. 

    The delicacies we cook is called as 'Niyaz' or 'Tabarruk'. It carries reward as well. 

    They don't need our gift but we're so lowly fallible being that we can only try to present our master something in our capacity. Holy Ahlul Bayt (ams), on the other hand, are so generous that they won't keep anyone's favor and will return you much more.

    It's akin to a beggar giving gift to a Billionaire. 

    Thank you for your reply. 


  9. 12 hours ago, Fink said:

    Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) didnt create the whole universe for Ahlul Bayt :) That's ghaloo /ghuluu and a scary way to understand Islam. 

    Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) set a beautiful precedent regarding ghuluu

    Almaidah verse 73 to 77 

    لَّقَدْ كَفَرَ الَّذِينَ قَالُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ ثَالِثُ ثَلَاثَةٍ ۘ وَمَا مِنْ إِلَٰهٍ إِلَّا إِلَٰهٌ وَاحِدٌ ۚ وَإِن لَّمْ يَنتَهُوا عَمَّا يَقُولُونَ لَيَمَسَّنَّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا مِنْهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ (73) أَفَلَا يَتُوبُونَ إِلَى اللَّهِ وَيَسْتَغْفِرُونَهُ ۚ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ(74) مَّا الْمَسِيحُ ابْنُ مَرْيَمَ إِلَّا رَسُولٌ قَدْ خَلَتْ مِن قَبْلِهِ الرُّسُلُ وَأُمُّهُ صِدِّيقَةٌ ۖ كَانَا يَأْكُلَانِ الطَّعَامَ ۗ انظُرْ كَيْفَ نُبَيِّنُ لَهُمُ الْآيَاتِ ثُمَّ انظُرْ أَنَّىٰ يُؤْفَكُونَ (75) قُلْ أَتَعْبُدُونَ مِن دُونِ اللَّهِ مَا لَا يَمْلِكُ لَكُمْ ضَرًّا وَلَا نَفْعًا ۚ وَاللَّهُ هُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ (76) قُلْ يَا أَهْلَ الْكِتَابِ لَا تَغْلُوا فِي دِينِكُمْ غَيْرَ الْحَقِّ وَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا أَهْوَاءَ قَوْمٍ قَدْ ضَلُّوا مِن قَبْلُ وَأَضَلُّوا كَثِيرًا وَضَلُّوا عَن سَوَاءِ السَّبِيلِ (77)

     

    Oh again! you forgot to take your pills.


  10. As.Salam.O.Alaikum

    I have one question and I will really appreciate your thoughts on it.

    Is it ok to hadiya/gift the thawab/reward of the Quranic verses/chapters or duas to Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) or AHLEBAIT (عليه السلام)?  I am asking because in some cultures when they cook some especial meal particularly rice on some occasion or even on Thursday nights and when the meal is ready then some elder recites some quranic verses/chapters or different duas & then he/she gifts that to all Prophets (عليه السلام) and AHLEBAIT (عليه السلام) to saints and other martyrs and momeneen/momenaat muslemeen/muslemaat etc. I myself do this but then I just got confused only about how can we gift the reward to AHLEBAIT (عليه السلام) when they are the one this whole Universe and everything was created for. I hope you understand my point and I am looking for your answers. W.Salam,

    Asad


  11. 20 hours ago, repenter said:

    The leader of Hezbollah(lebanon, kataib iraq, quds, fatemyoon, zeynabiyoon and irgc) is Sayyed Khamenei, and there are plenty of statements from him. 

    And yes they go under the same chain of command. Chief commander of hezbollah in lebanon is Nasrallah, he reports directly to Sayyed khamenei just like hajj Qassim of quds reports directly to Sayyed Khamenei.

    Thank you for your answer. I didn't know that Sayyed Khamenei is the commander but I knew he has made many statements regarding Rohingya and Kashmiri Muslims. 


  12. Salam everyone.

    Here is this one question which is bothering me for some time. 

    Why is that there is Not, a single statement from the leadership of HEZBOLLAH on issues related to Rohingya & Muslims of Kashmir? Kashmir has been burning for now some 70 years but seems like no one in Arab states cares. At least Google in Finland didn't show any results despite my hard search. 
    Now if I assume, is it because both Rohingya and Kashmiri's are non-Arab and thus are not entitled for any support/solidarity?
    On the other hand in non arab countries such as in Pakistan children in school are taught that Palestine belongs to Muslims and is under occupation and Palestine will be liberated one day. They taught that we the Muslims are one nation. Then why is that Arabs show no interest in non arab crisis. And for now I just would like to hear about HEZBOLLAH not being interested in non arab issues. Regards. Ali

