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ילדת מלך

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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Slips in Barelvi Sunnis   
    They are not anti-shia; 3 out of four of their * Taraq * directly link with Imam Ali (as)--
    ---only problem is that they think we were one big happy family--
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Zellali in Abandoned Children And Husband....   
    An absent or dead parent is better then a negligient, self-centered and a psycho one---sounds harsh , but it's true--; it would be better for the kid to be raised by a loving father even if he has to go away for work but at least child would be sure of his love, have a sense of belonging and security.
    Nothing more essential for a child then having a sense of belonging and security in dependability of a parent ; tell the father to remove the child from the mother, otherwise the emotional scarring would be too deep to ever recover from; child would be perpetually suffering from the low self-esteem because his peaceful survival now depends on a unreliable, temperamental and self-serving parent--i.e., his mother.
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from KnowAllah in Hijaab And Short Sleeves...   
    They will learn with time, like we all do; some do it sooner, earlier and with less hassle than others, but still learn with time.
    PS-- was there any particular reason to emphasize that these girls are Sunni ?---or do you really think that all Shia girls are hardly ever guilty of this negligence ?
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Zara kaxmi in Status Of Women In Imam Ali's (as) Opinion   
    For your sake, I hope, I earnestly hope that you do find some consolation in the above quoted text.
    As far as I am concerned, I have a writer's cursed ability to go past the fluff and showy feathers and reach the reality--no matter how disappointing, how hard, how bitter it it.
    I am just not designed to overlook it, no matter how much I try. The only thing which I could have done was to accept things as they are, without much questions and without some half-hearted attempt to find solace in text with double layered meaning.
    I do not know even whose test is this---are men supposed to be tested that how do they handle their innate desire to derogate , which is aided by the subtle prompting of the thread of thought which runs common in all three divine religion. Are they supposed to prove themselves that they too would not be arrogant with their glass full.
    Or, is just women who are supposed to prove themselves by accepting or rejecting the glass half full/ half empty.
    Me, I have accepted the glass half empty.
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Alzaynebia313 in Do You Know That Ali (raa) Was Black-skinned   
    Do you know how much physical effort/strenght is required to wield a sword----
    pick one---do the basic move--like lunge etc. and realize how the muscular power is exerted---while wielding the sword at 180 degree angle whole pectrol region along with upper abdomen get stressed--not to mention tricep/ bicep areas.
    to wield it properly---even if you are using the useless foils / fappe etc you have to constantly control your breath which causes high oxidation of fats.----while doing the moves, alongwith the foot work and breath control the lower abdomen region becomes so taut that fat accumulation is almost out of question --
    it's a strange cardiovascular activity, which builds muscles at superb speed and enhance co-ordination ---Power and physical precision go hand in hand in sword fighting; ---
    -I personally find it strange that He ( as)got a pot belly------does not fit the job desription criteria, if looked from this angle----
    I might be wrong, though
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from PureExistence1 in Do You Know That Ali (raa) Was Black-skinned   
    Do you know how much physical effort/strenght is required to wield a sword----
    pick one---do the basic move--like lunge etc. and realize how the muscular power is exerted---while wielding the sword at 180 degree angle whole pectrol region along with upper abdomen get stressed--not to mention tricep/ bicep areas.
    to wield it properly---even if you are using the useless foils / fappe etc you have to constantly control your breath which causes high oxidation of fats.----while doing the moves, alongwith the foot work and breath control the lower abdomen region becomes so taut that fat accumulation is almost out of question --
    it's a strange cardiovascular activity, which builds muscles at superb speed and enhance co-ordination ---Power and physical precision go hand in hand in sword fighting; ---
    -I personally find it strange that He ( as)got a pot belly------does not fit the job desription criteria, if looked from this angle----
    I might be wrong, though
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Ruq in Café Sœurs   
    The author also had very " uplifting " views about status of women---her value should directly correspond to her attractiveness--but didnot tell how this ascertained value should be rewarded---should she be weighed and her value be exchanged in currency or with barter trade--
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    ילדת מלך reacted to baradar_jackson in I Need Honest And Realistic Carreer Advice   
    Dear brother El-Shia
     
    Salaam aleikum
     
    Wallahi bro, I completely know where you are coming from. 100 percent. 
     
    I have a similar circumstance, although the difference being that I am not the first generation of my family to attend university. In any case, I completely understand your circumstance.
     