  13. In my humble opinion, the war in Syria is still far from over yet. After defeating Isis and other zionist's armies in Syria, there are few other fronts awaiting for SAA, Hezbollah and allies i.e. the liberation of Eastern Syria from kurdish and US led Zion forces, Golan heights, Idlib, Homs and some small pockets of zionists near Damascus. Among all these fronts I see Eastern Syria and the areas near the Golan heights the most difficult ones to fully liberate by SAA and allies. If and when SAA and allies decides to reach these areas then I strongly fear it will lead to a full fledge war either with israel or probably with the US itself. I hope I am wrong on this but if we look at the events during the past few months, the israelis had immediately attacked SAA and even Damascus whenever they tried to defeat those muslim zionists in golan heights. However the only hope I see is if those israelis and especially saudis or US zionists struck with some major internal conflict that weakens them to such an extent that keeps them away from Syria and lead them to failure in their dirty plans. (INSHAHALLAH). Or if Russia comes out strongly and takes a decisive stand not just politically but in physical manner like sending more troops and advance weaponry to Syria for her defence and takes a firm stand for her sovereignty which I see as yet not happening. Not because Russians are deceiting Syria but mainly because they just cannot afford a war from this front at this time. The coming weeks will define what will happen but for now it seems really difficult for SAA and allies to open up this new front in coming days or even in weeks. 


  14. 17 hours ago, Hameedeh said:

    Salam. If the person lives in another country and has the wish to be buried in Iraq, there are governmental regulations about shipping a person's remains. The country where that person lives has laws that need to be followed. For example, the person who died would need a medical statement that the body is not contagious. The casket would need to be inside a lead box that would not leak, then placed inside a wooden crate which is nailed shut and has special seals that show if there was tampering or opening. The funeral home would need government permission to transport the body by airline and not all airlines provide that service. The licensed funeral home worker would need to drive the prepared package with the person's remains to the licensed airline and make sure that the remains were placed on the airplane.

    At the arrival in the airport in Iraq, the person's remains would be in the customs area and the customs workers would wait for the person who would need to personally claim the body and sign documents that the body was picked up. Because the whole thing is very heavy and would not fit inside an ambulance or hearse, the wooden crate would need to be opened which means workers or relatives of the deceased would need to use crowbars to remove it. After lifting the lead box into the vehicle, the deceased would need to be transported to the cemetery location where the bodies are washed. The cemetery would take care of everything but of course the price will depend on the location of the cemetery.

    The most expensive part of the international burial is the western country (funeral home, trip to airport, airline shipping) and could reach $15,000. The price of the cemetery plot, washing the body, wrapping the body in kaffan, is a separate price. The temporary grave marker with the name written in chalk on it is probably free, but the grave stone with the name carved on it would be a separate price.

    This does not answer your question of whether someone can be buried in Iraq, but I just want you to know that the person needs to save his money if he has such a wish. May Allah SWT grant all halal wishes.  

    W. Salam Hameedeh! 

    Thank you for your reply. Though I am still not sure if it is really possible for a non native of Iraq to get a burial there. I think I should contact the Iraqi embassy here. Anyhow Thank you once again.


  15. On 11/10/2017 at 12:34 AM, starlight said:

    There was nothing worth responding in your post.

    Yeah Right! That's why you bother yourself replying to my post but doesn't know what to say? But it's ok. That stuff is too heavy for you.

    Anyhow you remind me those kind of guys who start  to imagine themselves Bruce Lee immediately after watching any of his movies. All they do is to brag about themself that how they can create magic kicks like Bruce but as soon as some tough situation comes his friends find him no where. So nothing more I can say about you. Take kare!


  16. 38 minutes ago, starlight said:

    The rest of your incoherent outburst aside when have I sent you any messages? :ko::dry:

    Incoherent outburst? Lol! This remind me of those young children and even adults who start to cry when they find out that santa claus isn't real and it was their own dad/uncle or a neighbor in a red costume with a fake white beard. Lol!!!

    Anyhow I accept my mistake. I mistakenly wrote message instead the word 'reply'. But you see it doesn't matter, still you replied me even without reading that article I sent you just to show my one word mistake. 


  17. 10 hours ago, starlight said:

    How so?

    How so??? Since when Islam has permitted to make such decisions that are intended to harm others directly or indirectly?

    The woman (or I better call her a girl as per her id syeda19) in discussion clearly knows that the man she married to was already married and has 2 children. Now on one side she claims she is totally in love with that man but on the other hand she is not willing to accept him despite his all faults plus his past. If you were really able to read in between the lines like I do, you would know this is purely a case of jealousy and personal envy plus some psych disorders. Anyhow all these signs and the people suffering with them to such an extent causing others harm, are not very much respected in Islam. One more thing for your 'KIND' information, Islam is a complete religion and in Islam we have both spirtual and ethical laws. The moral values should be based on ethics taught to us in our religion not based while riding an emotional roller coaster. But of course as a human we sometimes fell in devils trap and fell into haram acts or perform sins. Then again it depends if those sins are personal acts or are they causing any harm to other fellow human beings? In this case I see this 19 year old girl (I might b wrong about her age) being more ehically wrong from the begining of her story. Now why she is blaming others for her tragedy? no one forced her, in fact she forced her parents to marry such a despicable man.