    Re: social science and humanities
    If anyone says these fields are worthless, tell them their face is worthless. I am not saying the way that universities teach social science is always good, but the fields themselves are indispensable. Indispensable. 
     
    My grandfather tells me the reason our countries are behind Western countries in economics, science, etc... is because they pay heed to social science whereas in our countries, we try to play "catch up" by going all-in on medical and engineering fields. Where has that gotten us? It hasn't gotten us anywhere, either in dunya or in akhirah. 
     
    Social science is very important. Our scholars from 30, 40 years ago understood this. We can see this in the works of Shahid Muhammad Baqir al-Sadr and Shahid Motahhari.
     
     
     
    Anyway... enough about social science. All I will say is: if anyone puts it down, just tell them: "you're the reason Iraqi kids (in Iraq) will be speaking English instead of Arabic, 30, 40, 50 years from now."
     
     
     
    Re: careerism
     
    I know you hate careerism. Do you know how I know you hate careerism? If you liked careerism, when presented with a choice of major, you would have researched as to which major would be more fruitful in your future career search. You clearly did not do that, so I know you hate careerism.
     
    Having said that, I will give you some short-term advice and some long-term general advice:
     
    Short-term
    Don't necessarily focus on getting something which utilizes what you learned in school or what you are qualified to do. That's not to say you should do wage slave jobs (although if you have to do it, then that's another story of course). 
     
    I personally like magma's suggestion (about being an interpreter). If you study medical or legal terminology, you can become a medical or court interpreter. I do not know how easy it is to find work in these fields, but I just took the written exam for court interpreting and I can tell you: it's not that difficult. More than half the test is English terminology which you likely already know. The other half is legal words which you can study a little bit each day. Aside from the English written exam, there is also the English and (for you) Arabic oral exam. At least that's how it would be if you lived where I live. Check your state's policy on this. The exams cost 100-something dollars each. But one day of court interpreting pays 200 dollars. 
     
    I am assuming it is a contract sort of system, where you are notified when there is available work and choose to accept the job or not. Not sure though because I haven't done it yet. Just took the first exam. 
     
    This is something which few people in the US can do. You have this ability. That makes you stand out. 
     
    If you live in Michigan, substitute teaching is a very easy racket to get into. No interview process, no resume, nothing. You just need a college degree and a hundred or two hundred dollars to cover various fees.
     
    http://subpass.com
     
    I used to do this a couple years ago. It doesn't pay great but it can acclimate you into the world of teaching. (which I didn't... but still, it was possible)
     
     
     
    Now, long term:
     
    I think you should have one thing on your mind: freedom. This is the most important factor in work. If a job pays great but has no freedom, it is worthless. If a job pays poorly and has no freedom, it is doubly worthless. All you need is enough to pay your and inshAllah your future family's living expenses. Wherever possible, choose the freest option which allows you to do this. Otherwise, your hands and legs are going to be bound and your life will be miserable. Just ask anyone in the medical field. You want to make sure your profession does not become your prison. 
     
     
    But that's all the hypocritical advice I'm gonna give you today. InshAllah you can get through this trial.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to monad in I Need Honest And Realistic Carreer Advice   
    Lesson one : Use google I found a few articles and advice, too long to post here.
     
    http://study.com/articles/25_Great_Jobs_for_Humanities_Majors.html
     
    http://pegasus.cc.ucf.edu/~janzb/humanities/humcareers.htm
     
     
    It is all about how well you can sell your self and having confidence in achieving and doing a particular path.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Ruq in Café Sœurs   
    ^ I reported it. The article he quoted had somewhat graphic content. I only skim-read it, but i noticed it was also making ridiculous generalisations and suggesting it was 'the norm' for western women to go out and sleep around to get over a break up. There are men and women who do that of course, but to suggest its the default reaction is just silly.
     

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    ילדת מלך reacted to Abbas. in Need Advice: Getting Married   
    Salams 
     
    I think you should discuss this matter with the people (family members/friends) who have arranged this marriage. And even though it may be an uncomfortable experience, it is best to discuss these concerns with your fiance too. And do it now before it is too late and she gets too attached to you. Make it clear that you are concerned about not being physically attracted to her in the future due to the unfortunate condition. I know it is easier said than done but it's best that you face this issue now rather than breaking her heart and destroying her life in the future. 
     
    Things like these are complicated. Rationally speaking permanent marriage is a long term relationship in which physical attraction doesn't play much role except for the initial 6 months or couple of years if you're stubborn. Afterwards it is more about mutual respect, understanding, kindness, caring nature of your wife that keeps you content and happy. Protection of your family and children becomes a priority and if you're not a lazy bum, you utilise your time building your career. But being humans, we're not always rational are we? This is why my concern is that you may end up marrying her now out of pity or existing commitment but soon after the honey moon period, you'll become busy bee looking around for someone you "trully love". Therefore take your time and be clear about one thing: this is an arranged set up and she has an unfortunate condition. There is a high risk that a marriage in such circumstances will eventually tempt you to explore else where in search of true love. So either be mentally prepared now and make a firm decision that you will not be a party to those temptations. Or try to find someone to whom you are reasonably attracted. Because it may help you in those difficult times of temptations in the future. Note how I used the word "may". Good luck
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Noorelhussain in Café Sœurs   
    Helllloooooo helllloooooo,
    --- anyone here ? ----anyone ever likely to be here ??
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Hameedeh in Café Sœurs   
    The topic ---something like decimation of women--- was reported as inappropriate and was removed by a Moderator.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Ali_Hussain in Did You Had Miracles With These Duas / Surahs?   
    wa 'alaykum assalam,
     
    Last weekend, it was raining quite heavily, I was driving through one of the major tunnels in my city, it is normally always packed with cars, on the day I was driving through it, it was unusually empty, as I went around a bend, the wheels on my can completely lost their grip and I just slid sideways, it happened at the point that the tunnel splits into two, so instead of hitting the wall, I slid onto the empty area between the parting on the tunnels.
     

     
    It starts off with four lanes, then two go off to the right and two to the left, I slid as i was going to the right and luckily there were some plastic bollards like this -
     

     
    - In the empty space to kill the speed of the car without damaging it.
     
    This is how narrow the tunnel get when split into two lanes:
     

     
    As I was trembling and thanking God for saving me, about a dozen cars all came through the tunnel at the same time, had I been coming through the tunnel 30 seconds later, I would have caused a massive accident, and as I was in the right hand lane, on a left hand drive car, as the driver, I would have have received the full impact of what ever I hit, or whatever hit me.
     
    I'm still a little shook up about the whole thing. When I drive through the tunnel, I can see the two bollards that I knocked off, they are still lying there.
     
    Alhamdulillah.
     
    The point is, I think that when it's our time, it's our time, when it isn't, it isn't, sorry to be pessimistic.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Reza in Real Love.....after Marriage Or Before...?   
    Love directed towards a specific person takes time to develop.  But the capacity to love, as well as the energy within, was placed within us long before we know anybody. 
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Chaotic Muslem in Coconut Oil For Skin   
    When men discuss beauty oils it is a sign of the end of times.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to repenter-gone4awhile in Coconut Oil For Skin   
    Real men use:

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    ילדת מלך reacted to monad in Hoping For Death? Is It Ok? Un/islamic?   
    You are exhausted and are at 90% burnt out stage.
     
    Intelligence, knowledge and reflection can lead some to your path, because we come upon the realisation that existence it self is illogical, or rather this non-nonsensical form of it.
     
    It seems to be devoid of any rationality, as the human being is capable of much more then they are allowed to realise, the test and tribulation do not always create a progressive human, but generally tend to create a regressed individual. Surely, a balanced form of negative out put, allows introspection and an effective response to reality. I am sure, we all know, living the hamster life, is causing such a mind set, try to find something else to input in your life that may give a fulfilling reward and kids are not the answer.
     
    Its not like death will come knocking on your door and apologise for taking long, " sorry I was stuck in traffic, I dead hear you, but as you know I am a very busy person, with all the wars etc. Anyways, have you packed yet, the bus is here."
     
    Try to enjoy the simple things in life and simply life it self.
     
     
    Many self-defeating and self-destructive acts occur when people's favorable views about themselves are called into question by external agents or events. The other is self-regulation failure: Self-defeat occurs when people's normal systems for regulating and controlling their own behavior break down in systematic, standard ways. Both of these have links to emotional distress.
    Decreases in self-esteem are generally accompanied by negative affect such as anxiety and depression, and indeed emotional distress probably arises over the mere possibility of having to shift toward a less favorable self-appraisal. The longer the threat lingers, the longer one has to endure the negative affect associated with the possibility of losing self-esteem. Hence the person is likely to choose the response that offers the most immediate escape from the negative affect and the threat.
     