    And now before sending me anymore annoying messages kindly read this beautiful article which I truly hope would help you knowing what I am talking about. Thanks.

    https://www.al-islam.org/islam-faith-practice-history-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/lesson-25-islams-spiritual-program-1


  18. On 9/26/2017 at 10:58 AM, Syeda19 said:

    Salam brothers and sisters. I come from a family and society (being raised in the west) when a man only has one wife, in fact I have never in my life met or heard of anyone with more than one wife. I met a "divorced" childless man online on a Shia matrimonial website a few years ago. We lived in two different countries. He seemed to be the perfect man. After about 9 months of speaking on the phone and facetiming, and him coming once to meet me in person, he told me he had two kids. I was in shock. He said he never told me before because he was afraid he would lose me. By this time I had developed very strong feelings for him and could not let him go. About 3 months later he met my family and told everyone that he wants to marry me and he's paid his wife's haq mehr and all but is yet to do the sharia talaq. He also said he has no contact with her at all and that he sees his children at his relative's house. I fully trusted him (foolish of me, yes I know.) My father put his foot down and said that this marriage will absolutely not happen if he is still married and that if he cannot get divorced, he should go and live happily with his wife or atleast sacrifice everything for his kids and stay with them. Another year passed by and we were getting ready to get married. He said he has divorced her but will not show the certificate to anyone as that would mean that no one trusts his words. I trusted him, convinced my parents and we got married. He returned to his respective country and we filed for his immigration to come to me. 

    After about two months of marriage I found out he is still married to his first wife. He told me that the marriage is just on the papers and he has nothing to do with her, it is only for the sake of the children and because of a lot of family pressure as she is his first cousin. I accepted his words and was at peace that he has no contact with her. I found it very odd though and questioned him many times because they have children together that they must meet amicably for the kids but he said no, they don't see each other at all. We met up again for our one year wedding anniversary and two weeks after he got back home I got a call from his phone. It was his wife.

    One year has passed since that phone call and this past one year of my life has been hell. I have developed anxiety, depression, and maybe even bipolar disorder. I don't trust him at all in any way and I don't know how our marriage will survive without trust. His wife kicked him out that very day and he's been living with his brother ever since (but again I have no proof other than his words.) He even got his spouse visa and came to me but then returned home saying we will have a better life there and that he cannot leave his children. He is currently preparing everything over there for my arrival. I'm sure he's not living with her as we'll be living together once I'm there and no one just leaves his happy home in a second in moves in with someone else. It takes time of separation before someone starts living with someone else.

    My issue now is that he says that he can never divorce her for the sake of his kids. He said that I should be happy that he will be living with me but he will always be there for her and his kids whenever they need him and he will always do his duties every weekend like take her grocery shopping and all (she doesn't drive.) He will spend time with them and I will never be allowed to be there. He will take them out to places and spend alone time with them. He will give me Saturday and them Sunday. 

    I don't have any issues with him spending time with his kids, I just can't stand that she's there too and that he spends time with her. I simply cannot share my husband and feel that I will completely lose my sanity. At the same time I do not want to be divorced! Please advise, thank you.

    First of all the heading of your post is totally misleading. No one has deceited you except you did your ownself. Despite knowing that man is married and 2 children you still developed your relation. What's wrong with you? You should truly seek forgiveness from Allah swt for intentionally destroying home of some other woman. You and your evilish decisions were driven and probably still being driven by negative emotions. What you have done is forbidden not only in our religion but I would highly reccomend you to take some lessons of morality too. 


  19. On 6/14/2017 at 4:28 AM, Hameedeh said:

    @John Romerro John, I'm sorry that you haven't been helped. If you are determined to find a way to donate to the Syrian refugees, may Allah SWT help you.

    Humanitarian Aid Services by I.M.A.M. (which is the official liaison office of the grand authority in the holy city of Najaf) has helped those in Iraq, Pakistan, Haiti or the US in the past. It might be that they also help the Syrians and others, but they haven't updated their website. They accept General Donations, Khums (including allocations to authorized organizations and causes), Feeding the Fasting, Fidyah, Kaffarah (for oath and fasting), Nather (nazr), Sadaqah, and Zakat al-Fitrah.

    If you go to the I.M.A.M. website and contact them (Contact Us is at the top of their homepage), you can ask how you can donate to help Syrians. They might be happy to help you. InShaAllah. 

    https://www.imam-us.org/service/managing-charity-dues/

    Thank you so much for the link.

     


  20. 2 hours ago, Hameedeh said:

    Salam. Welcome back, John. Did you read the replies from your older topic?

    http://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235041384-donations-for-syrians/

    W.Salam. Thank you Hameedeh! Yes I have but unfortunately none was any helpful. Someone contacted me by sending private message and the organizations they told me were based in Turkey and run by someone I was not very sure. So that's why I didn't do much. I even contacted some journalists like Eva Bartlett and Vanessa Beeley who had been to Syria many times and have many contacts but I could follow up with them mostly because of their busy schedule. So then I thought to try once more here and if someone can give me a solid link.

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