    Suicide, in other words, emerges from a clash between favorable and unfavorable images of self. Suicide typically results when people's opinions of themselves are changing for the worse or have suffered some recent, severe blow. To invoke a stereotyped image that does actually have some validity to it, it is the rich and successful man who has just lost his entire fortune who leaps out the window to his death. It is not the man who has been poor all his life. The lifelong poor man may resent and deplore his poverty, but probably he has come to terms with it, recognized it as a fact, and accepted it as his current condition. The newly poor man, however, is unable to accept his sudden poverty. It is thus the tension between two possible selves-- the newly emerging and bad image of self versus the familiar and highly positive image ofself--that leads to the suicide. Loss of selfesteem, rather than habitually low self-esteem, appears to be the most common cause of suicide,
    and the suicide attempt occurs precisely because the person is unwilling to accept that loss. This fits the formula of threatened egotism. Perhaps the best way to characterize the self-views of suicide attempters is to propose that recent events have rendered certain positive views of the self untenable, and the person is reluctant to abandon them. Moreover, the ego threat is sufficiently powerful that it cannot be deflected, dismissed, refuted, compensated, or ignored. The person is thus unable to continue with the view of self that he or she has held but is also unable to construct a new conception of self that accommodates the recent failure or misfortune and its implications. Self-awareness is therefore intolerable, and the suicide attempt is a means of stopping self-awareness.
    It is worth adding that suicide is not necessarily a result of a threat to one's private view of self. Many studies have emphasized that suicidal individuals were tormented by a felt inability to live up to the high expectations of others. This pattern runs throughout the lifespan from suicides among children who feel unable to meet their parents' expectations, to aging men and women who believe that they can no longer live up to the inflated images that others have of them. Thus, suicide often results from a threat to the public image or public self.
     
    Ofcourse this is not 100% true, generally people just get tired and wish to tend the nonsense.
     
    I stop half way here..... cause I am thug.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Chaotic Muslem in Hoping For Death? Is It Ok? Un/islamic?   
    life isn't meant to be disney land XD
    so.... either way, you like it or not, you gotta wait till Allah decides when to send Ezrael to take your soul
    until then, you can only wish you will end up in garden hole, not a hell hole 
     
    ^
    this is the most radical optimism I'm having currently
     
    someties i really wish i can go crazy and do stuff without measuring up risks
    some times i wish i can go nuts and violate every single law
    sometimes i wish i can go dump and can't feel what's around me
     
     
    but truly i wish i can gain inner peace where whatever happened, there is this inner peace
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Brained in "selfies"   
    It depends on the situation. Selfie? Sure, if you've scaled Mount Everest or just met Roger Federer. In a Nando's washroom? Spare us your good looks.
    Those who post 3/4 useless selfies a day come across as a conceited bunch. But that depends on a person's circle. You're probably not to blame if all your friends are doing it.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to Ali_Hussain in "selfies"   
    I just hate the word 'selfie', it was a sad day for the English language when it was added to the dictionary.
    The concept itself is a little weird, as the quality of a self taken photo is never as good as one taken from a greater distance, mind you, going around asking people to take your photo opens up another can of worms.
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    ילדת מלך reacted to monad in Problem Regarding Marriage!   
    I think he means, due to the taboos of society and human beings, people that lack one of normal abilities are seen as lesser or lower, thus are labeled as invalids, when all they require is a different form of learning to bring out their true potential. OP, why don't you teach them, considering you are looking for employment, and who knows, this approach may help you start a foundation in your local, to then educate those who have been neglected by society and thus empowering yourself and them. Good luck.
     
    Unfortunately life is very harsh on many people, lets hope they are first in line for heaven.
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Hameedeh in Café Sœurs   
    Sisters
    Thank you for warm welcome....I was just don't know where.
    I wanted to quote you individually to respond each of you but that would be too much for my technology challenged brain and skills...
    Sister Hameeda---- no worries, me personally can't spell me name ( sniff shamefacedly )
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Chaotic Muslem in Café Sœurs   
    How are you CM ? --- thank you for keeping me remembered---love you sister---
    I wanted to add emoticon of fluttering heart but I realized my cell is operating on basic survival mode--- you ladies would have to put up with totally bland posts by my side from now on ...
    And with lots of nonsensical mistakes...
    typing on cell is pain in every possible place..
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    ילדת מלך got a reaction from Sapphire in Café Sœurs   
    Helllloooooo helllloooooo,
    --- anyone here ? ----anyone ever likely to be here ??
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